What is the friend zone for girls and how to avoid falling into this category?

A meeting with a beautiful stranger makes a man think about how to force love events and not scare off the girl. Having met a persistent suitor who is immediately ready for love pleasures, a woman may experience not only fear, but also disgust.

In this case, the meetings are unlikely to continue, and from a potential prince you can immediately move into the “friendship only” category. Everyone should know what the friend zone is for girls and how to avoid it.

Why me?i

Why do they create "friend zones"? According to Goskomstat statistics, there are 10.7 million more women in Russia than men, but a selective position in personal relationships is more characteristic of them. Men, accustomed to the role of conquerors, confidently give preference to the ladies, which they, in turn, do not hesitate to use.

Every young lady, even a pink-haired nymphet, dreams of finding the most profitable match and finding herself “like behind a stone wall.” Having once experienced disappointment and not meeting their increased needs, each approaches her choice even more scrupulously. Even small errors in the actions of representatives of the stronger sex can move him to the “spare bench”.

Denying a chosen one a close relationship is not always motivated by the behavior of the young man himself. Unconfident ladies may refuse due to their personal problems and preferences. But, more often due to the wrong actions of a male representative

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"Just friends".
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"Friends with Benefits".
"When Harry Met Sally".
"Silver Linings Playbook".

Don't force things2

Meeting and first impressions are often the decisive moment. If it is important for you to make a good impression, you should know where to set limits in the conversation and where you can relax. Light, casual conversation is perfect for a romantic evening. Be natural, don’t try to seem cheeky or overly modest.

In achieving the effect, you also need to know when to stop. Don't attack your crush after one glass of wine. Be attentive to the conversation. Pay attention to your friend's wants and needs. Responsibility and attention to needs are not a guarantee of being classified as lovers. If you decide to win the heart of your chosen one, but you are not sure of her sympathy, you will have to work hard.

Don't try to ask everything. By making a person feel embarrassed, you can immediately get into the friend zone. Learn to avoid sharp corners, remember and analyze the slightest change in behavior. Try to catch the timbre of the voice, the manner of behavior and the first positive effect is guaranteed to you.

Reasons for getting into this position

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There are several reasons for falling into the “friend, but no more” category:

The most common reason is the lack of physiological attraction to a partner, which arises as a result of a lack of flirting on the part of the young man. Perhaps the guy is modest by nature and doesn’t know how to flirt, but girls regard this as a lack of true interest in her as a lover.
No touching of a woman's body. It happens that a guy is so sensitive to his girlfriend that he is afraid of offending her by touching his chest or kissing her neck. Hugging and stroking in the presence of other people can be regarded by a guy as dissolute behavior and lust, so he does not allow himself to do this. However, the weaker sex understands from a man’s touch on his body that it is sexually attractive to him. It is also important for a woman that a guy hugs and kisses her in the presence of his friends - for her this is confirmation of his serious intentions.
Henpecked position. As soon as a lady begins to feel that she is the main one in the relationship, that the guy indulges her whims, and she can command him, she becomes not interested in him as a life partner. Women admire strong men. They like to feel in control. This does not mean that a man should ignore a woman’s opinion, but it is also impossible to recklessly fulfill a girl’s every whim.

Friendship, not love, is like a punishment from above3

The first meeting left a pleasant aftertaste, but the second, third, fourth passed, and the lady of your heart still did not let you near her. This time you were unlucky and you were moved to the friend zone. What is the friend zone for girls? A guy from this circle is a man who is considered just as a friend and is not in the mood for a serious relationship with him.

How do you know if you are already in this zone? If your friend often uses you as a vest, talks about her unsuccessful life, or about the details of quarrels with her previous chosen one, it is worth thinking about a possible “flight” in this relationship. The worst option is if a woman openly uses a fan for her own benefit.

As a personal free taxi driver or a couple for going out. You can’t count on anything more than a pleasant pastime. If you find something similar to your relationship that has not yet developed, we advise you to look around, nothing “shines” for you with this person.

When does the risk of relationship breakdown occur?

A girl may want to break up with you if you insist that she date you as a loving partner and not as a friend. The risk of relationship breakdown occurs when you resist being friends with a girl who no longer treats you differently.

You should understand that any of your pressure, strengthening of habitual actions that you have already tried, but they did not help you in conquering a girl’s heart, resentment can lead to the girl’s desire to break up with you. It will be unpleasant for her that you do not want to be her friend, since she cannot agree to the relationship that interests you. And in order not to suffer, she will be forced to say goodbye to you.

In order not to risk at least friendly relations, you need to come to terms with the fact that you are her friend. However, if you understand what kind of person you need to become to go from friend to her boyfriend, then it can help.

