The feeling of melancholy does not leave. Where can I get the strength to live on?

My soul is dreary and chilly, as it happens in the fall in the slush. Like nature, frozen in anticipation of winter hibernation. Cold. Yearning. Loneliness. Hopelessness and emptiness. I don't want to live. Feeling of longing. It seems that all the good things in your life have already happened. And nothing further is expected. Only dull melancholy. Routine. The rustle of days going nowhere.

My soul feels like a stone slab, cold and heavy. I have no strength to carry this weight.

What to do when sadness hits? How to deal with apathy and despair?

System-vector psychology of Yuri Burlan reveals how to get rid of melancholy, depression and depression.

Longing is an emotion. Or a feeling?

This condition sits inside every person, but does not attack everyone. Usually the victims of this are those who are experiencing a certain emotional decline, which is associated with any changes in life and dissatisfaction with the state of things or even with themselves.

This feeling is an emotional state of mind when one feels bitter regret about what is happening, and in addition it is also fueled by a feeling of one’s own insecurity and inadequacy. Longing is an emotion.

A feeling similar to melancholy is sadness. But it should be noted that it does not carry such emotional mood swings. This is just a slight sadness that peacefully coexists with the acceptance of the changes taking place.

There is a beautiful phrase by A.S. Pushkin about this: “I am sad and easy; my sadness is light.” The great poet accurately described such an emotional state (feeling).

Neurosis

Emotional distress, in some cases without apparent causes, is combined in this disease with episodes of increased anxiety, fatigue, inadequate self-esteem, changes in the value system, inconsistency of judgment, emotional lability, tearfulness, sleep disturbances (characteristic drowsiness in the daytime is combined with difficulty falling asleep).

Emotional disturbances in neurosis are combined with physical manifestations:

• pain in the abdomen, chest, headaches; Moreover, when examining the physical causes of the pain syndrome, they are often not found;
• autonomic disorders, up to attacks of extrasystole;
• panic attacks with changes in blood pressure, darkening of the eyes, possible loss of consciousness;
• signs of vestibular dysfunction: difficulty maintaining balance, unsteady gait, episodes of dizziness;
• hypertrophied feeling of fatigue, rapid fatigue even with a slight load, a pronounced decrease in performance, a long recovery period.

With timely diagnosis and adequate treatment, neuroses can be successfully treated.

Longing and loneliness

Loneliness and melancholy are quite closely interconnected. This is due to the fact that if a person is deprived of the opportunity to communicate with his closest friend, then, willy-nilly, he begins to be overwhelmed by a terrible feeling of loneliness, uselessness to anyone, bitter regret about the lost opportunity to communicate and abandonment.

The so-called green homesickness is also often mixed with a feeling of loneliness. In a completely new situation and environment, people often do not find a social circle due to the difference in mentalities (especially abroad).

Boris: “My soul became calm”

Flew headfirst from his motorcycle with a pneumothorax after his clavicle bone punctured the top of his lung. Then I lay on the side of the road and died. At that time, I began to feel like I was falling into some dark pool. Everything around me turned black, and the world, our real world, was rapidly shrinking. It felt like I was falling into an abyss. Sounds were heard somewhere far away. Surprisingly, my soul became completely calm: the pain was gone, and the world just floated by.

What types of melancholy are there?

Simply put, sadness, bad mood, anxiety in the soul - this is melancholy. In psychology, different types of this state of mind are distinguished depending on the reasons. Below we will briefly consider some varieties of this condition.

Longing for a loved one (love). More often this feeling arises due to unrequited love.

When a person knows and understands that they will never be together with their loved one, an incomparable terrible melancholy arises in his heart. This feeling can develop into depression or despair, which is difficult to cure unless the person himself wants to regain the joy of life.

Also, many people experience pain, an oppressive melancholy feeling, disappointment and even despair when a loved one leaves for distant places and for a long time.

