I want it to be like in a book... Or in a romantic film... Big, pure and sincere love, based not only on passion, but also on harmony, mutual understanding and a similar worldview. If you dream of spiritual intimacy with your partner or build such a relationship, this article is for you.
In this article:
Destructive types of love are the key to the loss of spiritual connection between partners. Constructive love as the basis of spiritual intimacy in a couple. How to achieve spiritual intimacy with your man?
Definition
Since the emergence of the concept of “love,” it has been interpreted in different ways.
Attempts to express this type of love in concrete or abstract forms are unlikely to be successful. Moral love is the purest form of energy that man projects as a spiritual being. She is free from attachment and expectation, but full of care and mercy; it has a healing power that can change both the “sender” and the “receiver”.
Theologians claim that it is the creative energy that gave birth to us from the Source. Compassion, care, respect, forgiveness - these are the paths by which you can feel, see and recognize the light of love.
The simplicity and complexity of different meanings, coupled with the complexity of human emotions, make this concept difficult to articulate. A person must simply accept that spiritual love exists and is necessary for him. What matters is not how it is explained, but how it is felt: every person feels his inner meaning of love. Philosophers at different times have defined it as:
- spiritual state;
- human achievement;
- harmony of intellect and light in the heart.
This love is pure, unconditional, it forgives and unites. By connecting partners, it flows between their hearts and enhances joint experiences. Moral love is limitless.
Often a romantic experience is the first experience of spirituality, although people do not realize it. With the emergence of addiction, they develop attachment and dependence, a desire to take care of the object of love. Moral love is a selfless feeling for another person. It brings inner peace to those who radiate and receive it.
The main goal of true love is the well-being of the one to whom it is directed. Giving back to the object of love is not as important as being able to give back. This is a more isolated feeling than what we are accustomed to consider love in our everyday relationships.
I. Stage of contemplation
The first stage of love can manifest itself gradually and sometimes unconsciously. It’s just that at some point a person appears in the space around you, subtly different from everyone else. Perhaps this is someone new, or perhaps you have known him for a long time, you just haven’t noticed that something attractive has appeared in him. You watch how he walks, talks, smiles - and something in his eyes, gestures, words seems cute, attractive, unexpected. He is interesting to you; you take a closer look at him, want to know more about him - where he lives, what he does, what he thinks about...
You feel sympathy and some special warmth. Even a chance meeting or conversation with him brings you joy, and you unconsciously or consciously begin to create situations that allow you to see or talk with him more often. You may not be thinking about starting any kind of relationship with him (or her) yet—just watching and trying to find out.
This process may or may not be reciprocal. Perhaps the object of your observation does not even realize that your gaze is fixed on him, and he does not care about you. Or it’s possible that he himself begins to pay attention to you: “Why did he suddenly start looking at me like that? Why did we start seeing him so often? Maybe he needs something from me? Some kind of elusive connection is created between two people - not even a thread, but rather a cobweb.
No one can predict how long this process of contemplation lasts. Sometimes this happens for several days, and sometimes for several years. And one fine moment everything changes.
Spiritual intimacy
Spiritual intimacy is a state in which two or more parties involved experience harmony, joy, understanding and peace. Personal relationships can involve people who are similar in character, worldview, and who emotionally feel the deep connection that unites them. This is a moral union in which people feel comfortable on physical, mental and other levels, realizing that they are internally connected to each other.
There are individuals with whom a connection arises instantly, but there are also those who evoke strong antipathy. Both types of such relationships are called spiritual because the entity either attracts or repels—all beyond our conscious control.
Strong friendships are another manifestation of spiritual intimacy that we encounter in life. Such intimacy is very deep and arouses both positive and negative emotions. The fact that people are mentally related to each other does not mean absolute peace and harmony in their relationships.
True spiritual intimacy is where both parties feel the integrity and completeness of their interaction. It is the harmonization of male and female energy that creates freedom in relationships to unconditionally accept and understand each other. With true moral intimacy, an individual knows how to give or receive without asking or demanding anything.
Most often, the term “spiritual intimacy” is used in relation to married couples and becomes an indicator of the strength of the family. Over the years lived together, the relationship becomes less selfish, the marriage turns into a deeper partnership, and the level of trust and security increases. Communication and conflict resolution skills develop, selflessness becomes more evident, and creative ways of expressing love and romance become available. Relationships go beyond simple physical intimacy and turn into deep moral and spiritual intimacy. But we need to strive for this. The development of such intimacy becomes the basis for:
- long marriage;
- better family functioning;
- satisfaction with family life.
One of the most important components of moral intimacy is interaction with a partner, when people openly discuss their spiritual knowledge, questions and doubts. Open dialogue about moral issues correlates with increased use of collaborative conflict resolution methods.
II. Stage of sympathy
When completing a discovery, a person often describes it as a moment of sudden insight, a flash of light in which everything becomes clear and obvious. It was as if lightning had flashed in the night, revealing all the objects and their details.
So the second stage of love, in many senses of the word, can be called such a discovery. Even if the first stage of love lasted several months or years, a moment of insight comes when you suddenly understand that this person is not just interesting to you: you love him, you need him, he attracts you like a strong magnet. At this moment of understanding the essence of what is happening, the heart begins to open - a feeling of sweet pain appears in it, it rushes towards the person you love, and you can no longer remain silent about your feeling or hide it.
You are no longer just watching him - you are showing your attitude, trying to interest him in yourself, to please him, trying to show him signs of attention, do something for him, let him know about your feelings.
