How to find the strength to live: advice from a psychologist. Life-affirming films

• September 10, 2018
• Depressive states
• Ekaterina Nikolaeva

Every morning, of course, a person wants to wake up in a good mood and spend his days only in joy and positive emotions. But it is worth understanding that along the path of life there are also sorrows and troubles. There are such difficult situations after which people break down mentally. How to find the strength to live on?

The first thing you need to understand is that this is your life and only you can decide how to live it. Throughout the journey, a person reaps the fruits of his actions. After any significant action, life changes. This is logical, but not everyone understands how to survive difficult periods in their own life. Often a person becomes depressed and withdraws into himself. It is at such moments in life that a person asks the question: how to live further if there is no strength?

Parting with a loved one

Almost every person has lost his love. And almost everyone said: “I can’t live without him/her.” Often it is because of unhappy love that suicide is committed. The thing to remember is that no guy or girl is worth this. But how to find the strength to live? First of all, there is no need to be selfish. If a loved one leaves you, it means that something was done wrong. There can be a lot of examples. Let him be alone or with another partner. And if he was your person, then he will definitely return and you will still be together.

After a breakup, it is important to know a few things about how to live on your own. Don't isolate yourself. Share your feelings with your family and friends. It is the support of these people that will prevent you from going into a depressed state.

The second problem they face is alcohol. Drunk people often do stupid things. Therefore, it is not recommended to abuse it. And lastly, you must have a clear understanding that if a person left, it means it will be better without him. You shouldn’t suffer because someone is doing well without you. And even more so, you don’t need to tell yourself “I don’t want to live.” What to do, you have to move on.

Tip #17: Start thinking positively

Start thinking positively and always try to get rid of negative thoughts to overcome the difficult period in your life. You shouldn’t constantly surround yourself with nothing but negativity. After all, if you constantly think about the bad, then gradually everything you think about will begin to happen to you in real life. That is why, always try to think positively to make your life much better.

Losing a loved one

When a person who is truly dear to you passes away, it always hurts. How to live on if you have no strength? Following these rules will help you get through this period easier:

1. Don't ignore conversations about this person. You should be left alone with yourself and talk it out or, if necessary, cry. Don't allow these emotions to be inside you. Once you release them, it will be easier for you to cope with this loss.
2. Try to distract yourself from thoughts about the deceased. We need to add more bright moments to life. This method will require the help of family and friends. And also spend more time with the person who is grieving. Even simple conversations help to cope with loss.
3. Switch attention. Pets are very helpful during this period. Taking care of them will be a great solution. If the bereaved person does not have a pet of his own, you can borrow one from loved ones for a while.

The death of a loved one is one of life's most difficult experiences. Some advice for mourners:

• Don't refuse help from your loved ones.
• Look after and take care of yourself.
• Write a letter to someone who has passed away.
• Don't suppress your own emotions.
• Find a way to distract yourself.
• Make an appointment with a psychologist.

These tips on how to live after the death of a loved one will help you cope with the loss. But no matter what happens in life, you need to understand that any situation provides invaluable experience and makes a person stronger. It is worth giving up thoughts like “I don’t want to live.” What to do is, of course, up to you, but it’s better to get rid of the negativity.

Causes and consequences

To solve a problem, you must first determine the reason why it arose. Let's look at the main causes of apathy and depression.

1. Severe stress and problems. When a person is in a state of tension for a long time due to severe stress, overwork and a series of problems, the supply of internal energy and strength is inevitably depleted. Especially if a person ignores the body’s needs for rest. It gets to the point that a person does not leave the house for several days. He just lies there, facing the wall.
2. Health problems. Loss of strength can occur due to the onset of a cold, exacerbation of chronic diseases, problems with the cardiovascular system and disturbances in the functioning of other organs. In this case, the body directs the entire reserve of accumulated energy to recovery and fight the disease. Therefore, there is no longer enough strength for anything else.
3. Avitaminosis. Lack of B vitamins, folic acid, and low hemoglobin (anemia) lead to chronic fatigue. The body does not have enough resources to replenish energy.
4. Heavy physical activity. Under excessive loads, the human body works to the limit of its capabilities, using internal reserves. If you do not fully rest, then in addition to lack of strength, more serious health problems may begin.
5. Emotional burnout. It is characteristic mainly of people whose work involves communication (doctors, teachers, sales managers, etc.). Burnout syndrome also occurs when performing monotonous, routine work. A person completely loses interest in his activities and the desire to do anything at all.

Complete loss of strength and severe depression develop when a person loses the meaning of life. This can happen due to the death of a loved one, an incurable illness, or a radical change in the usual way of life. A person who has no reason to live further is like a broken car - he cannot drive or move.

The longer this state lasts, the more a person withdraws into himself, stops communicating with other people, and cannot rejoice. He has no goal, no motivation, no strength, no energy for further existence. There is only one wish that this will all end as soon as possible. I have already written about what to do when you feel bad at heart. Be sure to read it.

