How to teach a wife a lesson for disrespecting her husband, advice from a psychologist ~ Psychologist and Me

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“My wife doesn’t respect me” is one of the common thoughts that haunts many men. Is it possible to regain her respect and how to do it? Respect is one of the main things in a relationship.

How to change your attitude towards yourself and regain respect

If you have such thoughts, then this is no longer very good. Most likely, there are several things that need to be fixed. And the very first thing you need to do is admit the mistakes you make.

The situation is complicated by the fact that there are incorrect attitudes circulating in society and even among professional psychologists, and therefore you may hear incorrect advice on how to correct the situation. For example: to regain your wife’s respect, give her even more care and attention. But in fact, this will only make the situation worse.

Respect cannot be bought. No gifts or demonstrative actions will wake him up. Respect the individual. And if you don’t feel this way about yourself, then there’s something wrong with you. Yes, it hurts to hear. But the first step to solving a problem is accepting it.

Stop seeking her respect. No amount of persuasion will help. Accept the situation (outwardly).
Start analyzing your relationship with your wife. What are you doing wrong?
Identify areas you can change. But remember that you only have half of it in your hands.
Divorce is definitely not the solution. At least until you seriously try to change something. Give yourself at least a year to correct the situation.

Being in a very difficult situation is not scary. You know where to go. The point you are at now is just the beginning.

A wife's disrespect for her husband brings a lot of problems. And as soon as you start to change something, it will worsen, and its manifestations - lack of sexual desire, arrogance, insults - will reach their maximum point. You need to endure and survive all this. By regaining respect, you will get yours back. The relationship will be better than it was at the very beginning.

In general, trying to make a girl respect you is a big mistake! Yes, that's exactly what I said! They are doomed to resounding failure. The fact is that everything comes from within, from yourself. As soon as you truly respect yourself, those around you will begin to feel the same towards you.

1. Get in shape. Many people justify their loss of fitness due to age. Moreover, it is not clear how exactly this is connected, because some people look great at 50, while others have a huge belly already at 28. It is difficult to have respect for a man who has become fat. Anyone can lose weight and get fit.

2. Lose interest in her. Get used to it: many of the tips on how to regain your wife's interest sound counterintuitive. While you are running after her and doing everything to please her, you do not look like a man. More like a pet that is begging for something. The maximum she feels is condescension. Have respect for yourself, as I said above. Become self-sufficient. You have your own life, even if you are married. You can't buy location. No, no. Girls go crazy about men who are unapproachable and stingy with emotions. From now on, you no longer run after your wife and try to please her in every possible way.

3. Gain self-confidence. It is very important for a man to know his own worth - both in life and in relationships. This is a fundamental quality that must be maintained. There is nothing more pathetic than a man who has no self-respect. He is not handsome, not attractive, not sexy. The good news is that the situation can be corrected at any age. The main thing is to focus on your strengths and start developing them. And it’s worth starting with broadcasting this quality. Self-confidence is acquired through habit.

4. Remember your manners. A real man behaves with dignity. His habits and gestures are beautiful and elegant. Once upon a time, gentlemen were in fashion - they are what all girls dream of. Just remember your behavior at the moment when you made her fall in love with you, and compare it with what you do now. You are consumed by routine and everyday life. But most girls still manage - with more or less success - to maintain their attractiveness and sexuality. For some reason guys have problems with this.

5. Gain mastery in sex. If you know how to bring your girlfriend to orgasm and do it regularly, she is unlikely to stop wanting you. Good lovers don't lose respect because they have at least one good quality. Learning the wisdom of sex is not so difficult. And if you didn’t have a partner who could do this, turn to literature.

As you can see, you need to work hard on yourself to regain your wife’s respect. But all this will help you in the rest of your life. So your wife’s attitude is only the first indicator that something is wrong with you. Act quickly before you waste everything you have.

Modern representatives of the fair half of humanity are no longer the weaker sex, as they once thought. Wives try to rise above their husbands, trying to infringe and humiliate them. Some ladies openly cheat on their husbands, showing disrespect and causing pain. Will such persons treat their spouse with due respect? Perhaps, but a man needs to try hard.

This is interesting.

The sensational story of a wife’s disdain for her betrothed made the male population rejoice. The Egyptian lady showed her husband dissatisfaction with his salary and the constant lack of money in the family. The country's authorities have introduced a law that states that a husband has the right to file for divorce if his wife accuses him of insolvency. The Supreme Judge supported the decision in every possible way, considering such a harsh statement groundless.

