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Hello, dear blog readers! Today I decided to raise a useful topic, how to live and develop without goals, while constantly getting the desired results and being happy.
What is a goal?
You've probably heard this?
– life without a goal is a meaningless existence, it is a path to nowhere. A goal is an image or desire to achieve a certain result. When a person sets a goal, he captures his desire in an image in order to achieve it in the future through certain actions.
The goal helps to create the desired vector of life movement and get what you want.
What problems do goals pose?
When a person sets a goal, tension arises in his brain.
The tension itself does not have a negative impact, but problems and disappointments occur when failures occur on the way to the goal. Strong people do not pay attention to these failures and go towards the goal. Their spirit is strong and often problems and failures only fuel them, and they act even more confidently. But such people are few and developing fortitude is not so easy for most.
Almost everyone who encounters failure accumulates stress within themselves, which affects their life, relationships with people, health, etc.
Achieving goals is a game that most people are not ready to play. And strong people also do not always get the desired results.
Life without a goal is essentially the fate of a victim, controlled by anyone but you. How to get out of the situation if you are not a leader, achieving goals is always difficult for you, but you want to live in joy and happiness?
Signs of a lack of determination:
- Waste of time. Frequent and prolonged “hanging out” in front of the TV and on social networks is a clear sign of idleness.
- Habit of complaining. Focusing on the negative aspects of life takes a lot of energy. For people who are unable to thank and notice the good, usually “the cart is still there.” People who are used to complaining don’t even try to change anything. The essence of this problem is clearly described in the parable about a dog whining on a nail, which never even tried to get up from it.
- Communication with people who “pull you down”. Do you spend a significant part of your time with people who take away your energy and time and give nothing in return? The essence of this problem can be explained with the help of a wise saying: “If you don’t have your own goal in life, then you will work for someone who does.”
- Buying unnecessary things is a sign that people don't know what they want.
- Dissatisfaction with one's own life. If you are not familiar with the feelings of success and satisfaction, then most likely you did not really want to achieve them.
How to live without a goal and still develop and get results
To live without goals and at the same time not only get what you want, but also constantly develop and reveal your talents, you need to understand your direction in life. Those. you must understand what in general you want from life. Do you want to develop your creative abilities or want to develop in the area of increasing income or gaining new abilities or something else.
A goal is the achievement of something, and the development of a direction in life is the constant improvement of oneself in some area.
On the way to achieving a goal, there are always problems that need to be overcome and this takes a lot of vital energy and time. On the path of development in the right direction, there is practically no such thing.
For example, you want to develop superpowers. You start reading relevant books, meeting the right people, practicing various techniques and practices.
There is no stress or disappointment here, but constant development and improvement. Each new step brings some results, a person gains new skills and life becomes interesting and exciting.
Imagine that instead of the goal of obtaining superpowers, a person would set himself the goal of learning to levitate. He would live for many years in the stress of not being able to do this. During this time, he would probably have acquired some illnesses and problems. Such a goal is like a carrot in front of one’s nose, which seems to be visible, but it is impossible to get it, because the person is in illusions.
Of course, on the way to the goal, a person also develops and it is wonderful to set and achieve goals, but this path is not for everyone.
Or you can simply follow your life path, fill every day with meaning, and enjoy this path. When a person follows his own path, his life turns into happiness, and when he sets goals, he gets tension and stress .
Living without goals is essentially learning to listen to your intuition and live in an intuitive flow. This is a wonderful and joyful state.
When development occurs, more joy appears. When I abandoned the goal of earning more money and left almost all enterprises (there was remote work), when I began to go in my own direction and develop, joy began to flow and happiness became even greater. At the same time, I am constantly developing and enjoying the process of self-development. I set small goals, but I don't obsess over them or put a time limit on them.
And one moment. Achieving goals brings short-term happiness, and the process of development in the right direction is usually filled with happiness.
Goals take lives and that's a fact. Goals are the future, and you live in the present. Many people live by goals, and they have no present, no life that goes by very quickly. As they say, he lived his life, but there was no life.
How to gain determination?
- Set a goal! Think about what you would like very much? Make it a goal and achieve it. Important! The goal must be desirable, so that your knees tremble and your hands itch.
- Every evening, make a plan for tomorrow that is as interesting as possible and always in writing. This way you will organize your life and see what you have achieved.
- Complete unfinished business . Put things in order around you: throw away everything unnecessary, solve all the “protracted matters” and fulfill all your promises. They take a lot of energy and make you feel despondent.
- Play sports. It will help you become more active and gain self-confidence. Physical activity stimulates the production of endorphins, which can make a person happy.
- Limit communication with critical and dissatisfied people . Learn to walk away from those from whom you have nothing to learn and with whom you have nothing left in common.
- Before the New Year, make a global plan for the year and periodically check in: are you moving there and are you moving at all?
- Start stepping out of your comfort zone and do what you're afraid of. Try to live differently: go to work a different way, go to an unfamiliar cafe, buy new cosmetics, cook dinner according to a new recipe.
- Don’t forget to take a break, from the Internet and people as well. Sometimes it is useful for a person to be alone and gain strength.
- Connect with passionate people. The saying “whoever you mess with, you’ll get rich from” has a deep meaning. Reach out to active people and absorb as much positivity as possible.
- Read motivational literature and watch inspiring films. If you spend time in front of the TV, then spend it usefully.
- Think about how much of your life is wasted. Get angry at your irresponsibility. Anger is a very powerful energy that can move you into action. Your task is to direct it in the right direction.
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How to find out your life direction?
There is a very simple way to find out your life direction or, if you want, your purpose, your business. This is the method of doing nothing. All you need is to take food for a few days and retire.
Turn off your phone and be alone for a few days (at least 3). There is no need to do anything at this time. Neither read books, nor communicate with anyone, nor watch TV or sit at the computer.
Only complete loneliness and immersion in your thoughts and feelings. At the same time, there must be an attitude through solitude and reflection to understand in which direction you need to move.
That's all. Find your direction in life and develop in it!
| Author of the article, Lyubomir Borisov |
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Aimless life kills
Japanese scientists conducted a large-scale study. Employees of the Medical University of Japan observed 43 thousand people aged 40 to 79 years. The observation was carried out for 7 years. Approximately 59% of those observed stated that they had clear life goals and led an active lifestyle. 5% answered that they do not have clear life goals.
Over the 7 years of the study, about 3 thousand people from the observed group died. As follows from the analysis of statistical data, people who do not have a goal in life are one and a half times more likely to die than their purposeful fellow tribesmen. At the same time, the risk of dying from a cerebral stroke among aimless people was twice as high as
Doctors and psychologists agree that a purposeless life
kills people, if not physically, then spiritually. The lack of goals leads to the fact that people begin to waste their lives - go to nightclubs, have unprotected sex with prostitutes, constantly play online games, suffer from alcohol and the use of all kinds of illegal substances.
The rich and successful have goals, the poor do not.
There is no point in dreaming about wealth and success without even thinking about the goal.
Lack of goals leads to poverty and a dead end. That's it, the end of life and then a midlife crisis.
There is nothing worse than regretting a wasted life.
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