What to do if a man gets cold

19 Aug 2021 1426

Love at first sight or friendships that turned into close ones - any relationship can end in a break, even if you did not expect it at all. He seeks your attention, you reciprocate, maybe move in together or get married, but after some time he seems to have been replaced - sound familiar? When a loved one looks not at you, but through you, does not say warm words or does not experience the same passion, this, on the one hand, is imbalanced and simply unsettles, but on the other hand, it is refreshing and allows you to look at the relationship soberly. The result will be either a break or a reboot. It depends on both partners.

The man has cooled down: reasons

● perhaps he didn’t really love you, but was simply in love or experiencing passion;

● he has another woman: the first thought that comes to mind, but do not rush to draw conclusions;

● your boyfriend has health problems, problems with his family, or difficulties at work;

● you stopped attracting him because you yourself have changed;

● you are completely dependent on him (you are a housewife);

● fell out of love;

● perhaps it turned out that you do not have common interests, goals, plans, so the relationship came to naught;

● he was brainwashed by someone: single friends, envious people, a manipulative mother, an unhappy couple among friends;

● he “relaxed” too much and let the relationship take its course, according to the principle “you can’t go anywhere.”

Reacts negatively to requests

A man loves to be needed, solve problems, and come to the aid of the woman he loves. His rational mind, analytics and logic help us women in any life situation, because we tend to get lost and react emotionally. If your requests, even the most insignificant ones, cause irritation in a man, or he addresses you with them to other people, then write in vain. Pay attention to how enthusiastically a man listens to your problems, whether he fulfills his agreed duties around the house, whether he keeps his word, and whether he participates in family life at all.

How to understand that a man has lost his cool

As a rule, women always feel that “something wrong” is happening. Has your man stopped kissing you “just like that,” showing signs of attention, and has stopped wanting you as a woman? If you see changes in a relationship that are unpleasant to you and indicate a “cooling” in the relationship, then the surest way to understand that a man has cooled is to ask this question and take the position of an observer. There is no need to create scandals, hysterics, take revenge (nothing yet, at least), or cause jealousy, now you just need to observe. Pay attention to basic phrases

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signs
that the guy has cooled down, which will be discussed further. But don’t forget that you know your man better, and therefore only you can decide what to do in such a situation.

Is bad about your habits

A person's habits are his characteristics. And if at the beginning of the relationship they surprise and touch, then after the “pink haze” dissipates, they suddenly begin to irritate. Women have a lot of habits that irritate men, since we have a tactical type of thinking and a more developed right hemisphere. We a priori cannot think identically in aspects of life. Another thing is that a loving man appreciates this dissimilarity and even finds advantages, which allows him to work in tandem for the benefit of the family. If your partner has cooled down, then your individuality will begin to irritate him, he will try to actively reshape you in his own way, to re-educate you. Finding fault with little things is a clear sign that a person is looking for a way and reason to destroy a relationship.

TOP 10 phrases from guys in the cooling phase in a relationship:

• “I’m not sure I can give you what you want/what you deserve.”

– after this phrase, you can pack your things and safely leave without regret. As a rule, this is what guys say who are afraid of their obligations. They wanted to play in a “serious relationship”, and while the game was interesting, they played, and when “life” together began, they decided that it was time to stop, but as if unobtrusively, relieving themselves of responsibility.

• “Don’t blow my mind”

– communication between a man and a woman is always a slight confrontation, because we are different. But if a man is annoyed by any question that requires a simple and honest answer, or request, it means that he simply does not respect you and does not want to strain even for a conversation.

• “I don’t have time” / “I’m busy”

- a man can really be busy, but here we are talking about the fact that he has constantly become busy just for you. Not only when you call him, but also when he is at home next to you, if you live together. If not, it’s even more strange not to find time for your beloved girl.

• "No mood"

– men are inherently concrete people, often taciturn.
If a man is not in the mood one time or for a specific, known reason, it’s not a problem. But if he is constantly not in the mood to communicate with you, and he has enough mood and time to communicate with other people, then it is worth thinking about the reasons for such behavior • “Leave me alone”
- perhaps you have become too annoying, or maybe he now thinks It is appropriate to talk to you in a rude manner. If you really get him with verbal torture, take a break, but if this is his new style of communication, leave him for a couple of weeks or forever.

• "After"

- it means he has no time for you at all; often “later” means “never.”

• “I'm tired” / “I want to sleep”

– a healthy man not in old age will not refuse sex, and even more so with the woman he loves. Everyday work and sports, for example, are tiring, but if instead of making love, these phrases are heard every evening, this is a reason to think about changing your partner.

Your tears make him angry

Often, women's tears are a means of manipulating others. A man is not characterized by capricious behavior, but he treats the hysterics of his beloved woman condescendingly and even tries to calm her down, save her from his own bells and whistles, and solve her problems. If your partner used to be calm about your tears, but now he can’t even stand the sight of pouting lips, gets irritated, screams and tries to retreat away - then his heart has become hardened towards you. Whether you yourself achieved this with your hysterics or whether he met someone else is not known, but you won’t get through a man with “crocodile tears” anymore.