Method 1. Love your own “I”

The wife will not respect a husband who disdains his own person.

Husbands who please their wives in everything need to change their strategy. Do you buy expensive things and perfume for your loved one, but wear faded jeans? Be careful, girls quickly get used to good things. Perhaps this is why your wife stopped respecting you; she got the impression that your husband is unworthy of more.

Don't let yourself be humiliated. Refuse tasteless food if this is actually the case. You are an adult, worthy man who needs high-quality and healthy food. Watch your figure, eat right, join the gym. Ladies love sculpted abs and broad shoulders.

Did your spouse buy a T-shirt on sale that looks terrible on you? Make her a doormat.

A girl dresses in expensive boutiques, spends half her salary on shoes from Botticelli, and at the same time buys her husband cheap T-shirts with crooked prints? Stop allocating money to whims, making it clear that you are the “leader of the pack.”

The situations described are a drop in the ocean of humiliation of male pride. Stand up for your point of view even in petty situations, love yourself and don’t let your wife suppress your man’s ego. Go to a good store, buy an expensive watch and beautiful shoes, after all, the budget is shared.

Shows of disrespect

Just recently, the husband was gentle and caring, but now a woman increasingly feels uncomfortable in communicating with him. Sometimes she cannot fully understand that her husband has ceased to respect her and, apart from irritation, feels nothing.

Let's list the clear signs that feelings have cooled.

Constant reproaches and reproaches, expressions of dissatisfaction.
There are few or no tender words in speech.
A man can insult his wife with obscene and offensive language.
The husband does not seek to hug or caress his wife.
Conversations in such a family do not go well; they are short, to the point, or with irritation.
A man is bored with his wife, he strives to spend more time outside the home, in the company of friends.
Ridicule or lack of interest in the wife's hobbies, work and hobbies.
Disrespect for a woman’s moral values, constant teasing on this basis.
A man who does not respect his wife allows himself to humiliate her not only with words, but also with actions. Often this is expressed in the use of force to fulfill his whims.
Depending on the character, the spouse either begins to completely control the woman, her communication, work, travel, or is absolutely indifferent to her and is not interested in her life.

Method 2: Become self-sufficient

Constantly look for options for additional income. Don't live off your salary and struggle to make ends meet. Most women blame their husbands for material poverty, as a result of which they cease to respect them. It's logical. There are no such ladies eager to marry a man sitting at home watching TV with a bottle of beer in his hand instead of doing business.

The question arises about a small salary? Convince the woman that you are trying to provide for your family. She made a vow at the altar to be with her husband in sorrow and in joy, in wealth and in poverty; reproaches here are extremely inappropriate. However, the advice about additional income remains relevant.

Get rid of laziness, read literature, develop yourself and lead your loved one. The man is the guiding line, the wife is the guided one. Take the initiative and don’t shy away from funny ideas; women love an unconventional approach.

The most important

When asked how to regain your husband’s attention and love, psychologists answer unequivocally: “The main thing is to understand your beloved self.” And definitely love it!

Let's conduct an honest self-analysis, sincerely answering the questions:

“What controls actions: love for your husband or offended pride?”;
“What do I want: understanding, love, protection?”;
“What comes first: family or work?”;
“What character traits of the spouse cause a negative reaction?”, “Why?”;

Having dealt with the problematic issues, work on the errors:

Don't listen to other people's opinions. Someone else's family is always in the dark. A man leaves not for someone, but for you. This means that we must make sure that it is better with my wife than with the homewrecker.

Try to evenly distribute your time and attention between your husband, work, and communication with friends.
Respect the opinions of others. In a dispute, truth is born if the discussion does not turn into quarrels and insults.
Do not completely dissolve in your loved one. It gets boring quickly, you want the unknown. A person must have personal space.
Do not hesitate to seek psychological help from a specialist.

If you are sure that only next to your husband you will be happy, act, sacrifice, change not for the sake of your husband, but for yourself:

In order not to deviate from the intended path, not to step on the same rake, you need to increase your self-esteem:
learn to make independent decisions, be responsible for actions, behavior, mistakes;
strive for equal relationships. Excessive care, as well as resigned submission, destroy the feelings of partners.

Remember: without respect there is no true love. And a strong, self-sufficient person, a deep, versatile personality is worthy of respect.

Method 3. Engage in re-education of your spouse

It is generally accepted that a man does not need to complain about his wife and about the car, they say, he chose it himself. But what to do when the situation gets out of control? That's right, re-educate.

