How to learn to understand people - practical advice

How to learn to understand people? Surely you also asked yourself this question. And this is not surprising, because each of us has made mistakes at least once. It’s not for nothing that they say that the first impression can be wrong. At first it seems that a new acquaintance is simply the embodiment of kindness and joy. But in reality he turns out to be a manipulator or an energy vampire. How to avoid such unpleasant encounters? Is it possible to understand in the first minutes of meeting who is in front of you?

Introduction

A person's character is a book with many encrypted and lost pages. We usually judge people rashly, based on their first impression, which is often deceptive. A lot of time passes before we really understand what kind of person is in front of us, what motivates him, why he behaves this way and not otherwise. After some time, our attitude towards a person can change radically: bores turn into the most interesting people for us, and people who at first seemed funny and attractive turn out to be banal buffoons from a cheap booth.

The ability to understand people is a whole science. We will proceed from the idea that there are no good and bad people: we will not condemn anyone and label anyone as a loser or a coward, condemn a person, judge him. We will simply help you find your approach to people with different characters, with different life principles and moral values. We are here

We are trying to understand the diversity of human individualities. And then it’s up to you to choose: do you want to communicate with this particular person, put up with his shortcomings, try to appreciate his few advantages or not.

In life, we often encounter difficulties in communicating with different types of people. We will talk about how to overcome these difficulties, how to make communication with any person pleasant and useful. When communicating with people around you, you must remember that each person has his own style of communication, his own way of expressing thoughts. If you take into account the specific personality characteristics of each specific interlocutor, then you will definitely be able to find a common language with any person, you will master the science of being liked and will be able to achieve your goals during communication. We will help you with this.

Adaptation skills

Neurosis is a disorder of adaptation. Young children begin to stutter, roll their eyes, and pee when drastic changes have occurred in their lives that they have not been able to adapt to. Adults also have neuroses, they crawl out of their heads in the form of rabid cockroaches and begin to gnaw and trample relationships with others.

You can be friends with such a person, but you must be prepared that unpleasant surprises will become commonplace. Such relationships will distract you more than help you.

The simplest signal of a violation of a person’s adaptation skills may be his (or more often her) inability to quickly change plans: “Well, I was already determined to do this, and now this happened...”.

Do you want a problematic relationship? Let a person with impaired adaptation skills come closer to you. As long as he survives

in your life, you will get the fullest from him.

By the way, a question for men: “Do you know the trick when a girl suddenly changes her plans in order to attract you to her?” She plays the role of a capricious bitch, it infuriates you, but at the same time you are attracted to her. Why? Because this is how she demonstrates her significance in a relationship - one, and high adaptation skills - two, which your subconscious reads as a sign of health.

Rule 1

IS A PERSON ABLE TO EXPRESS HIS EMOTIONS: ABOUT EMOTIONAL AND HYPER-EMOTIONAL PEOPLE

Based on a person’s ability to express their emotions, we divide people into emotional and unemotional.
The former are quite sensitive to what is happening around them, their sensory world is diverse, they express their attitude towards the world and others through all sorts of emotions - anger, despondency, melancholy, tenderness, etc.
There is an opinion that emotional people are easier to communicate with, it is easier to find an approach to them . There is no need to ask them whether they liked the movie they just watched or the new employee who joined your company. The emotions that overwhelm them burst out on their own. An emotional person is in a hurry to talk about his impressions and experiences. This certainly makes communication with them attractive: it is always interesting to be with them.

But sometimes excessive emotionality is an irritating factor for others. If emotions do not allow a person to calm down, he needs to throw them out on someone. Emotional people are constantly looking for an object on which to dump the burden of impressions from a conversation they just experienced with their boss or from a quarrel with a saleswoman in a store. Such obsession and emotional outbursts can not only irritate you, but cause your emotional fatigue (it’s as if you are experiencing emotions yourself

stranger). Hyper-emotional people tend to express their emotions regardless of the desire of others to listen to them - this is vital for them. But it’s not always pleasant for others, especially if the emotions are negative.

How to communicate correctly with emotional and over-emotional people? First of all, remember that they need to be listened to, they need to express everything that has accumulated. Therefore, you should listen to them, but do not get carried away by their experiences. Be a little selfish: pretend that you are listening to them and are absorbed in their emotional story, but under no circumstances take everything you hear to heart. Emotional people tend to exaggerate. If their story takes too long, don’t be afraid to stop them, interrupt them, citing your busyness.

