- October 21, 2019
- Psychology of Personality
- Anna Mallaalieva
It is believed that arrogance is a negative character trait. We are raised to be modest and sympathetic people. They say that we must give in, even if it goes against our own interests. However, judging by social issues, many believe that arrogance helps in solving many issues. There is a position that people can achieve success in work and personal life precisely because of this negative trait. Therefore, many have thought about how to be arrogant and self-confident. Do you think these personality traits are compatible? Let's look at this issue.
What do we call arrogance?
Before discussing how to achieve this trait in your character, you need to understand what arrogance is, in principle. Perhaps, during the process of description, you will understand that you do not need this.
Psychological research makes us understand that arrogant people do not feel shame, are constantly rude and do not support the values of the society in which they find themselves. Now we will answer the question of whether confidence and arrogance can coexist together. Again, research confirms that it does not. Psychologists note that arrogance hides a person’s helplessness. It is through rudeness and other rude behavior that he tries to hide his fear.
Knowing that arrogance is a mask, you need to think about whether this trait really helps achieve the desired results? Or is it better to become responsible, purposeful and diplomatic? Of course, each person decides for himself what tactics to choose. Perhaps you can combine a little arrogance and positive traits. And if you are still interested in how to become an arrogant person, then continue reading the publication.
Arrogant people
Audacity second happiness.
Proverb
You can often hear from people that arrogance is the second happiness. This is because from the outside it always seems that arrogant people snatch more than those who are more modest and decent. Well, the first happiness is a subjective feeling of this feeling, when a person feels very good about what is important to him. In this regard, some people would like to become a little bolder, or more precisely, bolder, so that, when necessary, they can push others aside and take their own. And this desire is not without meaning. But one should not exaggerate the importance of arrogant behavior, considering that it can solve almost all a person’s problems. After all, the kind of happiness that arrogance can give does not last long. And sometimes it is dangerous, because arrogant people turn other people who don’t like them against themselves because of their behavior. Therefore, arrogance, if not curbed, may well lead a person to serious conflicts with negative consequences. Let's discuss this idea in more detail.
Arrogant man
Let's figure out what kind of person can be called arrogant and where his arrogance manifests itself most strongly. An arrogant person is a person who has no sense of proportion in his pursuit of personal gain when interacting with other people. He simply does not think about others, about their desires, only about himself, so he demands, asks for what he needs, without thinking how legal and ethical it is on his part. Such a person neglects the interests and desires of the people around him when he strives to satisfy his desires, which can cause irritation in them. This is also a person who behaves boorishly, he does not respect others, ignores their interests, does not know how and does not want to cooperate with people on equal terms, and sometimes even believes that other people should think about him more than about themselves. There is only me and my desires, and I don’t care about others - this is how the insolent people reason. And at the same time they are perplexed when someone expresses their dissatisfaction with their behavior. They cannot understand that other people also have desires that cannot be ignored if you want to be treated normally. This is why it is difficult for arrogant people to get along with other, non-arrogant people.
One can also say about arrogant people that they are insatiable, because it is always not enough for them, no matter how much you do for them. This shows a lack of sense of proportion and the fact that they belittle other people’s efforts and deeds. And they are also ungrateful; if you do good to them, they will not thank you for it, but will only demand more. Arrogant people do not value what they have, no matter what they have, they always demand more and at the same time, the more they get, the angrier they become because of their greed. After all, it seems to them that since they got what they got, they could get more, they just didn’t have the courage and determination to claim more. So they begin to boil, trying to grab a bigger piece. Sometimes their greed becomes insane, so they can destroy the source of their well-being with their greed. That is, in fact, their arrogance can give them some benefit here and now, but in the long run they will simply ruin the source of this benefit, because they will suck all the juice out of it or, if we are talking about a person, they will turn him against themselves and in this way they will harm themselves. Who wants to deal with someone who just asks and asks and asks and doesn’t even say thank you. This is where they are impudent and insane. What kind of happiness can there be here? Perhaps only a very small and short-lived one, arising at the moment when you snatched something. But then everything can change for the worse. How many interesting and promising people do impudent people push away because of their arrogance? The impudence of some irritates, scares off others, and encourages others to take similar retaliatory actions.