The guy has lost his cool: signs

1.
He doesn't want you and doesn't flirt .
The most important sign of the absence of any feelings is the lack of need for intimacy, for sensual exchange.

2.
He only wants sex.
You were planning a relationship, but he stopped inviting you anywhere, comes to you for the night, and in the morning there is no trace? He only needs sex, there is no talk of love here.

3.
Treason.
It is impossible to love two or more women equally, at the same time. Most likely, there is no love or passion or infatuation was mistaken for it. If he sleeps with someone else, he doesn't love you.

4.
Stealth.
Has he stopped sharing his plans, problems, worries, stories? He doesn't want to communicate with you anymore.

5.
Provocations.
The guy has grown cold and is constantly trying to provoke you so that you leave on your own - a typical situation.

6.
Criticism of your appearance.
Before he admired and admired you, but now he criticizes you for any reason? He simply no longer looks at you with loving eyes and does not love you.

7.
Irritation.
Does he get irritated about everything? Because he doesn't accept you for who you are.

8.
Drastic changes.
He suddenly changed beyond recognition.

9.
Avoids honest conversations.
You are a stranger to him if he doesn’t even want to talk to you and explain what’s happening to him.

10.
Doesn't answer calls or messages.
All people are busy with something, especially men during working hours, as a rule, they devote themselves entirely to business, this is their element.
He may call back later, write a short “I love you, I miss you,” or he may not answer at all and not call back again. If he stops answering, don’t write or call, the man has lost interest. What to do if a man has lost his temper
In each case, everything is individual, so it is impossible to say unequivocally what to do if a man has lost his temper. However, useful recommendations that are general for such situations can help.

For all three cases, the main recommendation is appropriate: do everything possible, if you love a man, if it doesn’t work, leave yourself.

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Keep your distance:
There should always be a distance between a man and a woman, like between the north and south poles. When a woman tries to “absorb” a man and his time entirely, she completely forgets about her life and is only concerned with relationships. And like two poles, a man and a woman push away all their lives, but also attract - because they cannot live without each other.

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Cultivate “feminine energies”:
take care of yourself and your femininity, engage in feminine activities, handicrafts or drawing, cooking, but do not turn into a homebody. A spa, a swimming pool, running along the embankment, fitness in the company of sports guys - they will not only refresh you, but will also shake up your lazy person. Be sure when you come in the evening to carefully inform: “Can you imagine, today there were so many people in the hall, it was impossible to push through, and most importantly, almost all of them were healthy men, it was almost impossible to breathe…”; or “today my massage therapist was great, you should go see him sometime too..”. Don’t go too far, your man is loved and desired for you, you just need to cheer him up, and not drive him to rage.

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Be on top:
take care of yourself, eat healthy food, be interested in new hairstyles, experiment with style. Remember, the changes should be visible to your boyfriend, but not drastic, so as not to push him away. It is not necessary to inform about plans for a hairstyle or haircut in advance; you can do it silently. Let her then think about why she didn’t tell her about her plans and for whom she took all these girly events.

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Let go of control:
Excessive control is stressful, so don't smother your man with questions. Try to make him think about where you are, how you are, who you are with. It is not your task to take care of him, you are not his mother. However, always keep your finger on the pulse. Let him know that you are a girl with character.

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Make it clear that “relaxing” is not an option.
Do everything to glow with joy, happiness, enjoy life, get high, with or without it. A man must always see the “goal”, and almost always becomes lazy when his “trophy” is nearby and supposedly “not going anywhere.” How to change your hairstyle, soon ask: “I called you today, you didn’t answer, I wanted to consult. A friend is inviting me to the seaside for a week, do you mind if I go? I think you said that you are very busy and won’t be able to go on vacation...” If he shows indifference, then “to hell with it.” However, as practice shows, even if a man has cooled down and no longer loves, his pride begins to worry at the thought that you can be with someone else and you will not give your attention to him.

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Be humble and ask questions.
Don't worry if your man has grown cold. If this is not your man, it’s good that life will take him away. If yours, then he will “wake up”, get off the stove and not allow himself to lose you. If he doesn't call, ask why. If he says he’s very busy, ask when he’ll be free. If the guy answers the usual questions adequately, there is nothing to worry about. But if he constantly answers such questions with irritation, this is a bad sign. The main thing is not to overdo it and don’t bother too often.

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Flirt and be sexy.
Believe in your beauty and sexuality, be confident in yourself. Even if the guy has cooled off, still flirt and let him understand that if not him, then someone else will appreciate your femininity.

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Kindness and affection.
Even if there is a cooling in the relationship, do not spoil your character. Be confident and self-sufficient, but remain kind and affectionate.

Criticizes appearance

When a man falls in love with a woman, he accepts her for who she is and will always find her merits. Even flaws in appearance seem to him to be features, cute or funny nuances that make a person exactly like that. A loving man is glad to see you with disheveled hair, sleepy in pajamas, sick with a red face and crying with happiness. Even the weight gained after the winter holidays is not a reason for criticism for him. If you notice that a man irritably glances at your figure, is completely indifferent to a new image or wardrobe, drives you to the gym or hints at the need to visit the hairdresser, then he no longer perceives you as you are. Simply put, the feelings passed - and you stopped suiting him.