Someone seeks solace in alcohol and drugs, but this only aggravates a painful mental state. As a result, the person experiences suicidal thoughts. According to statistics, about 3% of advanced long-term depression ends in suicide. This is why it is so important to seek help from a specialist in a timely manner.

At the initial stage, you can cope with apathy on your own. Next I will tell you where to get the strength to live on and be happy.

Negation

Denial is the first step on the road to recovery. As a rule, this happens due to loss of strength caused by grief. People don't want to accept reality and deal with the problem. After all, you will have to completely change your usual lifestyle and adapt to new circumstances. And this is not easy. Therefore, many prefer not to see the problem. At the same time, people do not recognize the existence of an insoluble contradiction.

This segment of life’s journey can take either a couple of minutes or more than a year. Realizing that something bad has happened, people themselves begin to oppress themselves and become depressed. Because it’s easier to feel sorry for yourself and do nothing than to gather your thoughts and start dealing with the problem. During this period, the main thing is not to give up and see reality. But usually people lose faith and ask: “How can I find the strength to live within myself?”

Tip #14: Start valuing yourself and your time.

To survive in difficult times, you need to begin to value yourself and your time in order to constantly develop and improve. As a result, you can not only increase your own self-esteem, but also become a confident person. Thus, by learning to value yourself and your time, you will be able to achieve success in your life and overcome difficulties that come your way.

Compensation and acknowledgment of what happened

When a person realizes that something bad has happened in his life, he asks his family and friends for help. After all, when he admits there is a problem, he is enveloped in fear. After this, the person may remain inactive for a long time. Both excitation and inhibition occur in his body.

Heavy thoughts negatively affect the physical state, so the subconscious takes on solving problems. Conversations with loved ones, walks in parks, and so on will help release the accumulated negativity. At these moments, the subconscious displaces disturbing thoughts and forces you to give up thinking about “I don’t know how to live further.”

It is important to understand that this is how your own brain wants to help you. Try to create the best conditions for his work. Know that neurosis does not arise because something terrible happened to a person, but because he drives himself into depression with his own thoughts.

Tip #19: Don’t try to fit in with everyone.

As a rule, if you start doing something to change your life for the better, then you should not get hung up and focus your attention on the opinions of other people. After all, there will absolutely always be someone who doesn’t like something. Therefore, you do not need to adapt to everyone at once, since by such actions you will only destroy all your undertakings and completely destroy any of your aspirations.

Aggression

What happens during this period? The problem still lies within the person. His own despondency begins to anger him, because others enjoy life. But he cannot do this because of his problems. This is where aggression comes in.

A person directs his energy not to fighting troubles, but to being mindlessly angry. This is how you lose faith in yourself and your own strength. If a person has high self-esteem, he tries to harm people. So that they feel as bad as he does. The main thing is not to get stuck in this period.

Tip No. 2. Focus on what you have

Start focusing all your attention, first of all, on what you have, and not on what you lack or what you don’t have. In this way, you will be able to form a certain psychological balance in yourself, which will help you overcome difficult times in your life. Of course, if you lack something in your life, then you shouldn’t constantly dwell on it and, especially, complain. Start setting realistic goals, develop plans to implement them, and take action to achieve them.

Survive trouble

Only after going through the previous stages does a person think and try to deal with the problem. He again begins to communicate with loved ones and shares his experiences. This can be called the beginning of recovery, and if the same situation happens again, the person will accept it more steadfastly.

At these moments, people relieve themselves of imaginary or real guilt for what happened. But at such moments you should not press for pity. This will affect your self-esteem and you will stop believing in yourself.

Tip No. 20. Don’t get upset and don’t feel sorry for yourself.

You should never be upset and, especially, feel sorry for yourself when something in your life did not go according to plan. Remember that in life there will always be various difficulties that need to be overcome. Therefore, if you constantly feel sorry for yourself, you risk completely destroying your entire life, and you will also thoroughly destroy all your desire for further development. If you are going through difficult times in your life, then don’t even think about getting upset and, especially, feeling sorry for yourself. Gather your thoughts, strength and start taking action to improve your life.

In conclusion of the article, it is worth adding that life is never easy. Therefore, you always need to fight difficulties and overcome various obstacles in order to make your life better every day.

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How to learn to live and take difficulties lightly

How can we begin to relate more easily to the troubles in our lives:

1. It is important to understand that any unpleasant life situation is temporary. All life is divided into white and black stripes. The main thing is not to give up during difficulties and believe in future happiness.
2. Fate gives a person only those trials that he can survive. You need to understand that any unpleasant or painful experience is an invaluable lesson.
3. If during times of difficulty the situation seems hopeless, help someone who is even worse off. This will give you an understanding that the trouble that befell you is not so hopeless. For example, look how difficult it is for pensioners to live. They earn pennies and cannot find additional income. Therefore, by helping lonely old people, you will not only do a good deed, but also take your mind off your problems.
4. When unpleasant situations appear in life, you need to control yourself. Emotions interfere with thinking, and often a person makes the wrong decisions.
5. Don't think about future problems and troubles. People live here and now. If you have a feeling of impending problems, it is better to prepare for them. And don’t waste your vitality on unnecessary worries. But even if you make mistakes, you shouldn’t blame yourself. It is impossible to predict everything. Analyze your mistakes and move on.
6. Program yourself to have positive emotions. Even in the smallest things. People decide for themselves whether to enjoy life and see positive moments or be sad.
7. Losing something should be accepted as a necessary part of life. Without losing, it is impossible to find something new and better. This applies to your significant other, work, and so on.
8. Active actions give internal hardening. A morning jog or exercise will make you a better person.
9. You shouldn't complain about fate. Your life is far from the worst. It is better to invest energy in solving problems. This will give much more results.
10. When you solve a problem, be sure to praise yourself. There is a useful lesson to be learned from any negative experience. It will make you better and stronger.

