If a lover truly loves his mistress, signs: advice from psychologists

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How can you ultimately leave your wife to be with your beloved mistress?

Husbands do not leave their wives for their mistresses - such statistics seem favorable for those who are considered official spouses. However, there are times when the mistress defeats the wife. A man wants to leave for his mistress, but cannot leave his wife. The men's website masculino.ru will tell you what to do in a situation where a husband has fallen in love with his mistress.

Why does cheating happen? This question has been asked many times by both women and men themselves. However, it is impossible to explain what happens at the level of feelings. If a person acts on emotions, then his actions are sometimes impossible to explain; one can only refer to his emotions. Why can a man fall in love with his mistress? Perhaps this question will be of more interest to wives.

A mistress starts when a man no longer receives something important in his official relationship. Some men are looking for passion and fresh feelings, others strive for a variety of sex, and others simply want relaxation and a relationship without obligations. Sometimes a man already forgets so much about his masculinity in marriage that he wants to prove to himself that he is capable of something.

Relationships with your wife can develop very smoothly, calmly and even too monotonously. Over time, even this may not suit a man who suddenly wants romance, a storm of feelings and passion. At first, a man may enjoy the calm life of his marriage, and then want something that has long been a thing of the past. If a man wants to “shake off the old days,” then he can take a mistress.

Cheating happens often. And many wives here are happy with only one thing: husbands rarely leave for their mistresses, because they understand that life with them will be no better than with official partners. However, sometimes husbands still fall in love with their mistresses, so much so that wives begin to worry and be unsure of the safety of their marriages.

Recognizing a lover's feelings for a woman

The union of a married representative of the stronger sex with his mistress has always been condemned by those around him. He is scolded for betraying his wife because of his lust, and the homewrecker for interfering with the family. But how do you know if this is just a passing passion or is it much more serious?

You can recognize the presence of feelings on the part of your partner based on several aspects:

A man lies to his wife - every time he gets ready to meet his mistress, the man will come up with new stories. At the same time, over time, his stories will, alas, not be very original. He is not afraid of hurting his wife, but fears that they won’t wait for him there.
A man lies to his mistress - but not in order to deceive her into leaving her in his bed, but because he does not want to reject her and cause pain. Having felt a sincere attitude towards them, lovers often begin to demand some changes in the existing love triangle. The lover is not always ready to act decisively and rashly, due to various circumstances related to children, common property, etc.
A man lies to himself - he thinks that he has the situation under control. In most cases, this is far from true. As a rule, a man runs in circles from one woman to another, and stress develops related to work and other matters. The situation can be far from under control, but the man confidently lies to himself about his superiority and intelligence in lying to both his wife and his mistress.

The more persistently a mistress demands a divorce from a man, the more often he begins to move away from her. This is due to the reluctance to change your usual life, to sacrifice comfort and coziness in the home.

It's not always possible for a man to keep a love triangle under control.

Famous men who left their family for their mistress9

The most beautiful and seductive women always hover around famous men, whose charm is simply impossible to resist. Their desire to get a tasty morsel in the form of a celebrity is so strong that the man simply has no choice. So, the most famous unfaithful husbands who left their families for their mistress:

Angelina Jolie, Brad Pitt and Jennifer Aniston - In 200, the famous actor left his wife for Jolie’s beautiful eyes, however, this union of the star couple turned out to be impermanent.

Mary Elizabeth Winstead and Ewan McGregor, an actor couple, are famous for keeping their relationship secret for a long time, but after their secret became public, Evan had to get a divorce. But for some reason his mistress did not appreciate such an act, and she left her hapless partner.

Dominic Joker left his wife and children for The Voice contestant Ekaterina Kokorina. But, according to his ex-wife, only children who rarely see their father suffer from the divorce.

Alexander Ustyugov, who became popular after the TV series “Cop Wars,” was once married to actress Yanina Sokolovskaya. After the relationship had exhausted itself, the actor became interested in another actress, Anna Azar, with whom he married.

Fyodor Bondarchuk and Paulina Andreeva. One of the most scandalous celebrity divorces. After 30 years of marriage with his wife Svetlana, Bondarchuk left his wife for the sake of a young actress. Interestingly, their romance began even before the director’s divorce.

