How to stop being jealous of a girl: detailed instructions.

Jealousy. Everyone has encountered this unpleasant feeling at least once in their life. Rage begins to boil inside, it seems that the whole world is pointing out that the chosen one is not faithful. It is no coincidence that the word chosen is used. After all, most often men are susceptible to this emotion. Since they are owners by nature, they do not want to share the lady of their heart with anyone else.

At the same time, their loyalty is a rather vague concept. Guys are polygamous, so the girl must sit on a leash at home, and he can have fun with everyone. Such judgments must be put aside, since any relationship must be built on trust and responsibility on both sides. However, let's figure out how to stop being jealous of a girl in order to become an ideal partner.

What makes people jealous?i

In order to get rid of jealousy, you need to determine its source. There can only be two options here:

The companion is really not faithful. She flirts with passers-by, allows everyone to touch her at work, and constantly hangs out in clubs without a partner. There is only one way out: send such a lady to three cheerful letters and live in peace. After all, as the classic said, there are a lot of fish in the sea, so you can safely look for the mermaid of your dreams.
Diffidence.

The second option is the most common. This may seem strange: how can complexes be connected to the outside world? However, the connection is direct. The man understands that he does not deserve such a lovely lady, so he tries to keep her in every possible way. Most often it is jealousy. But it’s not surprising that such people can go crazy and chain a girl to a radiator in the basement. Therefore, it is necessary to deal with internal experiences in order not to experience negative emotions.

How to deal with jealousy

If suspicion turns into madness, you urgently need to think about stopping being jealous and screwing yourself up. Try to understand that your beloved is not your property. She has the right to communicate with other people, smile at cute boys when talking, go to the movies and clubs with her friends without you.

If there are no real reasons for suspicion, and jealousy is pathological, the guy needs to do serious work on himself. The following effective measures will help correct the situation:

A frank conversation with your beloved. Talk in a calm environment. Do not blame your loved one and do not make claims. Frankly admit to your partner what you are not happy with in the relationship and what behavior you consider unacceptable. If a girl really loves you, she will definitely listen and try not to provoke suspicion.
Increased self-esteem. Take care of the beauty of your body, develop spiritually. Meet other girls, communicate with them on a friendly wave. When you realize that you are an interesting and self-sufficient person, jealousy will stop following you around.
Give your fears ultimatums. Are you afraid that a girl will meet a man better than you at a club, so you don’t let your beloved go anywhere alone? Make an effort. Let your partner go to a party with her friends. Don't pester her with calls and texts while she's having fun, don't control every step. Cultivate trust in your relationships.
Diversify your dates and your life. Give your beloved surprises, unexpected dates, give the girl compliments. Your partner will be delighted with her chosen one, your self-esteem will rise, and reasons for jealousy will disappear.
Take a break. Find a new interesting hobby or hobby. It could be sports, tourism, travel, even business. A new source of pleasure will take a lot of energy, there will be no time left for paranoia.
Improve the quality of sex. In bed, be affectionate, gentle, diversify sex. A quality intimate life will strengthen the relationship between lovers.

Watch your behavior. Perhaps the girl flirts with other guys and deliberately makes you feel jealous, in retaliation. Do not allow betrayal or provocation on your part.

Taking care of appearance2

The most common source of anxiety is appearance. Imagine, but not only girls are worried about her.

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Often a guy realizes that he does not match his companion. She has a luxurious figure, he has a big belly. She has a gorgeously made-up face, he has two huge bags under each eye. She has great clothes, he has torn jeans (and really torn ones, and not like in Eljay’s songs).

Due to insecurity about his appearance, a man often experiences jealousy. He simply does not believe that he can keep such a beauty with him.

To get rid of this harmful feeling, you will have to put yourself in order. Running in the morning, going to the gym, eating right, and so on. Once a man realizes that he is attractive, jealousy will immediately disappear. After all, he will know that he deserved such a beauty with his sweat (in the literal sense of the word).

Reasons for jealousy

Before understanding the reasons for increased suspicion, we list common reasons for jealousy. They can be divided into 2 groups:

Justified: obvious flirting of a girl with guys, love correspondence on VKontakte, via SMS, betrayal and other serious offenses.
Unfounded: reasons that a man invents himself, creates in his head with the help of fantasies.

It makes no sense to analyze the real, justified reasons for quarrels and jealousy in detail. If a girl has cheated and is clearly flirting with other men, it is better to break up with her. Surely, she does not have warm, serious feelings for her partner.

Unjustified, fictitious reasons deserve closer attention, since they destroy relationships.

The reason for the fantasies lies in the following:

The man is unsure of himself. He thinks that other guys are better than him in everything, he does not realize that the girl truly loved him.
The guy had a negative experience in the past. Cheating and betrayal by his ex taught the boy not to trust girls in principle.
Strongly developed sense of possessiveness. The guy doesn’t understand that a girl has the right to have a personal life, friends, and communication without his presence.
The need for emotional release The man has accumulated anger and claims against his partner. He pours them out with the help of scandals, quarrels, the reason for which is jealousy.
Afraid of losing respect among friends, colleagues, and family. If a woman finds a more successful man, leaves for him or becomes his mistress, the macho image will collapse.