After these simple tips, you can answer your question of how to learn to live.

There are life obstacles such as the departure of a family member, loss of ability to work, significant harm to health, and deprivation of property. It is recommended to follow a couple of tips:

1. Repeat to yourself every day, “I can get through this” or “I am strong and I can do anything.” Thoughts in our minds will show the right path. You can also pray to God and ask him for strength.
2. Never forget about your loved ones. They are the ones who will help you cope with any problem.
3. Choose the right thoughts, those that give you strength and do not destroy your personality. After a disaster, the sun always rises.

Where to get strength from?

The last month of winter and the beginning of spring are usually the hardest times. Everyone is looking forward to the warmth and summer, hoping for a surge of new strength, desires, and ideas. But today it seems that the long winter will never end, strength is running out, and outside the window it is gray and cold. Where do you get strength from when it seems like nothing can help or cheer you up? Where can you find sources of inspiration when the previous ones don’t work or have dried up? We asked professional psychologists about this.

Balykin Alexander Ivanovich

teacher, psychologist

Based on the fact that in physics “force” is a measure of the influence on a body or object from other bodies and fields. In simpler language, this means that force is a quantity that characterizes the degree of mechanical action on an object.

Therefore, without a counter-force (that which you apply your force to) you will not be able to feel your strength. And this means that if a person “has no strength”, then:

1. He has little of what he exerts influence on. The cure is to increase the number of goals and their accompanying problems, which will create a counter-force, and thereby you will feel empowered.

2. His system has accumulated experience of influence that brings physical or emotional pain, and as a result, the brain does not want to create an impact on anything, and this is felt as “no strength.” Treatment is to carry out psychological correction using the IPER-1K device (which diagnoses areas of emotional tension in neural networks) to discharge the neural networks that store emotional tension.

By doing the above points 1 and 2, you can restore strength to any person, provided that he is physically healthy.

Kuchkarova Rezeda Rivalovna

Clinical psychologist with over 15 years of experience.

The last month of winter for me is a good premonition of spring - despite all its “badness”. It is from this presentiment that I propose to draw strength. This is like tuning into the upcoming germination-awakening of all living things. Like waiting for love or inspiration.

What is needed for this? Listen to your desires and feelings, listen to your body and breathing. Answer them for real. Do something good for yourself and/or others. Or maybe something crazy. Or maybe just (c)move towards your dreams, at least a millimeter...

And further. For me, the most lasting source of strength and inspiration is the discoveries in self-knowledge that make it possible to be honest with yourself and live in harmony with this. And in February, this source continues to work - verified.

Join us if you haven't discovered it yet)

Ovsyanik Lyudmila Mikhailovna

Practical psychologist

Vitamin deficiency in winter is a well-known phenomenon and many people know that they need to stock up on vitamins. And also walks around the snowy city and exercises in the morning - this is how we prepare our body for the transition from winter to spring. Spring is an emotional part of the year. And we must meet it physically prepared. Self-confidence complements a healthy start to spring. By enjoying every day, be it a frosty snowy morning or a rainy day, we will not experience the burden of the seasonal transition. Positive thinking, self-belief and self-care are our strength.

Rybalko Elena Alexandrovna

difficulties in relationships with yourself and others, finding your own path.

I will talk about two sources of strength: “hope” and “resource memories”.

I'll start with "memories".

There were moments in every person’s life when it was calm, pleasant, joyful, when you were proud of yourself, when you were surrounded by a favorable environment and people.

We usually touch on this experience through photographing and viewing photographs, through a conversation in the spirit of “do you remember...”. Sometimes people buy memorabilia, for example, figurines from trips, a wedding ring, gifts.

I suggest consciously taking time for yourself, sitting in silence, inhaling and exhaling, and writing down or simply thinking about the following topics:

1. What objects around me right now make me feel good?

2. Where did you meet him for the first time, what was the situation like (sounds, colors, gestures, postures, smells), who was present or later learned about this episode?

3. Who would I like to tell about this?

4. What mood, feeling, or aspect of this memory would I particularly like to express?

If during the process you suddenly feel heaviness, then you should stop and switch to something you like, for example, put on pleasant music. You can continue at a more suitable moment for you.

I’ll talk briefly about “hope”. Hope is fueled by our memory, as well as contact with other people with whom you can discuss, refresh pleasant moments, what was important to you. For example, you can discuss how you spent last February, what made you warm and happy then.

