The zodiac sign plays an important role in building relationships and makes its own adjustments to certain situations. So, representatives of the two signs will be completely different in love, in family and in separation. Therefore, it is so important to consider what zodiac sign your partner belongs to. In this same article we will look at how to break up with a Scorpio man.
What you need to know about a Scorpio man
Representatives of this zodiac sign are distinguished by the following character traits:
- He is strong and passionate. Of all the zodiac signs, Scorpio is the hottest. You will always know when a Scorpio person is nearby, you will simply feel it by his energy.
- He can sense your feelings and thoughts. We can talk about superpowers, but, more precisely, Scorpios have highly developed intuition.
- He's obsessive. All representatives of this sign are intrusive. But in the case of guys, this characteristic is enhanced and ensured by a high degree of anxiety.
- He's competitive. This trait can be positive or negative, depending on how you look at it. The negative part is that if a Scorpio man wants to achieve something, he strives to win at any cost. In turn, this can lead to decisions being made that are not always wise.
- In romantic relationships they can be extremely aggressive and jealous.
- One of the main reasons why some women gravitate towards Scorpio people relates to their sexuality. If a guy is physically attracted to you and the feeling is mutual, you may discover a lot of experience and passion. The intensity of lovemaking increases if there is a strong emotional connection.
- If you're looking for a man who won't cheat, dating a Scorpio is a good choice. But there are a few caveats. First, he's going to demand monogamy. Secondly, he will always be suspicious of you (even when there is no reason to be). This is simply the nature of the sign and cannot be changed.
Stage one. Confusion
When Scorpio realizes that something is going wrong in his relationship, it doesn’t even occur to him to tear and throw, quietly merge, re-educate or violently disappear.
At first he doesn’t notice anything for a long, long time, and when he can no longer stubbornly turn away from the facts, he begins to be perplexed.
His bewilderment is this: he does not believe that something bad or causing him harm is happening. In his Scorpio world, everything is usually arranged as well as possible. And his union too. Therefore, a priori, nothing bad or unforeseen can happen there.
However, it happens. Scorpio notices once, notices twice, and on the 89th he quietly sits in a corner and thinks. It is difficult for him to admit to himself that he feels bad. Just like Capricorn. And he doesn't admit it. He prefers to think that he either imagined it, or he made a mistake, or he simply did not understand something.
And only by that unconscious cowardice and timidity, which is completely unusual for this sign and which ultimately does not allow him to clearly tell his partner that something is going wrong, can one determine that - yes: Scorpio is hiding lies to himself behind bewilderment.
And when he admits to himself this lie and reluctantly admits: yes, it seems that something not very good is happening, then this first stage ends. And the second one begins.
This stage is quite short. There, having overcome some strange internal embarrassment, Scorpio begins to ask his partner quiet questions. These are, rather, not even questions, but a quiet pronunciation of facts with a slightly raised intonation at the end, which makes the phrase incomplete. Scorpio expects the partner to finish the sentence himself, explaining what is really going on.
...You came late yesterday... ...I called and wrote to you, but you didn’t answer all day... ...Some girls called you at home again... ...You didn’t wish me a Happy New Year... ...We went to bed yesterday without you.... ...No dinner again...You spent almost all our money... Etc.
In fact, Scorpio quietly denotes already quite grandiose and gaping failures in relationships. Didn’t show up for dinner, the girls called, there’s a hole in the budget, the children are asking “where’s daddy,” there aren’t even small signs of attention and respect - all this actually lasts for a very long time, the partner had time to fix it, Scorpio had time to somehow explain everything to yourself, but nothing changes and there are no explanations - so, probably, you need to ask.
Well... The partner usually reacts aggressively to such things. And it’s true: they poked his nose into something unpleasant, and he thought that no one noticed, since they were silent and it was convenient, but then the convenience ended.
Scorpio will remain silent in response to aggression. Explanations, if any, will be taken into account. This is a very fair and strong sign of the Zodiac and there is enough inner nobility in it to give the relationship some time. After all, now his loved one knows that Scorpio noticed something, and that means he will take action and fix everything, because he also values relationships.
If nothing changes, Scorpio falls into terrible melancholy. He sinks into depression, his eyes become sad, he doesn’t particularly know how to make a scandal and doesn’t like to, but out of this depression he continues to watch his partner. The time for questions is over. The time has begun to say out loud to oneself those unpleasant things that have long been happening in the Scorpio union. At first he doesn’t voice these things to outsiders, but he finds some place for himself where he manages to come to his senses a little and lick his wounds.