I believe that arrogance is partly a sign of poor socialization. It seems that such behavior allows a person at some moments to show courage and do what he needs, ignoring those around him, but at the same time, this person is not able to come to an agreement with these others, which may be necessary in some cases. He simply goes against social rules, against morals and cultural norms, he acts from a position of strength and turns people against him. It turns out that a person simply cannot reconcile his interests with the interests of society. If everyone behaves this way, everyone acts insolently, then the whole society will become mired in conflicts, thus reducing its productivity. Life will become harder. After all, by collaborating with others, living with them in peace and harmony as much as possible, a person can get along in society much better than if his behavior causes conflict situations due to the fact that he only thinks about himself. Constant squabbles and showdowns due to people ignoring each other's interests create a hostile atmosphere in which people do not trust each other. Whereas the whole point of life in society is for us all to be useful to each other. Arrogance leads to the fact that a person not only puts his own interests above the interests of other people, there is nothing wrong with this, this is a completely reasonable position, he does not take into account the interests of others at all. Because of this, tension arises, which over time turns into hostility.
One of the main problems that arrogant people have is the problem of their lack of self-criticism and their refusal to accept criticism from others. They do not allow the idea that they may be wrong, that their behavior does not fit into social norms and therefore people are dissatisfied with them. And they don’t want to hear it from others. Therefore, people often find themselves unable to negotiate. It is impossible to explain or prove anything to them, they do not admit their arrogance and always see problems in other people, believing that they are unfairly accusing them. This is a sign of infantility, because such behavior is typical of children, especially in rebellious adolescence. Do everything the way I want, the whole world owes me, all people owe me, but I don’t owe anyone anything. This is how an arrogant person thinks. He will never see a log in his own eye, but he will see a speck in someone else’s eye, even if it is not there. These guys, if you give them a finger, will bite your whole hand off. And still it will not be enough for them. And they think this is normal. This manner of behavior is arrogant, even if it allows you to get something in a single case, for example, to skip the queue to the doctor’s office, then in general it will most likely have a negative impact on life, since because of it a person in many cases does not will be able to come to an agreement with other people, and therefore get some benefit from cooperation with them.
Well, what do you say now: is arrogance the second happiness, does an arrogant person gain so much by ignoring the interests of other people? Well, of course, arrogance has its advantages, they will be discussed below, but in general, you will agree that this is not such a human dignity as it seems. Lack of a sense of proportion, ingratitude, insatiability, insolence, rudeness, is this happiness? People who do not recognize the interests of others, do not take others into account, constantly demand something, do not appreciate the good that someone does for them, scare away all normal, decent people and attract people as arrogant as them themselves - that's what happens in the life of an arrogant person. And then in this struggle of spiders in the jar, someone ends up at the top and someone at the bottom. Arrogant people often suffer from the insolence of the people around them. They receive what they themselves project into the outside world. And then, faced with their own reflection in the faces of people like themselves, insolent people stop trusting others, because they are surrounded by the same insolent people who, naturally, do not deserve trust because they do not take into account the interests of others. Such people can deceive, betray, set up because of their arrogance and they can be treated in the same way, just like people, because they not only deserve it, they attract it to themselves. Like attracts like. The law of attraction, although imperfect, from my point of view, still often manifests itself in precisely such patterns, when there are more people like you around you.
What's better than arrogance?
What model of behavior is more preferable than that demonstrated by arrogant people and what can really be considered happiness? In my opinion, this is the ability to get along with different people, including arrogant ones. Although it is difficult, especially the last option. But striving for such interaction by studying the intricacies of human interaction, including through the study of psychology, is much better than being arrogant. It is better to surround yourself with normal people, and therefore reasonable ones, in order to live with them in peace and harmony, and to cooperate with these people on fair terms, receiving adequate returns from this. This way you will get more and have fewer problems. It turns out that life in harmony with the environment, no matter how a person comes to it, is happiness, albeit not absolute, but still happiness. One of the forms of its manifestation. For some it is the second thing, for others it is the first and main thing.