I hope my words will help you, refresh your memories and fill you with a wonderful mood for this evening!

Manukovskaya Ekaterina Vladimirovna

practicing psychologist, certified Gestalt therapist, leader of therapeutic groups, author of articles on psychology

Well, I’ll be happy to discuss my favorite topic: “Where do you get energy, and even in winter?”

• Movement. Walk more. Dance. Move. Find the type of movement that suits you. For example, I like walking. Find yours and move forward.

• Completion of hangers. I won’t discover America if I remind you that completing things is like a cork to plug the leak of energy. Write an honest list of unfinished tasks and slowly - don’t force yourself into it - start closing it. Be sure to reward yourself for completing a task!! And you will be happy in the form of a surge of energy, or rather its return.

• Retained emotions should ideally be released. Ideally! This is something worth striving for - carefully observing that feelings are not archived within yourself, but left where they were born. For example, don’t accumulate a grudge for years, but try to talk to the person to whom the grudge is addressed. I think this is easier said than done, so welcome to quality therapy to learn this. And, of course, energy begins to circulate freely in the body if a person begins to show emotions more, rather than freeze/hold them.

• Moving the body in space or changing the picture. It definitely helps me. And you have the opportunity to check. I'm talking about travel. They help bring impressions into life, change your perspective, and add energy.

• Women's gatherings. For men - their own boys' meetings. That is, parties based on gender. Oddly enough, meeting good people of the same sex gives you strength.

• Creation. In my opinion, this method is suitable for both men and women regardless of age. Clean energy. Please note: creativity can be anything from creating pictures to sweeping the floor. It's important to get into the flow. And if you find yourself in it, it gives you strength.

I wish you to live creatively until spring and find many more of your own ways to give birth and preserve energy.

Erofeeva Victoria Viktorovna

Psychologist, I work with adults. Mini-groups (2 - 4 people), individually. Problems to address: self-esteem, solutions, money scenarios.

«Where to get strength from?

Resource. Notepad and its capabilities.

Someone gave you a notebook as a gift, but you are upset about the useless gift?

A notebook is empty pages full of promises. When looking at empty pages, it is impossible to resist the temptation to grab a pen and start filling it out...

Until now, no application has been able to come close to the feeling that a physical notepad gives. It has a lot of advantages: you can draw, write, paste anything into it, cross out, draw tables and change your handwriting. By applying your creative thinking, you can turn it into a masterpiece of art. Here are some examples of how you can use a notepad in your daily life.

1.Track time

You can use a notepad to keep track of time. Find out once and for all where it disappears. Additionally, keep track of the following:

-Do you complete tasks one at a time or work on several at once?

-how much time do you spend on achieving the most important goals in your life?

-how do you deal with irritants and distractions?

-how much time is spent on non-essential matters?

-how much time do you lose due to procrastination?

2.Nutrition and training journal

Many people have fitness and healthy lifestyle goals. The two main columns of any sport and physical activity are: what you eat and what exercise you do.

Create a template to track the food you eat. At the top of the page, write the following: date, time, dish, serving size, nutrients, calories.

Create another template to track your exercise and how many calories you burn. At the top of the page, write the following: date, time, activity, duration, number of calories burned.

3.Track your spending

Where does your money go - the right and wise strategy:

-Do you have frivolous expenses?

-What expenses should be reduced?

-Do you invest your money?

Examples: education, income-producing assets, new experiences.

4.Start journaling one phrase

If you have very little time or you decide to challenge yourself. Try keeping a journal in which you write down one phrase per day. Not more. This will help you become more aware and learn to put maximum meaning into a minimum of words.

You will keep a similar diary for five years. Get a real time capsule of your life.

5. Start a gratitude journal

You hear and read it again and again: the key to happiness is to instill in yourself the habit of gratitude. When you start a gratitude journal, you will finally understand why there is so much talk about it.

Research conducted by psychologists has found many benefits from the regular practice of writing down the things you are grateful for. An easy way to keep a gratitude journal is to write down five things you are grateful for every night before you go to bed.

6. Morning pages

The idea is to write three pages immediately after waking up. Write everything that comes to your mind for three pages, then stop. Use morning pages to solve problems that bother you, plan your day, and understand your true desires.

7.Art magazine

The art journal includes drawings, doodles, and embellishments. This could simply be a list of your ideas: good and not so good. You can also cut out images from magazines and paste them into your art journal, and include photographs and other visual elements.

8. Bucket List

A Bucket List is a list of things you want to do in your life. It's stupid to keep this list in your head. You can also use your notebook to reflect and plan.

9.Learn a language

When you're learning a new language, it's incredibly helpful to keep track of everything you're learning. You can do this by using a notepad to create a language journal.

Wish you luck!

Zazovskaya Svetlana

Existential psychologist, member of the Association of Existential-Analytical Psychologists and Psychotherapists My specialization: procrastination and delayed life syndrome

Where do you get strength when there is a snowstorm and cold outside, and it seems like winter will never end? Here are some recommendations to help you get through this difficult time of year.

