On a date you need to be confident. It will be more difficult for a girl to like you if your knees shake and your palms sweat. Therefore, try to set yourself up the night before the date that you are ready for any turn of events.
However, think through your plan several times. From the moment you meet a girl. You can write the plan down on a piece of paper to remember it and not forget anything later.
You should come prepared for your first date. You should be wearing nice clothes, ironed trousers or jeans without holes or stains, and polished boots. There should be a wallet with money or a card in your pocket. You will have to pay for the first date in any case, even if the girl refuses and wants to pay for herself. Let her pay next time so she can calm down and stop worrying.
Speak calmly and only start topics that are interesting to both of you. Talk about her more often to make her feel important. Remember, if the first date goes as it should, then the girl will become yours with a 90% probability. The remaining 10% depends on how you behave after the date.
#1: Be proactive
This is inherent in nature and no matter how much girls shout about equality, they still need a strong man next to them. It's great when you have your own opinion, you are not afraid to show persistence, initiative and are ready for something new. Offer unusual dates so that she is interested not only in you, but also attracted by the emotions that you can give. Girls fall in love with the image they create, so if you fill her life with pleasant impressions, she will want to spend more time with you, and it won’t take long for her to fall in love!
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#2: Listen carefully
Girls are still chatterboxes. They love to talk a lot and appreciate being listened to carefully. Don’t rush to ask questions or give advice, remember what the conversation was about, otherwise next time she will definitely notice your inattention. If the topic is frankly boring, then try to translate it in another direction that is more familiar to you. Don’t be afraid to honestly admit that you have absolutely no idea what color is in fashion this month, and how much you suit each other according to your zodiac sign.
Don't resist the wave of attraction between you, communicate with your eyes
It is not necessary to say any words, especially if you and the girl like each other.
Here communication already occurs through gaze.
It is at such moments that words only spoil everything.
Don't resist the attraction between you.
If you have mutual sympathy, there is no need to confuse him and insert some unnecessary words.
Enjoy this moment with her.
Let this wave of attraction be between you, don’t resist it.
Slow down, let this moment pass through you and let it be.
Look into her eyes and enjoy her presence.
Many guys ruin everything when they talk about unnecessary things , disrupting the wave of attraction and sympathy
Don't be afraid to communicate with your eyes.
Don't be afraid of silence!
#7: Give gifts and flowers
It’s so banal and simple: make small surprises and show signs of attention. Let them be inexpensive and non-committal, but cute. A keychain, flowers, a bag of candy, a small soft toy, a notebook - these are things that will be remembered and will remind you of you. Give gifts without pathos and long speeches, just say that you saw the thing and thought about the girl, you wanted to buy it and give it as a gift.
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Reviews
Cloth
Be neat, clean, ironed. Girls like neat guys. Try to dress in shirts. Many girls have told me that the shirts they wear on men make them crazy. They just want to unbutton the buttons. But the shirts are not ordinary, but fitted and bright, the kind they wear to clubs.
Well, naturally, they should not dress for graduation, but tucked into jeans and over a good belt, and not from Aliexpress for 100 rubles. I’m sure finding such clothes is not a problem now, the only downside is that they have become expensive. Or look for really high-quality things on Aliexpress.
Shoes
The most important thing is shoes. The girl always looks at the shoes. It must be clean and appropriate in style. You can't wear sweatpants and oxfords, it looks very stupid. Although we went this way at school, we had no other choice, we grew up in the 90s.
Basically we wore the same tracksuit, always. Well, that’s really how life was, there’s nothing you can do about it. They survived as best they could.
Personal hygiene
Naturally, the more pleasant you smell, the less disgust there is for you (just kidding). Yes, just be washed, clean and shaved. Once again I’m talking about accuracy, girls love such guys. Don’t forget about manicure, beautiful fingers without bitten nails will delight many ladies, since very few guys get manicures.
I'm not saying that manicure is something gay, do it if you want, do it if you want, but nails should be trimmed, without hangnails. Do you know why girls don't like guys with hangnails? Here you are sitting like this in a cafe, she is all beautiful, in a dress, stockings, and you run your hand over her knee, make a puff with a hangnail and that’s it, the girl’s confidence drops, she begins to worry that her external image is suffering and this needs to be dealt with then do. Like this.