And arrogance is a situational advantage. Sometimes you need to resort to it, consciously resort to it, in order to snatch some benefit at a certain moment. But I definitely wouldn’t want to live with this approach to life and people all the time and I wouldn’t recommend it to anyone. It's like becoming a vulture and surrounding yourself with other vultures who, at the first opportunity, if you weaken even a little, will be ready to tear a piece out of you. With such an environment, you will always live in fear. But life in constant fear certainly cannot be called happiness. Happiness is when you are free from everything that weighs you down, including fear. Therefore, it is better not to be someone you yourself would not want to deal with.
Why do people become arrogant
Why and how do people become arrogant? And why do they remain like this, even if it is not profitable for them, and they suffer because of their arrogance? You know, this is not always a person’s conscious choice of what he should be. Quite often, human arrogance is an uncontrollable state; it is simply habitual for a person and even natural, because he has always been like this, they did not make him different. Arrogance is, firstly, a consequence of immaturity, one might say, unawareness. Arrogant people do not reflect, do not analyze their behavior and its consequences, do not compare their behavior model with the behavior model of other people in order to understand how adequate, appropriate, effective, and necessary it is. They simply do what and how they are used to doing, that’s all.
Secondly, arrogant people once learned from the example of other arrogant people how to behave. So the man saw nothing else in his life except impudence. He copies those who surrounded him and, perhaps, continues to surround him, so as not to yield to anyone. Such people do not know how to be different. They live as they should to suit the environment in which they find themselves. As the saying goes: “To live with wolves is to howl like a wolf.” That is, you simply adapt to your environment, you have no other choice, because you don’t even know about it. If a person has no idea how else to behave in order to defend their interests and if there are arrogant people around you all the time, you will reproduce the model of behavior adopted from them as the only effective model that you know about.
And thirdly, the praise of arrogance that exists in society, which, including through the proverb I cited at the beginning of the article, is spreading in society, leads people, especially inexperienced, insecure, offended and deprived of life, to the idea that arrogance is a sign of strength and if they become like this, their life will become better. In fact, they simply go from one extreme to the other in order, as it seems to them, to improve their situation. By giving in, being afraid, showing indecisiveness, they miss out on a lot, but they want to snatch their share of joy, they want to win and achieve success in relationships with people, and therefore they want to be like those whose demonstratively arrogant behavior is most noticeable and brings some kind of reward. then minor momentary benefits. They see that an arrogant person, unlike them, achieves something, gets his way in some way, and they think that this is what they should strive for, this kind of behavior. You have to be arrogant to live well. That's what they think. For them, an arrogant person is almost cool. They simply do not notice other options for useful behavior and cannot evaluate them, since they are less vivid and understandable. This is how people become arrogant, one might say, deliberately. Well, having become arrogant, it is easier to remain that way than to change, unless, of course, life punishes a person for such behavior. And she often does this with arrogant people.
What to do with impudence
You need to punish someone else’s arrogance and outgrow your own. Here, in a nutshell, is what to do with arrogance. But punishment should not be understood as something that is associated with aggression and violence against insolent people. This is a frivolous approach to the issue and is as primitive as arrogant behavior. In this case, punishment can be reduced to the goal of depriving the insolent person of valuable public goods, coming both from you personally, if you do not accept insolence, and from other people who agree with you in this, that is, they also do not like insolent people. There is no need to meet arrogant people halfway, that’s all.
In other words, insolent people should be ignored, deprived of some benefits that you can provide them, ostracized as much as possible, that is, an insolent person can be expelled from some social group for his unacceptable insolent behavior. This is rude, but still the education of arrogant people. They must see that in order to be respected in society and receive something from others, they themselves must do something for them, they themselves must respect others and recognize their interests. Even if they remain rude in their behavior, which will partly remind them of their arrogance, they need to start taking others into account in order to receive something from them, at least the same attention to themselves. Otherwise, they must be ignored and deprived. Without such upbringing it is impossible to cope with arrogance.