Find out more about the person

All this is a reflection of the inner world of a person. Thus, knowing family traditions, one can judge the cohesion of the family or the individuality of each of its members. A person’s religion leaves an imprint on his behavior, conversations, and actions. Muslims will be very emotional and hot-tempered, as for men, and women will be modest and timid. Christians will always be ready to help their neighbors and cultivate humility.

His hobbies tell you the most about a person.

Since religion is a common characteristic, but everyone’s personal hobbies are different, regardless of marital status and religion.

Rule 2

HOW TO CORRECTLY COMMUNICATE WITH INEMOTIONAL PERSONALITIES: ABOUT PEOPLE WITHOUT EMOTIONS

People who are unemotional tend to limit the range of expressed emotions to a minimum. They show their emotionality only in extraordinary, stressful situations. In ordinary life, they are not inclined to demonstrate their experiences.

It can be difficult for us to understand a person’s feelings, to understand his attitude to surrounding objects, and even to ourselves, if he does not openly express his emotions. Emotional people seem mysterious and secretive to us; it seems that they have something evil on their mind. It’s not for nothing that the best spies and secret agents are excellent at hiding their emotions. The ability to hide one’s feelings makes a person practically invulnerable: we cannot understand what kind of person is in front of us, and therefore we begin to fear him. Sometimes you have to study it for a long time before it becomes clear how it relates to a particular phenomenon, person or event. The emotions of another person give us a good idea of ​​his inner world: we can determine how he lives, what he feels. But if our interlocutor is stingy in expressing his emotional experiences, then we become uncomfortable in his company, we don’t know what to expect.

In fact, unemotional people do not hide anything, do not hide anything from others, they are just used to expressing their attitude towards the world differently: not through emotions, but through thoughts.

The difficulty of communicating with unemotional people is largely exaggerated. Indeed, people of this type will not immediately talk about their experiences; it is not easy to determine from them how they relate to others: they can skillfully hide their sympathy or hostility. Non-emotional individuals are, as a rule, people with a well-developed intellectual sphere - they feel little, but think well, they prefer to express their view of what is happening, having weighed and analyzed everything well. Their attitude to the world is always more thoughtful and reasonable than that of emotional people. It’s quite easy to find an approach to such people—they just need to be encouraged to talk about their impressions. Try asking them what they think about this or that matter. In a conversation with people of this type, you should not resort to questions related to assessing their emotional perception; it is easier for them to express their attitude to the subject of conversation in the form of unemotional and well-reasoned conclusions.

Hofstede's theory

cross-cultural differencesPower Distance Index (PDI)

• With a low PDI, the top manager is a player-coach along with everyone else;
• In companies with high PDI, this is king.

Individualism (IDV)Masculinity (MAS)Uncertainty Avoidance Index (UAI)Long-Term Orientation (LTO)

What is good for a Russian is good for a German...

What is good for a Russian is death for a German

• Our PDI is one of the highest in the world, so we always need a king who decides everything and is responsible for everything. In Germany it is low, that's why they have Merkel.
• We are a more collectivist country than an individualist one, unlike the Germans.
• We are more feminine than the Germans.
• We accept uncertainty much more easily. This is understandable - the Germans plan everything and clearly structure it, but we have such a history that this is impossible for us. You planned something, and tomorrow the Tatar-Mongols will come - plan, don’t plan, what’s the difference!
• The long-term index in Russia is lower for the same reason.

...and the Chinese

• Power Distance in China is also high - it is ruled by the Communist Party led by the chairman.
• The Chinese are even greater collectivists than we are.
• Chinese people are more masculine than feminine.
• The Chinese's index of acceptance of uncertainty is lower, but still quite high.
• The Chinese, roughly speaking, have a development plan for the next 100 years or more. Our task, including in management, is to get the maximum today, and tomorrow, at least the grass won’t grow because who the hell knows what will happen tomorrow. This is the key difference between us and the Chinese.

Rule 3

WHAT EMOTIONS PREVAIL

IN PERSON: ABOUT PEOPLE

WITH A POSITIVE ATTITUDE

In life, we encounter a variety of situations that make us experience a variety of emotions - positive and negative. A person who has received a charge of positive energy is considered a more pleasant and interesting interlocutor. Is it so?

