“How to make a girl chase you?” - one of the most exciting questions that is usually asked by guys experiencing difficulties in their personal lives. Some believe that the universal recipe in this case is a thick wad of cash, which rappers love to call on Instagram. Sometimes this is a really workable scheme, however, most likely, it will attract those in need (and not the fact that it is girls).
In fact, we have many other ways to attract the attention of the ladies, without whom you get bored and watch so much adult content on the Internet.
Your task is to thoroughly digest this information, assimilate it and apply it in practice.
1. Be interesting 2. Watch your appearance 3. Manage your time wisely 4. Show off your friends 5. Prove that you are not stupid 6. Watch your feelings 7. Don’t impose 8. Be open 9. Don’t forget about self-confidence 10. Show your kindness 11. Respect the girl 12. Learn to earn money 13. Be generous
Start getting more interesting
Believe me, few people like boring and tedious types who cannot carry on a conversation on basic topics - be it the current political situation, the new issue of “Evening Urgant”, an album by some cool rapper or an exhibition of Salvador Dali in the Manege.
If you have nothing to talk about with a girl, and she has nothing to ask you, what kind of running around can we talk about? Although, of course, if you are the taciturn Ryan Gosling from the movie Drive, maybe someone will fall for you, but it is unlikely that you have the same cool muscle car, jacket and leather gloves.
Show self respect
High self-esteem is a necessary option for a successful relationship. A person who does not respect himself is unable to inspire love and respect from others. Therefore, under no circumstances should you betray yourself or humiliate yourself.
What does high self-esteem look like? In independence, self-reliance and following your interests. The guy will never agree to a pitiful and humiliating role, even if it promises him some benefit. For example, he won’t sit in a girl’s friend zone, hoping to get at least some crumbs of attention. He will not tolerate betrayal, neglect, or insults even from the one he loves very much.
Self-esteem helps to make your image beautiful and strong both in your own and in the eyes of others. So never give it up.
Take care of your face and body
Surely, when looking through your Instagram feed, you pay attention to models like Emily Ratajkowski, Kendall Jenner, Kim Kardashian and salivate. At these moments, you stare at their physical parameters and dream that such a girl will notice you.
However, believe me, girls also pay attention to the external characteristics of the men who surround them. Therefore, you can safely sign up for a gym, go for jogs regularly, start eating well and take care of your hygiene.
In addition, take a closer look at your style, buy fashionable clothes, make sure they are clean and smell good. In general, follow these basic rules and you will have a better chance of winning a girl’s heart.
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Dose your time communicating with a girl
One of the psychological tricks that will make a girl run after you is to allocate time to meet her in a measured manner. That is, there is no need to rush to her knees at the first call, sacrificing business meetings, work trips and other solid plans of any self-respecting man.
If you want to keep her interested in you, make it clear that you have your own life, which also requires attention and time. Otherwise, she will very quickly become bored with you when you are ready to be at her disposal 24 hours a day.
In what cases do men resort to manipulation?
Philosophers and thinkers of all times tried to comprehend the depth of a girl’s soul; poets wrote about her, she was praised in songs. With the advent of psychological science and the emphasis on interpersonal relationships as a key factor in research, women's experiences were embraced by a new wave of popularity.
Psychoanalysts interviewed dozens of men, highlighting key aspects of intersexual communication. The first scientist who was able to create the most detailed picture of such communication was Sigmund Freud. He identified 4 main components of verbal communication:
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- sympathy;
- disgust;
- lust;
- indifference.
Freud made a startling conclusion: women experience disgust and indifference much more often than positive feelings. Men, in turn, tend to sympathize and lust most intensely. When communication components are not mutual, one of the partners attempts to achieve balance through manipulation.
Psychology gives 10 detailed recommendations for manipulation. They will be outlined further, but before moving on to familiarize yourself with them, you should delve deeper into the features of the female psyche.
4. Show that you have many good friends and girlfriends
This way you will prove that there are people who value you and treat you well - this is a kind of recommendation strategy. At a minimum, if a girl sees that someone respects you, then you are not a reclusive sociopath.
One way to show this is the same Instagram and Facebook. Publish content there from time to time showing you having fun in fun companies, going to fashionable places and hugging other people.