1. Try to go to bed no later than 24:00, and preferably at 23:00.

Everyone knows about this, but for some reason most forget or ignore it.

2. Do only what you really can.

Pay attention to your condition. If you feel tired, take a break. If you have very little strength, you need to set priorities and do only the most necessary and urgent. No matter how much you would like to, you cannot do beyond your strength. Yes, you can do it “because I can’t”, but as a rule, this leads to sad consequences. And why do you need this?

3. Set aside time for yourself regularly (ideally every day). At least half an hour. Ask yourself what you want now (out of what is possible) that would make you happy. This could be a conversation with a friend, a walk, lying on the couch, watching a TV series, reading. Anything you could enjoy.

4. What I want?

There is a very useful practice, the essence of which is to follow your Want. It is best to do this practice on a weekend. You can set aside a few hours, or, if possible, the whole day. You need to ask yourself “What do I want now?” and if possible, do this. For a while you need to forget about the Should and Should and focus only on the I Want.

And don’t forget that spring will come soon, it will become warmer and brighter!

Belyanin Valery

Psychologist (in Russia), psychotherapist (in Canada), cognitive approach

There is nowhere to get strength from. Fatigue and irritation. Apathy and rejection.

How familiar this is to many. How easy it is to fall and lie there. And getting up is more difficult. Standing up requires effort.

But only by standing up, only by starting to move, can you stay normal, in a calm and balanced state.

To do this, you just need to ask yourself: What do I want? Do I need pity? Do I need sympathy? Where can I get this? Is it possible to feel sorry for yourself (yourself)? What can I do for myself to make me feel better? Will it be possible to help someone else (at least in some way).

Having answered these questions, you just need to start doing the most important and simplest things. And move on in life, no matter how difficult it may be...

How to cope with life's difficulties and pain

Remember difficult life situations, after which you asked: “What to do, how to live?” At first glance, this seems like a bad idea, but it is the analysis of the past that gives strength in the present. You were able to survive the troubles. This means that future difficulties will be within your power.

Write on a piece of paper or tell us what’s on your mind. It is wrong to hold back all emotions inside oneself; a person begins to feel lonely and unnecessary. Choose someone who cares about your inner state, someone who can truly support you. This will help you get through the most difficult moments in life. By talking about your feelings with people you don't know, you don't lose anything - it looks strange, but it's easier to analyze the situation from a neutral side, without involving emotions. Choose a convenient method and share what worries you.

Move away from your problem. It is not easy to make the right decision when you are in the center of events. Try to look at the situation from the outside. This will help you react less emotionally to what is happening. Namely, emotions interfere with thinking. Try to get into the habit of abstracting yourself from problems and thinking about everything that happens with a cool head. It may be worth taking a break from some areas of your life, such as work.

Remember that you are not alone. It is easy for a person to withdraw into himself and get unsettled. But there are people who love you and sincerely believe in you and care about you. Sometimes they can't be there for you. But no one forbids you to call them or write to them on the Internet.

No matter where you are in life, there are always people who will help you. Sometimes strangers understand you better than you do yourself. And there are also those who have already passed this episode of life. They will be able to help cope with the situation.

Accept the situation and become stronger. No matter how difficult it is, the past cannot be changed. But the future depends on it. Don't give up on your happy future. It doesn’t matter who caused this to happen in the past. Analyze and move on. Next time you won't be upset by this problem. It is the analysis of the past that allows us to prevent new mistakes. It’s not for nothing that they say that people learn from mistakes.

Life will always go on and on. And only you decide whether to stand still or keep up with her. Don't dwell on past failures. On the contrary, quickly get out of the situation and move towards a happy future. This problem will no longer exist there. After this journey, no thought will arise in your head about how to find the strength to live.

What is hidden behind the phrase “no strength”

What do we mean when we say that we “have no strength”? Most often this expression is characterized by the following features:

• loss of desires and aspirations;
• indifference;
• loss of interest in what previously interested a person very much;
• restrictions in communication;
• depressed mood;
• a sharp decrease or complete loss of appetite;
• lack of emotions and feelings.

At first, a person performs his daily duties “automatically” without much desire or enthusiasm. And then he stops doing anything altogether. He becomes absolutely indifferent to what he looks like, what he eats, what he does, what he looks at. There is a heavy feeling of hopelessness, a vicious circle. Thoughts about the uselessness of one’s own existence appear.

It is important not to confuse lack of strength with banal laziness. Laziness disappears quite quickly when a person has sufficient incentive and motivation. At this moment, he experiences a surge of energy and a desire to act. They also say that his eyes lit up.

When there really is no vitality, not a single incentive will force a person to take active action. And if his system of values ​​and desires is also broken, then motivation basically has nowhere to come from.

The feeling of exhaustion may be temporary and relatively mild. A person only needs to rest for a few days to restore his energy supply. But sometimes this condition can become chronic. This is called apathy. Apathy indicates mental disorders.

