Anchoring technique, or How to tie your beloved man to you

How to use anchors

The anchoring mechanism is firmly inscribed in our psyche, so it is not only possible, but also necessary to use it. The main thing is that it is constructive and environmentally friendly towards yourself and others. To begin with, of course, it is worth learning to manage yourself before setting anchors for others. This, by the way, can also be used in a constructive way: for example, by touching to convey to your child a state of relaxation and calm if he is excited, or using visual or other anchors to create a joyful mood for household members or loved ones.

First of all, let's clarify some terms that may be useful to us. First, anchoring is the process of associating a specific stimulus or event (an external trigger) with an internal state, emotion, or response. In this case, the subsequent trigger will include this reaction. We looked at examples above.

A brief excursion into history

Anchoring is the key to managing emotions. What does it have to do with conscious management. Many people mistakenly confuse anchors with reflexes. There is a significant difference between an anchor and a reflex. To set an anchor, one strong experience, an emotional state, is enough, while an associative connection in the case of developing a reflex appears as a result of repeated reproduction of a chain of certain actions. Scientifically speaking, a reflex is a physiological reaction, and an anchor is an emotional one.

Autoprogramming technique using anchors

Knowing the mechanisms and principles of NLP anchoring, you can consciously program yourself for positive changes, as well as eliminate unwanted stimuli from the outside. To find hidden energy resources and create a favorable anchor, you must follow the following algorithm.

At the beginning of work, you will need to determine the specific problem situation in which the anchor will be used. For example, you have to take an exam soon, but you lack confidence. Or you need to ask your boss for a well-deserved increase in salary, but there is not enough persistence, etc.
At the next stage, it is important to clearly and unmistakably understand what internal resource is missing. During the exam it means self-confidence, and in the upcoming trip to the boss it means perseverance.
Then you should remember the real events where this resource state was experienced most vividly. Even the most insecure or conformist person has days when he feels determined or assertive. It is ideal to have several such examples, colored with bright positive emotions.
It is important that the memory be unambiguous, i.e. caused only the necessary sensation. If the stimulus is ambiguous, it will lead to the emergence of the desired feeling and anchor others - unwanted ones, which cannot help solve the problem, but will only make it worse.
It is better to choose an object that activates the required energy resource - for example, a song, listening to which a person felt very confident. Producing the desired feeling, this melody must be played many times to relieve uncertainty in the exam. Such an anchor can be a material object. Persistence is associated with the color red, so to demand a well-deserved increase in salary, you can go to your boss with any red accessory.
The next stage is consciously entering the desired state through meditation. Having taken a comfortable position and relaxed, it is worth vividly remembering the situation where the desired resource was at its very peak. In parallel, exposure to an external stimulus will be required: a melody, an object, a photograph. Once in a memory, you need to feel the moment and consolidate its positive effect. Don't be afraid of this condition. The more resource anchors and time it takes to “rehearse” the desired feeling, the better.
Having learned to immerse yourself in such an atmosphere at home, you can move to the “field”. What is meant here is not the case for which all the preparation took place, but a less global problem. If you needed self-confidence, you can test it in communication with unfamiliar people. If, when interacting with them, you can reproduce the desired resource, proceed to the next stage.
As a result, having found the long-awaited feeling, begin to resolve the problem, be it passing an exam or asking for a salary increase. In the situation itself, a feeling of anxiety will arise, but it is overcome by rehearsed stimuli. It is worth remembering that there must be several anchors, and their reproduction takes so long to learn how to easily enter the desired state.

Anchoring in NLP is a useful method with which you can program yourself for success in almost any area. Knowing the basic principles of this phenomenon, you can protect yourself from the imposition of negative anchors from the outside. The recommendations given will be useful in family relationships, work, business, etc.

Making a guy think about you - magical rituals

How to make a man think about you from a distance with the power of thought - magic rituals will help you.

Ritual one. Setting up for sleep . Before going to bed, you need to think about your beloved, remember all the good things. Then, closing your eyes, say: “Nikolai, may you have a bright dream with me, Tatyana. Let it be so! " Repeat the cherished words several times and go to bed.
Ritual two. A welcome call . The ritual can make a man call. You need to focus on the image of the young man, veil him in as much detail as possible. Try to see facial expressions, emotions on the face, make them positive. Then, picking up a mobile phone, feel the feelings that he should feel before calling you. Imagine his voice, words, achieve accuracy in your imagination as much as possible. This ritual may not work immediately; for this you need to train your feminine strength and energy.
Ritual three. Energy channel . This is also a ritual for materialization. You need to lie down and achieve a state of maximum relaxation. Breathe deeply and calmly. Introduce your man and veil the energy channel that goes from you to him. Feel how it becomes stronger and stronger. Feel the pulsation between you and the bonds that connect you. Stay in this state, filling yourself with it and filling your man with it. This is a very effective way to make him think about you and miss you more.
Ritual four - commands . Knowing the approximate sleep time of your man, you can make a very effective ritual. At your lover's expected bedtime, go to bed. Relax as much as possible, turn off your head, remove all extraneous thoughts and worries, and plunge into a state of meditation. You need to breathe deeply, easily and freely. Let the image of your beloved man appear before your eyes.

You need to imagine him in as much detail as possible, all his moles, wrinkles, all the details of his appearance. Now imagine yourself inside his body, how you take control of his consciousness. Become one with it, achieve complete fusion.

Then, when this is achieved, formulate clear commands: “miss Anastasia”, “call Anastasia”, “write a gentle SMS to Anastasia”, etc. If the ritual is performed as efficiently as possible, the result will not be long in coming. And you should not tell anyone about this ritual, otherwise it will stop working.

