Strict respect for personal space
This applies to telephone, email, personal belongings: you need to respect a man’s personal boundaries and demand the same attitude towards yourself. Agree that it is unacceptable to answer other people’s calls, read each other’s SMS and correspondence. At first, your lover will be happy, but then he will begin to be overcome by jealousy because this side of your life is inaccessible to him. And everything forbidden attracts and causes fear.
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How to stop being nervous before a performance forever
But in order to forever stop being nervous before a performance, it is necessary, with the help of system-vector psychology of Yuri Burlan, to more deeply understand the source of these experiences. What will it give? Firstly, understanding the reasons why nervousness is present, in addition to this, the causes of a huge number of other problems. Secondly, ways to solve the existing problem, specific methods, specific steps.
Thirdly, understanding not only yourself, but also other people. More precisely, understanding oneself through understanding others. You will see who is in front of you, what he wants, what he can do, what problems prevent him from sleeping peacefully. This technique works. People will be “naked” in a psychological sense, simply understandable.
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The article was written using materials from online training on system-vector psychology by Yuri Burlan
Admire other men
At the same time, you need to show sympathy not as a man, but as a good person and professional. Stories about “amazing six-pack abs” or “velvet timbre of voice” will only cause negativity and unnecessary jealousy in your partner: he will consider you flighty or think that you have lost interest in him. But admiration for someone else’s intelligence and achievements is perceived with caution and motivates self-development: it would seem that there is no obvious reason to be jealous, but there is a fear that the beloved will leave for someone more successful and smart. 5 recommendations for women so that a man appreciates and is afraid of losing
Deal with everyday problems more easily
From time to time, a man should feel what it is like when the woman he loves stops performing daily tasks. Some partners feel like the floor and dishes wash themselves, things in the closet are always in a pile, and dinner appears as if by magic. If you are sick, overwhelmed with work, or simply tired of everyday life, then allow yourself to forget about home for a while, or better yet, ask a man to help with things. A couple of days in the kitchen will make your lover seriously worry about losing you.
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What makes a person worry and nervous?
According to system-vector psychology, two vectors, together or separately, make us feel strongly before a performance. These are the anal vector and the visual vector.
The anal vector gives its owner the desire to be the best in everything. And indeed, I want to be the best employee, irreplaceable.
It’s so nice when your boss praises you when your colleagues ask for advice. You want to be the best student when your teacher praises your work.
And to fulfill this desire, a person with an anal vector is naturally given the following qualities: perseverance, scrupulousness, attention to detail, good memory, love of learning.
If the owner of the anal vector does not realize his innate properties in his work, then his natural fear may come out - the fear of disgrace. After all, if you are not sure that you are the best, if this is not confirmed by the authoritative people around you, then there is constant doubt. And public speaking is a significant reason for worry. You can do something wrong, and then everyone will see how disgraced you are.
Fears in the visual vector can also interfere with stopping worrying before a performance. The problem is the same as in the case of the anal vector - insufficient implementation of innate properties.
What is the desire of the visual vector? According to the system-vector psychology of Yuri Burlan, establishing emotional connections with other people, compassion. And from birth, the owner of the visual vector is given a feeling of fear. And this feeling develops into a feeling of love for the world around us.
Even if developed, the owner of the visual vector may not realize his properties at work or outside of it. Then a feeling of fear emerges. Its focus can be different, including fear of public speaking. The owner of the visual vector cannot stop being nervous before a performance, because his wonderful imagination draws terrible pictures. The greatest anxiety is caused by the thought that now all eyes will be focused only on him.
Don't be afraid to lose him
The fear that a man will leave forces you to agree to unfavorable conditions, forgive betrayals and mistakes, and treat yourself with less respect, so you cannot constantly be afraid of losing the favor of your loved one.
It is impossible to always play some role, so your partner must know the real you and love you. This does not mean that you should be dismissive of your man’s opinion. On the contrary, you need to listen to his opinion, express your own, discuss and look for a compromise that will be convenient for both. In some cases it is the man who makes concessions, in others it is the woman who makes concessions; this is par for the course in respectful relationships. But if a couple starts playing with one goal, and you have to give in 99% of the time, this is a sure sign of a toxic relationship, and something needs to be done about it.