It's even better if you make friends with her friends and prove yourself cool in their eyes. However, this is already an optional option, that is, it is not necessary to do this.
Live a fulfilling life
Your life should be full of interesting events and exciting activities - then the girl will certainly want to become a part of it. And if you are not interested in anything else besides watching football with friends, you may not even dream of success with the opposite sex.
Urgently look for a hobby, or better yet several. Pay attention to what your friends are interested in - you might want to join them. Or try something of your own, unique. The more unusual your hobby, the stronger the interest in you from girls.
I know one guy who, for the time being, was not at all successful with women. They saw him as a good friend, they were happy to share their secrets with him, but they did not consider him at all as a man. During a pickup truck course, he was advised to keep exotic animals at home. He took this advice very seriously and began breeding snakes.
Unexpectedly, the guy got involved in this business and truly fell in love with his pets. He talked about them with such enthusiasm that everyone became curious. He soon noticed that the girls he knew began to look at him a little differently - with a mixture of interest and sympathy.
And then they started asking for a visit. The guy turned out to be capable and managed to use the advance of sympathy that arose thanks to his unusual hobby. Soon he began a completely different life.
Showcase your intellectual abilities
You shouldn’t bombard her with historical lectures, terms from astrophysics and phenomenal geographical knowledge. Otherwise, the girl will think that you just want to seem like a know-it-all who likes to brag about the time spent in the library.
It is best if, at the right moment in the discussion of a particular topic, you can speak aptly and support it all with convincing argumentation. Believe me, it will cost a lot.
Try to keep your composure
If you are constantly irritated and upset by some insignificant little things, girls will most likely begin to simply avoid you. It’s unlikely that anyone wants a guy who is constantly dissatisfied with something, complains about circumstances and flares up for the most insignificant reasons.
You can get annoyed and notice the imperfections of the world if you are a stand-up comedian doing observational comedy. This will completely justify you.
In other cases, try to be more persistent and rational. A real ice cold killa.
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But be open
If you strive for a close relationship, it is important to establish the most trusting contact so that the girl can open up to you and feel the opportunity to share her problems and experiences. To do this, it is important to be open to yourself, and not to pretend to be an unapproachable and insensitive superhero, to whom tears, emotions and concern for others are alien.
Believe me, you can sleep without much trust, but the fact of intimacy does not guarantee that the girl will fall in love with you. Your job is to become emotionally indispensable, which only comes with trust, sincerity and honest relationships.
Let her think about you
You need to make her think about you constantly. The girl is extremely impressionable. She often thinks about the guy she likes, analyzes dialogues, and imagines meetings. Pleasant memories occupy a special place in women’s thoughts. Show attention, show that you care about her.
Ask trivial questions: “How are you?”, “How was your day?” You can wish her good night. If you neglect a girl a little in the initial stages of communication, you will certainly arouse her interest. Depending on the situation, you can use this technique to warm up feelings.
If you periodically cancel meetings with a friend and don’t respond to SMS every time, she will be intrigued. Observe her behavior. Some girls in such situations attract attention to themselves, others simply turn away. Try to understand the features of her character. Observe her behavior carefully. If a girl starts calling and writing more and more often, do not reject her under any circumstances!
Show how kind you are
Another surefire way to attract a girl's attention is simple kindness. Believe me, most girls value in men the ability to show compassion, a positive attitude, compassion and care towards anyone.
Remember this, despite the fact that Jason Statham in his films rarely seemed good-natured to us. Rather, his character was a frostbitten jock who killed everyone left and right, while attracting the attention of pretty beauties.
Because of this, on the first date we want to show the girl how cool we can swing our fists and flex our muscles, but it’s better to restrain this impulse and buy something to eat for the yard puppy.
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Should you chase a girl yourself?
Most often, men have to take the first steps in a relationship with a girl, and this is quite normal. Of course, if you want to make a female representative fall in love with you, you should take the initiative, but you don’t need to start running after her.