How to behave if a man has lost his temper

- be independent, keep your distance, but at the same time do not become cold and distant;

- try honestly not to think during the day (when you are both doing your own thing) about a man, they always feel when you forget about them;

— communicate with other people, friends, family, and get acquainted. But the purpose of dating is to increase self-esteem, to make sure that you are attractive, and not to look for a replacement for a man;

- mentally “switch” attention from him to yourself, perhaps he is “overindulging”: reduce the percentage of care, thoughts about him, take time for yourself;

- if a guy stares at his phone instead of making love, take yours in your hands instead of muttering in his ear that he should delete his exes from social networks. You also have exes, and most importantly, future ones. Calm down and stare at your phone, detached and as interested as possible. You can look through dresses in an online store or even sit on a dating site, just don’t let anyone catch you in this;

- do not impose, it will not benefit either him or you. If a man himself does not come to you for your attention, does not take more steps, then there is no need to waste your nerves on persuasion.

A little about how to make new friends

Meetings always give rise to separations. And partings are new meetings. If your relationship has exhausted itself, say thank you for the experience; it will be useful to you when you meet new people. Communicate and show sincere interest in the interlocutor. Focus on friendship and common interests. Real relationships are simple and transparent, they do not require excessive effort and develop on their own, such relationships do not raise a million questions about how to behave, they give strength and do not take away.

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Advice from family psychologists:

Let's start with ourselves. First of all, you need to look at yourself in the mirror. What has changed during your time together? Maybe the culprit was old, out-of-shape home clothes, an unkempt appearance and a figure that had begun to blur? So, faded clothes go into the trash, and their place is taken by a cute knitted suit during the day and a satin robe in the evening. The next step is to go to the hairdresser and take daily care of your skin, hands and body. The bedside table should definitely have a place for face and hand cream and perfume, which must be used daily. New underwear will give you self-confidence. It's also time to take care of your body. If for some reason you can’t go to a swimming pool or fitness club yet, then let it be basic home exercises on a mat, accompanied by cheerful music, ending with a contrast shower. Exercise and shower will give you energy, good mood and vigor for the whole day.
Let's let go of the leash. It is necessary to give your man a “sip of freedom” so that he does not feel tightly tied to the house and his woman. You can stay late at work or with a friend, miss a couple of his phone calls, citing being busy, not scold a man over trifles and not get into his soul. Being a little detached and having your own hobbies and interests, no longer suffocating with care, inundating you with calls and messages, is a proven way to let a man know that no one is encroaching on his freedom.
We create healthy jealousy. It is known that a man loves to achieve and conquer a woman. She should belong only to him, and the man does not intend to share her with anyone. Therefore, a drop of jealousy on his part will make you worry, even if he has become accustomed to it during his life together. Let him see the interested glances of passing men, acquaintances or work colleagues. A well-groomed appearance, an impressively chosen style, goodwill, charm, humor and a little coquetry in communicating with the opposite sex will certainly help with this.
We improve our sex life. Psychologists consider this point to be the most important in renewing cooled relationships. Coldness, tightness and stiffness in bed cannot save any relationship. A romantic evening by candlelight, with light dishes, which can end with a shared bath, accompanied by relaxing music, will come to the rescue. Beautiful underwear, the mesmerizing smell of perfume, stockings and shoes will help you get in the right mood. Role-playing games with dressing up can also bring a fresh wave to a relationship.
Separate rest. Sometimes a radical method can be a short departure from home. This could be a trip for a couple of days to visit your parents or girlfriend, or a short vacation outside the city. A trip to the sea or to a sanatorium will be an excellent method for restoring cooled relationships. A short separation will help dot all the i's, allow a man to get bored and understand how he might miss his woman.

Unfortunately, it happens that the relationship between once dear people has ended, and there is no strength or desire to resurrect them.

In what case is it worth ending them by letting the person go before both become enemies?

He doesn’t come home to spend the night, without really coming up with excuses, hides his phone, and is almost never at home.
A man stops being jealous, even when his woman is being actively courted in his presence.
The man is not interested in the life of his companion, his phrases in conversation are banal and distant.
He doesn’t tell anything about himself, doesn’t participate in making joint plans, be it the next weekend or summer vacation.
One of the signs of betrayal is the lack of intimate life. It is unlikely that a healthy man will simply refuse to receive pleasure.

New meetings are just around the corner

Any separation gives rise to a new meeting. A marriage that has exhausted itself has brought invaluable life experience that can be useful in new relationships. Failure must be viewed as working on your own mistakes. In a new marriage or just easy, non-binding meetings, a woman will already clearly know what to do or not to do in various situations. She is already quite an experienced player in the game called “life together.” There will be no more annoying mistakes, because she is a woman whom a man loves.

Source: motivacii-net.ru