Value yourself
When a person loves, he will still be afraid of losing his partner. This fear can be associated not only with the fact that the woman will leave for another, but with illness, financial difficulties, and distance. Methods will help shake up the marriage, remind each other of warm feelings.
How to get a guy to do what you want?
In this article we tried to collect all the popular and pressing questions of girls and women.
If you manage to become like this, the guy you like will simply attack you. Try the following:
Jokes as much as possible, tell fascinating stories from your life, tease the guy, but don’t be offensive. You shouldn't be too ironic. Say good morning or good night. Your goal is to interest the guy, make him want to talk with you endlessly, wait for you to appear online.
As you know, men love with their eyes, so it’s worth thinking about how you can meet. You can find any excuse, if you are from different cities, offer to go to a festival or conference together, but if you are in the same city, then just invite him to have coffee in a cafe. Don’t be shy, be resourceful, but watch his reaction, don’t impose yourself if you see that the guy is not eager to go on a date. When you meet, be natural and sweet; don’t shock the guy with an unusual outfit or strange behavior.
- Sometimes stay late at work, come back happy, cheerful, maybe even with a bouquet of flowers. To all questions, answer that you were performing an urgent task and could not free yourself before. If you do this several times, the guy will lose peace, will be waiting for you almost at the entrance and will surround you with attention and care from the threshold.
- When going for a walk with your friends, dress up and style your hair in an unusual way. If a guy calls you during the evening, hang up the calls, come back later, be affectionate and kind to him. The young man will be at a loss.
- In your phone, name the number of your friend Svetka with the name Sasha, and your friend Yulia with the name Andrey. Let the guy see that other men are harassing you on your cell phone. Flirt on a forum on the Internet, you can start a conversation with an interesting guy, if he likes you, he will send you a photo by email. Look at the photo when your man is near you. Noticing his gaze, quickly close the page.
Think about what exactly scares the guy, why he is in no hurry to propose. Bad experience in the past, fear of responsibility, uncertainty in the future, there are many reasons, try to carefully get to the bottom of the true one. Find out how a guy represents family. You can do the following:
He needs to be remembered so that he calls. A bright, prominent girl, cheerful and positive, will undoubtedly be liked, and the guy will want to call her back. If you were boring, boring and sad during the date, don’t be surprised that there is no call from the young man.
There is an option to call and be silent, hang up the call. The guy will most likely call you back, tell him you accidentally dialed him. You can send him an intriguing SMS, for example: “Shall we meet as agreed?” When the young man calls, answer that you mixed up his number with your girlfriend’s number.
You can start communicating on social networks by sending your guy a message. This will remind you of yourself; if an interesting conversation ensues, the guy will most likely want to hear your voice on the phone.
If everything is in order, try to cross paths with the guy more often, accidentally end up in a club at the same time as him or go to the cinema at a time when he will be there, accidentally end up where he lives, when you meet, you can mention that you visited your girlfriend, aunt lives nearby. Be mysterious, attractive, the guy will definitely want to write to you and chat.
During communication, make sure that the conversation remains interesting, exciting and lively, then the young man will continue to actively write to you. Chat about topics that interest you both. Be a pleasant conversationalist and then you won’t have to wait long for a message from the guy.
For a guy to want to kiss you, he must like you a lot. If a guy is in no hurry to start kissing, maybe he’s not attracted to you and then why do you need him? Another option is that the guy is shy, help him get rid of his shyness. On a date, move closer to him, lightly touch him, a gentle aroma of perfume should emanate from you, look into his eyes, you can lick your lips a little. Everything will happen instantly.
Bright red lipstick is more likely to scare you away; the guy will be afraid that he will get dirty. But a delicate pink glitter is quite suitable. It is also important whether you have good skin on your face; traces of acne and oily sheen will be repelled. Overall, you need to look seductive and charming.
