Modern society suffers from irritability and aggression, all this is routine life in a hurry and without respite. Quite a large number of people live in a state of aggression, irritability, depression and don’t even know what to do about it if they’re tired of everything. Any episodes of manifestation of these states can be attributed to the world around us; after all, it may be a matter of the person’s lifestyle itself. Sometimes even small trifles irritate and enrage, nothing brings joy, people and everything around irritate. People in a state where everything infuriates them and they are fed up, incur huge psychological problems, which often only a psychotherapist can help them cope with.
What to do if you're fed up and tired of everything?
Sometimes people ask this question every day; a person may be aware of the specific reason for his condition, or the reason for his hatred of others may be unconscious. Often, a person’s fatigue from worries and daily inventing life goals leads precisely to a state of annoyance and irritation. In such an environment, you can get angry at absolutely everything: people, public transport schedules, store assortment, weather, government, even your own behavior. A person with such a rhythm of life spoils his relationship with the people around him, even with his loved ones, the most important ones, conflicts at work, everyone gets tired of him, and even the subject himself.
The state of being fed up with everything and tired of everything is accompanied by the lowest emotional emotion – irritability. Thus, anger, anger or surges of aggression tend to break out, a person experiences these emotions and gets rid of them in a timely manner. Irritability is an emotion that tends to stretch out, lasts a long period of time, it is like charcoal - it will smolder for a very long time. The reasons for the occurrence of a state where everything is fed up and tired are often increased stress on the individual’s psyche, the consequences: family troubles, problems with friends, at work, all this reboots and drains our nervous system.
Violation of the adequate functioning of the human nervous system leads to disturbances in the mental state and the occurrence of increased irritability of the individual. Immediately at this moment, everything infuriates and bothers you, even the rustling outside the window or behind your back. A fundamental role in the period when everything is fed up and infuriating can be played by emotional overstrain, fatigue at work, lack of sleep, dreams that have already come true, lack of rest, sexual dissatisfaction, and hormonal disorders. The manifestations of such a state occur in each individual in their own way: someone, actively gesticulating, expresses their state by changing their vocal tone (sharp transitions from a high tone to a low one), someone flares up like a match at absolutely the slightest provocation, someone restrains everything emotions in himself, tries to avoid others, always grumbles. The consequences of such a nervous disorder can be catastrophic for the individual.
When looking for a solution to problems with irritability, you should often contact a psychotherapist. The essence is the emergence of a state when everything is fed up and infuriates you, it can be hidden in dreams that have already come true, after the fulfillment of which, the meaning of life is supposedly lost. A person, dreaming about something, experiences an incredible feeling of satisfaction and a thirst for life, realizing that this dream will certainly come true. After experiencing success and the excitement of a forgotten dream, a period of emptiness sets in, as if something was stolen from a person’s life. The subject feels the need for a new goal, and begins to invent it; having achieved it, he again feels upset. This whole path to the implementation of the plan, of course, contributes to the improvement of the personality, its development, helps to become more successful, more purposeful, but it always leads the person to a dead end - when everything infuriates and gets boring. What should I do? You need to come up with a dream that you should strive to achieve throughout your life, and all the small goals that have been achieved along the way to the grandiose dream will be like steps to success. And a subject on the path to greatness will not perceive the satisfaction of these goals as a disappointment, but will perceive it as experience and another plus to success. It is important that this grandiose goal becomes the meaning of life for you, captivates you and pushes you to move forward.
A person, a creature for whom something is never enough, he always strives to achieve more and more. If you lack the desire and ability to achieve your goal, analyze what you have and love it. Many people around you don't even have a fraction of what you have. A person should learn to be happy that he has achieved something and that he has the opportunity to achieve even more. As the subject's capabilities increase, the number of needs also increases. Accordingly, it is easier to learn to enjoy life by limiting yourself to something not so important.
Forget about magic kickoffs
From childhood we are taught that inaction is always bad. Laziness is a vice, idleness is a sin, procrastination is the lot of losers. And no matter how bad it is, you need to get your butt off the couch, get out of your comfort zone, work, engage in self-development, be active and productive. It is not surprising that, having fallen out of a resourceful state, the first thing a person does is begin to blame himself for it.
Next comes attempts to force oneself to work, punish for inaction and stimulate oneself with threats. All of these are types of negative motivation. HR expert Daniel Pink argues that neither punishment, nor intimidation and pressure, nor the carrot and stick approach works in the long term. On the contrary, this approach leads to the fact that a person no longer sees the meaning in what he is doing.
The very existence of laziness as a vice or negative character trait in the modern world is being questioned.
Some experts say Laziness Does Not Existthat laziness does not exist at all. Others believe that it is a defense mechanism that saves us from overwork. Behind inaction there can be a whole tangle of reasons and feelings: fear of failure, lack of motivation, fatigue or illness, and, ultimately, a banal reluctance to do what is needed.
If you fall out of a resourceful state, you should think about taking a break and resting, as far as circumstances allow. Or switch to a kind of energy saving mode and do only the most necessary things, and postpone all other tasks until better times or delegate them to loved ones, friends and colleagues.
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