Any relationship in a couple develops according to a unique scenario, but in the “code of love” there are a number of certain rules that have passed the test of generations. If a man wants to win the heart of his chosen one, he must know how to care for a girl. Then a romantic relationship is much more likely to develop into a great and bright feeling.
General rules
The ritual of courting a woman is a whole chain of traditions built over many centuries. Today, the topic of properly paying attention is actively discussed by representatives of the stronger sex. This is not surprising, because there are a variety of ways to attract attention and arouse the interest of the object of affection. However, it is important for men to approach this topic with extreme caution and sensitivity. You need to be able to beautifully design your every step.
When you think about how to start caring for a girl, simple and banal things immediately come to mind. It could be:
- gifted bouquet;
- the door opened in time for the chosen one;
- giving your hand when getting out of the car.
Of course, all this is of great importance, but do not forget about other ways to arouse interest in yourself. If a man dreams of a girl reciprocating his feelings, he must try hard to imprint the most pleasant memories in her head.
Representatives of the fairer sex love to accept help. It can often seem like they can easily do everything themselves. However, even the strongest lady still needs a knight who could protect her from all troubles and instill confidence in the future. It is important for a woman that she feels safe next to her chosen one. So, during courtship, it will be useful to show concern not only for the girl, but also for those around her.
For example, you can attract the attention of your loved one by helping an old woman or feeding a stray animal. Such actions can be a wonderful foundation for further communication.
Never irritate - brand new appearance4
It is unlikely that a man or young man aged 18-20 years old is able to attract the attention of a girl who looks beautiful and elegant. Just imagine, she goes on a date in a dress, and next to her is a boy in shorts from an underground couturier, sneakers for 5,000 rubles, but unwashed and not cleaned.
Of course, it would be a shame to appear in public with such role models. If a girl is expensive, you just need to match her understanding of style. Classic, welcome to the jacket. If she dresses freestyle, then she undoubtedly needs to somehow change the tuxedo to a simple checkered shirt.
Don't forget about the price of the event. School grades and parties are all in the past. Nowadays young people not only go to clubs, but also visit libraries. If this trend is not alien, you should already take a closer look at shoes or moccasins, depending on the season.
First date
When setting up a first date, you should choose neutral territory. A man is advised to think in advance where it is best to invite his chosen one. It is advisable to offer the girl several places and leave her the right to choose. Finding out what exactly she likes is very simple. For example, during a telephone conversation, you can casually ask whether she likes watching films and what genres she prefers. Psychologists also advise listening to the following recommendations:
- When allowing your chosen one to choose the place of the date, it is important to make sure that she does not think that the guy is indecisive. Women like men who clearly know what they need. For example, the question “What can you offer?” is likely to cause irritation. It is better to avoid such formulations. You should take the initiative into your own hands.
- Not a single representative of the fair sex likes greedy guys, so situations should not be allowed in which the girl would have to pay the price herself. If a man has problems with money, it is better to take his chosen one to a place where there is an opportunity to spend time for free.
- It is advisable to think in advance about the topics that you can talk about on a date. It is important to give the impression of an interesting interlocutor. You shouldn’t chat incessantly; you need to give the girl the opportunity to tell something too. Listening carefully to a woman, you should ask her leading questions from time to time so that she can see that the man is really interested in her.
- At the end of the date, it is important not to forget to walk the girl home. You shouldn’t invite her to your place or ask her to visit. As a last resort, you can call a taxi and pay for the trip. Of course, after this you need to call her and make sure everything is okay.
- On the first date, you should never start a conversation about sex or hint at intimacy. As a rule, when intimacy occurs too quickly, the relationship turns out to be short-lived. If you don’t want to run away quickly, it’s better not to rush things.
Smile and good mood8
Scientists have proven that a smile can make a person ready to talk or listen. Almost 87% of strangers surveyed were willing to listen to advertisements when they were smiled at. With girls, as with people [smile], this will work too.
- It will be easier for her to perceive information about herself - she likes the person, looks beautiful, compliments.
- Guys should understand that if a girl is not ready to communicate, catching her by the hand and bothering her is unnecessary. It is enough to call her by name. It is the sweetest thing from the mouth of strangers when you hear your personal name given at birth.
- You can’t constantly whine and complain - gloomy men, like children, are constantly dissatisfied with something, dividing something between their colleagues at work, fellow students or classmates.
I would really not like to see a man who is a slobber, unable to remain calm for a long time. If he is nice to the girl, but treats the waiter like a servant, it means that over time, under different circumstances, the woman risks falling under the hot hand. This is not advice to control yourself until a reason presents itself to crack it. Just stay calm, always.