Evgeny Tsyganov is a fairly popular actor who, after a ten-year marriage, did not hesitate to leave his wife with 7 children. Evgeniy's new wife was actress Yulia Snegir. By the way, Tsyganov does not forget his children and often visits.

Probably, one can even feel sorry for celebrities, because if an ordinary man has to make so much effort not to cheat, then what is it like for them to constantly be in the company of the most attractive ladies? In addition, men who are in love with their mistress often risk not only their family relationships, but also their work, career and reputation. One wrong step and all prospects will be ruined. However, the future of any traitor can be covered with the same basin, even yours...

The main signs of falling in love

When a man is interested and important to a woman, he will not disappear for a long time, not call or be interested in her life. On the contrary, he will strive every free minute, when he is outside the walls of her house, to find out how she is doing. How can you understand that your lover has truly fallen in love and has not started another affair on the side?

There are a number of main signs that indicate a man is in love:

A special look reveals a male in love. Maintaining eye contact for a long time indicates that he is pleased to enjoy the woman he is with.
Facial expressions and gestures that a man uses when he is alone with his mistress. His knees, hands, head are always directed towards his partner.
A man listens carefully and remembers everything his mistress says. Equally important is a sincere interest in your partner’s existing hobbies.
He doesn’t disappear for several days, he always calls and writes messages.

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Is it possible to love your wife and mistress at the same time?3

According to psychologists, it is impossible to love two people at the same time. Love is an absolute passion for another person, when all interest in other individuals of the opposite sex is lost. However, there are many concepts that can replace the feeling of love. For example, it could be sex or passion.

Sex involves purely physical attraction. Passion is a very vivid but short-lived feeling when you want to spend a lot of time with the object of your desire and enjoy his presence. Such essentially close concepts can mislead a man and make him doubt his own feelings. It is important to understand that there is no love without sex and passion, but sex and passion can exist completely separately from love.

The seriousness of the lover's intentions

A man's falling in love does not always indicate his intention to take a step towards his feelings and divorce his wife. That is why it is worth paying more attention to his behavior and words.

If a lover truly loves his lover, the signs will be obvious, the changes will be noticeable both within the couple and for those around him.

The seriousness of a married man’s intentions can be judged not only by his desire to possess his mistress entirely. There are other significant manifestations. Among which, an important place is occupied by the fact that he does not hide his adventures from his wife, since he is not afraid of losing her.

At the same time, the man does not make an independent choice, but gives the reins of power to his legal spouse. Which, in the end, will stop tolerating such humiliation and will leave the cheater herself.

Still, how to understand that a lover loves his mistress, and does not just want to take revenge, to annoy his wife. Another significant sign that a man is seriously interested in his mistress is that he begins to go with her to cafes, restaurants, and cinemas. He also introduces her to his friends, who are aware of his marital status.

Gradually starting to fall in love even more, he begins to live the life of his beloved, trying to be an integral element of it.

Not always making a marriage proposal, presenting an expensive ring, a man really wants to leave his wife. Some simply try to keep their mistress near them longer, and “blur their eyes” with promises.

A man who has decided to take his relationship with his lover to a new level is not afraid to appear with her in public places

She dreams of a family

This type of mistress is the most unpleasant. They can be characterized as follows: he just said “hello”, and she already mentally married him and gave birth to three children. When such a woman enters a room, she seems to scan everyone present with her eyes in search of the ideal candidate. She is constantly searching until she gets hooked on someone. And it doesn’t matter to her whether her chosen one is married, because she is looking for love in the sense in which she understands.

This one will strive to literally devour your husband. She calls annoyingly, tries to spend all her free time and weekends with him. At some point, her obsession will begin to irritate.

But if you and your husband have a breakdown in your relationship, then she will literally insert herself into it like a wedge. And he will try to do everything to win over your husband.

How to identify her

Such women can be recognized by the look of a “half-milked cow.” She smiles flirtatiously at all men, and arrogantly brushes aside other women. If, upon meeting you, you wanted to pick up a heavier frying pan and move it across your face so that an imprint remains, then you have identified it.

She is not dangerous to you if your husband sees that she has an uneven attitude towards all men in general. If you pay attention to her behavior, then from a catwoman with a fluffy tail she will turn in his eyes into a shabby gray mouse.

