He tells too much.
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He was betrayed by his wife, has problems with taxes, owes a lot of money and has a drinking problem. It is very strange to hear such intimate information from a person whom you have known for only 5 minutes, or even less. It is revelations like these that tell us how to recognize a psychopath.
What happens: Full disclosure is a desire for empathy and a compulsion for intimacy. A person is trying to make an impression, to attract attention.
Concepts such as “personal information”, “secret” and “shame” are poorly understood by this type of interlocutor.
What is psychopathy
In modern medical literature, the term “psychopathy” is not used. It was replaced by the concept of “personality disorder”. It was proposed to abandon the outdated terminology due to the fact that this name is negative.
Psychopaths lack many of the human feelings: empathy, gratitude, sympathy
Psychopathy is a personality abnormality. With this disease, the behavior of the sick person changes depending on the form of the disorder.
With psychopathy, there are no symptoms of brain damage, which indicates that the patient has developed intelligence. Psychopaths are primarily selfish, for whom it is important to be the center of attention. In such individuals, leadership qualities coexist with emotional imbalance.
Experts cannot definitively answer whether personality disorder is a mental illness. They evaluate this state as the line between a pathological state of mind and a healthy one.
But psychologists clearly agree on one thing - this condition requires treatment.
He repeats "confidential" information that he has already shared with you.
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Do all the stories listed above still sound like they're happening for the first time? Well, maybe a person has a bad memory. Or maybe he simply has nothing left to impress and is trying to repeat his past success.
What happens is that you are not valued as a listener. Psychopaths and narcissists are dependent on people's reactions and attention. The incredible stories you heard have probably been told thousands of times by this man to thousands of people.
In such abundance, it is difficult to remember who and what you told, and especially what and how you lied in your story. When hearing about another “feat” for the 4th time, know that you are not being singled out from the crowd of onlookers. You are just another ear, from which delight or surprise is expected, nothing more.
Causes of psychopathy
Statistics indicate that 2% of the world's inhabitants suffer from psychopathy. Of the total number of patients, the male part of the population accounts for 80% of the sick.
If a wife wants to leave her psychopathic partner, she should not succumb to feelings of guilt.
At the same time, people with personality disorders are often very successful and occupy leadership positions. Doctors cannot name the exact cause of the development of the disease.
But risk factors include:
- birth injuries;
- heredity;
- infectious diseases suffered in childhood;
- the occurrence of hypoxia during intrauterine development;
- excessive care of loved ones;
- psychological shock at an early age;
- long stay away from family or upbringing in a government institution;
- unfavorable environmental conditions;
- lack of attention.
Experts agree that psychopaths often grow up in single-parent families. These reasons are not obligatory factors in the development of a personality disorder. But their presence can give impetus to this.
He doesn't ask any personal questions or questions, but they are very sharp and awkward.
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Do you know the feeling when, after a date, you know literally everything about a person, but told almost nothing about yourself? It’s especially unpleasant when this arrangement of things suits your interlocutor.
What Happens: If they don't ask anything about you or show any interest, talking about how important they are is the whole purpose of him meeting you.
If he asks a lot of questions, but quickly moves from one to another, without allowing you to tell you about all the small details, then you should be wary. He can obtain the information he needs, especially about your vulnerabilities.
Observe the frequency of how often you are asked about things that hurt you and prevent you from living in peace. All this information can be used against you.
Who are psychopaths and their differences?
Psychopaths are people who, from the first meeting, charm and evoke sympathy with their charisma and intelligence. There is no noticeable nervousness or excitement in their behavior, they do not stutter and do not experience any complexes. They give the impression of a stable, confident person.
With all this, they:
- manipulators. They force you to do everything the way they need it, so that all your friends and family will follow the line, they bring you to tears and hysterics. They manipulate with the help of bad moods, shouting, threats, blackmail;
- extremely unreliable. If they promised something, they never fulfill it;
- they live without plans for the future, they have no life prospects, no intuition;
- They like to exaggerate their sense of self-importance. They demand special treatment, attention, honors, find fault with little things, and constantly “pump” their rights. Such people like to say that they have some kind of special destiny, a special purpose, and only an accident prevented them from becoming, at a minimum, president;
- pathological liars. They lie constantly, without any self-interest, so they often get into trouble. It’s easy to catch them lying because they don’t think about verisimilitude and will deny that they said it;
- feel the need for mental stimulation. These people are addicted to adrenaline, they get bored when nothing happens, everything is quiet and calm, they don’t know how to keep themselves busy and entertained. They definitely need to arrange something: a feast, a scandal, a provocation;
- never experience remorse or shame. Whether it is major or minor offenses, even if they kill a person, they do not feel guilt or regret, they always blame someone else who, in their opinion, is to blame;
- short-sighted. They are not able to learn from experience, do not draw conclusions from the past, from actions that caused harm to themselves;
- pathological egoists. They completely lack the ability to love;
- unemotional. For example, a psychopath can see something happening in front of him: a fight, murder or torture, he will calmly look at it and not react in any way, will not intervene to protect the weak, does not feel pity;
- indifferent. Cold in interpersonal relationships. Sex life is just sex for the sake of sex, no matter what kind of partner;
- Psychopaths have strange, unmotivated behavior both sober and under the influence of alcohol or drugs. In this state they become more aggressive, unpredictable, strange, frightening people.