Think about the atmosphere, a little twilight, a fairly intimate setting is more conducive to close communication than bright light and the presence of relatives behind the wall. Make attempts to get closer if you are alone and you know that you will not be disturbed.
You shouldn't spend 24 hours a day together. If you constantly flicker before your eyes, then when will the guy have time to get bored? If in reality you are not particularly busy, create at least the appearance of an active life: run away from dates early, informing that you are late, do not agree to every meeting, citing business. Show that you have an intense pace of life and you barely find time for a guy.
The most important thing is that your communication should be easy, relaxed, warm and pleasant. If you are only busy enjoying life together, then when you part, the guy will long to meet you as soon as possible.
You broke up... It's sad, especially if you dream of reviving the relationship. For a man to start pursuing you, show that you are in demand: post photos on social networks with guys, inadvertently catch his eye arm in arm with a sultry macho man. Live an active life, get out of the house, meet new people, attend various events. At parties, try to look luxurious and irresistible. It is advisable, of course, to visit the places where your ex is, let him see how the guys around you sing your praises and try to get to know each other.
Just don’t pester your ex with calls, text messages or messages on social networks. Don’t indulge in sadness, don’t allow yourself to dwell on the past; the sooner you plunge into a new life, the faster your ex-boyfriend will want to come back.
Try to be the best for him. In relationships, sometimes you need to compromise, listen to the wishes of your loved one, and not bend him to your liking. Take care of your appearance, a beautiful girl is the object of desire for many; any guy will be afraid to miss an attractive, sexy girl.
It’s important - don’t cling to the guy, be a little freedom-loving, and also self-sufficient and independent. If a girl looks into her mouth, imposes herself, becomes sticky, then you want to leave her quickly. Be an interesting person; it would be nice for you to feel comfortable and pleasant in your company.
Guys are in no hurry to confess their love, even when experiencing tender feelings. A truly lover is afraid to open up, but a ladies' man who has charmed hundreds of girls will talk about love incessantly. You have to be able to recognize these types of guys.
Undoubtedly, every girl longs to hear a tender confession, moreover, sincere and real. You've been together for a long time, is the guy still hanging out? What will force a lover to talk about his love? For example, in an extreme situation, you can agree with your brother’s friends, they will stage an attack, the guy will save you and undoubtedly admit that he has loved you for a long time. You can also break up for a while; feelings intensify during separation; the guy will get bored and call you with a confession.
Guys are stubborn creatures; they are in no hurry to apologize or admit they are wrong. Or maybe the fact is that the guy himself doesn’t realize where exactly he stumbled. Sit down and discuss everything peacefully and calmly. Tell me what worries you, why you are worried, why you are offended. A loving person will definitely apologize, if only to reassure you.
It happens that a guy is in no hurry to ask for your forgiveness, because he is sure that an apology is tantamount to admitting his guilt, and since he is guilty, then punishment will follow. Convince the guy that he will not be punished, the matter is in the past, everything is forgotten, and you need his apology to reassure you that this will not happen again in the future.
How to use magic to make a man miss you from a distance?
Every person remembers with joy the one from whom he receives positive emotions. Likewise, your boyfriend will miss you if your communication brings him joy, pleasure and happiness. Try this magical ritual:
Imagine that the sun is inside you, so warm and bright, its rays emanate in different directions. In the evening, in darkness, silence, preferably in solitude, sit down, close your eyes, direct the rays of the inner sun to the guy, imagine how they warm him, shower him with warmth, give comfort, relax and fill him with strength.
Do this ritual for at least 15 minutes a day. I assure you, the guy will get bored and want to come back as soon as possible.
How to get a man to stop hanging out with his buddies every day?
If you want a guy to spend more time on you and not on his friends, try not to be bored together. Of course, if he gets bored in your company, he runs away from home. Try to spend your leisure time more intensely, don’t sit near the TV, come up with interesting joint activities, join a dance club or wrestling section, go to the gym together.