Well, it’s natural that underwear and T-shirts should be changed every day and washed every day. Dress fresh in the morning if you plan to communicate with girls.
#10: Control yourself
Self-control and the ability to remain calm in stressful situations inevitably inspire admiration among girls. It is more difficult for them to cope with their emotions, so when you demonstrate composure and emerge victorious from a difficult situation, you automatically receive a plus in your piggy bank. To do this, it is not necessary to disarm bandits and save grandmothers from under a bus. Situations can be different: juice was spilled on you in a cafe, some child stained your trousers. If you start yelling and making trouble, you will be little different from a market woman.
Why are men afraid of women?
It is worth noting that there are a lot of factors that cause men’s fear of the weaker sex. And despite the fact that a person’s nature is clearly understood, it is difficult to immediately say why he is so afraid to approach the object he likes.
But one thing is worth knowing for sure: if that same fear exists, then emotions are present. If he were completely indifferent to her, there would be no need to talk about any feelings at all. But let’s figure out why fear arises and what it “talks about.”
#13: Develop yourself so that girls like you
If you don’t know what to do to make a girl like you, then just choose a man’s hobby and sign up for the gym. There will definitely be more fans! Be an interesting and versatile person so that you have something to talk about. Try to develop in different directions, and not just run a channel on YouTube and play online games or just play sports. Upgrade your culture, appearance, body, education in order to be interesting and competitive not only in life, but also in the fight for female attention.
You're doomed to fail with the "gotta get her to like you" mentality.
The very concept of making a girl fall in love with you or being liked by you implies that you have to try to do something!
This is nonsense!
LOVE YOURSELF! No need to fall in love with anyone!
This is the only option not to depend on the opinions of others, not to depend on her approval and to constantly feel good and complete.
Feel and know that your value is unique and infinite.
Only by being yourself and not trying, miracles happen.
#15: Surprise
She may be bored at home alone, but communication with you should be interesting. Offer unexpected solutions, arrange crazy dates. May the time spent with you be special. Rescue kittens, create common stories that you will then want to tell others and will be pleasant to remember when you meet again.
In addition to all of the above, girls really like it when a man can confidently start a dialogue. My “First Phrases Constructor” will help you with this.
What does fear mean?
We hasten to quickly dispel the myth that men are greedy for all women indiscriminately. Moreover, our defenders don’t pay much attention to beauties. Most of them “fly” in their thoughts until they are specifically approached separately and asked for something. To attract his attention, ladies have to try. Say no? Well, let's list the items of the women's “military” arsenal, thanks to which the ladies do everything so that his gaze still stops at her step.
Makeup, hairstyle, perfume scent, stiletto heels, short or tight dress, long skirt with a high slit. Even a beautiful handbag or scarf is designed to emphasize the grace of a woman and “catch” a man’s gaze. So, all ladies are, to one degree or another, sinful in their desire to trap men’s gaze.
Well, attention has been paid, what next? Here the next step feeling should arise - indifference or partiality. If you still managed to arouse her interest, you need to understand your own attitude towards this. According to psychologists, you can understand that you really like a person in 5 seconds. Yes, yes, don't be surprised. Feelings, as has already been proven, are a chemical process that occurs in our head in a matter of seconds. And if positive signals arise, it means everything is going right, and you can proceed further.
Bonus: 3 rules in psychology that will help girls like you
There are general tips on how to properly please a girl, but psychologists have their own opinion on this matter, and it should be taken into account. Remember these points and don’t hesitate to test them on girls:
- Don't be a puppet. At first, girls like that they can influence a guy, and this is worth taking into account. But don't let this period drag on, otherwise she will become bored with you. She must fight for your attention, because only what is hard-earned is valued.
- Girls like inaccessibility, and so do guys. The more barriers there are between you, the stronger her interest will be.
- Don't try to please, just be yourself, taking into account the recommendations.
Be too pushy
There are a lot of weird stereotypes associated with courtship. For example, that a woman needs to be pursued - as if anyone would be inflamed with passion if all the circles of hell would go through for her. Another ridiculous belief is that a woman’s “no” means “yes,” that is, your blind persistence supposedly guarantees consent.