And of course, education, as a method of influencing a person’s consciousness, makes it possible to correct all the imbalances in a person’s upbringing. Arrogant people, like any others who do not get along well with others and often have conflicts, need to be taught. They need to be taught more effective behavior in society, more acceptable interaction with others. There is no need to instill in them a complex and not always reasonable morality, just as religion does, talking about what is possible and what is not, but without properly explaining why something is possible and something is not. And why should a person adhere to some rules and restrictions if he doesn’t want to? Education should be carried out in the most understandable language for a person, so that he understands every little thing that is explained to him. You can’t just tell a person that being arrogant is bad. Why would this be bad, he will think. His impudent behavior may even make him feel very good, in certain moments. And sometimes such people do not even understand that they are arrogant and that because of this they limit themselves in certain ways in their interactions with other people. In general, information must be conveyed to them, about them and their behavior very carefully and everything must be thoroughly explained to them, communicating with them in a language they understand. Then the procedure of teaching such people the intricacies of life will yield results.
Here you need to understand that the attitude towards arrogant people should not be based on some negative feelings towards them, on the same dislike, hatred, anger, on the desire to take revenge on them for some moments in which they showed themselves at their best, so to speak , beauty, insulting or offending others. This makes no sense. To punish impudence means to teach a person who demonstrates this quality of character the right way to live in society, and not to execute him every time he behaved in a way that is natural for him. Although pain teaches, it does not teach. A person may remember that he is punished for such and such actions, but will not understand why. But it is necessary for him to understand. Then he will behave more thoughtfully, and not just adhere to the well-known formula: this is possible, but that is not. Still, being arrogant is sometimes useful.
The benefits of arrogance
Of course, one cannot help but talk about the positive aspects of arrogance, otherwise my thoughts on this topic will be similar to the words of a moralist who talks about ideals that do not exist, but which must be strived for, despite the non-obviousness of their benefits for humans. Therefore, it cannot be said that arrogance is always bad. There are also positive aspects to arrogant behavior. And one of these aspects is the ability to be courageous and decisive when necessary. While others are trampling, procrastinating, shy, you just take it and do it, go, talk, take, getting what you need. As a result, everyone else is left with nothing, and you get yours. And even if someone there later becomes indignant, reproaches you for dishonesty and dishonesty, all this will no longer matter. The moment was lost for the others, and you won. Your impudence helped you quickly make a decision that was beneficial to you. Without the same queue, you went where you needed to at the crucial moment. You asked for financial help, forgetting about your pride and shame, took a favorable place where you were not supposed to be, and so on. There may be different options. The essence is always the same - you need to be decisive and courageous at an important moment.
Another positive side of arrogance is the ability of an arrogant person not to depend on the opinions of others and on existing stereotypes in society, well, of course, when this makes sense and therefore benefits him. Of course, it’s impossible to live in society and not be dependent on it, we know that. And it will not work to ignore the laws and rules, including unspoken ones, of the society in which we live. You have to observe something, you have to be like everyone else in something. But we also understand that the opinion of the people around us regarding anything, including each of us, can be erroneous, biased, and frankly distorted to suit the interests of these people. People may envy us, fear us, try to manipulate us, and therefore their opinions, advice, criticism towards us can be not only meaningless and useless for us, because they will not contain constructive elements, but also downright harmful and even hostile. It is very convenient to clip a person’s wings by criticizing his activities, since you cannot prohibit or surpass them. Therefore, all these things coming from others and directed at us must be neglected in certain situations. When you don't depend on people, on their opinions of you, you can and should ignore them if what you do requires it. Your personal interests should prevail over people’s desire to hinder you in some way and limit you in some way simply because they want it so much.
So, you don’t always need to dance to someone else’s tune just to please people. Moreover, it is impossible to please all people, it is unrealistic. We are all too different for everyone to like us and suit each other in everything. Getting along with people does not mean always pleasing them in everything, giving in, serving them, doing what they want and not doing what they don’t like. Arrogance helps with this, as does selfishness, narcissism and other qualities, which are partly a manifestation of self-love and cause discontent among others.