Apathy occurs in each of us from time to time. And it is quite possible to cope with it on your own, without resorting to the help of a psychotherapist or taking antidepressants. But if apathy lasts longer than 2 weeks, then it already acquires a more severe form of mental disorder - depression.

An inevitable companion to apathy and depression are obsessive thoughts. In one of my articles, I already wrote about how to get rid of obsessive thoughts.

A few quotes from great people

Often people cling with their thoughts to the words of a song or quotes from public pages. There are a lot of quotes about the meaning of life. A few phrases said about this:

• “Life is like riding a bicycle. To maintain balance, you must move." Albert Einstein.
• “Sometimes you have to run to see who will run after you. Sometimes you have to keep your voice down to see who is really listening to you. Sometimes you have to take a step back to see who else is on your side. Sometimes you have to make bad decisions to see who's with you when everything falls apart." Paulo Coelho.
• “There are two ways to live: you can live as if miracles do not happen, and you can live as if everything in this world is a miracle.” Albert Einstein.

There is no point in listing all the famous sayings. Everyone will definitely find something that will motivate and inspire them. Quotes about the meaning of life are truly inspiring.

Spontaneity

Every businessman works with a huge amount of information and almost never relaxes: there is always some data, reports, plans, graphs in his head. That is, the brain hardly rests and is constantly busy with something. That's why it's so important to take spontaneous breaks. They can be filled with silence or, conversely, with something active.

For example, Evan Williams, founder of Blogger and Twitter, goes to the gym every day at lunchtime. And Bill Gates sometimes visited the cinema during the working day. Sometimes it is useful to take the approach of foreign colleagues: 11 o'clock in the morning for Italians and lunch time for Americans is a sacred time when everyone drops what they are doing and leaves the office for an hour to change the environment and relax.

Movies that will help in difficult situations

There is such a special movie - inspiring. It is what teaches and makes you see important aspects of life. Perhaps ones you never noticed or looked at differently. And it is these life-affirming films that will help you see the key moments of life.

Painting “And in my soul I’m dancing.” The main characters of the film are young guys in wheelchairs. But despite limited opportunities, more optimistic people than healthy people have. Shackled by cerebral palsy, the main characters do not give up and live in the world like ordinary people: they enjoy their days, make mistakes, protect the weak.

Film "Always Say Yes". The average manager is deeply depressed. To get out of it, the main character decides to “always say yes.” After making a decision, an ordinary manager finds himself in a crazy adventure. This path would be useful to anyone.

It is these life-affirming films that will help you draw conclusions about life. Since each of them carries a semantic message. And they are not the only ones. There are many such masterpieces.

Rhythm of life

We have evolved and adapted to new conditions over many centuries, but never before has this process taken place so quickly. Many people are completely unsuited to living in the 21st century. Of course, some will say that the person adapted perfectly to the new rules of life, but in fact, the price for this adaptation was high. Not so long ago, people lived in small villages, knew all their neighbors, and any public event like fairs was considered a significant and big event.

Everyone knew from childhood what he would be when he grew up, because many simply inherited the work of their parents. People fell asleep at sunset and woke up at dawn. Every day and year of a person’s life was predictable and understandable. At the moment, fundamental changes are taking place, and all of humanity is in a state of permanent stress.

Rules for a happy life

Undoubtedly, everyone has their own opinion and their own idea of ​​a happy life. If you have no thoughts about this at all, it is recommended to follow these tips on how to live today:

1. Understanding your desires. This is the most important thing to start with. Without understanding what you want, you cannot truly become happy. Make a list of things you want and gradually achieve them.
2. Refusal of what brings negativity. Of course, you won’t be able to give up everything “extra.” But the main part of the negativity should be eliminated from life.
3. Getting rid of bad habits. This applies not only to cigarettes and alcohol. As well as such habits as the use of profanity, laziness, and abuse of sleep. If alcohol can be consumed within reason, then cigarettes should be completely abandoned.
4. Reading books. This is definitely a good activity. Reading helps expand your vocabulary and learn new things. There are also many books that will give new knowledge and help in everyday life. For example, books on psychology will help you better understand people and interact with them.
5. Leisure. It will allow you to receive positive emotions and give you strength for self-development. Living correctly means enjoying every day you live.
6. Playing sports. Regular exercise will help keep your body in good shape and will also distract you from heavy thoughts. In a healthy body healthy mind.
7. Keeping a journal is a good idea. Because it is he who will help preserve all the pleasant moments in life. And if some negative situation happens in life, you can re-read it again and do the right thing next time. This will help you analyze your mistakes.
8. Journey. It is better to go to other countries to see the life of other peoples, as well as learn their culture and traditions.
9. Expanding interests. Finding an interesting hobby for yourself will always be the right decision. This will allow you to meet new friends and expand your social circle.
10. Achievements of goals. Dreams and desires often appear in people's heads. It is the consciousness of people that hints to them what needs to be done to get what they want.
11. Cleansing space. Many people have things that they haven't used for a long time. You need to get rid of them, and not store them “just in case.” If it’s a shame to throw it away, you can give it to those in need.
12. Good deeds. They are the ones who make a person stronger. Having done a good deed, the soul begins to “smile.” This does not mean any grandiose things or actions. It's about the little things that many people forget about. For example, feeding a stray cat or moving an elderly person across the road.
13. Financial savings. Having available funds is a good habit. This will allow you to avoid unpleasant situations and not get into debt. You can also use this money to go on vacation, or it will serve as an excuse to buy new household appliances.
14. Freedom from other people's influence. Sometimes listening to someone else's opinion is not so bad. But living a life that is not your own and listening to other people in everything will be the wrong decision. Therefore, it is better to think how to live yourself, without looking at other people’s opinions.