What's wrong here? The fact that the girl is initially perceived either as a manipulator or as a person whose opinion can be easily influenced. Besides the fact that this position is clearly disrespectful, it is not at all clear why one would get involved with such a girl.
Of course, if you like someone, you shouldn't give in to difficulties. But you need to show sympathy delicately. Strong pressure will be perceived as a violation of personal boundaries.
Why advice doesn't work and the girl doesn't like you
If you do all this anyway, but there is no result with a particular girl, then it’s not necessarily about you. Often the reason is as follows:
- You're just not her type. At the same time, if you are trying to portray an ideal man, then just try to be yourself: maybe this way you will hook her.
- You overact, but she feels false.
- There is a circumstance due to which she does not consider you as her potential boyfriend. For example, you used to date her sister or you are blond and she loves brunettes.
It is impossible to please everyone, but in order to conquer a girl, it is better to try and show your best qualities. Just keep in mind that if she falls in love with you like this, you will have to constantly stick to the bar, otherwise you will disappoint her. The article was written for you by a coach for men with 15 years of experience, Alexander Galevich.
Learn to live
Another mistake involving excessive self-confidence. And often - on sexism. If you, even with the best intentions, want to tell this stupid girl what to wear, where, who and how to work, or what goals to achieve, stop and think: were you asked?
Women constantly encounter men who strive to give an expert assessment of their lives and use arguments like “You are a future mother.” To say that this is infuriating is to say nothing.
Another form of truly male grooming is called mansplaining. It consists of a condescending manner of conversation in which a man makes allowances for a woman based on her gender. In essence, these are special “explanations for girls.” Thus, the man questions both the interlocutor’s knowledge of the topic and her intellectual abilities.
Recommendations for guys
There must be a certain measure in everything. And this should always be remembered. Most likely, a guy will not have a chance to continue the relationship if he is too persistent and even to some extent obsessed with his chosen one. Experts recommend the following:
- You should always take care of your own hygiene. Nobody likes belching and unpleasant odor from the mouth and feet, sweat, and flatulence. You need to wash your clothes and shoes regularly. It is advisable to take a shower and brush your teeth before the meeting. There is a category of women who do not tolerate the strong smell of cologne or cigarettes.
- You shouldn’t be an ideal person and expect the same from her. After all, every person has their own shortcomings.
- Under no circumstances should you be forced to be jealous. This can be bad for relationships. In the case when you need to find out if she is attractive, it is better to ask her friends or take a closer look at her behavior with other guys. You also need to trust your intuition. Don't lose hope. It is better to confidently move towards your goal. Relationships will get better when the guy proves his loyalty. If a girl asks about her exes, then it is not recommended to talk about them.
- When meeting, it is advisable to ask personal questions, be interested and flirt. You need to show that you can win her, and also show confidence and courage in difficult situations. It is not advisable to use communication methods that are easy to fake.
- You can't be too anxious when flirting. Some take this as a sign that the guy is only interested in sex and not in a normal relationship.
- Not many people will appreciate vulgar jokes. It is for this reason that it is better not to tell them. In most cases, the girl will only distance herself from the guy.
- In the case when a girl avoids communication, this means that she does not want communication and there is no need to follow her. It's better not to waste time and find another one.
If everything is done correctly, the result will be positive. You just need to be able to look after a lady beautifully and correctly and take into account her opinion, as well as share her interests. Girls don't like boring guys, and you should remember this.
What do you feel - interest or fear?
We are all afraid of what we don't know. We are frightened by the unknown, the unfamiliar. Likewise, a man is always afraid of someone with whom he is not yet acquainted or is little acquainted. And at the same time, “the forbidden fruit is forbiddenly sweet.” The masculine principle of the hunter forces you to know better and more about the person of interest.
And fear is a kind of stimulus, an “instigator” of your further actions. If fear “surpasses”, then the guy abandons the relationship and moves on in search of another, more accessible one that does not cause embarrassment. What comes out of this is that if he is afraid of her, it means he likes her. This is the most precise axiom that no one has yet been able to challenge. We will discuss further why he is afraid of her, that is, what specific details scare him.