But here we must understand that in order for the described advantages of arrogance to benefit a person, it is necessary that he, this person, be consciously arrogant, that is, show this quality exactly when it is necessary and where it is necessary, and not He was always arrogant with everyone. That is, he must be moderately and appropriately arrogant. And here it is impossible to say exactly where, when and with whom one should show impudence. There can be so many different situations in life that it is impossible to take into account all their features in order to derive some general rules for all times. I would say this: with important, smart, high-status, strong people, you need to be more attentive to their interests and your behavior, so as not to allow yourself too much and not run into trouble. But with people who do not represent value and importance to you, and even more so with those who themselves do not behave quite correctly with others, you can allow yourself all sorts of liberties, to the best of your ability and necessity. The main thing is not to be arrogant with those who are capable of punishing you for this, who have such opportunities. Well, we all seem to intuitively understand this - we bow to the strong, push around the weak, if so, to put it briefly. Sometimes it looks disgusting, but what can you do, these are the rules of life. Only in the modern world everything is not so simple that you can easily calculate the consequences of your behavior in relationships with different people. Therefore, before you finally decide on a model of behavior in relation to this or that person, this or that group of people, it is necessary to take a closer look at him and them in order to understand what these people are like and what their capabilities are. That is, you need to be careful in your behavior so as not to make enemies and not lose useful connections with valuable people because of your arrogant attitude towards them.
This is how I think we should approach arrogant people and arrogance itself. This is how we should understand arrogance and arrogant people. This quality, this character trait, this model of behavior, is definitely not the second happiness. And the third one too. There are advantages to arrogance, in this world everything has its advantages. But in order to use them, I repeat, you need to be consciously arrogant, having a good idea of what arrogant behavior can give you in a certain situation, with certain people, and in what ways it can harm you. You must at least try to assume this, calculate it, so that your behavior is deliberate, and not the way you are used to. For in the same way, good behavior can harm you when it simply turns out to be inappropriate. Well, I’m already reminding you of the basic principles of human behavior in society, which you probably know very well yourself.
Protection
Before developing this quality in yourself, you need to separate arrogance from rudeness. The first character trait can really be useful when you are trying to defend your interests. But if you get impudent and run faster to the checkout in the store, pushing everyone, then you need to understand: this will never help you in your life. This situation only shows a lack of manners.
But it is foolish to deny that arrogance sometimes becomes a defensive reaction. It can be a response to any stimulus. If you need to become just such a person, then below are tips on how to become bolder and bolder.
This quality (in the form of a defensive reaction) can really help solve some problem or conflict. An example of such a situation could be, for example, a vacant director's position in a company. Here you need to include confidence, arrogance, and cunning. After all, what are leaders looking at? To work: how active it is and how a person expresses himself. At the same time, you cannot be called a bad person, because you are not rude to people and do not insult them. But such behavior is also impudence.
How to deal with insolent people
Each situation is individual, so actions in each specific case may differ. But there are several recommendations that you should follow if you happen to deal with an arrogant and tactless person.
Refusal in strict form
Insolent people are not capable of politeness, so they take it for weakness, an inability to stand up for themselves.
Therefore, they often pester tactful and polite people with requests and instructions. You shouldn't be rude, but you don't need to explain anything either. It's best to just say a short "no."
Ignoring
If the previous method did not produce results, then there is no need to waste your energy. It is enough to simply not notice the impudent person. He will not be able to survive this, so he will begin to look for a victim who will succumb to his provocations.
Restraint
This concerns the expression of emotions. The fact is that an arrogant individual is only charged with energy when they react to his humiliation. You must learn to maintain composure in any situation and not show your irritation.
Be more cultured
If it is simply impossible not to enter into a dialogue, then it is better to use complex words and sentences in your speech. This should be done as calmly as possible. This behavior will not allow the impudent person to quickly come up with answers in his characteristic style. The conversation will end quickly.
Is it possible for girls to be impudent?
Girls, admit it, how often have you thought about how to become arrogant and self-confident? You thought that this could help win a guy away from a competitor or become a team leader. Well, according to research, it is worth noting that guys really pay attention to arrogant girls. But other studies have already shown that men like to get married and, in principle, start serious relationships with calm ladies, with whom they are always comfortable.