Existential angst. Such melancholy is a person’s state during the period of searching for the meaning of life. This usually happens at moments of transition from one age category to another. After all, the old principles of life are already outdated, and new ones have not yet arisen. A person tries to analyze what he has achieved, what he has done in life. And if dreams diverge from results or there is simply no feeling of satisfaction from everything done, a crisis arises, accompanied by existential melancholy.

Adrenaline melancholy. What's this? If a person was actively involved in sports, social life, that is, constantly working on himself, and then found himself out of work, adrenaline melancholy arises. In this case, you definitely need to find a new activity for yourself, but at the same time, perhaps, lower the bar of requirements.

There is another type of this type of melancholy - hangover syndrome. During this period, a person experiences a loss of control over emotions and a certain feeling of guilt. As a rule, an alcoholic tries to get rid of melancholy without any help by using another portion of alcohol. This is how binge drinking occurs.

Homesickness, homesickness. People often feel sad and homesick. This is due to the fact that there are no old friends nearby, no familiar surroundings. Another way of life, another culture.

This feeling eats away at the soul. It destroyed many talented people who, for various reasons, emigrated from their country. Famous poets, writers, composers, artists, and actors abroad lost their talent, gift and inspiration.

Longing for the past (past). This is one of the most common states of mind. It is very difficult to accept and realize that the past is irrevocable. Sadness, longing for this time is the cause of the corresponding painful experiences.

Vital melancholy. This state of mind is characterized by depression, apathy, and lack of interest in life for almost no reason. In addition, such melancholy can even be accompanied by pain in the chest and heart. Simply put, in this case it’s like there’s a stone on my soul. This is typical for people who are deeply depressed.

Mortal melancholy. This is the most difficult psychological condition. He is prone to thoughts of death or even suicide. This is a rather extreme state of apathy.

Russian melancholy. This feeling, which is a form of depression, is accompanied by sad thoughts about the fate of the people and their homeland, and feelings about approaching bad events.

Winter melancholy. Especially in autumn, when there is little sunlight and the body lacks vitamins, it is difficult for a person to adapt to such environmental changes. As a result, melancholy develops. This is otherwise called winter depression.

Vegetative-vascular dystonia

With this disease, a melancholy state is combined with vegetative disorders:

• rapid heartbeat, extrasystole;
• increased sweating;
• feeling of hot or cold flashes;
• cardialgia, burning, feeling of pressure in the chest;
• burning sensation in various parts of the body.

The melancholy-anxious state is especially pronounced in vegetative-vascular dystonia after a panic attack or when pain occurs.

Many symptoms of this disease require differential diagnosis with somatic pathology.

Causes of melancholy

It is believed that the expression “green melancholy” originated with landowners. One of the gentlemen all the time, going out onto his porch, saw nothing but a green landscape. As a result, he gradually began to yearn for the bright “living” life.

Here are some reasons for sadness and longing:

• loss of spirit after victories and defeats;
• a person does not know why he needs to move forward - lack of meaning in life;
• falling into a certain comfort zone from which he sees no way out;
• the emergence of laziness, boredom, routine, apathy (at least one of these components is enough to provoke a terrible blues);
• restlessness of the soul (conscience is burdened with something deeply contrary to its own internal attitudes).

All these reasons are primarily due to mental inaction or physical inaction. It's worse when both moments are present.

Timur: “Just in case, I said to the sun: “Farewell!”

“I ended up on the operating table after an unsuccessful sled ride as a child. A coat and T-shirt pierced on a living body, really bloody holes, pieces of wood that were behind the sled sticking out of my stomach, a state of shock and 7 hours of surgery. Nothing special, I remember before the operation they gave me an injection into a vein, I looked out the window and saw the sun. Just in case, I told him: “Goodbye” and began to wait for the effect of the anesthesia. It hurt, and I thought to myself: I’d rather be in the dark and not feel anything. Even now I’m afraid to ask how my parents felt.