Tied the knot with an eccentric lady? You'll have to sweat a lot. Temperamental girls are difficult to “train”; they have already developed a certain character and, by and large, such girls do not want to change anything.

Men who praise their women should reconsider their position. Stop indulging her, learn to say “No!” when a controversial issue arises. Pay attention to what exactly your spouse is unhappy with, then try to convey your own point of view in a calm voice.

Is your wife complaining about your constant absence due to work? Make it clear that making money while at home is quite difficult. If the arguments are unconvincing, invite the girl to start working while sitting on the couch next to you.

Are you quarreling with your wife because, in her opinion, you are not paying enough attention to your child? Make a compromise, show the qualities of a caring father. Show that even when you are tired, you care about your family.

There are also hidden signs of disrespect for a woman:

The wife is the last to know everything, and most often from friends and relatives. The husband does not consider it necessary to talk about anything, about his plans, for example, about where they will go on vacation with the whole family.

Does not allow you to do what you love or hobby. At the same time, he creates fog, and it looks like he cares about his wife.
Doesn't keep his promises.
Pays attention to other women, compares them with his wife, while the wife is always in a losing position.
Doesn't pay attention to his wife's requests, spending time on gadgets.

Needless to say, living with such a man is very difficult, and the question arises - why live with such a man? In the name of what? Love?

But, let's be honest, what kind of love can we talk about if they wipe their feet on you?

I will never believe that you can love a person who mocks you, is rude, rude, calls you names, humiliates you and does all the other things that can happen in such a destructive relationship.

Personally, I think such relationships are psychological violence against a woman.

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You can justify yourself ad infinitum as to why I live with such a man, but life won’t get better from it. Frequent excuses for why I tolerate such treatment almost always sound the same:

I love him;
I have nowhere to go;
I don’t have a job and my child is small;
He loves me, he just doesn’t understand what he’s doing;
I feel sorry for him, I’ll leave and he’ll disappear.

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In consultations, women often say that they have no choice, they cannot break off the relationship because they are financially dependent on the man.

There is always a choice! Another thing is that it’s scary. It's always scary to change your life, especially so radically. I remember when I was already an adult and got married, I once asked my mother: “Why don’t you leave your father?”

In response, I heard, I have nowhere to go, I’m no longer a girl to wander around apartments.

By the way, she was only about 45 years old then.

Unfortunately, the fear of change does not allow you to take care of yourself, create normal conditions for life, and perhaps in the future, meet a normal man and create a relationship with him.

There is such a deceptive moment, it seems that if I understand why my husband treats me with disrespect, then I can change the relationship.

Of course, there are certain reasons why things happen. But will knowing the reasons somehow help influence the situation?

Method 4. Become an attentive lover

You can often hear the phrases from women: “My husband and I have boring and monotonous sex!” or “My husband doesn’t satisfy me!” Become an attentive lover so that your wife will look forward to you coming home from work in the evenings.

Sex for married people often loses its spark and becomes routine. Watch an erotic film together, flirt on the phone, discuss secret fantasies. For every talented lover there is a more experienced male, improve your skills and experiment. Light the wish candle again!

Method 5: Leave room for a riddle

You earn good money, occupy a high position, but your wife has lost respect for you? Stop spoiling her. It is clear that you are ready to fulfill any whims, but in everything you need to know when to stop. It’s not for nothing that Pushkin wrote “The more we love a woman, the less she likes us...”. Don’t run forward to fulfill all your beloved’s wishes, leave room for some mystery, you are not an open book. Let the lady ask for a favor, showing her need. This way you can gradually remove the crown from her.

Did your spouse give you a beautiful (totally unnecessary) writing pen for your birthday? Reciprocate.

Is the girl in no hurry to share family stories? And you shouldn't amuse her with stories about the events that happened last weekend.

As a rule, wives stop respecting their husbands because of their own considerations. Some are dissatisfied with the lack of attention to their person, others want to live like queens, and others do everything themselves without outside support. Identify the true motives of behavior and begin to act. Where the carrot is powerless, try the stick.

If it didn't work out

Let's consider a situation where, despite the efforts expended and the exact implementation of psychologists' recommendations, it was not possible to revive old feelings. The family broke up. How to return a husband's love to his wife? You can’t return it - it’s difficult to fall in love again, but it’s possible.

Having experienced the resentment and pain of parting, begin to win your loved one again. You have to fight for happiness:

First, make life interesting and fulfilling. Use your free time for fun and pleasure. Visit exhibitions, theaters, parties. Travel. Do something that has been banned for many years. This behavior will hurt your ex-partner. And wounded pride is better than indifferent indifference.