The art of compliments
If you want to learn how to beautifully care for your chosen one, it is important to understand how to give compliments correctly. Women love with their ears, so you should pay special attention to this topic. Experts in the field of relationship psychology say that compliments should be:
- Sincere. If a woman has done a hairstyle that doesn’t suit her at all, you shouldn’t tell her that she looks great and praise her new look in every possible way, she will guess that the man is lying.
- Specific. It is not recommended to give general compliments. For example, instead of “How good you look today,” it is better to focus on the shape of your lips, eye color, beautiful hair or stylish shoes.
- Not vulgar. In the first stages of developing a relationship, you should avoid language such as “great breasts,” “appetizing ass,” or “sexy lips.” Such phrases can only be used at a certain stage of rapprochement, when the girl considers her boyfriend to be her own person. However, some ladies, in principle, do not accept such compliments and do not perceive them even in a humorous form. When planning to say something like this to your loved one, it is important to be careful, as you may get an unexpected reaction in response.
You should not give compliments that imply comparing your beloved with some celebrity. When caring for a girl, it is important to remember the so-called golden mean. Women do not like sugary compliments and undisguised flattery.
Confident gait9
A woman also loves with her eyes, and as long as a man treats himself carelessly, she will remain aloof. A beautiful body, a confident gait and a wide back (straight shoulders) indicate good physical fitness. If this is not the case, it is better to go to the gym and tidy yourself up a little.
In the end, being overweight isn't the worst thing about guys. But if a girl gains 5 kg, for some reason the boys immediately turn away, wanting to see a beautiful person next to them. Why is there an opinion that only women should take care of themselves?
It is unlikely that anyone would agree to go to bed with an unshaven and fat guy who is not even capable of turning over from side to side. And no one would agree to date a girl who doesn’t take care of herself. Well, everything is even here, since everyone wants to see a beautiful person next to them.
Signs of attention
During courtship, a girl should feel many emotions, but this does not mean that you need to fill all her space with yourself. It is important to let your chosen one do her own thing so that she has time to get bored. There are several points that are of great importance during the courtship period:
- Beauty. It is necessary to choose the most beautiful places for meetings that will allow a woman to experience real aesthetic pleasure.
- Good manners. It is important to remember to be polite and be gallant. And not only with the chosen one, but also with the people around her.
- Diversity. Psychologists recommend inviting a woman to places that are different from each other.
- Fullness. Communication should be interesting. If a man thinks through the route in advance and prepares an interesting story, perhaps he will be able to surprise his companion and impress her.
- Regularity. Sometimes, after several dates, guys deliberately disappear, believing that this will make the girl fall in love. However, it is better not to do this; such behavior can alert the chosen one. Perhaps she will decide that a man spends time with her only when he is bored.
Each representative of the fairer sex is unique and has its own unique inner world. There is no point in fitting all the ladies into one line. Instead of comparing a woman to his ex, it is better for a man to pay attention to her positive qualities and think about why he singled her out from the crowd. When communicating with a girl, it is important to be attentive, notice the tastes and preferences of your companion and base your courtship on this information. Then success will definitely be guaranteed.
How a guy shouldn't pursue a girl
And finally, we want to give you some “bad advice” on courtship that will minimize
your chances of continuing communication.
So please don't use them
!
Be persistent and annoying
Do you think the best way to win a girl is to make her think about you all the time? And to do this, she needs to be inundated with dozens of messages and offers to go somewhere. Perhaps she will give in under such pressure and appreciate your “hunter” skill. But most likely, he will run away. And in horror.
Trying to "buy" a girl
Just don't do it.
Seduce her according to instructions
Let us repeat once again: using other people’s ideas is the surest way to show that you are too lazy to look for your own ways to win her heart, or you are simply not capable of it. Would you like her to use similar “seduction” tips?
Do what you don't want to do
Even the most romantic and chic way of courtship will not impress her if you do not enjoy using it. Yes, it will be noticeable. And the effect will be exactly the opposite.
Courtship in a relationship
When the candy-bouquet period passes, a new period of rubbing in and interaction will begin. Sometimes men believe that at this stage of relationship development there is no particular need for signs of attention, and do not understand why they should continue courtship, but this is a huge mistake. You should not think that if a woman is conquered, you can completely relax. This approach is fundamentally wrong. Representatives of the fair sex always need male attention. If they stop receiving it, the relationship can become meaningless. For girls, the regular physical presence of a significant other is extremely important.
When a woman feels cared for, she stresses herself out less and feels inner peace. If a man is nearby, the girl believes that she is the only one, her self-esteem rises, her attitude towards her chosen one becomes warmer, she does not want to throw hysterics and does not ask unnecessary questions.