Ways to get rid of melancholy

1. Be sure to do something (physical labor, sports, hobbies, intellectual activity).
2. Strengthen fortitude (inner core).
3. Decide on the meaning of life. It will be better if there are several goals, because possible failure in one direction can be compensated for by success in another.
4. Do not allow stagnation in the soul. Laziness, boredom, apathy and routine should definitely be swept away.
5. Find the strength to make peace with yourself. Anyone can make mistakes that have a right to exist. You should never regret what you have done before, and you should try to love yourself.

In the dictionary D.N. Ushakova

TOSKA, melancholy, plural. no, female Strong mental anguish, mental anxiety combined with sadness and boredom. Homesickness. Feel sad. To make or make me sad. “And a strange melancholy is already pressing in my chest.” Lermontov. “Her chest was constricted with melancholy.” Pushkin. “I will perish from melancholy and laziness.” Fet. “There is an oppressive melancholy in my heart.” Chekhov. “He was overcome by unbearable melancholy.” Goncharov. “I was overcome with a feeling of loneliness, melancholy and horror.” Chekhov. “I will make you sad.” Goncharov. “I look at the past with longing.” Lermontov. “The melancholy of love drives Tatyana, and she goes into the garden to be sad.” Pushkin. Dying melancholy.| Boring boredom mixed with disgust (colloquial). It makes me sad to look at him, he is so thin and pale. This book makes me sad.| About what causes such a condition (·simple ·fam.). This book is a complete bore. Listening to his nonsense is just boring.

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In Vasmer Max's dictionary

melancholy dreary “dreary”, blr. toskníts “to yearn, to grieve”, Old Russian. taska “embarrassment; grief, sadness; anxiety, excitement” (Srezn. III, 1057), tslav. състъзнѫти ἀγανακτεῖν, Czech. teskný “fearful”, tesklivý “fearful, dreary”, slvts. tesklivý, Old Polish. teskny, teskliwy, along with sknu, ckliwy, Polish. tęskny, with a secondary nasal (see Los, Gr. polska 1, 27). Praslav. *tъska; the nasal cannot be reconstructed on the basis of late Polish. forms, contrary to Mikkola (Berühr. 171; BB 22, 254), Vondrak (BB 29, 211), Pedersen (KZ 38, 395); see Elk, ibid., 60. Possibly, associated with skinny; see Brückner 570; Golub – Kopechny 383 et seq.

In Dahl's dictionary

and. (cramp?) oppression of spirit, languor of soul, painful sadness; mental anxiety, anxiety, fear, boredom, grief, sadness, heartache, grief. Homesickness sometimes turns into a physical illness, with a debilitating fever. Melancholy takes in looking at him and bothers him. Mad melancholy! out of boredom, idleness. A lot of melancholy attacked, song, olon. How an evil melancholy lay in my heart, the song. Drink - the melancholy will pass! There is not a piece of bread, there is melancholy everywhere (approx. There is a land of bread, and there is paradise under the spruce tree). I was so sad that I wouldn’t let go of the piece! It’s beautiful, but my stomach is sad. To yearn, sit down. novg. olon. arch. to be sad and sad, psk. hard vomit app. to ache for something in your soul, to be very sad, to be bored, to grieve inconsolably, to be withered in heart, to grieve, to languish; | to suffer from pain, to suffer from bodily illness. The mother misses her son, and the wife misses and misses her husband. On Theodora, the dead yearn for the earth, January 26. Longing, action. or condition according to verb. Dreary, prone to melancholy, yearning. | Dreary weather is music that instills melancholy or boredom. - a look of sadness and joylessness. The patient groans sadly. It's a sad tune. -ness, property, condition according to adj. A yearning person, -nitsa, yearning, -nya, who yearns greatly for a long time. | Toscugna, eagle. Kaluga Kryatun raven, Russian thief. Get bored old. (Academy Dictionary: strive, try; it seems more correct) to yearn for something, sadly, jealously seek something. It makes me sick to die for the Russian land, chronicle. To hang around, psk. impersonal to yearn, to be bored. Something makes me sad.