You can invite her on dates, call, write, talk about your feelings, but when the object of your adoration does not respond to this in any way, you do not need to continue, otherwise you will turn into a stalker. Remember that if the person you are interested in does not feel anything for you after many steps in her direction, then most likely she will never like you. There is no need to convince a girl of how good a person you really are and how you are suitable for her, since you are not attractive to her.
If you want your girlfriend to crave your affection, then, first of all, you should run after her a little, but it is not at all necessary that this should always be the case. At the beginning of the relationship, she must really like you, and then use the tips written above. Only when your companion has become attached to you on a spiritual level will they be effective, which means you will have to woo her, that is, run after the young lady a little.
Men don't like it when women run after them, is that true?
There is an opinion among people that by nature men are hunters, and this is often the case in reality. However, everyone is different, and some guys really like girls trying to get their attention. At the same time, other representatives of the stronger sex become cold towards the young ladies, who immediately reciprocate and begin to run after them.
Despite this, every man likes attention from attractive women, which means that they should also take the initiative. Perhaps this should not happen immediately, but any relationship that is one-sided is doomed to failure, that is, in order for feelings to develop, the participation of both the guy and the girl is necessary.
In addition, many males are interested in how to tie their girlfriend to themselves so that she tries to attract his attention. This fact shows that guys actually like it when girls chase them, moreover, they want it.
Respect, the main thing is respect
Well, don’t forget about the key aspect of any relationship - respect. If you don't know what this is, read carefully.
You need to respect a girl simply and humanly. That is, know your boundaries, do not encroach on her personal space, leave aggression and unworthy antics somewhere at home, be able to listen, listen, understand and appreciate.
In this case, you have every chance to win her favor and achieve reciprocity.
Hide despair and attract a woman with confidence5
It's no secret that confidence is what women want to see in men. Therefore, if the goal is to achieve initiative and attention from the weaker sex, you must first of all hide your own despair and fears. Demonstrating confidence, strength of character and determination is highly recommended.
Before you even start trying to connect with a girl, you can use confident “body language.” To do this, it is enough to avoid unnecessary movements, such as fidgeting or fussing around. Instead, move and act firmly and purposefully, with purpose and direction.
Show that you can earn money
As you have already understood, we cannot ignore the fact that sometimes money is crucial in some aspects of our lives. This does not mean at all that the previous advice is invalidated and that instead of going to the gym, you need to get a second job, no.
However, any self-respecting man needs to be able to earn money. Albeit not as much as Jeff Bezos or Elon Musk are used to doing. Not everyone gets their salaries.
In this case, we advise you to simply find a business or job that will bring you pleasure and good income. If you work in a place that doesn’t suit you, believe me, it will definitely affect your personal life.
You will always walk around depressed, gloomy and dissatisfied. With such a mood, it is unlikely that anyone will run after you; rather, they will want to run away from you.
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Get a girl to call you and then intrigue her
Most girls believe that a guy should call and text first. This opinion is rather stereotypical. Some representatives of the fair sex take the initiative themselves, and rightly so! Guys are often shy. They don't take the first step out of fear of rejection. If the girl does not call or write herself, the guy must use a trick.
- A good option is to write an SMS like “call me back, we need to talk urgently.” By doing this you will interest your friend. You can write that at the moment you need help.
- If a girl calls, talk to her for 10 minutes and end the conversation. The main goal is to generate interest.
Gradually, the friend will begin to get used to the fact that she is the first to take the initiative (i.e., call or write). To arouse interest in yourself, you periodically need to distance the girl. However, you should know when to stop! If you constantly ignore, you won't be able to win her heart. Show that you are a busy person rather than an indifferent person. She will have a desire to meet and chat.
Be generous
If you have your own business and make good money, why not show the breadth of your soul? Sometimes it is not enough to be a rich man, because many may consider you a greedy miser who saves every penny and would rather hang himself than give at least a minimal part of his income to charity.
A case in point is the recent gesture of Jeff Bezos, who donated $700,000 to help fight the Australian fires. However, even so, the businessman was criticized for the fact that he usually earns so much in five minutes. But don't worry, this doesn't concern you.
Just don’t miss the opportunity to show that money is not a goal for you, but a means that you are willing to share. Sometimes with those who need it.
- Author: Dmitry Petrosyants