Therefore, if you want to become arrogant and confident, then go for it. But assess all situations sensibly and use these character traits only in the right cases.
In Vasmer Max's dictionary
impudently insolent, insolent, insolently, ukr. impudent “out of the blue, sudden”, Old Russian, Tslav. nagl "fast, fast", Bulgarian. brazenly “brazenly”, Serbo-Croatian. Nagao, zh. nagla “hasty”, Slovenian. nágǝl, woman nágla “sudden”, Czech. náhlý – the same, slvts. náhly, Polish, V.-Luzh., N.-Luzh. nagɫу. Lit. nõglas “sudden” borrowing. from glory; see Bug at Preobr. I, 589. Brings closer to other Indian. áñjas, áñjasā “direct, unexpected, fast”, Gothic. anaks “extraordinary, fast”; see I. Schmidt, KZ 23, 268 et seq.; Tsupica, GG 159; Fic I, 368; Uhlenbeck, Aind. Wb. 5; Thorpe 11. To these words (without naglъ) Trautman (ВSW 9, Arr. Sprd. 300) also includes lit. ankstì, zhem. ankstiẽ “early”, añkstas “early”, ankstùs “early”, but cf. Holthausen (Awn. Wb. 217), where lit. the words are getting closer to Goth. ūhtwō “dawn”, Old Norse ótta – the same. •• (Tedesco’s explanation (“Language”, 27, 1951, p. 28 et seq.) from *nalьglъ is unlikely; comparison with lit. nogė́tis “to strive”, Slavic snaga, see Warbot, “Etymology, 1964”, M ., 1965, p. 27; about the relationship with the Latin naguôt “to go quickly” see Mashek 2, p. 388. – T.)
Setting goals
So, how to become cunning and arrogant, self-confident? First, set yourself goals. Why do you need these character traits? If we are talking about career growth, then think about: where can you apply these “skills”? Where exactly should you be arrogant, where should you cheat, when is it better to remain silent?
Considering that arrogance is not a very pleasant character trait, its spontaneous manifestation can have a bad effect on you. At a minimum, the relationship with your boss will deteriorate and the level of trust will decrease.
What does the word cheeky mean?
adj. 1) a) Characterized by impudence; arrogant, unceremonious. b) Intrusive, unobtrusive (about an animal, insect, etc.)
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Confidence
We have already found out why people become arrogant. Why do they need self-confidence? We think this is already clear. By the way, achieving this trait is quite difficult, especially on your own. Unfortunately, uncertainty, lack of self-love—these factors take a long time to form. And if you have doubted your skills all your life, then in a click you will not believe in yourself.
We advise you to consult a psychologist. It will help you find the causes of uncertainty and subsequently develop the desired quality. If you don’t want or can’t go to see a specialist, then take advantage of trainings or webinars. They can also help, but this method is still less effective.
Confidence will help boost the sport. The support of loved ones will also be useful.
So, how to be bold and confident? What to do? You need to constantly train your endurance, perseverance and determination. Monitor your behavior and correct it.
Personnel Responsibility
Everyone in the company must behave in accordance with the corporate culture and respect their colleagues. Three levels of responsibility can be distinguished, depending on the position:
- As an employee
Employees have a responsibility to maintain a professional work environment even in the face of disagreements with co-workers or managers. Aggression, use of obscene or offensive language, humiliation of others - all this can be considered insolent behavior. Employees who engage in these activities are subject to reprimand, termination and, in exceptional cases, legal action. Employees who feel unable or unwilling to change their behavior should consult with their Human Resources representative to discuss options.
- As colleagues
It's easy to turn a blind eye to abusive behavior around you in order to save yourself unnecessary stress. However, if left unaddressed, having a pushy employee can demoralize the team and impact productivity. This can also lead to a stressful or hostile work environment, and therefore employees have a responsibility to record incidents of insolence they witness and, if the situation does not improve, share this information with a manager, supervisor, or HR representative.