Scorpio begins to leave often or go where he feels good. Parents, boyfriend or girlfriend, brother or sister - all these people during this period see Scorpio in their home more often than ever before. He comes, sits, smiles, brushes off anxious questions and says “let’s talk about you.”
He doesn't want to return home. But he's coming back.
If at this time the partner remains deaf and blind to what is happening, Scorpio gives himself internal permission to become free from obligations. This does not mean that he will go for walks left and right. This means that Scorpio relieves himself of the obligation to continue building a cozy, calm and happy world for his union. He, unnoticed by his partner, internally leaves the common territory, without declaring or indicating this in any way.
In other words, despite the ongoing sadness and mourning of a union that was once very necessary, Scorpio allows himself to be happy outside of the usual partnership. He can increasingly be seen rejoicing in something that his companion no longer has the slightest idea about and will never have. Scorpio no longer shares anything with him. He does not hide, but simply keeps silent, rightly believing that a person who does nothing to warm up or change relationships does not need to know more about his Scorpio life.
Flying back and forth through the living space, now free from previous tears, disappointments and expectations, Scorpio inevitably meets a person with whom he simply turns out to be a hundred times better than in his previous union. And even if he doesn’t meet you, it doesn’t matter anymore. Scorpio compared and understood: Scorpio is better off without his former partner, no matter how much he is still loved. And what is better and worse, Scorpio knows like no other sign of the Zodiac: he understands himself very clearly and clearly sees his inner life.
This is the most difficult stage on the path of a parting Scorpio. At this stage, he sheds tears, imagining how his former lover or beloved will live without him. But somewhere inside he already knows for sure: he will leave. And he won't return. Scorpios are more likely than other signs to leave once and for all. At this stage, he becomes as affectionate towards his partner as before. Imagine the fright of a person who is hugged, kissed, caressed and immediately then goes somewhere to the window or under the blanket and there they roar or lie silently with a stony face. Scorpio is silent about “what happened.” Basically, something terrible happened: he is forced to choose between his partner and himself, and he chooses himself. “Like the last egoist, bastard, etc.,” adds an unknown voice in Scorpio’s head, and the second unknown person inside exultantly inhales fresh air and spreads his wings.
At this stage, a cake is created in Scorpio’s soul: one cake is imbued with pity for the partner, mercy and melancholy, the second with a sober look at things, the understanding that nothing can be changed; and both of these cakes are filled with a firm decision to finish everything.
It’s better not to see how Scorpio collects things for himself or his former loved one. This is grief, melancholy and guilt. Guilt in front of someone who for years could remain deaf and blind to even the smallest requests of Scorpio, grief from the fact that you are hurting a person who has been hurting you for years, melancholy from the fact that nothing, nothing at all worked out. Shedding tears, pity, a downcast look - Scorpio trudges foot by foot into a new life.
Give him a little time and he will allow himself to be happy again, take a deep breath, live in a new way, never looking back, awkwardly and crumpledly explaining to his friends why they separated, being tactful even if his ex is throwing mud at him. He will not return and will try to keep contacts with his past life to a minimum.
The only thing he will try to do is never be offended by his ex again, don’t remember him badly, forgive him for everything. If possible. (c) Y. Rubleva
Keep in mind that the Scorpio man, much more often than representatives of other zodiac signs, decides to break up on his own initiative. This is one of the manifestations of his complex nature.
At the same time, sometimes he only pretends that he wants to break up with you, trying to achieve any specific concessions with the help of this maneuver.
When you do what is required of you, he will return as if nothing had happened.
Therefore, first of all, try to find out: this is a simulation on his part or he is seriously planning to leave. It is dangerous if, after a whirlwind romance, your relationship becomes friendly - since he treats you as a good friend, it means he no longer sees you as a woman. It's not easy to deal with this problem..
However, don't lose heart and try to find the benefits of your new role as a good friend. You can become your Scorpio's confidant - of course, if you don't cause scandals because of a change in your relationship, which would be a grave mistake on your part.
Scorpio - a friend will share his problems with you and ask for advice. He generally tends to maintain good relationships with former lovers.
Sometimes, having decided to leave for another woman, he feels guilty and behaves very carefully. His coldness in intimate relationships should serve as an alarm signal for you - this is completely atypical for him.
His efforts to shift the blame onto you speak in your favor; you are too dear to him for him to leave just like that. When it comes to a random woman, he does not waste time on explanations.
