I liked the girl. You find yourself returning to her in your thoughts every now and then. But it’s unclear how she feels about you. Or it’s just understandable, but this is not at all what we would like. Or even the same thing, but not enough. I would like to learn how to do something to evoke sympathy, feelings, attraction in her, so that I can also be in her thoughts.
To understand how to make a girl think about you, want to meet with you, communicate and, in the future, have a relationship, it is first useful to find out what she generally needs, what can hook her.
No magic - pure psychology!
Still from the movie "Forrest Gump"
How can you tell if she likes you, or maybe even loves you? Did the girl remember your name? Does he respond to your messages, or do you sometimes go on dates?
All this, of course, is good and looks promising, but nothing ignites feelings and makes them stronger than the fact that she continues to think about you while you are not together and is looking forward to seeing you again.
And although the process of the emergence of sympathy and the chemistry that stands behind it still remains a miracle for people that cannot be reproduced artificially, but if that very “spark” flashed between you, then you are quite capable of “keep the fire going” and try to force the one you like miss you especially.
By the way, we have seven tricks to help you.
What women constantly need
You can answer this question for many hours and dozens of pages. Let's focus on several points that are important in the context of the topic raised:
- Attention
- Validation of feelings
- Calm
- New impressions
Attention is your interest in a woman. This is a demonstration that not only does she think about you and mean it, but you do the same to her. It is not difficult to manifest it. It could be anything:
- A bouquet of flowers, buying her favorite candies, fulfilling a wish she once talked about, fulfilling her requests, taking into account her interests.
- Even just remembering that you were going to go shopping with her over the weekend and adjusting your plans taking this into account is also attention.
- Remember that she loves animals and invite her to the petting zoo - attention.
- Remembering that she is allergic to citrus fruits and carrying honey and tablets rather than oranges when she is sick is attention.
It doesn't matter what exactly you do. It is important that this will be a gesture addressed specifically to her, taking into account her needs and characteristics.
Confirmation of feelings is evidence of its significance.
American psychologist Gary Chapman wrote that love has five languages: words, deeds (or help), gifts, time and tactile contact.
He was right in his assumption and helped improve the relationships of many couples by finding out how and through what each specific man and woman perceives love. Find out this about your chosen one.
What does she value more: compliments and affectionate addresses, help in matters that she herself cannot cope with, bouquets and decorations, joint evening walks or hugs and other touches?
Find out what you value more. Sharing this information will surely take the relationship to the next level, your feelings will be constantly validated through a form that you are comfortable with.
Calmness is confidence in your partner and relationship. This is her knowledge that you are faithful and will not go anywhere, that there are no secrets between you, that you trust her and that she can trust you. This knowledge is based on your behavior and position in the relationship.
New experiences are experiences that you gain together. It can be completely different: from an innocent trip to an amusement park or lunch with someone's parents to travel, moving and other drastic changes. Without such experience, relationships risk breaking on the merciless rocks of everyday life and boredom.
Give her forget-me-nots
Our first way to make someone miss you is a double bottom. Firstly, if you decide to give her a bouquet, then forget-me-nots will be a more original and unexpected gift than classic roses.
And secondly, even if the girl is not an expert in flower language, she will certainly decipher the subtle subtext of such a gift: “Don’t forget me.” To be even more faithful, you can also add a note to the bouquet with some sweet or romantic phrase (Google will help you).
Give her a useful gift
Let's face it: people love gifts. But the question is - what can you give a girl so that she remembers you as often as possible and misses you? And if you think that it must be something expensive/beautiful/romantic, then the answer is wrong.
Your gift will make her think of you involuntarily if she uses it instead of just putting it on a shelf. But this does not mean that the best present is a pack of powder or a six-month supply of toothpaste. Although... if a girl has a good sense of humor and you have been dating for a long time, she may be pleased with such a gift too (there are all kinds of relationships).
However, we advise you to opt for something more neutral and personal. Did she mention in conversation that she keeps losing pens or her keyboard broke? We hope you always listen to your girlfriend and can easily remember some nuance that will help you make the right choice. And then she will first be pleasantly surprised by your sensitivity and attentiveness, and then she will remember you every time she uses this item.
What to do if the girl does not make herself known?
Many guys are at a loss as to why their young ladies are in no hurry to send them text messages or call them. Of course, they want to somehow influence the situation. In the meantime, you don’t need to do anything. No one has the right to force her to write to you. Yes, this doesn’t make any sense. It’s better to take the first step yourself and after a short conversation, it is possible that later she will be the first to remind you of herself. Perhaps with this behavior the beauty is simply hinting that you need to do more than just lounge on the bed and talk on the phone while sipping beer. Are you interested in her? So be so kind as to lift your butt off the soft and comfortable chair or sofa and go to a personal meeting, of course, having agreed on everything in advance. However, this may not happen, and there is no need to blame her for this. In any case, the young man must control the situation.
