Myth 1. A man must seek sex, otherwise he will quickly lose interest in a woman.
Is it true.
“Men are hunters (I mean real men), so the process of conquest is very important for them,” says Anetta Orlova. - Today, of course, no one judges as harshly as twenty years ago, but men have certain ideas in their heads - like cards on which it is written: “a woman for friendship,” “a woman for love,” “a woman for fun.” The most difficult thing is to move from one column to another.
That is, if in his eyes you have already earned the “girl for the evening” stamp - regardless of how good it was with you - he is unlikely to be able to take you more seriously.
By the way, practicing American psychoanalyst Zoe Strimpel came to a similar conclusion. According to her, a man will almost never consider a girl who agreed to sex too easily as a potential partner. According to elementary male logic, he simply “has no reason to strain and start a serious relationship, since everything is so simple and fast with this lady.”
What do men like in sex? Sexy lingerie
This is what turns every man on, this is where any foreplay begins. Any man will be delighted with a beautiful lace lingerie set. At least in intimate moments, you should forget about bears and bunnies on your panties and a sports bra. Most of all, men prefer plain black or red lace erotic underwear, although they note that a snow-white set looks very gentle and attractive on a girl. Don't forget about stockings, lace robes, costumes for role-playing games and so on.
Myth 2. The more you ignore a man, the more interested he is in you.
Not true.
This stereotype can play a cruel joke on you. Yes, on the one hand, the object of your interest may trigger the notorious instinct of a conqueror, and he will begin to woo you as if undermined. But, on the other hand, for many men, any refusal - you won’t believe it - scares the hell out of them and, moreover, discourages any desire to enter into a relationship at all. So you need to act carefully, without theatrical gestures and depending on what kind of man you are dealing with.
“For example, when he calls, you don’t need to run headlong to the phone, but, on the contrary, flirt a little, as if nothing connects you,” advises A. Orlova. - If he is really interested in you, he will get involved and play along; if there is not a sufficient degree of interest, he can leave the race and look for someone else from his address book. It all depends on the particular man, on his views on this world, and on the image of an ideal woman he has drawn for himself.
Erogenous zones of men
Properly caressing your partner is an art. Let's summarize what points you need to influence so that he calls you a goddess in bed:
- head, neck, arms;
- breast;
- abdomen (the lower abdomen in front of the pubis is especially sensitive);
- inner thigh;
- ears;
- small of the back;
- palms and feet;
- genital organ
Start at the top and gradually work your way down. Do not neglect a single point, smoothly using each of them. Combine their stimulation: head and chest, neck and penis, etc. Sometimes return to places you've already covered.
Vary your pace, strength, and demeanor from playful to submissive. Don’t be afraid to experiment and ask your loved one which parts of his body are most sensitive to caresses.
Myth 3. After giving birth, a woman becomes sexually unattractive to a man.
Not true.
Many couples do experience intimate problems after the birth of a child, but this is not due to male whims, but to banal everyday inconveniences.
“Due to the difficulties associated with the housing issue, three generations often live under one roof, and this is a violation of the integrity of the family and constant stress,” states Anetta Orlova. — In turn, stress is a factor in the emergence of conflicts and intimate problems. Family boundaries must be clear.
In addition, as psychologists say, many men are, in fact, children themselves, and therefore the appearance of a new object of universal attention in the family confuses them and makes them depressed.
— When a man becomes a father, he experiences a crisis, as the woman switches her attention to the child. During this period, he feels abandoned and on this basis may become depressed.
And many “big boys”, having lost the attention of their wives, find solace... behind a computer monitor.
“Long hours of communication with a computer leads to increased anxiety in a person and can also result in apathy and depression,” says Orlova. And depression and sex, as you know, are incompatible things.
Foreplay10
In vain, many believe that a man wants to quickly finish his sex work and go to bed. Men love foreplay and love not just caressing a woman, but also when she takes control of herself. Kiss a man, give him an erotic massage, touch his shoulders, caress his ears with your tongue, don’t forget to gently kiss his nipples and go lower. Don't underestimate the value of foreplay; men love them just as much as women.
Myth 4. All men are polygamous by nature.
Is it true. But not really...
— It is also written down in evolutionary order that a man strives for the greatest number of sexual contacts. So, this is not surprising, although it is very offensive for us women,” says Anetta Orlova.
But that's not so bad. The evolutionary features of male psychology are often superimposed by childhood impressions and traumas. Which, by the way, is already a common problem for both sexes.
“In each of us lives an adult, a child, and a parent. In different relationships, in different situations, our different hypostases manifest themselves. For example, if a man is dating a woman much older than him, perhaps in this relationship he is looking for the attention that his “child” needs - a little boy (as a hypostasis). Most likely, as a child he experienced a deficiency of these feelings or was forced to leave his parents’ home early for another city, explains Orlova.