The best way would be to explain to a guy the dangers of smoking, collect information, preferably more facts and figures, accurate data is more likely to make a guy think about quitting a bad habit than a vague explanation. Make it clear that the bad breath is simply not aromatic and is repulsive. Tell the guy that over time his teeth will turn yellow, his skin will turn grey, and a hoarse cough will become a constant companion. Add that you do not crave life with the old man that the smoker will turn into. Scare him that long-term smoking can even lead to cancer.
The main thing is facts and an intelligible explanation; the guy will understand this better than constant reproaches and attacks.
Explain that the absence of fat will make him more mobile, active, cheerful, shortness of breath will disappear, and overall health will improve. And you can choose more fashionable and stylish clothes.
Develop a diet for your boyfriend or visit a nutritionist together. Help him by sticking to proper nutrition yourself. Treat your guy not to pies, but to baked vegetables with cheese, fresh juicy fruit or a piece of grilled meat. Show the guy that healthy foods can be delicious. If you want to indulge in chips or cake, it’s better not to do it in front of the guy, take pity on him, it’s already difficult for him to lose weight. Together you will succeed, your support is very important!
You can ask a friend to meet you and kiss you in front of your ex. In general, try to make the guy jealous. It’s also good to let them know through mutual friends that everything is great with you, life is in full swing, fans are besieging you, and you’re happy with everything. He’s sure that you’re sobbing, eating the breakup with sweets and cakes and not going out anywhere.
Show the guy that even without him everything in your life is just great, wonderful and excellent. Most likely, he will understand who he missed and will come running back very quickly.
He needs to be interested: with a beautiful appearance or a good disposition, or better yet, with all of them. Show what a wonderful young lady you are, don’t hide your advantages. It’s even better to acquire fans; a large number of men next to you will make you want to conquer you, break through the ranks of admirers and conquer you. Be successful in many areas - being smart and beautiful is always in demand.
The guy will sincerely worry about the girl he loves. However, if you are in a relationship for a long time, the freshness of feelings dulls and it happens that the guy is no longer so worried about you. What to do?
- Go away for a long time with your girlfriends and disappear.
- Tell your boyfriend about the secret admirer who is stalking you.
- Mention your ex, who began to meet you at the entrance.
- Stay late after work.
- Be a bright, beautiful, chic girl that many guys pine for.
- Be inaccessible, so that the guy strives to conquer you, conquer you and hide you in his hole.
- Subtly flirt with your guy. A little flirting and exchanging glances will do you good.
- Give the guy the opportunity to look after you: give gifts, write tender letters, accompany you.
- Don't intrude, don't bother with your company.
- Show that many guys are interested in you, everyone wants to achieve you.
- Carry yourself through life as the most valuable prize, a treasure that needs to be protected.
How to get him to take the first step?
Let the guy know that you are not against further, closer relationships. A small hint and a friendly smile will help with this. It happens that a guy is timid because he is sure that the girl will refuse him and be rude, your task is to show the young man your affection in every possible way, be friendly and kind to him. Undisguised cordiality on your part will also help the guy confidently take the first step.
First, you need to value and respect yourself. Never agree to something that is disgusting to you, that is contrary to your principles or ideas about life. Don't push yourself, don't stalk the guy, clingy girls look humiliating. Show the guy that you are worthy of respectful, gallant treatment. Don't forgive a guy if he insults you or is rude to you.
Say what you need directly and without mincing words. If a guy is acting up or has completely disappeared from the horizon, it means he never loved you. A lover will happily spend on his beloved just to see the sparkle in her eyes again. He will try to please, pamper and undead her more often.
Sometimes guys have no idea how much a girl needs. You can carefully explain that a chic appearance requires investment, so let him fork out the cash.
When you receive a gift, rejoice, rejoice, have fun. Such bright emotions will make the guy want to see your delight again and will spend money on you.
Explain once that you lack attention. Then wait, the lover will understand and take some steps. Find yourself a hobby, meet some friends, sign up for courses. The main thing is not to humiliate yourself and do not beg for at least a little of his favor. Better take care of yourself, experiment with your appearance, start studying what you have long wanted. Understand that if a guy doesn’t devote much time to you, he may just feel sad with you. Become interesting, versatile, multifaceted and the guy will not leave you alone.
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