Incredible facts
An old saying goes: “Surround yourself with people you want to be like.”
It’s easy to guess that, often, the environment of successful people consists of equally successful people, and optimists establish relationships with equally optimistic people.
How to understand who exactly could potentially become your best friend?
In this article, we will draw your attention to 15 clear signs that “your” person is next to you.
Best Friend Qualities
1. They listen to you
Everyone has unpleasant situations in life, from which it is difficult to find a way out on their own. It is at such moments that true friends come to the rescue, listening to you and supporting you morally. What’s important is that a good friend doesn’t just listen, but tells you whether you’re right or wrong. As a rule, the advice of loved ones is very practical.
2. They care about you
As the well-known proverb says, a friend is a friend in need. This is actually the honest truth, because real friends do not regret wasting their time on you. They know that you will also come to their aid, because your relationship is valuable and important both for them and for you. If a friend finds out that you urgently need help, he will be where you need it at the right time.
3. You are offered suitable entertainment
There is nothing wrong with relaxing with friends without any reason. The difference between your closest friends and ordinary acquaintances is that a friend knows exactly where and how to spend the evening so that you remember it for the rest of your life. At the same time, you don’t have to do anything illegal, because relaxing with your best friends can relieve stress and significantly improve your mood both in a nightclub and on a modest picnic.
4. A friend knows when enough is enough.
Any party, any gatherings and events end sooner or later. However, not all people are able to soberly assess their condition and realize when it is time to return home. If at this moment there are no loved ones near the person, the vacation can end in tears.
True friends know exactly the limits of your capabilities and are always ready to “insure” you. It would not be amiss to mention that if your best friends are next to you, even if you are drunk, you will be taken home safe and sound.
What is love
It is very difficult to talk about love from a scientific perspective. But without science, it will be impossible to deal with feelings. For everyone, love is characterized by its own judgments. But in any case, it has 3 defining characteristics that are connected by common features for each individual case.
Initially, the feeling is associated with the degree of frankness. The existing trust between partners is a complex psychological process that is determined by common views and feelings. During love there is no fear of the manifestation of the true “I”. On the contrary, under the influence of this wonderful feeling you are motivated to express yourself. You are ready to be yourself and are happy to show your real self.
The next important factor is physical attraction. You look at your partner, and you like him madly, regardless of his external characteristics. This form of communication is only appropriate in romantic relationships. We can say that attraction fuels feelings that stimulate mutual embodiment of sympathy in your partner.
And the final, but no less important factor is loyalty. A real desire to share your time with your partner is a very important point in a love relationship. Also, there is such a nuance that the couple does not break up when they encounter difficulties. On the contrary, it becomes stronger, helping each other overcome them. No one else from the environment is perceived by them as an object of desire.
How to recognize a true friend
5. Communication is good for you.
Even if a person is your best friend, you do not have to agree with his position or opinion, because it is worth remembering that all people, even the closest ones, are completely different. At the same time, it is still worth sometimes listening to the advice of friends, because sometimes they know you even better than you yourself.
Such communication can enrich you with invaluable experience, open your eyes to your shortcomings, and maybe even to hidden talents that you had not noticed before.
6. You are supported
A good friend will support you in any endeavor if he sees that it makes you truly happy. Your actions may not be to his liking, but if you are truly passionate and your ideas do not harm anyone, a true friend will definitely understand this.
If there is a person next to you whom you truly trust, you can be sure that even a bad streak will not darken your life. After all, as long as such a person is nearby, you are not afraid of thunderstorms or snowfalls, and this must be appreciated.
7. They tell you the truth
True friends will not lie to you if they really value your relationship. Exceptions include questions: “What do I look like?” and “Does this dress make me look fat?” After all, if you feel comfortable in this dress, your friend will not upset you.
However, when it comes to a real lie, a good friend will not be able to fall for it. He will do this with great reluctance and on very rare occasions. Basically, true friends avoid lying because your relationship is important to them.
8. They care about you
People tend to care about loved ones, and friends are no exception. If your best friend doesn't hear from you for a long time, he will definitely worry about you, because you mean a lot to him.
At the same time, it’s worth remembering that sometimes people are busy, sick or just tired, so if a friend doesn’t call you or doesn’t write to you for a while, this doesn’t mean that he has completely forgotten about you.