He demands privilege
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How to recognize a psychopath? Requiring “special accommodations” is a DSM-V criterion for diagnosing narcissistic personality disorder, so common is the behavior.
While most people ask for help out of genuine need or lack of alternatives, narcissists and psychopaths are likely to do so out of a belief that they have a right to covet the time and efforts of others.
What happens: You may be seen as someone who is easy to take advantage of. You will be inundated with a bunch of requests and tasks, creating a sense of duty and obligatory submission.
If you ask for something, even the smallest, it has a chance of turning into a scandal or offense. Beware of getting closer; the larger the role this person plays in your life, the more requests he will be able to afford.
What is the difference between a normal person and a psychopath?
A healthy person knows how to adapt to the environment, reacts adequately to aggressive influences, and is able to solve emerging problems. In life he strives for good, wants peace, tranquility, friendship, love, harmony and so on.
Psychopaths have evil intent at the core of their personality. They are not able to adapt to living conditions in the external environment; on the contrary, they strive to subjugate, humiliate, remake them for themselves, and create problems for others, which makes life with them unbearable.
Most psychopaths are intellectually developed, work, can be successful businessmen, directors, managers, scientists, and among others they behave like ordinary people, they know what politeness is, compliments, and will open the door for a woman. They know how to control themselves, but this makes them very tired, internal tension accumulates, and when they come home, they take out all the aggression on their loved ones.
The contrast between behavior at work, in public places, among a large number of relatives and at home is very striking and misleading. At home he is an aggressive, inadequate tyrant, but in public he is a good, kind person, an excellent employee whom everyone loves.
The main thing to understand in relationships with psychopaths is other people. There is no need to try to build relationships with them, hoping that with your love you can change them. You should immediately stop all communication with such people and be as far away from them as possible; being close to them is life-threatening.
He always has an explanation
A psychopath would rather chew off his own ear than say: yes, I completely screwed up. He is never to blame for anything. Moreover, it is actually your fault. He didn’t write the report because you constantly remind him of this, and this discourages inspiration. He cheated on you, but what could you do - on January 18, 2012, you yourself looked at him somehow unkindly, what kind of guy would put up with that? No matter how crazy the excuse may be, the psychopath will justify it clearly and clearly: experts have calculated that such people use the phrases “because” and “since” several times more often than everyone else.
Types, forms and types of psychopathy
The world medical community has established a classification of psychopathy. There are 5 main types of disorders. Each type is endowed with characteristic features.
Hysterical psychopath
A person with hysterical disorder strives for recognition of himself as an individual and, in connection with this, demonstrates to others his superiority and importance.
Such people introduce notes of theatricality into their behavior: they gesticulate strongly, sob uncontrollably, and enthusiastically hug.
They are also characterized by a pathological form of lying. Psychopaths of this type are extremely infantile and strive to be the center of attention. A striking example of this type is the comic book character Harvey Dent.
Schizoid psychopath
A distinctive feature of this “category” of people is vulnerability. At the same time, patients with schizoid disorder are despotic. They have a pronounced pedantry.
They are hostile to their social environment. They have a complete lack of empathy. Dr. Mengele was a schizoid psychopath who experimented on people in Auschwitz.
Paranoid psychopath
Paranoid people set super-goals for themselves.
A distinctive feature of a schizoid psychopath is vulnerability
Their distinctive features:
- high egocentrism;
- limited interests;
- narrowness of thinking;
- high self-esteem;
- excessive suspicion;
- intense jealousy.
Patients with paranoid disorder constantly invent ill-wishers for themselves. An outstanding representative of this form of psychopathy is Adolf Hitler.
Asthenic psychopath
Individuals with this type of disorder experience:
- increased anxiety;
- sensitivity;
- maladjustment;
- timidity;
- uncertainty.
Asthenics’ life plans are divorced from reality. They constantly exhibit obsessions and a passion for self-examination.
Dissocial psychopath
The patient exhibits persistent antisocial behavior, which manifests itself:
- impulsiveness;
- lack of guilt;
- inability to maintain long-term close relationships;
- aggressiveness;
- lack of pitchfork strength.
2Their predator's gaze lights up at the sight of potential prey.
