Many people think about how to start life from scratch, but only a few find the strength in themselves and choose effective methods to solve accumulated problems. Psychologists say that every person has such a desire at least once in their life. The desire to change oneself, one’s environment and one’s field of activity often comes after a series of serious problems and dissatisfaction with one’s own position in society. And while the time machine and magic spells that erase memory remain a figment of the imagination of science fiction writers, it’s time to resort to proven practices that have helped more than one hundred people change their lives. What advice is worth listening to, and what methods of transformation exist, let's figure it out together.
Methods
Before starting life from scratch, it is important to understand what circumstances caused the desire for change. It has been proven that in the 21st century, humanity suffers from a common illness - postponing until tomorrow the opportunity to be happy today. In this situation, it is extremely important to gather your thoughts and begin to act immediately. Determine for yourself a deadline – the deadlines when you need to bring your plans to life. We will consider below what methods are guaranteed to help you start a new life.
Give up old strategies
It is difficult to build a new life following old strategies. For example, a person spends decades working in a job he hates, which depresses him and makes him unhappy, but gives him security and consistency. Behind the apparent stability lies the fear of a new and happy life, for which one will have to sacrifice today’s stability.
Psychotherapist and writer Ilse Sand in the book “Fear of Intimacy. How to Stop Defending and Start Loving” explains that when under stress, the body uses a mechanism called regression or memory retrieval. Instinctively, people resort to methods that were basic to them in previous stages of life.
During regression, the individual’s attitude towards the world and his behavior radically change. The mature “I” partially or completely ceases to function, and the person shifts the most important problems onto the shoulders of loved ones.
In order not to fall into regression or get out of this state, you need to remind yourself that you have become an adult a long time ago. Mature people are able to make choices, make important decisions on their own, and do what they want.
Successful or unsuccessful steps in the past are time lived, which should not be regretted. Don't use old strategies, even if they were successful before, because the world is constantly changing. In today's life, they work like crutches and are unlikely to lead to positive changes.
Let's get inspired for change
It is quite difficult to start life from scratch when a depressive mood suppresses any endeavors, and one gives up on accumulated problems. But don’t despair, because life is wonderful, and it’s time to remember it! It’s worth looking around and understanding whether there really is a reason for change. At the first stage, it is important to pull yourself together and follow the basic steps:
- Remember all the unfinished business, and try to correct the situation as soon as possible - no burdens of the past should interfere with building a life from scratch;
- There is an opinion that chaos in the house begins with chaos in the head, but both concepts are interconnected - start cleaning, collect things that are not valuable, and the long-awaited enlightenment will come in the head;
- It is worth letting go of people from the past who haunt you in the present - it is worth throwing away photographs and things that remind you of former lovers and comrades;
- Start planning - write down both immediate plans and plans for the future;
- Consider a reward system - reward yourself for achieving your goals;
- Be sure to believe in yourself - without this, any endeavor is doomed to failure.
Not only dreams of a bright future, but also small joys will help you gain inspiration. Watch your favorite movie, get close to nature, go shopping. Opening up to change is not so easy, but the main thing is to set a goal and build an action plan.
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