- As a leader
Managers have many responsibilities when it comes to insolent employees. The first step is to understand the behavior, counsel the employee about the unacceptable behavior, document the conversation, and outline options if the behavior continues. If the behavior persists, managers should work with Human Resources to take corrective action as outlined in company policy or, in extreme cases, terminate the offending employee.
Wit
It is important to be arrogant, but to be able to avoid conflict situations. Let's say you decide to achieve a managerial position at work. You behave arrogantly and cunningly. Other colleagues will probably pester you with negative phrases. If you are witty and can answer correctly, your relationship with other employees will not deteriorate. It is important not to offend others, but at the same time continue to move towards your goals.
To develop your wit, start reading, traveling, making more friends, find yourself a hobby.
What to do if an employee gets insolent?
The level of comfort at work greatly affects employee productivity. If the emotional situation in the team is unstable, someone behaves inappropriately and interferes with others, then, accordingly, the level of efficiency drops. To prevent this from happening, managers, together with the HR department, should try to work through all situations of insolent behavior. Let's figure out how to do this.
Finding out the reasons
Ask the employee about his emotional state and stress level. Something may have happened at work or in your personal life that triggered this behavior. By expressing your concerns and words of encouragement, you can already create positive dynamics in behavior. Remember that employees want to be heard.
Timely response
It is worth responding to impudence in a timely and direct manner, so that your words are understood correctly. Remind them that insolence is not welcome in the workplace. Provide feedback to your employee that includes specific incidents or instances of insolence. Don't let an employee's bad behavior get you down. Speak calmly, do not shout or reproach him. Take a moment and walk away before dealing with the situation if it will help you maintain your composure.
Warning
If the first conversation did not help and the employee continues to behave disrespectfully, it is worth warning him (preferably in writing) that such behavior may have consequences. Allowing someone to continue to destroy the workplace is unfair to you, your business and your colleagues. Make sure the employee understands the consequences if they do not correct their behavior.
Dismissal
Sometimes an employee is unwilling to correct her behavior and leaves you no choice but to relieve her of her duties. No matter how unpleasant this step may be, if an employee does not know how to respect colleagues and superiors and interferes with the work of others, then dismissal is the right step.
Analysis of the situation
Examine your office's stress levels and employee workloads, offer employees variety and job rotation, and suggest different ways to relieve stress. Your task is to be proactive and prevent situations where employees become too nervous and short-tempered due to overwork.
Wardrobe
Believe it or not, when psychologists are always asked about how to be arrogant and self-confident, they suggest changing your wardrobe and clothing style. If you are dressed poorly, you don’t like the outfit yourself, then those around you will perceive you poorly. At the same time, if you start to become impudent and rude in this manner, then other people will most likely begin to feel sorry for you, because you radiate self-doubt.
Clothing must be clean and neat. You should choose what makes you feel better. If you dress like a “cool” girl, you will feel like one. You won't have to spend 15 minutes thinking about how to answer a question or what to do if you are rude. You will become confident and know how to behave in any situation. Yes, it's a mask. A mask that you will try on yourself. As a result, now you will feel comfortable in any form. Because you will know that it is not your clothes that make you bolder and more confident, but that you are just such a person. Try to do this, maybe you will be able to love yourself.
How to resist insolence
More often than not, the one whose actions are regarded as shameless does not even know that he is doing something inappropriate for others. It turns out that it was not he who exalted himself, but we who put ourselves lower. The peak of impudence is a relative concept. But it happens that we encounter obvious rudeness, but do not understand how to resist arrogance:
first try to understand whether the person's actions actually show disrespect for others. If arrogant behavior is the result of disrespect, do not be afraid to put the boor in his place. Especially if after what happened you spend a long time coming up with possible answers; Often the rudeness is feigned. It arises from a lack of faith in one’s own strength. If you notice such a note in a person’s actions, then you will be able to more easily perceive the desire to cover up weak points with arrogance and rudeness; try to avoid rude people, or reduce interaction with them to a minimum.
And if you constantly encounter arrogance, then think about what is wrong with your perception of the world and self-esteem. Most likely, you are in the position of a victim, and everyone can easily sit on your neck. Boors have a sense of vulnerable people.
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