Recipe for Happiness: Treat yourself three times a day
Accepting and loving yourself “as you are” is an unattainable goal for many. We are told from all sides that we must become better, get rid of shortcomings, or at least hide them. In the book, Ekaterina Sigitova, a psychotherapist with an incurable skin disease - ichthyosis, uses examples from her own life and the stories of other people to tell how to still find a foothold and learn to love yourself with any characteristics and problems.
Recipe for Happiness: Treat yourself three times a day
Ekaterina Sigitova
“Learn to see”, Marina Moskvina
Creativity is an internal state, a different quality of existence, a fertile life, reasonable, generous, abundant. The ability to experience joy from the most ordinary things, for example, because you are breathing or drinking tea, seeing your lover or hugging a tree.
Marina Moskvina
After reading this book, you will become even more observant, learn to notice even seemingly insignificant events and see the unusual in the ordinary. Reading the book “Learn to See” can be compared to a frank conversation with your best friend: your soul becomes warm and calm, and all problems seem insignificant and solvable.
Loving Imperfection: Accepting yourself and others with all their flaws
Our life is imperfect. Every day we see how parents do not understand each other, friends get offended because of nonsense, bosses lash out at their subordinates, and the horrors of war or the latest protests are shown on TV. There seems to be no end to this. Zen Buddhist Gemin Sunim is sure that the cure for all ills is love and acceptance. He talks about this in the book, offering a shoulder for support in moments of despair.
Loving Imperfection: Accepting yourself and others with all their flaws
Gemin Sunim
Useful tips
Analyzing the material on this topic, I noticed that it is quite difficult to single out separate techniques, tips and exercises. All these concepts are closely intertwined. Consider the following tips to complement your self-love techniques.
- Don't compare yourself to other people. If you admire them, then the comparison is not in your favor. By trying to imitate your “idol,” you can only become a pale copy of him. Focus on your potential and your capabilities. You are the original version of YOURSELF.
- If life is full of tension, you don’t have to endure it. We must change circumstances to the best of our ability. The more unpleasant situations you solve, the greater your self-esteem.
- Take responsibility. For mistakes and failures. Yes. It has already happened – that’s a fact. But there is always an opportunity to correct any situation. Don't dwell on negative experiences.
- Set realistic goals for yourself. Only those that you can handle. Their implementation will give you the feeling “I can do anything, I’m great.”
- Your opinion about yourself is decisive. There is no need to put the “assessments” of others first.
- Reward yourself even for small victories and achievements. Praise yourself more often. Remember that the “child” inside us needs to be pampered. Then love and self-confidence will come.
- Don't judge others. Everyone has the right to act as they choose.
- Don't criticize yourself.
- Be grateful to life for what you have.
- Confess your love to yourself as often as possible. Every person deserves this. You are no exception.
Eat, move, sleep: how everyday decisions affect health and longevity
It's time to take care of yourself as if you were someone else. The one you love. Has your loved one eaten? Is he getting enough sleep? Are you healthy? It would seem like elementary things. But for some reason we manage to forget about ourselves - we eat whatever we can, don’t get enough sleep and move little. Without any radical measures or violence against yourself, this book will teach you to pay attention to important little things, for which your body and mood will definitely be grateful.
Eat, Move, Sleep: How Everyday Decisions Affect Health and Longevity
Tom Rath
Immersion in yourself: how to understand why we think one thing, feel another, and act as we always do
We often don’t understand why we act this way and not otherwise, why we get angry and what kind of feelings we experience. All this can be corrected by awareness - the connection of our thoughts, feelings and actions, internal integrity. Gestalt therapist with 16 years of experience, Vladislav Chubarov, is sure that all the answers lie in the depths of our consciousness, we just need to dive into it.
Self-immersion: How to understand why we think one thing, feel another, and act as we always do
Vladislav Chubarov
Who has the right to your love?
First of all, you yourself!
When I started working with people and helping them solve problems from different areas of life, I discovered an amazing thing.
If I can help people learn to accept themselves for who they are and increase their self-esteem, then we won't have to work on all the other problems that were bothering them before. Because all the problems - or most of them - will simply disappear. That's why I want to teach people to love themselves.
It can be very difficult. After all, since childhood we believe that we are not good enough. I ask people: “What exactly is wrong with you?”, “What’s so terrible happened to you that you don’t love yourself?” - and I’ve never heard any reasonable answer. For example, they answer: “I want to lose weight! I'm too fat."