Antisocial personalities attract attention with the intense “predator's gaze” that they fix on a potential victim.
This is reminiscent of the reptilian gaze, which is perceived as "dead" or "cold" and sometimes perversely seductive when a psychopath is trying to attract you sexually. Many people find it difficult to cope with the intense, emotionless and predatory gaze of a psychopath. Normal people maintain eye contact for many reasons, but a psychopath's gaze is primarily about self-enjoyment and power rather than interest, empathy, or caring. Some react to the emotionless gaze of a psychopath with acute discomfort, as if they feel like potential prey frozen before a predator.
Test: How crazy are you?
You always have in your purse:
A) Player with your favorite music B) Phone, wallet, lipstick C) Valerian
If your relationship with your colleagues at work doesn’t work out, you:
A) You don’t care about this: you came here to work, not to communicate B) You will try to figure everything out and correct the situation C) You quit with a scandal
Your friend calls you at one in the morning and sobs into the phone. You:
A) You will say that you will definitely talk tomorrow, but now you are sleeping. The morning is wiser than the evening B) Find out what's going on. You will try to help at least with advice B) You will cry helplessly with her
You have to spend the night alone in an empty country house. Your reaction:
A) You don’t care where to sleep B) Of course, it’s a pity that your boyfriend couldn’t join, but you have the opportunity to watch your favorite movie and get some sleep C) You won’t fall asleep all night, listening to every rustle
You're walking down a dark alley:
A) Home B) With caution C) With an ax
The guy who smiled at you on the subway must have been:
A) Who smiled? I didn’t notice B) Appreciated your skirt C) Maniac!
Someone stepped on your foot on the bus. You:
A) You will look disapprovingly B) You will ask to be careful C) You will burst into tears
You and your boyfriend had a fight because of you. What will you do?
A) I’ll wait until everything gets better on its own B) I’ll figure out a way to make peace C) I’ll slam the door and move to live with my mother
You and your friend came to the New Year's party in identical dresses. Your reaction:
A) Just think! Nothing special B) Funny! You can have a look-alike contest! B) Disaster! She betrayed me! I will never be friends with her again!
Now let's find out if you're crazy. Are you ready?
A) Ready B) Of course! B) Let's hurry up!!!
More than A:
0%.
There's nothing crazy about you. People like you are popularly called “don’t care.” It seems completely impossible to piss you off. You know exactly what stability is and value it very much. Just don’t turn into a robot: keeping all your emotions inside can be very dangerous.
More B:
20%.
You are an ordinary person with your little weaknesses. There are situations in your life that make you angry, but usually you brilliantly find a way out of them. You respect yourself and the people around you, you know how to adequately assess what is happening, so communicating with you is a pleasure. Keep it up!
More B:
99.9%.
Congratulations, you're crazy! Or you skillfully disguise yourself as one. One way or another, you know how to throw a tantrum and get what you want with tears. A lot of things frighten and irritate you; any trifle can throw you off balance. Remember: nerve cells do not regenerate! So stop worrying about trifles.
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Why psychopaths are considered consummate lovers
Men with personality disorders do not have feelings for women. But they can demonstrate them masterfully, showing fearlessness and self-confidence.
An ideal man appears before a woman, with whom she feels comfortable. The psychopathic partner, unlike his normal “brothers,” cannot stand time.
He closes the distance with lightning speed and immediately gets down to business. This behavior is perceived by a woman as proof of love.
4They demonstrate arrogant superiority and contempt for others.
Being boastful by nature, psychopaths tend to overestimate themselves and their abilities. They exalt themselves and believe that the whole world should cherish their ego. They consider themselves “special” and believe that they are the exception to every rule. This form of grandiosity is not just ordinary arrogance, but rather a deep-seated belief that a psychopath has about himself and determines his behavior. No crimes, deceptions or betrayals can go beyond the boundaries of what is acceptable for a psychopath. He has contempt for "mere mortals" who allow moral values or moral standards to get in the way.
Psychopaths believe that they are superior to others, and this belief allows them to break laws, overstep boundaries, and invade other people's lives. For example, a malignant narcissist may feel that his attractive appearance entitles him to have numerous lovers.
They do not accept any reservations, violating the rights of others or going over their heads to meet their goals.
3They require a high level of stimulation due to the feeling of constant boredom.
Boredom is one of the most striking traits of a psychopath. Not surprisingly, they get the most excitement from deceiving others or getting involved in crime. Their excessive need for stimulation and entertainment, coupled with a lack of regret and remorse, also allows them to engage in numerous sexual relationships. Even if they have a regular partner, they are always on the hunt - in a bar, office, on dating sites.
This does not mean that the psychopath is unhappy with his family life or career. The novelty of sensations is what captivates them. They quickly get bored with their current activities and go in search of something “more interesting.”