Other screaming signs of falling in love
In addition to the above signals, to understand that a friend is in love with you, pay attention to the following points:
- adopts your habits (gestures, words, facial expressions, demeanor, hobbies) - sympathy subconsciously pushes us to “adapt” to our partner;
- attends all events (even the most boring ones) if you are there;
- has been in a single status for a long time, refuses to meet new girls;
- behaves out of character with you (suddenly becomes shy, embarrassed, nervous, awkward, silent, cheeky, vulgar, dreamy, etc.);
- feeds you (takes you around the cafe, brings home goodies, knows your taste preferences) - it gives a man great pleasure to feed his beloved;
- started taking care of his appearance (he took off his stretched sweater, wore expensive cologne, changed his hairstyle): guys strive to please potential girlfriends;
- actively monitors your posts, statuses, photos on social networks;
- is interested in your plans for the future;
- under the influence of alcoholic intoxication, he admits how cool, beautiful, charming you are, etc.
But what to do with all this? Psychologists say: if a girl understands that her friend is in love with her, the only thing she can do is to be sincere towards him. Don’t deceive yourself or your close friend, don’t give false hopes, don’t use other people’s feelings. Tell everything honestly, only as gently as possible. And if you yourself see a potential man in your friend, why not give yourself the right to happiness?
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Signs of a good friend
9. Friends know when you need to be alone.
Every person has periods in life when he wants to retire and be alone with himself. Work, family or health problems can put pressure on a person, and he will want to devote some time only to himself.
True friends understand instantly when the moment comes that requires him to leave you alone for a while. You can be sure that they will be there for you the moment you need it again, and will also understand when you need to unwind.
10. You don't have to always reciprocate.
In true friendship, no one forces anyone to do anything. Your desire to help and support must be sincere. Only then will there be no hypocrisy in friendship, and balance will be maintained for many years.
If you are going through a difficult period in your life, and you are simply not capable of the same emotions as your friends, they will definitely understand this and wait for the moment when you are “on track” again.
11. You can call at any time
Before starting this point, it is worth placing some restrictions on the phrase “at any time.” Undoubtedly, if something extraordinary happened, your friend will not judge you for calling you at night, but, on the contrary, will listen to you and help you.
However, you should not abuse your friendship, because your loved ones are ordinary people who have their own lives and their own needs. You should not call a person at three in the morning or six in the morning without a good reason. If, of course, you really value your friendship.
What a true friend shouldn't be like
Think about what qualities you dislike most in people? These are the qualities that a friend should not have. Although a person can be cynical, but at the same time very kind. Weak-willed, but very interesting to talk to. Not very smart, but reliable.
So negative (at first glance) qualities also have their advantages.
Based on the experience of many people, we can say with confidence: “A friend is made over time.” If your friendship has gone through many stages of life, you have had a spoke in your wheels, you were able to survive “fire, water and copper” pipes, but still remain friends - this is a real friendship that must be treasured, because now it is such a rarity...
It's just good with a friend
The company of a true friend and soul mate is soothing - it literally lowers levels of the stress hormone cortisol, as science itself says. For the same reason, it is able to “heal” emotional trauma. If, after spending time with a friend, you, on the contrary, feel worse than before meeting him, feel that you are depressed and depressed, consider this a “wake-up call”. Finally, having loyal companions has a positive effect on our self-esteem. They tend to provide strong moral support and inspiration, which suppresses our tendency toward self-criticism.
Second essay
I thought a lot about what a true friend should be and what the meaning of this phrase is. Friendship is a significant part of every person's life. I've never met anyone who doesn't have friends. Friendship helps a lot.
I believe that a true comrade is, first of all, a person to whom you can entrust your most intimate secrets and not doubt his reliability . A friend is there when you have some troubles and does everything to solve them. And even quarrels, which sometimes happen in any relationship, will never destroy friendship, because true comrades cannot live without each other for long.
I also think that a true friend should be sensitive, understanding and not need additional words to explain what is bothering you. Friends are open and generous. They help in dark times, share joy and happiness, stand by your side even when the whole world is against you.
With such people there is always something to talk about; you have many common topics, interests, and hobbies. For example, my best friend and I both love science fiction and go to basketball games. A comrade will always defend his person when someone offends him, even if this may somehow harm him.
And it is not at all necessary to see each other or call each other every day to be true comrades. The friendship of such people remains strong at a distance and after time. They will never exchange their comrade for someone else and will not betray him. Age doesn’t matter: at 10 or at 40, someone can become a true friend who will brighten up your life, help you find a way out of a difficult situation, and give practical advice.
I believe that life without friendship is impossible. A true comrade must be kind, patient, understanding and wise, so that you can always rely on him. And it is a great happiness to meet such a person.
Why does a person need friendship?