Secondly, take care of your career. Improve your professional level by attending advanced training courses and receiving additional education. Communicate with colleagues more often, learn from experience, and do not refuse business trips. A successful woman arouses interest and respect.

Thirdly, make acquaintances with interesting people. However, do not rush into a new relationship. Feelings of jealousy are a bad helper for reviving relationships.

A lonely suffering woman evokes pity and compassion - a happy and cheerful woman charms and delights.

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According to statistics, 40% of married couples break up. Women, like men, periodically go “to the left,” so deceived husbands often think about how to punish their unfaithful wife for cheating. There are a huge number of ways to take revenge, but not all of them will bring the desired effect.

How to learn to make compromises?

In order to become more compromising and learn to trust your soulmate, you can try special exercises that calm your ego and educate you spiritually. Here are the main ones:

Meditation. With its help, you can immerse yourself and also concentrate on something specific (in our case, relationships). Learn to calm down, control your anger and emotions.
Yoga. During the exercises included in yoga classes, you can completely relax and also strengthen your mental health.
Breathing technique. If you learn to breathe correctly, then in any stressful situation you will remain calm and balanced.
Martial arts. In order to cope with your negative emotions, you need to learn how to direct them in a peaceful direction. Oriental martial arts will help you with this.
Asceticism. By limiting ourselves to something for a certain period of time, we train willpower and patience, which are often lacking in family relationships.

To maintain love, mutual understanding and trust in family relationships, you need to be attentive to each other, show care and patience. Family is the most important thing that can be in the life of any person. It is important to learn to take care of it.

Reasons for female infidelity

It is important to understand why the girl took such a desperate step. The guy must eliminate the cause, not the effect. This can be called the only way to save a couple.

Often ladies are not ready for marriage. They didn't have enough time. This happens in young families.

A wedding is an important step. Before getting married, you need to make sure that both partners are ready for this, because family life comes with responsibilities and duties. Not everyone is ready for this.

Another common reason is routine. Love is a chemical reaction in the body. At the beginning of a relationship, hormones are in full swing, causing a person to experience ecstasy. After 3 years the senses become dull.

People begin to live together, constantly flashing before their eyes. Due to the lack of personal space, quarrels and conflicts occur.

To avoid thinking about how to punish a girl for cheating, variety is needed. Passive relaxation in front of the TV will not give you new sensations. It is worth traveling, going to interesting places. This needs to be done together. New joint emotions will ignite faded passion.

Often the cause of betrayal is intimate dissatisfaction. A man often considers a woman a conquered mountain, and since he has achieved her, it means that there is no need to make efforts to maintain the relationship. Such judgments are detrimental to relationships. A guy must fulfill his marital duty both in bed and outside of it.

Often women become victims of abusive relationships. The husband may drink, swear, or do other bad things. The wife wants normal love, so she leaves the family nest.

If the reason is in the husband

Unfortunately, it happens that a wise wife has analyzed her behavior, corrected her shortcomings and is trying with all her might to maintain peace in the family, but the husband does not change his attitude. In this case, we need to talk about whether the cause of the discord is in the spouse himself. What points are we talking about?

Selfishness and infantilism of the husband

Psychology believes that selfish behavior is rooted in the lack of independence and immaturity of the individual’s psyche. Such a person is accustomed to having someone else make all the important decisions for him.

He lives only for his own pleasure, avoiding any unpleasant moments. Therefore, when his wife does not agree with his opinion and offers another solution to the problem, this greatly irritates him.

By and large, an egoist respects no one but himself. No matter how patient the other half is, it will not be easy for them to get along. Only strong love and acceptance will help smooth out the rough edges in such relationships.

Sometimes this gives results, and the infantile person finally begins to think about responsibility and not blame everyone around him for failures. He gains respect for his wife for tolerating his shortcomings. But whether his half’s feelings will disappear during this difficult time, the question remains open.

Financial dependence on a man

In our country, a common family model is where the man is the breadwinner and the woman takes care of the house. Many couples like this position. It allows a man to feel like the head, the master of this small world, where everything depends on his decision.

This situation relieves women of financial responsibility and the need to be torn between home and work.

It would seem, what could be the catch if the spouses are happy with everything? In fact, a woman in such a relationship, due to financial dependence on her husband, also becomes psychologically dependent.

