Version two. It's the smell
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How to understand a man's intentions? Advice from a psychologist According to this version, we, like animals, choose our partners by smell. Allegedly, it is the smell that tells us with which person we have the opportunity to live our whole lives in perfect harmony. However, nature can be deceived with the help of artificial fragrances.
People have used this remedy at all times - in ancient China, Egypt and the Roman Empire, for example, there was a whole science of mixing odors that could attract a man or a woman. It was believed that ladies were attracted to the smell of cedar, patchouli and bergamot, and the stronger sex was crazy about ylang-ylang, rosemary and geranium. Modern scientists have conducted their research and refuted ancient postulates. They measured the level of sexual arousal in volunteers and got amazing results.
It turned out that ladies are turned on by the smell of cucumbers, and men are crazy about the aromas of pumpkin pie. However, artificial flavors can only attract for a while. True affection comes only from the natural scent of the body.
Not only chemistry
Romantics, after reading the research of scientists, may be indignant: how can such a complex concept as “love” be limited to just the chemistry of brain processes? But knowing the recipe for chocolate pie does not discourage us from enjoying its taste. So it is with love. Having lifted the veil of knowledge about hormones and “gene envelopes”, we will not stop falling in love.
Love is not only a physical and chemical process based on hormones, it arises from the depths of our subconscious. It may seem to us that short-term love is just a fleeting feeling. While our brain at this time works hard to bring the body into a state of euphoria in love.
We never know in advance when we will meet our love and start all these complex chemical processes. And no scientific knowledge can help control this process; love cannot be started or stopped at will. This means that there is always a chance to meet your true love.
Signs of a “true” feeling
When two people truly feel love for each other, they will overcome all obstacles and difficulties just to be together. Their relationship is accompanied by a constant struggle for their feelings, despite gossip or other people's speculations. Love settles where understanding and mutual support reign.
A real feeling cannot but be mutual. Such sensations as lust, sexual attraction, passion are just a desire to completely possess someone, dictated by one’s own egoism.
In any circumstances, a truly close person will always be there to support and say comforting words. He will cover your back in the most difficult moments in life. No matter how difficult and difficult it is, you can always find the mental strength to help the person you love.
A woman who is in search of true love will never waste her time on a one-day relationship with a person she is not sure about. She does not need to prove anything with her relationship either to her relatives, or to her acquaintances, or to anyone else.
We become better, prettier and more attractive next to our lover. But you cannot sacrifice anything or do anything that is at odds with your personal interests. Of course, no one will argue that building a family is hard work, but it should not become a burden.
Duty - fulfilling duties
This is the point at which Love begins to be born. Finally, I can see that next to me is not my copy, but a completely different Personality. He has his own character traits, habits, tastes. I no longer strive to take him to my favorite films, but ask what film he wants to watch. I'm starting to see its merits. Moreover, I see my shortcomings. And I understand that I could do more and better for my Beloved. I switch from thinking about what he owes me to thinking about what I owe him. This is where respect is born.
In the same way, doing homework, memorizing forms of verbs, dialogues, texts gives respect for the language. And this is really the first step towards mastering it completely.
Patience
Most often, families with children reach this stage. The spouses begin to understand that something needs to be done about this, since divorce traumatizes the children. And you need to change yourself . So someone begins to work with their egoism and tries to see the individuality of the second spouse. Stops making “something” out of him, tries to see his true “I”. There are also quarrels, but they are already manageable, there is an understanding that you just need to survive and wait out this moment. This asceticism always rewarded.
The stage of learning a language is the same - we stop skipping classes, suppress yawning and try to see the essence in the new language.