Of course, it is true that we do not want to receive negativity from communicating with others. Therefore, we are drawn to talk with carriers of positive emotions, with those who are able to improve our mood with their smile, their good attitude. No one denies that it is much easier to interact with positive people, as they are more open, happy with what is happening around them and can share their positive emotions with you.

Positive people are in some way a source of recharge, they can improve your not very good mood, they are willing to make contact. Bezus

Apparently, it cannot be denied that people who have gotten off the wrong foot, feeling great, getting to work without traffic jams, in general, charged with positive energy for the whole day, become somewhat selfish in communicating with others. They believe that a great start to the day automatically means that the whole day should be excellent: colleagues and loved ones are happy, the boss is in a good mood, the weather is great. They see everything in rosy terms, protect themselves from unnecessary worries and conflicts, wanting to maintain their good mood longer. Therefore, they may miss, for example, the fact that you are in some kind of trouble or are not feeling well. Forgive them for this.

How to communicate with positive-minded people? You shouldn’t run after this person all day, hoping that they will give you your portion of positive energy. The best behavior is to encourage your colleague or loved one throughout the day, as if supporting his positive attitude, find his jokes successful, give compliments - and then you will feel that you yourself are very well recharged for the whole day. Don't gloat if your morning didn't bring you as many positive emotions. Carriers of positive emotions are not an eternal battery

Energizer, their mood can change quickly if not stimulated. If you try to maintain this positive light at work or at home, then you yourself will be charged with positive energy, but if you immediately extinguish it out of envy or irritability, then you will establish an atmosphere of hostility and discomfort.

Life hack No. 4 – pay attention to a person’s appearance

There is a popular expression: “You can’t judge a candy by its wrapper.” This is only partly true. The choice of clothing is an indicator not only of a person’s mood, but also of a person’s intentions.

A few important points:

1. Wearing clothes in muted colors (gray, blue, beige, white-gray) is an indicator of shyness. Probably, a person who prefers such colors is afraid to stand out. He is uninitiative, takes any criticism hard, is vulnerable and impressionable.
2. Bright red, black, light purple business suits are chosen by temperamental and bright people. They always behave politely and tactfully with others. Great listeners.
3. People who prefer to wear comfortable clothes without fear of compromising their style (tracksuit, wide shirt with jeans) are real rebels. They care little about what reaction they produce in society. Stubborn and uncompromising.

Also, when analyzing a person’s clothing, pay attention to its neatness and quality. If your interlocutor looks brand new, this is a good indicator that he is ready for the meeting

Well, if he appeared before you in a wrinkled suit, and even with dirty shoes, then the conclusion suggests itself.

Rule 4

WHAT EMOTIONS PREVAIL

IN PERSON: ABOUT PEOPLE

WITH A NEGATIVE ATTITUDE

It is generally accepted that it is easier to communicate with positive people than with people experiencing negative emotions. But what about people who are usually negative? Is it worth communicating with them or is it better to avoid all contact?

It is much more difficult to approach people who are negative, as they are embittered and filled with negative emotions.

Imagine yourself in the place of a person who received a charge of negative energy in the morning. What would you like at this moment? Quicker

In general, share your negativity with someone, talk about how you dropped your sandwich butter side down at breakfast, put a stain on your favorite blouse, and then stood in traffic for almost an hour. It would seem like little things, but they are the ones that can unsettle a person - you begin to feel like a complete loser.

Remember one thing: you should not ignore a person who is filled with negative energy. If you don’t try to help him relieve stress at the very beginning, then this negativity will definitely begin to spread to others. Of course, you should not act as a psychotherapist and run to your loser colleague and demand that he tell you what is bothering him.

Just ask your friend how he is doing, ask why he is so upset. If a person contacts you and shares his unpleasant morning experiences, it means that you have already helped him relieve stress by simply listening to his story. But under no circumstances try to get into the soul of a stranger, do not force yourself on him with the help of a self-taught psychotherapist. If in response to your question he simply refers to personal problems without going into details, then do not pester him with questions. The reluctance to share your troubles arose not because they don’t trust you, but most likely because the person is really going through a difficult stage in his life and doesn’t really want to tell anyone about his personal problems. He may experience temporary dissatisfaction with himself (for example, his long-awaited promotion at work has been postponed indefinitely), he may have serious conflicts with loved ones (for example, a person is on the verge of divorce or has serious problems with children).

