Every person has probably encountered the fact that others, wanting to know more about his life, begin to ask awkward and tactless questions, like “When will you get married?”, “Why don’t you have children yet?”, “Are you on a diet?” , “What’s your salary?”, and others. Such questions can cause confusion, because it is completely unclear how to answer them so as not to offend a person and at the same time protect your personal life from strangers. Read on to find out how best to answer awkward questions.
Uncomfortable questions from strangers
Modern man lives in society, and therefore his life, whether he wants it or not, is always “visible” not only to him and his relatives, but also to the people around him. At the same time, strangers or unfamiliar people can often go beyond the boundaries of tactful behavior and begin to ask questions that are not entirely convenient for the person, for example:
- why aren't you married yet?
- how much do you earn,
- why don't you have children,
- when you give birth to your second child,
- why do your children go or don’t go to kindergarten,
- why are you raising your child this way and not another way?
- why do you dress or look like that?
and so on. There are a large number of options for inconvenient questions, but it is good if a person is a self-sufficient person and is aware that such inconvenient questions characterize the questioner rather than the person himself. But there are also those people who attach great importance to how others evaluate them, and in their behavior they are guided not by their own opinion, but solely by the assessment of others.
In this case, the tactless question “Why are you still not married” can significantly reduce self-confidence and become the beginning of a process of soul-searching on the topic “But really, why? Maybe there's something wrong with me?
See also: How to get married, or what women men marry
It is worth noting that such awkward and tactless questions can be compared to criticism. It’s good if criticism from other people is constructive and helps you improve, but what if many have completely forgotten about the sense of tact and strive to get into your personal life with their impudent and even rude questions and “jigs”? Let's try to analyze the most popular questions and comments from “well-wishers” that confuse and spoil the mood.
How old are you?
Theoretically, today the age of a candidate cannot become a reason for denying him the desired position. But still, as practice shows, age discrimination is one of the main problems that job seekers in Ukraine face today. And this especially applies to women.
And if your resume did not have a “date of birth” column or you did not indicate the years of study by which your approximate age can be calculated, and at a personal interview you are asked about it, gently shift the emphasis from the number in your passport to your professional achievements. For example: “I am now at the age when I clearly understand my goals in this position for the next five years and know exactly how to achieve them. Therefore, if you are interested, I will be happy to tell you my concept for solving corporate problems.”
Questions about marriage
“Are you married yet?” - perhaps this is one of the most common uncomfortable questions. Precisely to get married, because for some reason men are extremely rarely bothered by such questions. This is understandable - after all, if a man does not marry, this is regarded as independence and some kind of peculiarity - apparently he has not yet found a worthy candidate. If a girl doesn’t get married, it means she’s somehow different, defective, since no one has yet seen in her love for the rest of her life.
Of course, the questioners don’t care deeply about the true motives of your loneliness - they ask uncomfortable questions in order to see how the expression on your face will change, how your fingers will begin to tremble nervously. It’s so nice to see for yourself and convince your opponent of his inconsistency. Yes, this is the lot of people who simply have no other ways to assert themselves, and therefore they need to be answered directly and without ceremony.
See also : How to get married after 30
Serious answer
You can answer with the phrase “For what purpose are you interested?”, and then your opponent will think about what to answer. Another option is to say that now you are more interested in your career and are completely passionate about your work. For others, this looks like a fairly “valid” reason, because everyone wants to build a good career, but only those who really give their best at work and spend maximum time on it succeed - by the way, this can also be said.
Joking answer
You can also half-jokingly complain that now it is difficult to find a worthy candidate for a husband, and you need your loved one, and not the one who first proposed. Another option is to say “I have so many candidates for husbands that I just don’t know who to choose, so I’m not getting married!”
Choose any answer you like, and do not attach importance to tactless questions about marriage. The main thing is that such questions do not undermine your self-esteem.
Summary
As you can hear from the above, there is nothing difficult in learning how to respond to stupid questives. It just takes practice to become automatic. By the way! It will be relevant for you to remember our conversation about improvisation on this topic. I think everyone has their own preparations for fighting clingy and narrow-minded people. For example, due to the nature of my work, I have to deal with a very different contingent of clients, plus constant calls from some “managers” who want to rub something in our company, so I have developed my own algorithm for confronting these “zombies”