And I wonder: “So what?”
When you understand your worth, you will begin to feel differently about yourself. This is the main thing about self-love. It’s not for nothing that in recent years, psychologist’s advice on how to increase self-esteem and love yourself has become so popular. Stop blaming and humiliating yourself, thinking that you are doing everything wrong, and you will feel a huge difference.
Feel the desire to love yourself, your value, your importance for this world - and everything will happen by itself >>>
The world around us is a mirror of our thoughts. Richard Bach
If you broadcast signals and feelings: “I am a good person and deserve the best. I love life, I love myself,” then life begins to perceive you differently.
Because you are sending out different vibrations. What you give is what you get in return.
Why is it so important to know how to love yourself and increase self-esteem for a girl?
One day we were discussing with one of the students the story of her unsuccessful relationships with the opposite sex. A pretty, smart, adequate girl. For all her advantages, her personal life is unsettled. She fell in love more than once, but the relationship scenario was duplicated from guy to guy.
Judging by her story, she came across good guys, but from the “good guy, but not an eagle” series. She did her best to adapt to men’s interests and lifestyle, tried to care for them in everyday life, but the ending was approximately the same for all the novels: they left her with the words: “You’re good, I’m the bad one. And I found something worse for myself.” Related: The Most Important Tip on How Self-Love Will Help You Attract a Man's Love.
We begin to figure it out, I ask you to tell us which of the exes was ready to do something for her.
The girl tries to protect everyone. This one was nice - he even gave me flowers once. And the other one I met when I was returning from work late.
I'm shocked. Things that should be an elementary norm of behavior for this girl turned out to be the height of gallantry. This is how you should not love and value yourself! I try to explain that those around her read her attitude towards them; that no man will value a woman who does not value herself; that it is important to figure out how to love yourself and increase a woman’s self-esteem.
I recommended that she read the biographies of Louise Hay and Oprah Winfrey to improve her self-esteem. Have you noticed how similar the fates of these women are at the initial stage of their spiritual path? Both had emotional problems with their parents; both were abused and became pregnant; and both were able to achieve success only after they realized that the main thing was to love and value themselves.
Why did the creator of the social network Facebook, billionaire Mark Zuckerberg, who could choose the most charming girl on the planet as his wife, choose a woman who was far from a model in appearance? Why did Marilyn Monroe, the ideal of beauty for several generations of men, suffer throughout her life from the betrayals of her chosen ones?
How did it happen that men left the sophisticated Brigitte Bardot for someone else, and Barbra Streisand, the owner of an unconventional appearance, always chose her own lovers?
I am firmly convinced that the kind of man next to you is a consequence of your psychology and your attitude towards yourself. It’s not for nothing that training on how to love yourself and increase a woman’s self-esteem in psychology has become such a bread-and-butter topic for various coaches.
If you are poor, it means you really don't love yourself.
Without self-love, without self-acceptance, you will not overcome the fear of poverty: low self-esteem does not even allow you to count on something good.
If you think that $500 a month is the limit for you, $5000 will not come to you, no matter how much you dream. Why? Because you need to work on yourself, think through every step and see the whole picture of the sequential actions that will lead to this $5,000. Otherwise, you will consistently receive the salary you received until now.
It’s the same with self-dislike. Can you say “I accept myself”, “I love myself”, “I am working on myself” without internal resistance? If not, then you think that you are unworthy of living in wealth and prosperity. On the subject: 15 cool lessons on how to become the richest from Donald Trump + wealth test
And if you yourself think so, then you will unwittingly convince your employer of this. If you yourself don’t know how to love yourself and increase your self-esteem, and don’t set a high price for yourself, what will others pay you for?
One of the most popular and highly paid business coaches in the world, Brian Tracy, considers self-love to be one of the determining factors for success:
The key to character development is self-love. More than any other factor, being authentic to yourself determines your impact on others. The best definition of self-love is how much you like yourself.
The more you love and respect yourself, the more you love and respect others, and the more they love and respect you. Anything you do to improve your self-esteem improves your mood and relationships with people.
It’s not for nothing that Tracy’s psychological techniques on how to love yourself have gained such popularity.
On the subject: Brian Tracy: THOUGHTS MATTER!