But this does not mean that you cannot help him: you can defuse the situation and remove the negativity by showing basic human attention, for example, treating him to your delicious flower tea or providing assistance not as a service, but as a friendship and doing a small part of his work, unless, of course, it's a burden to you.

Rule 5

ARE HUMAN EMOTIONS ACTIVE: ABOUT STHENICS AND ASTHENICS

People who have predominant active emotions, such as joy, anger, anger, etc., are usually called sthenics.
Their emotions always cause an upsurge of strength, excitement, and tension. In contrast to them, asthenics are people who experience emotions that suppress vigorous activity and reduce a person’s energy, for example, melancholy, sadness, despondency, depression.
It is very easy to distinguish sthenics from asthenics. The former, under the influence of their experiences, are capable of active actions. For example, the pleasure of playing music makes sthenics want to sing along and dance to the beat, while asthenics are limited to facial expression of their emotions (half-smile, smile, closed eyes). Fear, for example, forces a sthenic to mobilize all his real and potential capabilities. The asthenic, experiencing fear, enters into a stupor.

Difficulties in communication arise if they communicate with each other, i.e. one of the interlocutors is a sthenic, the other is an asthenic. You can master the science of communicating with a representative from another group if you begin to take into account his difference from you, his special, specific traits that you do not possess.

When communicating with a stenik, you should not be surprised by his vigorous activity and desire to actively express his emotions. Be tolerant of the fact that your interlocutor will be in a state of constant emotional stress. If something outrages him, he will definitely be outraged “out loud”; if he is happy, then very actively; if he gets angry, then in such a way that others will notice it. You shouldn’t stop the stenik and ask him to behave more modestly. The most correct model of behavior is to wait out the “storm”, give him the opportunity to speak out, express his emotions. The advantages of communicating with asthenics: they are active, easy-going, most often positive-minded, quite mobile, and more sociable than asthenics.

Asthenics may seem unemotional people in appearance. But in fact, they experience more restrained emotions, which do not push them to active activity; they are more passive and motionless. Sometimes they are said to be boring, always sad and dreary. When communicating with such people, it is best not to put pressure on them, not to insist on a more active expression of emotions (for example, you would like your asthenic interlocutor to express his anger openly, and not just mutter something under his breath; for an asthenic person this is an impossible task). You need to get used to the fact that their emotions are expressed in a boring way. There are also advantages to communicating with asthenics: their emotions are more stable than those of asthenics. They are characterized by deep internal concentration, which indicates the thoughtfulness of their actions. They prefer to first analyze their impressions, and only then take specific actions.

Rule 6

HOW TO COMMUNICATE WITH PEOPLE

WITH GOOD OR BAD

MOOD: ABOUT PEOPLE

WITH CONSTANT EMOTIONAL

BACKGROUND

Each person has his own emotional background, which we call mood. In life we ​​meet people with a positive emotional background and a negative one. Simply put, we have to communicate with people who are always in a good mood or always in a bad mood.

>People of the first group are easy to communicate with - those who are usually in a good mood. These people are quite positive about communication, they often smile. It is very easy to find an approach to such people: they are quite open and are happy to make contact. You can talk to them on almost any topic. Although there are also disadvantages in communicating with these people: they are not easily alarmed, their positive emotional background is quite stable, so do not expect sincere condolences from them if you suddenly tell them about your grief or life difficulties. Most often, such people avoid conversations on “sad” topics or do not take them seriously.

Communicating with people who are always in a bad mood is not a pleasant experience. We feel like talking to them can ruin our own mood. We give such people the most unpleasant nicknames behind their backs - “grump”, “grumpy”, etc. In the team they often turn out to be black sheep, since they are not liked. Remember that their bad mood should not be interpreted as a reluctance to communicate with other people. They also need communication. In order for communication with such people to bring certain results, so that your conversation is not a burden to either you or your interlocutor, adhere to the following rules.

Don't try to cheer up your gloomy interlocutor. Such people don't need it. Remember that their bad mood is not a consequence of any troubles or life problems, this is their normal state. Your attempt, for example, to tell them a joke will be perceived negatively, your efforts will not be appreciated, you will definitely not hear the desired laughter at the end of your story, but will encounter bewilderment on the part of your interlocutor. Such people can only be cheered up by a very joyful event that will be directly related to them. Don't ask them to smile

in response to your smile. This is not typical for people with a constant negative emotional background. Even if they follow your advice, their smile will look unnatural.