If the first stage of the relationship has passed, it is important for a man not to forget to give the girl pleasant surprises and pamper her with “goodies.” Perhaps she wants to go for a walk with her chosen one more often, or she lacks tenderness and romance. You need to ask your beloved how her day went , what interesting happened, and whether she needs advice. You can show your concern by asking your chosen one if everything is enough. A man who makes sure a woman dresses for the weather seems caring and reliable.
If a couple lives together, sometimes you should arrange unplanned trips to a restaurant or a movie; such things will definitely not be superfluous. A man should tell a girl more often how beautiful she is and how much he loves her. If a woman is always sure that she is desired, she will not want to look for attention on the side.
You can flirt with your chosen one even after 10 years of married life. You should definitely praise the girl and notice her experiments with her appearance. After all, representatives of the fair sex perform any cosmetic procedures only to please their man.
It is important to give the chosen one those gifts that correspond to her inner world. A woman will be much more delighted by a surprise that matches her life values. In order not to make a mistake with a present, you can consult with your beloved friend. You just need to choose a reliable friend who definitely wishes the best for your other half.
Rebel or excellent student?6
An eternal theme that will never end. And all because girls like bad boys, who then marry good girls, but cheat with bad girls who married the same ghouls. Well, there will always be love triangles as long as humanity remains mono- and polygamous.
One question from a psychologist can help, but only for an active and sincere guy - do you need a serious relationship with marriage and children? If yes, you can safely take on the girl and build a couple. If not, then why play children’s games, and how can you even touch a person with whom you have no joint plans for the future, even for personal reasons?
Why is all this needed and to whom? There is no point in self-affirmation - time will pass, love victories will end, envious people will get married, and some will be left with the pity of memories of past years.
For a girl to understand who is next to her, she needs to show her self-sufficiency. It's good to study, but don't be a nerd. As they say, we are all human, but we cannot forget about the important (love is love, but you always want to eat). What family can feed on love alone?
Excuse me, the reality is that women, already mothers, are so materialistic that they are ready to live with someone they don’t love, just so that the child is fed. Perhaps the child of that lazy person who failed to achieve anything in life except the affection of his classmates.
Long distance relationship
It often happens that a loved one is at a great distance. Some are sure that such relationships have no chance of success, but they can still be maintained and developed.
If you and your significant other are separated by kilometers, it is important to constantly stay in touch and occupy an important place in each other's daily lives. You can defy distance and still do things at the same time. So, you can, for example, watch the same movie, play a game, enjoy reading a book, or cook dinner.
To maintain an emotional connection, you need to communicate using all kinds of ways. You don't have to talk on the phone all day and night. For example, you can exchange short messages via instant messengers, discussing minor victories and troubles. But you should approach writing emails more thoroughly. The girl must understand that the man took the time to compose a long and thoughtful text.
While you are at a distance from your significant other, you can send her flowers or a card. Of course, it is important to remember common significant dates. In order not to forget about them, it is better to set appropriate reminders on your phone. Don't be sad if the meeting doesn't take place soon. Long-distance relationships also have their advantages, for example, you can spend more time with friends or family.
Thus, caring for a girl means making her world better and more colorful. In this man, proven methods and, of course, his own imagination will come to the rescue. When showing attention, it is very important to be careful and respect the personal space of the chosen one, giving her the opportunity to mind her own business.
Favorite thing above all10
Falling in love is a wonderful time that affects all ages. Young people court in every possible way, run after girls, even try to compete, take revenge, and someone puts women before a choice, they say, it’s either me or him. And when it comes to mistresses, for some reason no one is able to go to one side of the bed. Double standards, sir!
But when a man is busy doing what he loves, finds time for it and does not devote himself entirely to a woman, he arouses her interest. Of course, the saying “the less we love a woman, the more she likes us” works. Just don’t overdo it - no one will knock on the door while the other one is wiping his feet, trying to increase his worth. And in general, you need ease in relationships; difficulties will come on their own in everyday life and marriage.
Sexologists say that almost 65% of women try to please men when they are already tired of courting and understand that the matter is rubbish. Here comes the moment of competition and play - I won’t let you go, but I won’t give you up either. My own skin is more useful, but I won’t feed it to a hyena. This happens in the first weeks of a relationship, when the couple gets to know each other, as in the animal world. This is great because men get a second chance to “properly” show their courtship skills.
Separately about sex
True love is impossible without sexual attraction. Care, accordingly, too.
Sex brings people closer together. Sex is emotions, conflict resolution, a basic need. If it is good and constant, then this is also a reminder that you are faithful to each other. That you want each other.
Conversations after sex are not at all like ordinary conversations. This is a moment of intimacy when you can touch on any topic and trust each other even more than usual.
You should give your girlfriend great sex. After which, she will not be able to stand on her feet. Understand?
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