Become a synonym for pleasant emotions for her.
One of the easiest tricks to make a girl miss you and look forward to meeting you is to always have something new and exciting in stock for your dates.
So keep an eye out for cool new places opening, free events, or take her on a weekend getaway to one of the nearby cities you've both never been to (who said you can only take girls to Paris and Bali?).
Because when you invite a girl somewhere (especially if it's her first time), then this place can forever become associated with you in her mind, which will make her miss you every time she passes by, or thinks about it. how you were there together.
Secrets of psychologists2
Psychologists have studied this issue and suggested how to make a girl think about herself constantly. But before doing this, a man must work on himself. He must understand what qualities he himself possesses: objectively evaluate his appearance and his spiritual values. Highlight your positive traits, and if there are none, then acquire them by working on yourself. After all the above actions, you can step by step apply the advice of psychologists on how to make a girl think about herself constantly.
Make sure there aren't too many of you
American inventor Thomas Edison once said: “Absence makes the heart grow fonder.”
. What happens when you spend all your time and effort trying to get a girl to like you? You become too available and she doesn't have time to miss you. Or she may even begin to get a little tired of you and dream of a break.
So take a break from 24/7 texting or take some time off your next date. However, this does not mean at all
, that it is worth playing a game with a mysterious disappearance for several days, which some pick-up artists advise to practice to “100% attach a girl.”
Firstly, it’s cruel (she doesn’t know the reason for your disappearance and may start to worry whether you’re alive), and secondly, this practice is as old as time, and girls are aware of it. And it's somehow...cheap.
Your actions should not be predicted by anyone. Surprise!
Very often, many representatives of the stronger sex commit predictable actions. Of this, a woman knows in advance how to react and what to do in case of this or that development of events associated with the stronger sex. This order of things simply instantly bores the young ladies. Unfortunately, constant predictability can work against a guy. Surely no one needs this, right?
To interest a person in your person, you need to intrigue her and not rush to reveal your secrets. Let there be a mysterious aura around you. The young lady will only have to make guesses about you and think about who you might be in real life.
There is no need to give her the opportunity to calculate your next step in relation to her. Just try not to confuse mystery with a complete lack of adequacy, because this is not what you need. Let your decisions and actions be completely unexpected
So, if during a date you have a desire to kiss your companion, act on it. Even if the attempt is unsuccessful, you will be able to make the right impression on her. A brave guy, coupled with the effect of surprise, is equivalent to a whole bunch of different emotions of a girl. And the next kiss attempt is more likely to be successful. Learn to refuse her some requests. Even if you really like a girl, you can’t follow her lead all the time.
Send her a letter by regular mail
We know, we know... this is the 21st century, and no one, except government agencies and stores with their advertising, sends mail in envelopes anymore. But did you know that it is precisely because of the effect of surprise that this trick can serve you very well?
Firstly, imagine how surprised she will be (especially if you live in the same city, although this technique is very good for long-distance relationships), and secondly, she will probably appreciate your creativity and time spent (one visit to the post office is already seems like a feat).
Work on your touch
Body language is no less eloquent and important in a relationship than the messages you write to her and the gifts you give her (obvious, right?). Here's how it works: If you're in the early stages of a relationship, a strong, cozy hug can make her feel safe in your arms.
Over time, as things get more serious, your arms will become one of her happiest places... and when she's sad or lonely, the only thing she'll want to do is cuddle with you. Therefore, pay attention to how exactly you touch her, and maybe even master the massage technique (this will be a combo effect).
Make her feel like she's special
Sometimes girls go crazy about fatal and mysterious or “bad” guys, but more often they still miss those with whom they had fun and pleasure, comfortably and... in a special way.
By remembering what she says and then using it in conversation, being caring and attentive, and not being afraid to admit yourself that you missed her, you will most likely not only make her think about you, but also make her think about you even more. valuable feelings - respect and trust. Sudden disappearances and attempts to play on jealousy will definitely not cope with this task.
- Author: Maria Minaeva
Ignore her messages while staying active on social networks4
If you do not answer your girlfriend’s messages and calls, but at the same time she sees that you are actively communicating on social networks or instant messenger, she is guaranteed to become jealous. When she sees your online status, she will begin to worry why you are not answering her. And most likely, she will immediately find a reason for jealousy, deciding that at that moment you are communicating with another girl. Later, you can call her back or text her, but instead of apologizing, let her know that you were busy talking with another girl, and it was so interesting that you didn’t want to interrupt. And she will also puzzle over what you discussed so interesting.