You will have to get used to their specific attitude towards the world around them: they question everything. Their life credo: expect a blow from life at any moment.

Such people are not always failures in life. A bad mood can be characteristic even of successful people who are making good progress in life. Their mood is a kind of protective reaction of the body. They insure themselves in advance in case of failure, the collapse of their plans and hopes. If they fail at something, no one will even notice any visible changes in their behavior. If a major deal or a desired business trip abroad falls through, it will be easier for them to hide their disappointment.

Critical thinking - what lies behind this concept

Critical thinking is one of the most important human skills. This is the ability to question any information, think about it impartially, rationally, based on scientific knowledge and evidence.

Critical thinking is not an innate ability or a genetic characteristic. This is a skill that can and should be developed.

The ability to think consistently, based on scientific knowledge, is necessary to solve a wide range of problems - those that a person encounters in everyday life, as well as professional ones.

The importance of developing critical thinking was first emphasized in the works of American psychologists William James and John Dewey. Matthew Lipman, founder of the American Institute for Critical Thinking, called a skill a skill:

• think skillfully;
• take into account the context;
• correct oneself, improve oneself;
• based on this, draw the right conclusions.

Critical thinking is not a modern invention. Highly educated people at all times have been distinguished by their ability to analyze and draw conclusions based on facts. They were often persecuted for their ability to doubt information and were called freethinkers.

Rule 7

DOES A PERSON'S MOOD CHANGE QUICKLY: ABOUT PEOPLE OF “MOOD”

Sometimes we have to communicate with people with changeable moods.
The emotional background of such people changes very often and suddenly, when we do not expect it. Any little thing, any detail can easily ruin their positive attitude.
And some inappropriate or unsuccessful joke will make them laugh - and they will forget about their numerous problems. People with unstable moods are very difficult to communicate with. Usually, their behavior and sudden emotional swings can confuse us, we can forget about the purpose of the conversation, and lose our thoughts. The reaction of people in moods can be unpredictable; we cannot predict how they will react, for example, to our request to work on the weekend or to the fact that their expected promotion is temporarily postponed.

How to communicate with such people correctly? In a conversation, you should adhere to the tactic of “getting ahead of your interlocutor.” You must take a strictly leading position in the conversation, as if ahead of their emotional reaction to your words. For example, if you have to tell a person in a moody news unpleasant news, it is better to start with it right away, without putting it off for a long time. If you report something unpleasant at the end of the conversation, then this person will definitely have an unpleasant aftertaste about the entire conversation as a whole. After, for example, you

inform him that the long-awaited vacation is postponed until next month, try to immediately restore the emotional balance of your colleague - reassure him that next month trips will be much cheaper, and the weather in the hot country where he is going is more benign, so acclimatization will not be as bad heavy. Remember that for people who are subject to sudden mood swings, their mood can be quickly ruined, but it can be easily lifted afterward. The main thing is never leave him alone with bad thoughts. Always leave on a good note.

Try to always control your conversation, don’t miss the main point, and don’t give in to your partner’s mood swings. Very often, people who are able to adapt depending on the situation very easily manipulate others. Feeling that they are about to have an unpleasant conversation, they may get ahead of you and complain about their problems, thereby making you feel sorry for them. You have a desire to postpone the conversation until a more convenient moment. Don’t be led by such people - always say what you were going to say, don’t put off the conversation.

There are also certain advantages of communicating with moody people. It’s always interesting to be with them: they don’t bore you with monotonous grumbling or their always good mood. They are always the same

new, new. They are very mobile, easily adapt to the situation, and are able to express sincere joy and true condolences.

Rule 8

WHO IS ABLE TO FALL INTO A STATE OF AFFECT: ABOUT PEOPLE WITH AN EXPLOSIVE CHARACTER

A state of affect is an emotional outburst. It can be either positive (a burst of joy) or negative (anger, fear, etc.). We may encounter people for whom a state of passion is the norm. At such moments, people cease to control their emotions, they lose power over themselves.

People who are characterized by a state of passion do not have a developed sense of responsibility to others. They give free rein to their emotions without thinking about the consequences. Affect in severe forms can have very terrible consequences - in this state people even go to murder.

