Ivan Vdovin
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Mainly the article will be written for girls. Yes, it happens that people break up. They lived together and separated. Sad or happy? It all depends on the situation. Therefore, we will analyze some cases, both from a positive and negative point of view. In general, what does the psychology of the relationship between a man and a woman depend on after a breakup? Everything depends on the microclimate in their two-way behavior.
What was the relationship like? What did you take from them?
Due to the nature of my profession, I communicated a lot, I would say a lot, with girls. For various reasons, but that doesn't matter. I also talked a lot with girls who were in relationships/married or other types of marriages, but they broke up with men.
Psychologists would NOT want you to know these secrets about yourself
—Imagine this situation...
What if, instead of paying for years for useless consultations with a psychologist, in 21 days you can work with yourself? Get rid of negative thoughts and states forever. And instead live a calm and happy life? Stop living in stress due to relationships or constant lack of money?
Tell me this is impossible?
I thought so too, until I started working with myself
LIVING HAPPY IS EASY
My name is Ivan, I am 35 years old, and I have been practicing psychology for 15 years. I have studied all the basic methods and techniques through which I help people find happiness. NLP, hypnosis, body-image therapy. I was invited on television as an expert.
And it was... just a nightmare!
I lived in a state of depression for 7 years (constant stress exhausted me). I had a lot of low self-confidence (my self-esteem was below 0). I could not calmly communicate with people, it seemed to me that I was not worthy of them.
The relationship did not work out (because I was very negative, jealous, a doormat). I’m generally silent about decent earnings; I earned 15,000 rubles a month and thought that was the limit. I didn’t want to live... Envy.
The worst thing is, I thought I would have to live like this forever, and I don’t deserve love and happiness.
But it only got worse, negative states fell on me like a snowball. It felt like I was sitting in a deep, black hole from which there was no way out. Hopelessness, despair, pain, resentment.
My life has turned into endless torture. But then a miracle happened...
I FOUND THE KEY... EVERYONE HAS IT...
One day my father came home from work, a little drunk, although he never drank much.
He came into the kitchen..., looked at me with a dissatisfied expression and began to say with anger how worthless I was, how I couldn’t do anything, and in general, how sorry he was that he was my father.
At first I felt severe mental pain (this is very painful to hear from my family). Then I got offended (does that mean I’m not a favorite son?!) And then an insight came to me...
I received that magical kick that I had been waiting for all my life. It changed my thinking, my life and my relationships with my environment.
I had already forgiven my father simply because he told me the truth and I was happy about it!
But then the most interesting thing began...
Literally 5 minutes later I was already sitting at the computer and writing out all the psychological (!) methods of working with myself.
I was even confused, because my plans were to continue to suffer all my life.
It was such an incredible feeling of freedom and desire to do something that I burst into tears of happiness.
THE MAIN SECRET OF HAPPINESS
If you think that you cannot change your life, become rich or successful, or create a happy relationship - you are mistaken!
You can change your life by changing your thinking and the main thing is to do it EASILY!
• 5 simple and powerful methods of working with yourself (they work even if you use them incorrectly) - You don’t have to turn to psychologists, you are your own psychologist.
• “The secret method” of working through any negative state. This will allow you to eliminate the negative and switch to the positive in 5 minutes.
• 15 minutes a day - Just 15 minutes a day to change your life 180 degrees. Become happier and more joyful.
• Saving up to 100,000 rubles in 1 year - You will save on trips to a psychologist, and spend the saved money on a vacation by the sea.
• 21 days – It only takes 21 days for you to see changes in your life. You will start smiling. Wake up with joy.
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Depending on what the relationship was like, this will be the aftertaste. You know, although I am an optimist, the percentage of successful relationships where people fit and complement each other is very meager. But if such relationships happen, usually there are no separations, unless, of course, something deep is hidden there, but this happens rarely.
So, if your relationship left much to be desired, then the separation will not be pleasant and most likely for life. But if there was a bit of mutual respect, understanding and other joys in the relationship, then there is every chance that you will not leave each other so easily. Whether this is good or bad is up to you to decide.
What can you do to avoid getting depressed?
Experts who help people cope with personal problems have identified several general rules for overcoming depression. The measures are quite effective in restoring a person’s faith in himself and in the future.
List of recommendations:
- Write down the positive and negative qualities of the second half in two columns. Periodically re-read the column with negative character traits.
- Find a friend who will calmly listen to all your mental anguish. Talk to him, cry.
- Look at your ex-partner as if from the outside. Perhaps he no longer possesses the qualities that were attractive before.
It is important to find an activity that will completely captivate you with its promise and novelty. And also schedule your day minute by minute so that there is no time left for sadness
What kind of relationships are there?
This is a very serious question; by answering it, we will understand what the relationship will be like after separation.
Read more: Psychology of relationships in marriage
Adult - child
Everyone knows about such relationships. Here a child can be either a girl or a man. Whether a relationship is good or not, it all depends on the situation. If everyone likes the roles, then such relationships can last a long time. But there is always a BUT.
According to psychology, a child is, as a rule, an irresponsible person. Usually the child ends such a relationship because he has found a new parent or toy. This person will easily cheat under any pretext.
The most interesting thing is that many parents will not care about this and will try to re-educate their unlucky child. But here, most likely, a break will occur. The child will quickly fly away to the other parent, and the parent will try to restore the relationship.
Tyrant - victim
Usually this is the most trash. But another question is, why does the victim tolerate the tyrant and not leave immediately? The whole essence of sacrifice comes down to tolerating, blaming, and punishing yourself. This is such a mini branch of hell.
A tyrant will never let go of his victim, and the victim will always provoke the tyrant. If the victim does not understand that she is playing the role of a victim and does not want to leave, she will have a hard time. Live in humiliation and complete submission. And yet, in spite of everything, the victim leaves such a relationship, and there are two ways. Either she completely breaks all contacts and never returns, or the tyrant still has enough of asking for forgiveness with the promise that he will completely correct himself.
The victim believes, returns and everything starts anew. It's a vicious circle. In these relationships, you either break up completely and change your attitude towards life, or you live in suffering.
Friends
Friends are not just friends. And relationships are built like friends. You meet, have sex, have something to talk about, have a lot of fun. But it's not a word about love. You just feel good together.
There are two ways to develop such a relationship, either separation because someone wants a more serious relationship, but the other does not want it. On this basis, the initiator will look for another relationship, a more serious one, and will ultimately confront the partner with the fact that they are breaking up. The most interesting thing is that since the relationship is built on friendship, it is possible to continue meeting for sex out of friendship.
Another scenario is if friendship between partners develops into a serious relationship. But here there are two development paths. Either everything is ok and there will be a good family, since relationships are built on trust and respect, and not just on love.
Or relationships built on friendship will not bear the burden of love. It’s like they were friends, but now responsibility appears. Someone's behavior pattern may be disrupted and this may alienate another
Men's feelings during a breakup
How does a man feel when he breaks up? When a woman ends a relationship with her loved one, she begins to feel sorry for herself and become despondent from grief. The colorful world becomes gray, with the joys missing from it. The situation gets worse when the girl becomes depressed due to her worries. Day after day, hysterics, accompanied by an abundance of tears, going through the best moments from the time spent together with the guy. The girls believe that the most difficult period of life has come, from which it is impossible to get out.