Scorpio in relationships
This man is looking for an iconic relationship, a hall of fame to tell the tale, and he refuses to settle for anything less. He can give his body his name and his seed, but until he finds his other half who makes him look and feel like a god, a man will never give up his soul.
A woman should be one with a man. His ideal relationship: he is the king of his empire, she is his queen, you are together, and you are the envy of the world.
Scorpio needs a strong, bright woman. A Cancer woman who is emotionally similar to him will be most comfortable around him. He will love a woman with her own life, money, career and interests, and he will not try to change her after marriage. A man of this sign will not mind if his wife leaves her own surname after the wedding.
When it comes to his home and family, the Scorpio man demands complete submission. He wants everything he does to be final and creates a family according to his uncompromising vision. Scorpio craves a close-knit family filled with love and open communication, and he will do whatever it takes to get it.
But at the same time, the man fears that the woman will absorb him emotionally.
To protect himself, he will try to save some space in the relationship: having a long-distance relationship, working late, or living separately are ideal options. If you force him to take a step before he is ready, he will back off. This could go on for years until he feels ready (read: safe enough) to move closer to a relationship.
The Scorpio man needs space, but he also needs the woman to have that space. Don't give him access to your life. He wants a secret, some part of you that he will never know.
If you can live up to the masculine ideal of this zodiac sign, you will feel like a goddess. A man is able to change if he trusts and loves someone.
Actions for reconciliation
It happens that a Scorpio man leaves his family, with the subsequent intention of returning back. A wife can return her husband if she understands that by such an act the man wants to demonstrate his attitude to the situation. To do this, you can do it directly to his face or act intuitively.
It is better for a girl to initiate the dialogue. The voice should be calm and restrained. Make concessions to Scorpio and choose a day of conversation that is convenient for him. At the end of the conversation, summarize. Also, it is better for the girl to take charge of summarizing the outcome of the conversation.
When you can’t get him into conversation, try to remember what he asked you for, what he wanted, and what complaints he expressed. Show him when you meet that you are ready to change and listen to his opinion and advice.
Why relationships with Scorpios sometimes don't work out
Scorpio is the sign of death and rebirth, the mythical Phoenix rising from the ashes of destruction. You may have several phases of rifts or conflicts on the way to the complete destruction of the relationship. When breaking up, Scorpios suffer; they consider these fiery emotional tests a ritual of cleansing. A relationship with such a man may not work out due to several character traits:
The dark side of this man is his penchant for ruthless self-destruction. Some Scorpios, especially unhappy ones, may show signs of sadism. If Scorpio feels powerless in their life, they may look for someone they can control and take out their dissatisfaction with life.
Scorpio suffers greatly from betrayal, and it is very difficult for him to recover after a breakup. It is often said that a man of this sign forgives (eventually), but never forgets.
This is why breakups and divorces with Scorpio are so devastating, and why these men are so picky at the beginning of relationships.
Second period: quiet questions
This stage goes by quickly. After accepting the problem, the man begins to slowly ask his partner questions. To be more precise, this is a quiet statement of facts with an affirmative intonation at the end, which makes the phrase seem incomplete. The man will wait for the girl to complete the phrase herself, thereby explaining why this happened.
- You were late yesterday...
- I called you several times, but you never answered during the day...
- You stopped going to the gym...
- Scrambled eggs for dinner again...
- All the salary disappeared somewhere, and so on...
In fact, Scorpio seems to remove the veil of illusion that hides problems in relationships. Inability to cook, constant lateness, weight gain,... - this has been tolerated for a long time, and the partner could have changed the situation, but did not want to. So questions have arisen regarding inaction, which can no longer be ignored.
In most cases, the woman explodes and begins to react aggressively to such poking of her nose. After all, we were together for so long and everything was fine, but now suddenly it’s not.
Scorpio will ignore an attack of aggression. If he hears any arguments, he will pay attention to them. This zodiac sign is not deprived of a sense of justice and inner strength. Possessing excellent nobility, he can afford not to immediately break off relations. Still, now the girl knows that the man is not happy with their union and should take note and change the situation. If they both care about the relationship, they must find a compromise.
How do Scorpios break up?
If the decision to separate is mutual, then this process usually goes quickly and painlessly. But, if a woman wants to leave a man who loves her, she will have to face a number of obstacles in his character. First of all, this is vindictiveness: a rejected man will tell everyone about your worst traits and actions, he will fiercely hate and despise you. It is Scorpio who breaks up ugly: he will sue and divide property, trying to drag you into the mud. The best option to break up with Scorpio is to stop being his ideal, become an empty place for him, and then he himself will leave you.
Third period: melancholy