In mild forms, affect manifests itself in screaming, humiliation and insulting others. Such forms also leave an unpleasant aftertaste.

and make a person prone to such breakdowns very unpleasant to communicate with. We begin to be afraid of communicating with such people, we are afraid of another explosion of emotions. Very often, people are prone to such uncontrolled expression of their emotions because of impunity: they are sure that nothing will happen to them for this. Therefore, very often we encounter this phenomenon among people who occupy leadership positions. They often take it out on their subordinates, and their outbursts lead to unfair dismissal of employees.

If there is a person with an explosive character in your environment and you simply have to come into contact with him, then adhere to the following rules.

Don’t be afraid to communicate with such people, don’t hide from them, don’t avoid meeting them. Such behavior can be regarded as disrespect for a person and can be the cause of another explosion. Be moderately polite and friendly, even if communicating with such a person does not give you much pleasure. Remember that this is a weak person, he is a slave to his emotions.

Don’t fawn over such people, don’t try to please them in everything, carefully fulfilling the demands of your eccentric boss. Be moderately careful and diligent, but also have your own opinion, do not be afraid of it

express. Do this tactfully and correctly so as not to anger the hot-tempered person. State your ideas more than modestly and always refer to the authority of your boss. For example, like this: “I have an idea, and you, as a competent person (as a professional in your field), will be able to evaluate me.” Then you will really be appreciated. But in no case provoke anger and discontent, do not be brave with your fearlessness, deliberately violating the rules and order established by your boss. Otherwise, you risk hearing a lot of unpleasant things addressed to you or even losing your place in a prestigious company.

If you still need to tell a person who is prone to a state of passion some unpleasant news, then under no circumstances should you cut in from the shoulder and don’t start right away with the unpleasant. First prepare the ground, set it in the right way. Preliminarily tell us how you tried and what you did to avoid the mistake. After you tell him the unpleasant news, it will be too late to make excuses. Prepare yourself mentally for the fact that you will have to listen to a lot of unpleasant things addressed to you. At such moments, it is useless to argue, just endure the explosion of emotions (if this, of course, does not contradict your sense of dignity), and only then begin to analyze the problem and correct mistakes.

Rule 9

HOW TO COMMUNICATE CORRECTLY

IN STRESS SITUATIONS:

ABOUT STRESS-RESISTANT

AND STRESSED PEOPLE

In extreme situations, people behave differently. Someone mobilizes all their strength to achieve the highest result, while someone goes into a stupor, withdraws, and becomes incapable of any action.

There are quite a lot of situations in life in which you have to act actively in order, for example, to complete work in a short time, to survive betrayal, resentment, or to survive a disaster.

In a situation of stress, we also communicate; it is communication, support from others, and mutual assistance that help us survive stress and cope with the task.

People who are stress-resistant, with a balanced psyche and a stable type of temperament seem to get a second wind during times of stress. They exhibit leadership qualities, even if in a normal situation they did not possess them, they acquire the ability to lead and manage

lie. When communicating with such people in a stressful situation, it is important to know one thing: you should not knock them down, try to change the course of action, or offer to change tactics. For example, your entire department prepares a report several hours before a major meeting: do not interfere with the leader with your advice, do not try to change the distribution of responsibilities, do not try to organize the opposition by proposing a different course of action. You may encounter rudeness, and quite deserved one. In such situations, you should listen to the leader’s opinion, and perhaps turn to him for advice. Any changes and innovations can only harm the process.

People who do not cope well with stress are in great need of support. If you feel strong and ready to help, then go ahead. You should not push the person; in an emergency situation, such people may quit what they are doing, throw a tantrum, etc. You need to try to calm the person down, explain to him that in this situation, every extra hand is very important, that thanks to his efforts you will be able to cope with the task . Try to make him feel that the situation is not so extraordinary, that it is quite normal. Don’t expect active decisions and actions from a stress-resistant person; let him work at his usual pace, this will help him come to his senses, return

self-control and possibly overcome fear of a stressful situation. The main thing is to convince him not to sow panic in the team, otherwise, because of one person, the entire team may succumb to fear of the upcoming problem. You can convince him of this if you restore his sense of self-confidence through an intimate and calm conversation.

Tips in practice

Intuition! As they say, she rarely makes mistakes, she tells us what to do, what to do, how to be in a given situation. The main thing is to learn to hear her and trust your feelings. Remember how one person gives you goosebumps, another gives you chills, and a third brings joy and peace. The inner voice will tell you how to behave, help you recognize the signals of the universe, and make the right decision.