Understand what kind of guys your girl likes. We have already considered this point earlier. You are interested in the girl’s relationships with other guys, find out information about what attracted her to them, what interests her about them, etc.
Start making changes. Now start developing in yourself those qualities and behavior that your girlfriend likes. Since you have previously offered to date your girlfriend, but she agreed to be only your friend, from now on you are prohibited from offering her a relationship. She has already given her answer. Your task is now to never ask her to meet again. At the same time, you begin to change, to become the kind of person who attracts her.
Don't force your changes. Changes in your personality will begin to happen very slowly. You definitely won't change in one day. At first, the girl will not notice anything about you. You can be like her boyfriends for a whole month, and she won’t see it point blank. This is normal, take it easy! Continue to be friends with the girl, slowly change, become like her boyfriends, without forcing her to immediately appreciate your changes and fall in love with you.
Move away. As you become more like her boyfriends, you need to gradually distance yourself. If she wants to see you, tell her that you are busy. Don't neglect communicating with other girls. You don’t need to date anyone, just chat with other girls, even catch the eye of your “friend” with other beauties.

The final stage may be that you change completely, you even start spending very little time with your friend, and when you see each other, you clearly begin to hint that other girls are interested in you. This whole mix should hit your young lady’s vanity:

You've become like any of the guys she's ever been interested in.
You have cooled off towards her a little, you don’t offer any more relationship.
Other young ladies are interested in you, who can get such a cool guy like you.

In other words, the girl will either wake up and see her ideal in you, or she will let you go, but only over time will she realize what she has lost.

Wedge with wedge4

What to do if you have already been written off and you are in a girl’s friend zone? Don't despair about this. Most likely, the chosen one for an unsuccessful relationship did not consider your loving heart. It is impossible to unambiguously identify a woman as guilty; you should also be attentive to your behavior.

After all, the answer to the question of how to get out of the friend zone is the ability to take a sober look at your behavior in order to correct your mistakes.

The first opinion can be wrong. There will still be a chance to catch up. If your communication tactics have not changed in subsequent meetings, do not harbor imaginary illusions and it is better to find another partner.

Benefits of the Friend Zone

For the girl or guy who sent you there there are a number of obvious advantages:

You can visit entertainment venues at your expense.
You will do mental and physical work instead of your object of adoration, just to gain his favor.
The role of a “vest” in which you can always cry, because a friend (and even more so a lover) will always support and help with advice.
Gifts and pleasant surprises that every girl will like. You will give presents to your beloved to bring her joy.

The exit is always at the same place as the entrance5

A sincere and sensitive chosen one will always notice signs of sympathy and courtship from even an incredibly modest suitor. Question: does a girl need such a modest person? The answer is clear - yes. All people are different, and for some, being modest and smart will be the best reward in their personal life.

Some people can’t imagine their life with a quiet family member and are ready for an adventure with a restless ladies’ man. Experiences, even negative ones, should be perceived as positive. This will help you avoid making similar mistakes in the future.

Learn from your mistakes, develop courageous qualities, masculine flair, and all the lessons and techniques for seducing unconquered beauties will become available to you. You will learn what the friend zone is and how to avoid it in our next article.

Why is this necessary?

The friend zone comes in handy for its owner in a variety of situations. Sometimes these are mercantile considerations, but more often it is ordinary caution in choosing a partner.

Reasons why a person keeps another at a distance:

the opportunity to capture the feelings of not one, but several potential partners,
a reserve airfield for “landing” in the event of a collapse of the relationship being built,
distrust of a partner, usually caused by previously failed relationships,
emotional release and the opportunity to cry into your vest without giving anything in return,
perhaps a person really sees in a partner only a friend and a soul mate, but not a soul mate.

Signs of a friend zone for a guy

There are eight signs of a friend zone:

The girl has no problem discussing her friends, or even potential suitors, with you.
She often calls you a good friend or a great boyfriend.
A kiss between you can only be on the cheek.
You often become her “tear vest.”
She is in no hurry to introduce you to her girlfriends, but she eagerly gets to know your friends.
She always calls you when she needs help. At the same time, he rarely responds to your cry for help.
Her gaze often stops at the guys around her.
You have never talked about the relationship between you.

What is the friend zone for guys in relationships?

Guys extremely rarely allow girls to join the ranks of their friends without seeing sexual overtones in such relationships. But there are always exceptions, which is why guys also have girlfriends, some of whom may be in love with him and are hoping for a romantic reunion with the object of their affections.

There are often cases when guys friend-zone a girl who is in love with them for the purpose of irregular intimate relationships from time to time. At the same time, the guy takes it for granted, and the girl suffers and still hopes to move to a new level of relationship.