But if nature has awarded her with impressive secondary sexual characteristics, then she will still attract attention. But, most likely, then more sadness will appear in her eyes. After all, men have probably used her gullibility and desire to start a family more than once for their own selfish purposes.

How to deal with it

It is difficult to fight such a special one. She is always sweet, good, and in a great mood. And the worst thing is that she praises your husband to the skies. And he is overwhelmed with happiness on his homemade Olympus.

So if he has not left yet, and you want to keep him, then you will need to start working on yourself. Become better, more attractive. You will have to put in a lot of effort to become better than her.

But is it worth it? Together you will spoil your husband. He will be flattered that for his sake 2 women are competing to stay with him. It is likely that your husband will relax in such a situation and stop working on your relationship.

For a mistress, subservient behavior in front of a man is normal. It is more important for her to get the coveted stamp in her passport, serve her husband and be an exemplary wife. Endure everything and endure everything. After all, being a woman, or rather, a wise woman, is not easy. But she is ready to do anything to be right.

With such a wife, a man will feel comfortable and comfortable. After all, she will do everything impossible so that he does not leave her.

How to build relationships correctly

Even if a married lover fell in love with his mistress, the signs confirm this; the situation does not always end with a happy ending. He may truly experience strong feelings, but still not decide to leave the family.

In order to marry, a male needs to make sure that he makes the right choice. The correct behavior of your loved one can help with this.

It is worth learning to build personal relationships step by step, forgetting about the arrogant “assault”.

You can get recognition from a married person after a clearly developed algorithm used in building relationships:

There is a reason for everything, and also the betrayal of a husband hides certain events, secrets, resentments or dissatisfaction. The mistress should carefully inquire about this aspect.
You should never endure insults and live on promises. It is better to end such a relationship immediately.
Having clearly decided for herself that the status of a mistress is not suitable, a woman should openly talk about this with her partner.
You should not speak too aggressively about your wife, and especially about the children of the marriage.
It will be important to show care, understanding and the same old tenderness and other qualities for which the married man was able to fall in love.

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There's a spark between them

You have been married for several years. Love your husband with a calm, respectful love. You feel good and comfortable together. If there was passion in the relationship, it has already cooled down and has been replaced by affection and mutual respect.

Your husband had no plans to cheat on you. But he met someone else, passion took them over. He fell in love and lost his head.

Most likely, you have noticed before that you and your husband are different people. But we decided not to seek passions for ourselves. He is a good person, you appreciate and respect him. What else is needed for a prosperous family life?

How to identify her

If you find yourself in a room where she and your husband will be, you will notice that the air is literally melting between them. As they approach each other, sparks are about to fly in all directions. They may not notice anyone around, the whole world has narrowed around them.

His usual movements, facial expressions, gestures, and intonation change. You look at him and don't recognize him. Or you find out, but sadly note that he was like that at the very beginning of your relationship, and now...

If you haven’t seen her, then you feel a change in your husband. His mood changes. He becomes sad if he does not see or communicate with her for a long time. He takes every opportunity to write or call her. And, naturally, he hides it from you. Now he has more restrictions on you. It is unlikely that he will voluntarily give you his phone number.

Someday you will find traces of her presence in your shared car; her hair and the smell of perfume may remain on her husband’s clothes.

Your intimate life will also change. Your husband will avoid intimacy in every possible way, and at such moments it will seem that he is not with you mentally.

How to deal with it

It is useless to fight it, especially until passions subside. Then it will be clear what their relationship will turn into. Maybe they will see that they are not suitable for each other and go their separate ways. Then your husband will return to you with a feeling of guilt.

Or passion will turn into love. They are made for each other. You will have no choice but to retreat and, if possible, maintain a normal relationship with your husband. Start rebuilding your life without him. Unfortunately, or perhaps fortunately, your relationship is ending right now.

Don't take failure in your family life personally. After all, you did the right thing. Passion is an unreliable advisor in relationships. You used common sense. And he might never have met her.

Then you would live peacefully and safely into old age together. But would you be happy or at some point would you suddenly realize with horror that you had lost so many years with a good, but step-by-step person? It's better this way.