“What does it mean to be friends?”, “Why do you need to be friends with other people?” - surely each of us has been choked with these questions at least once. But in reality, why is this necessary? Here are some possible reasons:
- Support. In various difficult periods of life, we need understanding and support from our neighbors. Therefore, a friend becomes that “lifeline”, a support, a person who will always understand;
- Understanding. Who else but a friend will listen to you, understand and try to help;
- Mutual assistance. Sometimes it is impossible to cope with something material or psychological alone. Therefore, friends are the people we rely on. For example, help with moving, homework, moral support and many other aspects;
- Development. Oddly enough, every social interaction we have with someone is a way of development, or, conversely, stagnation. That's why in friendships people go together. When this development stops on at least one side, the friendship ends. This is fine. However, when communicating with someone very closely, we adopt many of his qualities, characteristics and aspirations. For example, one friend may encourage another to open her own business, which is also an element of development;
- Common interests. For example, you love a certain genre of films. But no one around them is watching. In this situation, it is possible to meet a friend based on common interests. You will initially be captivated by the opportunity to discuss something interesting to you, and then this relationship will become more complicated. That is, they will acquire a more complex and intimate meaning.
Moreover, it is important to note the fact that for most people, loneliness is a very difficult emotionally and psychological period. Therefore, we need society, socialization. When there are faithful and true friends, issues of loneliness usually do not arise.
The main value of friendship is support, understanding and respect for each other
Third example
Man is a social creature. In society, we are raised from childhood, study and meet many other people. These are acquaintances associated with study, work, hobbies, recreation, and travel. But not all of them can be called friends. What does it mean to be a true comrade? And who can be called such a person?
This is the one who understands you. You can always share with him not only everyday things, but also your most intimate thoughts. And all these secrets will remain only between the two of you. He will always listen to you patiently and understandingly, will not make fun when it is inappropriate, and in difficult situations will be able to give good advice, support and help in any way he can.
A true and loyal friend. This is the one who will never have a knife for your back, who will not offend or lie to you. On the contrary, he will always give his hand and be there. You can rely on him and know for sure that all difficulties will be overcome through joint efforts.
It's never boring with a friend. You can always find something exciting to do together. He must be a developed personality, with whom it will be interesting not only to play, but also to learn and explore something.
He will not take advantage of you, for example, wait for you to do some work for him. He will work with you as an equal, so it’s interesting to prepare for lessons with him, come up with projects, make something, create crafts.
It is also a reliable companion. It’s a pleasure to go somewhere with him, for example, to a movie or a concert, go on a hike or travel.
He is a good conversationalist with whom I have a lot in common. It can only be truly interesting with a person who is passionate about the same thing as you. Then you can always discuss an exciting performance or book, share new knowledge, and exchange CDs.
It is important that he be kind, fair, honest, and compliant. He must also respect others.
I have heard many times from different people that there can only be one true comrade . I don't agree with this opinion. The more comrades, the better and more interesting your life. It is no coincidence that the proverb “Don’t have 100 rubles, but have 100 friends” is popular among people.
A true friend is very important and it is a big responsibility. It is not enough to have such a friend, you need to be the same yourself, value friendship and respect your friend. Life without friends is hard, probably even impossible.
Fourth text
On the path of life, each of us meets many different people. Some of them influence us and are remembered positively, and some negatively. There are also those who not only treat us well, but truly touch our souls. These are our friends.
Friendship brings together people with similar preferences, tastes and hobbies. It’s always interesting with friends, especially close ones. Such people must exist and you can meet them both in childhood and in adulthood. But still, I believe that only one can become a true and best friend . And this will be a person next to whom there will be no doubt that they will understand you and support you at any moment. He will not hurt, offend, envy, he will not care about social status and financial situation.
I have such a friend. His name is Andrew. We have known each other for a long time and already hardly remember how we met. It feels like we've always been friends. We always had something to talk about: lessons, cartoons, everything in the world. There was something to keep quiet about. We enjoyed playing and developing together. But in the second grade, Andrei became seriously ill, it was oncology, and it so happened that he disappeared from my life for several years. Later I found out that he was treated for a long time in another city and then studied at home. Meanwhile, my life went on as usual, new friends and even a best friend appeared.
I never thought that our friendship with Andrey would resume. And that we will find each other someday. But in the sixth grade he returned to our school and we immediately became the same friends as several years ago. More precisely, we never ceased to be them, despite the fact that we did not communicate. We started calling each other brother and sister.
And when my friend betrayed me, and no one took my side, only Andrei did not turn away from me. Thanks to him, I survived this situation, solved my problems, once again became convinced that they believed me and understood me, and understood a lot. I always remembered his words that it doesn’t matter which of us is wrong and which is right, he still believes me and is with me, because I am his sister.