Unreasonable jealousy poisons the lives of not only women, but also men. This feeling needs to be fought, eradicated as early as possible, so that suspicion does not become a habit.

Psychologist Annetta Orlova talks about the causes of jealousy:

It's all about money3

This is what men often think. They consider themselves breadwinners and therefore MUST earn a lot of green notes. When it seems like there aren't enough of them, problems arise. Complexes appear, which, in turn, develop into negative emotions.

Solving this problem is quite difficult. Since we live in Russia, problems with income often arise. However, it is worth working harder to realize that all this is not in vain.

It's also worth talking to your girlfriend. If she is smart, she will give fairly rational arguments that will reassure you. After all, in fact, most ladies love not for money, but for what is inside (charisma, charm, etc., etc.).

Why are men jealous of women?

In the image and likeness. Men are polygamous. And therefore they subconsciously believe that women are the same. However, studies show that the majority of women are not inclined to cheat. Both by its nature and due to the social foundations that have developed over thousands of years.
Diffidence. All people compare themselves with others. If you think that other men are more beautiful, more successful and luckier, you begin to fear that the girl will prefer them. Indeed, women love successful guys. However, if you are currently inferior in something to others, this does not mean that you need to give up. Determination is another quality that girls value. If you develop, improve and actively move towards your goal, she will definitely appreciate it.
Dissatisfaction with life. Trying to blame your own failures on others, looking for those around you to blame, instead of trying to change yourself. Against this background, a desire arises to assert oneself at the expense of the girl. Show who is stronger, who is the boss of the house. The egoism of the owner, the spirit of competition results in a constant demonstration of the girl’s belonging to the man, like a thing.
Excessive imagination. It is this that forces an insecure man to come up with pessimistic options. And betrayal seems worse than death. It’s night and she’s not there. Think about whether it is worth jeopardizing your relationship for the sake of empty fantasies.

What if you don’t stop being jealous? 5

There is only one outcome - separation. At one certain moment, the lady will not stand it, she will proudly slam the door and rush off into the sunset. She will decide that it is easier for her to be alone. This way no one will terrorize her and she can breathe easy.

Jealousy never leads to a positive outcome. If it is justified - separation, if not justified - the same thing. It sounds sad, but this is the harsh reality.

What jealousy can lead to

Consequences that can lead to relationships with unreasonable jealousy:

Parting. No one wants to live with a constant jealous person. Control depresses her, so separation will be the way out of the situation.
Loss of love. A girl in love will get tired of constant reproaches and want to find someone with whom she will be more interesting.
Treason. Constant talk about treason will provoke the fact of committing treason, because... You really want to run away from a jealous person.
Children's suffering. In a family where the husband is jealous, scandals often occur, children receive psychological trauma, which will become a problem when creating their own relationships.

Fighting jealousy is a serious step towards self-development. This feeling is like a disease that requires treatment. And if a guy wants to overcome unnecessary feelings and control his emotions, then he is consciously ready to work on himself and accept the advice of psychologists. It is awareness that leads to success and good results in the treatment of negative behavior.

How to stop being jealous of your ex-girlfriend?

There are situations when the relationship has already broken up, and feelings for the ex-girlfriend do not go away, complemented by devouring jealousy. In this case, it is much more difficult for a man, since there is no longer any prospect for a relationship, as well as the possibility of controlling the girl, and feelings and jealousy for her haunt him. Psychologists give several valuable instructions on how to forget your ex-girlfriend, namely:

you need to abandon the past, as it slows down the advance and shortens the man’s future;
when thinking about an ex-girlfriend, you need to think that the man was lucky enough to spend her wonderful youth with her, while another man will get her older and more cynical;
you need to strictly follow the principle “if not out of your heart, then out of sight - definitely out of sight”, you cannot follow her social networks, write SMS, store her things and joint photos;
You can survive jealousy if you understand that she does many things precisely with the purpose of making her ex-boyfriend emotional.

Another thing that helps to cope with jealousy towards an ex-girlfriend is the fact, cited by psychologists, that her new boyfriend will definitely be jealous of her ex-boyfriend for some time. Yes, yes, this is exactly what usually happens, especially if the girl started a new romance too quickly, not allowing her old feelings to cool down.

How to stop a girl being jealous of everyone?

Understanding how serious the damage caused by unfounded claims is, a man must find for himself the best methods on how to stop being jealous of a girl for everyone. Psychotherapists have even separately developed options that can help eliminate the causes of male jealousy, and therefore the feeling itself. The list of the most effective methods includes the following options:

self-development is the ideal solution to increase self-esteem, as well as a great way to increase self-respect in the eyes of a girl;
improving physical fitness - nothing improves a man’s psycho-emotional background and his attitude to life more than improving his body condition, so it’s worth reconsidering your diet and visiting the gym;
new hobbies – the source of pleasure should not only be a woman, as this leads to an obsession with her, and therefore a man needs new hobbies, be it sports, tourism, yoga, foreign languages and much more;
variety in relationships - in order to be confident in a girl’s feelings, a man needs to constantly come up with ways to please her, be it dates, surprises, compliments, etc.;
good sex is another source of positive emotions, strong feelings and passion in a couple.

By following such simple rules, a man can be sure that the girl will even mentally think about someone else. Only by developing yourself and improving your relationships can you be firmly confident that a girl will never cheat on her partner.