How to behave
We found out what to do, acquired approximate ideas about what a man should be like in order to interest a lady... But how to behave?
The main thing is not to be afraid. At least write it on your hand and re-read it every time you want to run away or postpone a closer acquaintance until better times.
Even if the guy is all wonderful and cool, but blushes, turns pale, stutters and shakes - his chances are close to zero.
At least you should try to do all this not very intensely and, perhaps, you will be considered cute.
Be polite. It’s only on pickup resources that they say that you need to be rude, supposedly this is the best way to get people interested. Modern realities are such that using this method you can, at best, get a look of contempt. Don't forget to care. In general, if you want to win a girl, feed her. (Just check your taste preferences in advance). This will be a great way to show care, and, if you get the food right, a good reason for further communication. But, again, don’t get carried away, otherwise you will become a male deer.
“Am I just going to go up and shove a sandwich in her hands?!” In extreme cases, this is possible. But it’s better to show more flexibility and gentleness - tell her that she looks tired, maybe she wants to eat. Give her a few compliments about how great she looks...
Yes, speaking of compliments, practice how to give them. Seriously, the phrase “you have amazing facial curves” is not entirely true, although it is original. A good compliment favorably emphasizes a girl’s strengths, perhaps even non-obvious ones.
Be natural, attentive, listen more than talk. Tell funny stories, but don't embellish the reality - your communication should be easy and pleasant, and not cruel torture.
Don't be stubborn - it's a good idea to take her hand, put your arm around her shoulders or waist, or just touch her, as if by chance. It’s a bad idea to continue these actions if the girl tells you “no”, moves away and asks you to take your hands off. Yes, you can try again a little later, but don’t overdo it , otherwise the only response you will cause is aggression. And this is not exactly what we need. It’s another matter if the object of your sympathy interests you only in terms of sex.
It's a joke. Do not do it this way).
This is a completely different format of relationships and behavior, here you can show yourself as a kind of macho, arrogant, self-confident, assertive. If you are only interested in victory in this regard, then your best helpers are irony, humor, self-confidence and charm.
But even here you need to remember about compliments; they should be unobtrusive and laconic. Care is also never superfluous, although in the case of a desire to arrange a one-time rendezvous, more attention should be paid to slight negligence. Along with all of the above, let her understand that you are practically unattainable - your hobbies, interests, girls. Just don’t overdo it, it’s very important to walk the fine line between interest and disgust.
An ideal picture of the development of your sympathy should look something like this: show the girl signs of attention - maybe unobtrusive sincere compliments, help with some little things, a cup of coffee, an extra sandwich, some cute trinket. Along the way, you learn her preferences and interests: what kind of cuisine she likes, how she spends her free time, what her hobbies are. Don't be an obsessive stalker! Then invite her somewhere - a restaurant, a cafe, a park, or anywhere, depending on her interests. If he doesn’t agree, it doesn’t matter. Continue unobtrusive courtship. Be punctual, efficient, polite and gallant, but try not to blush and be natural.
If you follow all these nuances, then very soon she will agree to a date, and then it’s just a matter of little things - don’t lose face, turn out to be an interesting conversationalist, and most likely your relationship will reach a new level.
When to stop
There are several situations in which you won’t be able to win a girl. Therefore, it is worth stopping and thinking, are you doing everything right?
Be prepared for this. The reason for this may be one of the following factors:
- She already has a decent match;
- You don't meet her expectations;
- She has been keeping you in the friend zone for a long time;
- You were too intrusive;
In any of the options, if all your previous attempts have failed, leave the girl alone and give her time. Try to maintain friendly or friendly relations and step aside. There is a possibility that her current partnership will end sooner or later. Be there at this moment to lend your strong masculine shoulder.
If you have alienated and even frightened a girl with your persistence and obsession, then the only chance to rehabilitate yourself is to enter the circle of friends and show your best side.
In the end, if the girl you dream about wants to see a tanned, athletic brunette next to her in a BMW, and you are a simple guy in a Toyota, there’s nothing you can do about it. Either you need to catch up to her requirements, or the girl must lower the bar of her expectations.