And finally, understand the importance of what is happening. Many people live in the past and are afraid to take action because of old mistakes. Some, on the contrary, are immersed in dreams of the future. But both of them forget that they live in the present. This is the important point. If you live in dreams or are afraid to do things because of the past, there will be no future. To start living correctly, you need to learn to hear your inner voice and destroy existing stereotypes.

Sources of vitality for women

As the American writer and publicist Mary Teresa McCarthy once aptly noted, “many women’s problems that the best psychiatrists give in to are often solved by a hairdresser of the second category.” Yes, this is such a feature of the female psyche - to quickly recover from a portion of positive emotions that can be obtained from simple, in general, actions.

Top 10 sources of vitality for women:

1. New hairstyle.
2. Fresh hair color.
3. Manicure and pedicure.
4. TV series or melodrama.
5. Talking with friends on the phone.
6. Gatherings with friends in a cafe.
7. Shopping.
8. Bath with rose petals.
9. Something delicious.
10. Cosmetic procedure (any).

Please note that most of these feminine pleasures do not require a huge investment of money, with the exception of shopping and cosmetic procedures. Coffee in a cafe is inexpensive, taking one rose into petals is also inexpensive, and you can buy hair dye in a store. But the surge of strength in any of these cases feels unprecedented.

And even when it comes to some costs and investments, it is actually more useful to spend money on such, from the point of view of many, nonsense. As the British writer Sophie Kinsella correctly noted, “shopping is much better than psychotherapy, because the price is the same, but you end up with the dress.” Of course, we are talking about mentally healthy and stable people. Unhealthy and unstable people really need psychotherapy and the help of a professional psychologist, and it is better not to experiment with your mental health on your own. But what you can and should experiment with is your VQ. What is it and how can you experiment with it? Now we'll tell you!

Energy storage methods

Physical energy

• Healthy sleep

I'll give you an example from my life. I am a typical night owl, and if I don't need to wake up regularly at a certain time, my schedule quickly gets lost. One day it shifted so much that I began to fall asleep in the morning and get up late in the afternoon.

To remedy the situation, I came up with a challenge for 30 days, during which I promised to get up no later than eight in the morning every day and go to bed on time. After just two weeks, I began to accomplish more and my well-being and mood improved. After a month, my productivity doubled.

And now the facts: melatonin, a hormone that enhances the functioning of the immune system and slows down aging (note to the female half of the audience), is produced mainly at night. Its maximum concentration in the blood occurs between 24 and 5 hours. This is why it is so important to go to bed before midnight.

How else to improve your sleep quality:

1. 1-2 hours before bedtime, we put away gadgets - the “blue” radiation from screens gives the brain signals about concentration and the need to stay awake.
2. At the same time, we dim the lights to create an atmosphere of relaxation.
3. If you go to bed between 9 and 11 pm (“melatonin window”), your sleep will be as healthy as possible, observing all phases.
4. We sleep at least 7-8 hours. Lack of sleep reduces the production of serotonin, which is responsible for the feeling of emotional saturation.

• Proper nutrition

The quality of food affects the state of the body and overall well-being - this is a fact. To stay energetic, you need to maintain a balanced diet, be sure to consume vegetables and fruits and drink enough clean water.

• Movement

Movement and sports enrich the body's tissues with oxygen and also cause the brain to release endorphins (happy hormones) to neutralize stress from physical activity. That's why after training we feel a surge of energy.

If you don’t have the opportunity or desire to go to the gym, introduce the habit of taking daily walks. Ideally, in a forest or park, since interaction with nature is another way to replenish energy.

• Breathing exercises

In our normal state, we breathe reflexively and often incorrectly. Observe yourself and notice that you are not using your lungs to their full potential. Meanwhile, just a few minutes devoted to deep breathing techniques will saturate the body with oxygen and give it a surge of strength.

Emotional Energy

• Positive emotions

Joyful feelings and thoughts charge energy in the same way that negative ones take it away. Therefore, it is in your best interests to shift your attention from the negative aspects of life to the positive. You can do this in the following ways.

1. Keep a gratitude journal and fill it out every evening. This will teach you to focus on the positive aspects of everyday life and increase your emotional background.
2. Make a list of what makes you happy and use it when you need to relieve stress. This could be listening to music, doing crafts or any other hobby.
3. Communicate with positive and successful people. Choose an environment that inspires you.
4. To have a pet. It has been scientifically proven that communicating with pets distracts you from gloomy thoughts, lifts your mood and improves your well-being. For example, while stroking a cat, our brain produces oxytocin, the hormone of love and trust.
5. Travel more often. Even a simple trip to another city will give you an emotional reboot.