There is no need to ignore your subconscious, then there will be no losses. It is important to develop concentration and awareness! Remember our state at a certain point in time during contact with new people, analyze the task, make the right decision according to the behavior of the interlocutor. People say that in an extreme situation a person shows his essence, opens up, and therefore life itself will throw such an opportunity when we can open all the cards of the person who is nearby.

You can read a person like an open book based on many factors: appearance, communication, facial expressions, gestures, eyes, hands

It is important not to rely on established stereotypes, for example, a neighbor said that he is like this and like that, but to independently analyze the situation

Avoid stereotypes; if a person wears glasses, this does not mean that he is a “nerd” and an intellectual; if a girl is blonde, this does not mean that she is unaware of life! All these are superficial judgments; you should not judge others and attach your labels to them. Everyone is individual, everyone has their own purpose in life!

Rule 10

WHAT PEOPLE LAUGH AT:

ABOUT THE FUNNY AND THE MOCKERS

The laughter of others can evoke both positive and negative emotions in us. It all depends on what caused it and how sincere it is. We laugh with pleasure with a person who has a sense of humor, and try to avoid conversations with evil mockers.

Humor is always positive laughter; it cannot offend anyone. If there are people around you who are excellent at making people laugh, then you are lucky. It is pleasant and comfortable to communicate with such people. They have the ability to turn any uncomfortable situation, any embarrassment into a good, good-natured joke. If in a conversation with such a person you suddenly run out of topics to talk about, your interlocutor will definitely tell you some fresh anecdote or funny incident from his life. True, comedians can be quite annoying: they can insist that you listen to the joke they just learned, even if you are not in the mood. They will encourage you, try to infect you with their own laughter. It is useless to brush them off; it is best to find the strength and time within yourself - and listen to their story, thanking them with a restrained smile. You shouldn’t take their jokes with displeasure. Ironic people, like creative people, are very proud. If you don't appreciate their joke, they may be seriously offended by you.

Laughter is a hidden weapon. With people who know how to laugh, you need to always be on guard so as not to miss the moment when good-natured humor turns into evil ridicule or satire of you. Mockers are a special type of people who are constantly looking for flaws and shortcomings in those around them, which can become the theme of their next ironic or even sarcastic story. We don’t mind listening to a story about an absurd incident that happened to our friend, but we don’t really like it when we ourselves are the object of ridicule. With ridicule

nicknames are bad jokes, you just have to give them a reason for fun, and you will find yourself yet another hero of their sparkling stories. Therefore, you should not indulge and support them, laugh with them at their stories, which go from the category of humorous to the category of evil and sarcastic. If the mocker gets angry in your presence and his jokes go beyond the boundaries of the ethical norm, and it becomes unpleasant for you to listen to his “witty” sayings, then you should interrupt the interlocutor and ask him to change the topic. If he ignores your request, then use the enemy's method. Remember the golden rule: a mocker can laugh at anyone, but he cannot laugh at himself. Remember some funny, even ridiculous incident from the life of your interlocutor, in which he was not up to par, and, as if by chance, turn the conversation on this topic. Tell a story in which your mocker turns into a jester, fill the story with a lot of comical details, then your joker will feel uncomfortable. He will definitely be embarrassed and try to end your conversation as quickly as possible. This way you will put the joker in his place, and next time he will be more careful and tactful with you.

Chapter 2. Dangerous people

We cannot always determine the danger posed by a person. In appearance he may be absolutely normal, but after communicating with him we begin to feel completely overwhelmed and incapable of any activity, or it seems to us that we are being controlled, or a person whom we have known for many years suddenly breaks down and displays their hidden anomalous sides. How can you determine whether this person poses a danger to others and whether you should avoid communicating with him? Find the answer in this chapter.

Preparing for the study

No special preparation is needed for the examination. It is enough to wash the nipple areola and armpit area before the procedure. It is undesirable to use perfumes - it is impossible to predict what reaction will occur when applying a special gel. Allergies may occur.

After the procedure, hygiene procedures should also be carried out to completely remove the gel before feeding. If the substance enters the stomach of a newborn along with milk, it can cause digestive disorders.

If the menstrual cycle has returned after childbirth, you need to inform your doctor. The optimal days of examination are from the fifth to the eighth day of the cycle.