I know a lot of people who can be called workaholics. Work is the main goal and meaning of their life. But what is the payoff? The level of income of most of them is below average, they are haunted by failures.
After another failure, such people begin to force themselves to work even harder. And at the same time they do not suspect that the reason is the constant expectation of failure and an inferiority complex.
Most likely, the subconscious of such people, like a sponge, absorbed in the early years “instructions” from someone from an adult environment: “You are stupid, you will not achieve anything, nothing will come of you.” And in childhood, we are all susceptible to any words our elders say about ourselves.
But now, when you are no longer a child or even a teenager, your task is to stop harming yourself and pushing away the prosperity that is rightfully yours.
When you set a course for self-love, you will believe that you deserve the best. And then money will appear in your life in the most unexpected way!
For me, true well-being begins with thinking well of yourself. It is also freedom of choice: to do what you want, when you want. And the point here is not at all how much money you have.
Well-being is a state of mind. Well-being or lack thereof is a reflection of your thoughts and ideas.
Louise Hay
Good enough: Working on self-worth
This diary is for working with self-worth, the impostor complex, and updating your real achievements and abilities. The idea is to notice how much you do every day and learn to appreciate and respect yourself for it. By filling out this diary, you will get to know yourself better and develop a friendly, loving, compassionate attitude towards yourself.
Vedeneyeva's diaries. Good enough: Working on self-worth
Varvara Vedeneeva
Love yourself - no matter who you're with
Do you love yourself when you are with someone else? It doesn't matter at all who you choose. You are eternally and inextricably connected with only one person - yourself, and your chosen one is a screen onto which your desires and needs, your ability to love, vitality and, above all, the internal barrier between desires and fears are projected. A book about this. Best suited for those who have been together for a long time.
Love yourself - no matter who you're with
Eva-Maria Zurhorst
Authenticity: how to be yourself
Devoting years to unloved work and communicating with the wrong people, we complain that our life has not been successful. The desire to be yourself usually returns after a severe shock - for example, the death of a loved one or the loss of a business. But it can be returned in a less traumatic way. What exactly, says world expert in the field of positive psychology, Stephen Joseph. He backs up the theory with examples from his practice and offers simple exercises to help you regain your authenticity and become a happy person.
Authenticity: How to be yourself
Stephen Joseph
"Important Years" by Meg Jay
A great book to read for twenty year olds. The period of life from 20 to 30 years is a kind of defining decade. It is at this time, according to Mag Jay, that a person’s everyday habits are formed, and he also has to make several vital choices.
Graduating from university, getting your first job, starting your own family... From the book you will learn what problems and worries often plague twenty-year-olds, how to cope with them and not waste the best years of your life.
Close to the heart: how to live if you are an overly sensitive person
You react sharply to everything, experience strong emotions, get tired of communication, empathize with everyone and live every day in such a song of ice and fire - well, that means you are hypersensitive. The bad news: nothing can change here. Good news: it's normal! This sincere and tender book will teach you to take care of yourself and your feelings, say “no,” relax and, again, involuntarily make you a little more confident. You will understand and love yourself as you are - sensitive - and your life will definitely become easier.
Close to the Heart: How to Live If You're an Overly Sensitive Person
Ilse Sand
The magic of psychotherapy: how science helps change your life for the better
Irina Belousova has been studying the human psyche for 15 years. In the book, she talks about how psychotherapy and mental hygiene help you adapt to the frantic rhythm of life, find support among endless stress, and the strength to make changes inside and outside. This is a difficult topic, but Irina talks about it so simply that you literally feel the magic that flies off the pages and changes the life around you.
The magic of psychotherapy: How science helps change your life for the better
Irina Belousova
"The Journey Home" by Radhanath Swami
Everyone has two dogs in their hearts - a bad one and a good one, and they constantly fight with each other. A bad dog personifies our vicious qualities: envy, anger, lust, greed, arrogance and hypocrisy. A good dog is our divine nature: forgiveness, compassion, self-control, generosity, humility and wisdom. It all depends on our choice: the dog to whom we devote more time and which we feed more, making a choice in its favor, receives more strength. She will bark louder and eventually defeat her rival. To be virtuous means to starve the bad dog and feed the good one.
Radhanath Swami
Another book, the author of which talks about his own journey and proves that life is an amazing journey in which there is a place for adventures and dreams come true, you just need to make a little effort.