• Mindfulness practice

A strong surge of emotions is accompanied by the release of stress hormones, resulting in an outflow of energy. Therefore, it is important to develop the ability to monitor emotions without suppressing them, and to create “space” between them and your reactions. That is, to be aware of them.

For example, anger provokes aggression. If a person is unconscious, he is completely immersed in this state. With developed emotional intelligence (the ability to track emotions), a thoughtless, blind reaction will not follow, and the release of stress hormones will be stopped.

Mental Energy

Increasing intellectual energy is the development of creative thinking on the one hand and the ability to maintain focus on the other. In addition to things like reading books and learning new things, the following will help you improve at this level.

• Development of the right hemisphere

In most people, the left half of the brain is dominant, responsible for analytical thinking. But in order to use mental energy to its full potential, you need to develop both hemispheres equally.

Engage in any kind of creativity - drawing, writing or music. This is a simple way to activate the right hemisphere, which is responsible for creative thinking. Its development will help you perceive the world around you more holistically, increase your enthusiasm and level of intuition.

• Meditation

Regular meditation practice improves cognitive abilities and increases productivity. There are many meditation techniques. The simplest of them are concentration on your own breathing or observation (for example, of a candle flame).

Another advantage of meditation is the ability to “reboot” and relieve intellectual and emotional stress.

• Journaling

When we write down our thoughts and feelings, we literally unload them from our heads and stop “thinking thoughts” - endlessly scrolling and wasting intellectual resources. In addition, keeping a diary develops the ability to analyze.

This also includes the habit of written planning.

Spiritual Energy

For spiritual energy, you need to realize your values ​​and find your mission.

At this level, it is important that physical, emotional and mental energy resources are filled. Spiritual energy decides where we direct them. It gives us motivation and perseverance, as well as a sense of meaning in our own lives.

Understanding your values ​​is the main thing. Our true goals always coincide with them. And if not, then these are imposed goals. Through imposed goals, spiritual energy flows away.

How to identify your values? Observe the people who admire and inspire you and try to understand how they live. Most likely, this will resonate in your heart.

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To understand the truth of a goal, ask yourself the question: “If no one knows that I achieved it, will it lose its significance?”

A clear understanding of these two components - values ​​​​and mission - helps spiritual energy to grow.

Where else can one get spiritual strength from? Art, communication with nature, meditation and prayer help restore them.

Tip four

Nothing helps you sort the thoughts in your head into categories and find a solution on how to proceed further than sports or physical labor. Here everyone must choose what he likes best - running in the park or chopping wood in the village and planting potatoes. But if you take your hands and unload your head for a while, it will help get rid of apathy and get out of a state of emotional burnout. After physical exercise and fresh air, few people will say: I don’t want to work, I don’t have the strength, because they will definitely appear.

Balance

Only by balancing his life can a person get rid of the feeling of running in circles and become happy. Unfortunately, modern society has serious problems with this. In the book "From Urgent to Important" by Steve McCletchy, there is a study that states that 88 percent of people are simply unable to make a choice between their personal life and work. At the same time, 64 percent are sure that work takes all their energy, and for 57 percent it is a serious problem that they cannot solve. But how to achieve balance in a modern economy?

After all, no one cares that there is no strength to work, everyone talks about unemployment, the crisis and so on. Anyone is ready to take on more responsibilities just to stay at their job and not lose a position that gives at least the illusion of stability. In the end, people simply do their best to meet other people's expectations, but in reality this is not a balance, but just an attempt to survive. Balance will not help to find the distribution of time between work and personal relationships. The desires of the psyche cannot be experienced according to a schedule, and such separation only leads to even greater stress. So where is the balance? I don’t have the strength to work, what should I do? Set a goal and strive for success. Moreover, this does not mean getting better and more, but the movement itself towards the goal. The most effective way to stop fatigue and burnout is to seek development in all aspects of human life.

A few more tips

There are a couple more simple rules that increase productivity that every person should know. No strength to work? Think about how you spend your time. It is very important not to go to bed tired. Just falling exhausted on the bed and hoping that the strength will be restored on its own is illogical. In this state, you are likely to drive yourself into a vicious circle of fatigue and burnout. It’s very easy to cope with this - sports, walks before bed or a banal contrast shower. Second and very important - ventilate the room where you sleep. Our brain needs fresh air, so you shouldn’t fall asleep in stuffy and musty rooms, as this reduces the quality of rest.

It is also advisable to exclude all information resources a few hours before bedtime. This means not watching TV, not exploring interesting Internet resources, and not conducting active correspondence on social networks. The brain receives a lot of information, and instead of resting and restoring energy resources, it will analyze and assimilate the received data. And it doesn’t matter whether you watched a news report or a TV series - this will harm normal, full replenishment of strength. And lastly, try to wake up on schedule, at the same time. This will reduce stress and become a healthy habit in life.