Anchors that will help hold a man

Break pattern

Unusual behavior in standard situations is catchy. Your partner will definitely notice that you are doing something differently from everyone else. For example, you are on your first (or one hundred and first) date, you are sitting in a restaurant and raising your glasses. “I want to drink to you!” he says and offers a glass. And then you say: “For such a wonderful toast, from now on I will clink glasses twice!” He is surprised. Next time, if he clinks glasses with another woman (a colleague, a friend, or even a lover - what if?), he will certainly think: “But mine values my words so much that she clinks glasses twice!” That's it, you are extraordinary, you won!

Psychological anchor method - first stage

It is necessary to decide on the situation for which additional resources are needed.
Understand exactly what emotion is needed. For example, when taking an exam, you want to feel more confident.
In order to make sure that this particular resource is needed, you need to ask yourself the question: “If I had this emotion, would I really use it?” If the answer is yes, you can move on to the next point.
Try to remember a situation in which this feeling was vividly experienced.

Anchoring a man to himself: examples

The system of anchoring men in the Vedas works very well. No, there will be no advertising for this movement, just facts.

The Vedas anchor very powerfully. Essentially they are built on this. A woman’s behavior pattern (affectionate, understanding, caring), appearance (long skirts, hair), nutrition (emphasis on vegetarianism, special selection of dishes) are all designed to anchor a man.

And it does work.

Families with long-term relationships can also serve as an example of anchoring. Their anchors were formed throughout their life together and you can learn from this:

affectionate nicknames;
hugs, half-hugs, stroking;
morning, evening, and weekend rituals;
paired habits.

Anchoring: life hacks of a modern woman

The simplest and most effective advice is to be yourself, but a little unique. From the first day of communication with the man you like, introduce your own rules of relationships and love.

Surprise. Be memorable. But don't work according to crude Internet schemes. Believe me, men read women's articles too.

Options for unexpected atypical, but positively memorable behavior could be:

gesture when meeting or saying goodbye - including touching;
sayings, special words - but without fanaticism;
appearance – skirt, hairstyle, makeup features;
smell - rare perfume;
actions – juice for brotherhood, “clinking” coffee.

In the future, you can add unexpected habits and connections:

give a bottle of wine “for reconciliation”;
collect a necklace of sexual achievements;
come up with affectionate, exciting, memorable nicknames;
develop an algorithm for meetings and farewells;
find “your” music.

There are plenty of options. Almost all elements of life can be used to create anchors. But for reliable fixation it is necessary either a bright, powerful emotional outburst, or repeated repetition.

Anchoring will not happen on its own.

And, yes, all these methods work on women too.

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NLP techniques in communicating with men

According to this principle, women form incentives in relationships with men. They provide many benefits:

strengthen emotional attachment;
help avoid conflict situations;
set up positive relationships;
make relationships soulful.

The time to do anchoring is when you are at the peak of emotions after sex. The NLP method is not suitable for partner binding. In a difficult relationship, not a single positive trigger will work. But they add brightness to cooling feelings and introduce novelty. If you want to receive proper attention, introduce anchors from the first day of acquaintance, starting from the projection of lips on a napkin or actions. Conventional signals are: drinking juice for brotherhood, clinking cups of coffee, coming up with special gestures. The main thing is to learn how to use technology correctly.

Olfactory reflexes

Imagine that during a business meeting your husband suddenly falls silent because the smell of coffee stirs up memories. When an olfactory or dense anchor triggers a cascade of chain reactions, it remembers you.

Before making love, light incense or choose a perfume with a different scent than your everyday one. An anchor is not a tattoo that can be applied in one go. To create a stable association, repeat the reception many times. This smell will set your partner up for romance and even distract him from football or an online game.

Kinetic

As an appropriate touch in moments of joy or orgasm, touch the cheek or neck and hold your hand. To force the brain to build an associative chain, repeat the movement 15-30 times in the future. When a man is angry, reproduce this sign. His mood will change in a matter of seconds.

Auditory

When you're driving in a car, compliment your man while listening to your favorite tune. As soon as the music ends, put it in reverse and continue the theme. If you repeat this regularly, within a couple of weeks the husband’s condition will change when listening to the first notes.

NLP techniques in communicating with women

The method works well for partners of both sexes. It is possible that while you are reading the article, your partner is studying similar information on a men’s website. Anchoring techniques are no different from the previous ones. Men also use kinetic signals, tactile touch, auditory and visual signals.

If you notice that sorting things out with your wife or everyday little things are annoying, adjust your attitude towards them:

remember the problem situation;
decide how you want to feel;
find a signal for yourself - a photograph, a melody, a gesture;
remember the last situation;
replace explosive emotions with a new reaction and record them;
get out of the peak state;
check the sensations.

If you did everything correctly, peace of mind will immediately return to you. When quarreling, reproduce the sign to create a stable associative connection in the brain. Knowing the principle of anchoring and introducing new habits into life, you can always and everywhere feel confident.

The benefits of anchors in everyday life

get to work faster;
it is easier to get out of a stressful situation;
switch attention from one task to another;
when resting, relax, and not continue to think about business.

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Life story

Yeranika from St. Petersburg

During my university years, when I had to write large scientific papers and process colossal amounts of information, I created an anchor for myself on one rhythmic track and the smell of citruses. As soon as you turned them on, your head became crystal clear and you could work for hours.

At another point in my life, in order to get out of depressive and hopeless states, I managed to put together a whole “chain anchor” in the form of a music album, where track by track the states change by degree, but in the end the feeling is radically different.

You can learn to evoke (create an anchor) in yourself some positive emotion. Or replace a negative habit with a useful one. Or quickly get out of some states.