He undoubtedly experiences certain pleasant sensations - even if he has never liked you before or has never noticed you. The love you shower on a person begins to change their life. He becomes happier, more successful, because the flow of your love envelops him and initiates processes of harmony in him. Almost involuntarily he pays attention to the one who radiates it. He looks at you, thinks about what attracted him to you.
But how will he react to your love, will he answer you? It’s good if love is reciprocated, but this doesn’t always happen. In any case, the second stage of love cannot last long because it is like a smoldering fire that either dies out or flares up. If the fire begins to spill out, the third stage of love begins.
Spiritual mother
Being a spiritual mother is a mysterious way to care for souls. This is the type of motherhood that nurtures the divine life in others. Spiritual motherhood is open to all women of different faiths regardless:
- from age;
- social class;
- work activity.
From “Eucharistic Adoration for the Consecration of Priests and Moral Motherhood”: “This type of motherhood is intended not only for married mothers, but also for girls without a husband, a widow or one who is sick.”
Features of energy exchange in a couple
From birth, a man feeds on energy from a feminine source. Initially, this source is his mother. From the first days of life, it is the mother who feeds with her energy, care, care and love. Growing up, the boy learns to set goals and achieve them, and his mother’s energy and support give him inspiration not to give up, to reach his goal and set a new one. Then the first love and relationship with a woman appears, which energetically nourishes and fills throughout life. It is in this filling that the secret of realizing male potential lies. In a union of two lovers, a woman is an energy source - she shows her care both morally and at the level of reason and feeds with her energy.
Thanks to this energy, a man begins to assert himself in life and realize himself in his career, then giving his soul mate love, care for finances, prosperity, and becomes support and support. With such dedication, a man inspires a woman to generate energy again and again. And with proper interaction, such energy exchange becomes constant and stable. But in this case we are not yet talking about an energy connection. Energy exchange occurs, but certain conditions are required for energy communication.
Theological definition
Moral motherhood is a type of motherhood manifested by grace, in the call of women to holiness, in imitation of Mary, the mother of priests. This type of motherhood - in spirit - is made possible through participation in the universal motherhood of Mary.
The nature of moral motherhood is realized in different ways. Many women, both married and unmarried, spend a lot of time caring for people, whether they are related to them or not. Examples of acts of such motherhood are serving in a community:
- training of schoolchildren and students;
- babysitting;
- cooking for the priest;
- washing linens for Mass;
- maintaining order in the church, etc.
The good deeds of moral mothers, expressed in various services, prayers, especially as part of the celebration of the Eucharist, are one of the greatest paths to spiritual motherhood that bears fruit and becomes effective. Some regulatory recommendations for spiritual mothers include:
- full and active participation in Mass and the offering of Holy Communion;
- Eucharistic adoration before the most blessed communion;
- prayer during the liturgy, especially morning and evening prayers;
- prayer of the Holy Rosary;
- personal relationship (during the day);
- job offer and donation;
- performing repentance and compensation for the sins of people.
It is important for people to love and be loved, to achieve moral harmony and spiritual closeness with their partner in order to develop and feel comfortable in a relationship. We wish you to achieve this.
VI. Self-sacrifice stage
People who have reached the sixth stage of love have almost achieved perfection in this relationship. “Almost” - because this stage can be called the dawn before dawn. After the stage of the sixth stage of love has been passed, a person is already given the opportunity to meet his true “soul mate,” his ideal love from the spiritual family.
This stage is also called “lack of motives.” If you start talking about how you love someone because “she’s beautiful and kind” or “she’s successful in her career and perfect in bed” or “he’s rich and looks the best on the beach” or “takes the kids to school and brings me coffee in bed,” then you either don’t know how to express your feelings, or you simply don’t love this person. If you tell a person that you will love him only if he does this or that for you, lives like this, thinks like this, looks like this, gives this, dances in front of you like this, then you are not him. love.
Love does not need any motives, any reasons, or any proof. Love is the energy that comes from a person with the only desire - to bring joy and happiness to his loved one. And here, at the stage of self-sacrifice, a person loves another without any motives.
Here love truly “endures for a long time, is merciful, does not envy, is not proud, does not seek its own, is not irritated, does not think evil...; covers all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things.”
Here you are ready to sacrifice everything for your loved one, even your life - and sometimes you really have to do this. Fate often forces us to undergo trials; and at a certain stage, lovers also have to go through them. At the sixth stage of love, this can be the harshest and most uncompromising test.
Sometimes it can be a serious illness that will require all the dedication and all the patience from her or him. Sometimes you even have to sacrifice your relationship with your loved one. For example, when a person is not your soulmate, and may suddenly lose love for you and go to another person. Are you ready to continue to love him anyway, without any motive, or will you start to hate him?
Sometimes intense love breaks out between a man and a woman, one of whom is married and raising small children. If a lover begins to insist that his partner immediately leave the family and stay only with him, then he creates an unbearably difficult situation for him. If he manages to insist on his own, their relationship will sooner or later collapse anyway. If he has enough love to internally accept the situation as it is, this will become the self-sacrifice that will lead him to the stage of perfection.
But in the sixth stage of love, everything that was created artificially between people is finally destroyed, and only love remains. If you go through this stage, then in your next life you will meet your soulmate, with whom you will always be together and will never be apart.
Why earthly love is always suffering and tragedy
And notice, again everywhere: in various novels, in films, in all media that force stereotypes and encode consciousness - everywhere love is described as suffering, tragedy, something else, that is, it is filled with some kind of experiences and emotions.
Now let's look at what we know about emotions, about suffering and everything else? This is what makes you invest attention. That is, in the literal sense of the word, paying for other people’s scenes or paying for emptiness, simply put. Or, in economic terms, bad business. So it turns out that people are losing their spiritual strength for nothing.