Something happens in a man’s life - problems at work, he liked another woman, or his own wife simply began to irritate him - all this will affect his wife. Most often she has nowhere to go, especially with children; finding a good job without experience is also unlikely.

Aggression

This aspect of male behavior is worth special consideration, because a woman’s response to it should be quick and unambiguous.

If in the case of selfishness there is hope of finding a common language, especially if the husband himself is ready to improve, and financial dependence can be prevented from the beginning, then aggression cannot be changed on one’s own.

Often violence, including physical violence, is accompanied by alcohol abuse and drug addiction.

Many women mistakenly believe that if they are patient, the situation will improve. But the experience of psychologists, social services and law enforcement agencies shows that male aggressors do not find the strength to stop immoral behavior.

You should not expect either respect or fear of losing your spouse from such a partner - if it appears, it will be until the next outburst of anger.

Mental illness

Many mental illnesses manifest themselves quite early - in childhood or adolescence. But what if such a disease began when the person was already married?

In this case, is it worth looking for ways to make a husband respect his wife and be afraid of losing her?

Without a doubt, it is painful to realize that a loved one periodically turns into someone alien and often aggressive. I want to return everything, endure it and wait for a happy ending. Sometimes, in cases of indolent disease, this tactic works for a while.

But, for example, schizophrenia is dangerous because of its unpredictability and obsessions. Therefore, it is important to make the right decision in time and put the safety of yourself and your children, if any, first.

Options for dealing with this situation

There are many options for how to take revenge on your wife for betrayal and painful betrayal.

First of all, it is necessary to determine what revenge will bring. Often men begin to do stupid things in an aggressive state, and then regret it. First you need to determine what you want:

Is it worth saving such a marriage?
Revenge on your wife for betrayal will be a beautiful final chord of living together.

Guys are rarely willing to forgive something like this. They are owners by nature, because of this they perceive the departure of a loved one for another man as a personal insult. A husband can take revenge on a girl for cheating in two ways:

physical;
moral.

Direct violence should be abandoned, since it is punishable by the Criminal Code. The law states that a person has no right to restrict the freedom of other people.

Before teaching your wife a lesson for cheating, you need to think things through. You need to understand what kind of person she is. You will have to hit the painful points to achieve the desired result.

How to get your wife back if she left for another man?

There are often cases when a woman leaves her husband for another man. Most men, after breaking up, do not want to hear anything about their ex-wife and believe that the relationship is over, but there are those who do not want to put up with this situation and try to get her back by any means. If you want to reunite your family at all costs, then the following advice from psychologists is especially for you:

Forgiveness. If you want your spouse to return to you, then try to admit your possible mistakes, just ask her forgiveness for everything you did wrong. It will probably work depending on how you present the information.
Work on yourself. Try to work on your own character. After all, if your wife left you for another, it means she found something in that man that was not in you. Analyze your relationship and remember how you behaved with your spouse. If she sees how you have changed, then maybe you will have a chance.
Stop pestering. You shouldn’t pester your wife with constant phone calls, endless messages and harassment on the street. Don't ask her to come back to you. Wait a while, and only then talk calmly and try to convince her.
Appearance. Take care of yourself: change your hairstyle, buy new clothes, start going to the gym. When your wife sees how much you have changed, then perhaps your relationship can still be restored.

Ways to punish a woman

You need to take revenge wisely. The guy must follow a number of rules in order to commit an act of revenge:

Don't cross the line and end up in a prison cell.
Understand whether he is ready to forgive his unfaithful spouse or not.
Do not be led by emotions, so as not to regret your actions.
Do not go beyond your own moral convictions.

Girls are punished for cheating in two ways: by ignoring or publicly disclosing information about the act that occurred.

Punishment using gadgets

Psychologists do not recommend resorting to this method to take revenge on a girl for treason and betrayal. This can hit a man's pride.

A guy can go into his wife’s phone and start conversations with other men. Thanks to this, the girl will be exposed in an unflattering light. Some write insults to their wife’s close friends.

This method does not always give the expected result. Those around him learn about the deception and begin to despise the stupid husband who is not able to accept a woman’s deception with dignity.

At the household level

Anyone who thinks about how to take revenge on the girl who betrayed him for cheating wants to throw away her things. This method should be abandoned. This kind of behavior is typical of wives, not husbands.

Some use sexual manipulation, but in the case of “looking for someone else on the side” this is not the best punishment.

It is worth limiting the unfaithful spouse in finances. Many girls earn less than guys, so this tactic can make them realize how dependent they are on their chosen ones.