I think that friendship is a real gift from life, fate, and higher powers. Now Andrey is my only friend and I am very grateful to him for being there and nearby. I am happy that his family coped with the disease and he is alive. I'm proud of them. And I'm glad that I realized who to trust and who to keep away. I sincerely wish every person such friendship.
Life doesn't get in the way of true friends
Strong friendship stands the test of time, distance and any life circumstances such as family worries and mega-busyness at a super-responsible job. How do they do this? It's simple - each other's friends are always a priority, almost like family members. They skillfully make time in their busy schedules for regular calls, as well as large and small meetings, sometimes even via FaceTime.
True friends are like a rare four-leaf clover: they are very difficult to meet, but if you are lucky, then it is definitely a great happiness! Therefore, if you have already met your friend, “hold” him tighter.
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How to distinguish friendship from courtship, sympathy, manifestations of romantic feelings?
But can you say with confidence that your feelings for your friend are not romantic? Sometimes platonic friendship is difficult to distinguish from love, as well as vice versa: people mistake the strong friendship of two bosom friends for love.
If you doubt the feelings between you and your boyfriend/girlfriend, you should think about and analyze your relationship. Don't rush to jump to conclusions about yourself. Let's talk in more detail about what the concepts of friendship and love are and how to distinguish them from each other. Maybe you should take it to the next level with your buddy? Or should you not risk your friendship by confusing it with a romantic relationship?
A friend is “known in happiness”
No matter how strange it may sound, friendship does not always pass the test of career success, family happiness and material well-being. Envy often gets in the way. It manifests itself in passive-aggressive behavior, distance, and even open anger of someone who finds it “difficult” to accept positive changes in the life of their friend. True friends do not envy, but rejoice with all their hearts and, moreover, are proud of each other’s victories.
Behavior in his/her presence
Do you behave calmly in the presence of a friend or do you feel embarrassed when he appears in your company?
In a friendly relationship, once a friend appears, you feel free, no matter what state you are in, no matter what you look like. You feel comfortable with this person, even if you are wearing a nightie, one slipper, disheveled, with a thermometer and a snot bucket at the ready.
If you are still in love, you try your best to look better than you are. You care about your appearance, you worry whether a friend will like your new jacket or hairstyle. You feel embarrassed when you receive compliments from him; they give you extraordinary feelings of joy and embarrassment.
Writing Features
In an essay on the topic “True Friend” you must use:
- own opinion;
- arguments from life or literature that illustrate the author’s point of view;
- means of artistic expression: metaphors, epithets, exclamations, comparative phrases;
- ability to properly structure work.
At the beginning, it is recommended to use several introductory sentences, the purpose of which is to introduce the reader to the main part of the story. Next comes the reasoning and examples. You can end your essay with a conclusion.
First option
Without friends, our life would be dull and gray. True comrades are people tested by time, troubles and successes . A true comrade has a unique set of qualities: he is kind, loyal, and ready to help at any time. The list can go on for a long time. But a friend cannot be ideal, since there are no such people. But for you he is still the one you need.
However, as soon as you think about how we choose friends in practice, you realize that you are not focusing on desirable character traits at all. There is a more significant feeling - kinship of spirit. We immediately feel good people who can become close and are ready to accept them not only with their merits, but also with their shortcomings. We accept them as they are and do not strive to change them. We value the individuality of these people.
Often bonding occurs after people share difficulties and failures together. In such situations, we open up from a new side, take off our masks and become completely honest. A true friend is very dear and close to the soul. You want to go through everything in the world with him, he finishes your words for you and is immediately there for you when you feel bad.
I'm lucky. I have Dima. We met and became friends in first grade. At first we just played together and had fun. Later they began to share their innermost secrets. Now we have our own company with which we spend time, but the most significant things still remain only between us.
Can I also be called a true comrade? I don’t know, I can’t judge objectively. I know for sure that I try to be attentive and tolerant towards Dima. As soon as he calls me and tells me that something has happened, I immediately go to him and help.
I think friendship is like wine and gets better with age. I am sure that years later we will fondly remember funny situations and our antics. Friends are support and support. Without them it is lonely and dull. I also believe that you can’t have too many true comrades, so you shouldn’t try to be friends with everyone you communicate with. I will definitely pass on my point of view to my children and teach them how to behave correctly with others.
A true comrade is a shoulder to lean on. And I sincerely wish that everyone has such a person, and no one is alone.