Beautiful naked body8
Every man loves a neat, beautiful and naked beautiful female body. Don't forget to look after yourself. Nobody says that every girl should have a model appearance, but basic rules of self-care must be followed. Men love girls who have something to hold on to, but preferably, it should not be a belly that hangs down to the knees. Dear ladies, as soon as you start watching your figure, your man will stop looking at slender beauties in bikinis on the beach.
Myth 5. Men like unapproachable people.
Not true.
Despite the repeatedly mentioned hunter's instinct, too “correct” and strict young ladies can scare away any womanizer.
- When communicating with such women, men feel that they are not inclined to simply flirt and play. They understand that here, in addition to entertainment, they will also have to take on some kind of responsibility - at least emotional, and men are extremely afraid of this, says Orlova.
However, a golden mean is needed here too. Recently, European psychologists found that men are repelled by... loud female laughter, because it is subconsciously perceived as a sign of promiscuity. That is, excessive readiness to flirt is also not at all attractive to the stronger sex, and men prefer to stay away from young ladies who are too “free.”
“Yes, men need a feeling of female freedom, lightness, but this does not mean becoming accessible and free,” explains Orlova. - They just need a game and excitement - whether it will work out or not, what will happen next, etc. They don't need clarity at the first stage, and your moral portrait will generally frighten them. Therefore, it is advisable on the first date to give as little information about yourself as possible, listen more and try to remain unknown, not talk about your dreams and hopes, and be a mystery. Do not say that you are only considering a serious relationship, and at the same time do not plan the very next meeting and leave first. We have to play cat and mouse - simply because it’s more interesting for the guys.
Physiological reasons why men love sex more
The main reason why a person likes sex more or less is a person's libido. It is responsible for the manifestation of sexuality in men and women. All sorts of fantasies, unexpected excitement, a desire to satisfy sexual desire - this is what men experience when they think about the woman they like. A man craves sex more than the opposite sex. If we consider the biological side of this issue, then a man, being a male, must pass on his seed, his genetic material to prolong the race.
The sensitivity of the male genital organs is also greater than that of women. The male penis is quite complex. This is a large plexus of nerve endings throughout the body of the genital organ. It is for this reason that even minor touches result in a positive reaction. The female vagina is another matter. First of all, it is intended for the birth of a child. Therefore, there is no sensitivity in the vagina.
It has no nerve endings. This is no accident. This is how nature intended it, so that when giving birth naturally, a woman does not die from pain or painful shock. Women's erogenous places are located in the vestibule in the vagina and on the cervix.
G-spot stimulation also brings pleasure to a woman. According to research by sexologists, it is located on the front wall of the vagina. This is the only sensitive place in this organ. Based on this information, we can conclude that in most cases a woman does not achieve orgasm. This means he loses interest in sex.
But female orgasm can be achieved together with a sexual partner. You need to choose the position that gives the woman the most pleasure. Then regularly and “high-quality” make love with your partner. And within two to three months you can increase the sensitivity of the vagina mechanically.
This does not apply to all women. There are cases when a woman with a huge libido can easily outperform the most loving man. Men do not have such difficulties if there are no health problems. They achieve orgasm in 95% of sexual intercourse. This is the main reason why men love sex more.
It is also necessary to take into account that a woman reacts more emotionally to intimacy. She primarily views her potential partner as a constant companion in the future, support and protection. For a man, sex in most cases is at the level of instincts.
Myth 6. Jealousy fuels male passion.
Is it true.
“Signs of attention from other men play into a woman’s hands,” states Anetta Orlova. “It is an excellent aphrodisiac and can even strengthen marriage relationships.” And if a woman is also indifferent to this attention, her value in the eyes of a man increases many times over.
But if you get too carried away and allow third-party fans to completely capture your attention, no macho man will like this. In the end, you risk simply offending him and even pushing him, as they say, to the left, so jealousy also needs to be carefully dosed.
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Resistance4
Now we are not talking about real violence, because it is a crime. And when you resist just a little, in a playful way. A man is a conqueror by nature, and if he understands that before he can get you, he needs to achieve this, his interest in sports will begin to go off scale. The main thing is not to overdo it, otherwise, if you resist for a long time, the man may think that he is not interested in you.
Well-groomed appearance13
Men like neat manicures, clean, well-groomed hair, moisturized skin, discreet makeup, subtle notes of perfume, smooth legs, and beautiful clothes. Women should not forget about their appearance before, during and after sex. Because if immediately after sex you pull on an old elongated T-shirt and braid a bun on your head, then a man will remember you just like that. A well-groomed appearance is something that many women who have been married for a long time forget about.
What do men like in sex? Pleasant smell from a woman12
This is what men love most. Before sex, a woman must take care of her hygiene, both intimate organs and all others. Plus, men like it when a girl smells of freshness, berries or floral notes. Add to this a pleasant perfume and any man will be crazy. The main thing is not to overdo it, because if a girl smells as if several bottles of perfume have just been poured on her, such a smell can distract a man from the main process.