Other ways of revenge

If you study the advice of a psychologist, you can understand that the ideal way to punish a wife for cheating is indifference.

The girl realizes that she has done a bad thing. A cold attitude on the part of a guy will make her shudder, which will worsen her inner feeling of discomfort.

Ignore the cheater. This will become real psychological torture for her. She will repent for a long time.

In case of divorce, you can use other methods:

Tell your friends about your ex's shortcomings. A convenient way to lower her authority in the eyes of others. However, it is rare for a husband to take revenge on his wife for cheating in this way.
Start a new romance. The girl should be better in all respects. This will bring not only moral satisfaction, but will also cause jealousy in the cheater.

A woman's contribution to her husband's loss of respect for her

The reasons why a husband stopped treating a woman with tenderness are varied. Conventionally, they can be divided into

Ungroomed wife

Everyone knows that women love with their ears. But often the weaker sex forgets that men also need to nourish their love feelings, and the appearance of the other half plays an important role in this. Before the wedding, girls carefully look after themselves, trying not to lose their boyfriend, and after marriage a metamorphosis occurs.

Of course, in family life a couple faces many worries - small children, work, financial difficulties. But even if you don’t have the opportunity or desire to visit expensive salons, you can always find time to wash and style your hair and put on clean, neat clothes. After a difficult day at work, a man still deserves to see not an aunt in a dirty robe, but a beloved woman who cares about her appearance.

Communication style

This point is similar to the previous one, only we will talk not about external, but about internal filling. If for a long time a man has heard nothing but discontent and “sawing” at home, over time his wife’s speech will cause him nothing but irritation.

No matter how much he loves his wife, he will not be able to resist negative feelings. As in the famous proverb: “A drop wears away a stone.” He will either remain silent or answer questions sharply.

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Take your gifts!

But in your desire to please with words, you shouldn’t go too far. Of course, you should always try to smile when you meet and greet your husband affectionately. But in case of fatigue or illness, it is important to be able to show your condition and express your desires.

If you couldn’t restrain yourself, for example, because of problems at work, words of apology will come in very handy.

Problems in intimate life

For men, sex is a very important part of life. Quite often, women, knowing this, try to manipulate their husbands through intimacy. They either have a “headache” or simply have no desire.

We must remember that such behavior is akin to walking on the edge of an abyss. Of course, it is important to defend your point of view and not forget about your desires, but not with the help of the weak points of a loved one.

Hostility on the part of the husband can also arise if the wife does not want to lead a rich intimate life. Sex as a scheduled duty quickly kills any desire for this particular person, which in the future can lead to a search for pleasure on the side.

Lack of self-development

Even if a woman is in order with all of the above points, the risk of losing respect from her husband remains. It is associated with what is called self-development, or rather with its absence.

Women who, due to circumstances or by choice, stay at home are more susceptible to this condition. They may get carried away by monotonous TV series, stupid talk shows and similar activities, which is why they lose topics of conversation.

But in many ways this development of events is determined by the internal state. A working woman will justify her reluctance to learn new things by being tired, and her interests may very soon narrow. If she has abandoned common hobbies with her husband and has not found new ones, he may lose interest in his wife.

Advice from psychologists

Experts recommend taking the news of betrayal with dignity. The best way is to help your wife pack her things with an understanding face. For a girl who is accustomed to having to fight for her, such behavior will be a shock. She has suffered a severe blow to her pride, she will begin to doubt her actions and may want to stay.

Also, psychologists do not recommend damaging your wife’s property. It is better to avoid such methods of solving the problem, since such behavior can lead to problems with the law.

The most important question is whether to forgive betrayal. The answer to this must be individual. People are different, so not everyone is able to forgive betrayal. For example, guys with high self-esteem usually get divorced. They understand that they do not want to continue living with a traitor.

A man should not pester his ex-lover's friends. Such methods aimed at hurting the offender look pathetic and repulsive.

A person must be able to forgive. This is difficult to do, but this is the only way to truly teach a cheater a lesson. Men are proud creatures, so they must face difficulties along the way with dignity.

What is respect and how does it manifest itself?

Let's go in order. What is respect? Let's turn to Ozhegov's dictionary. Respect is a respectful attitude based on recognition of someone's merits

. Maybe the problem is that we are afraid of the word “reverence” and are afraid to notice only the merits? Who will tell the truth if not me...

There is no true female maturity without respect for men. And not only because respect is the only solid foundation for relationships. But also because without respecting men, it is impossible to fully accept and respect yourself.

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