In the continuation of the book “Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus,” John Gray describes exactly what many of us feel now: difficult times, we cannot afford much, but before... In your mind you understand that dark thoughts are not good for anything They will bring you, but you can’t help yourself. The famous psychologist will help you look at your life differently and learn to experience joy in any conditions.
We often think that we know perfectly well what we want, and then, having achieved the goal, for some reason we do not feel any satisfaction. Let's take, for example, such an important part of life as nutrition. Each of us needs it. However, if we do not solve our other daily problems and do not satisfy all our needs, we risk becoming dependent on food consumption. We begin to use it not only for natural satiation, but also for gluttony. In this way, we drown out the internal dissatisfaction and pain that arises due to everyday difficulties, which we are simply too lazy to begin solving.
Often our suffering can be explained by the fact that we pay too much attention to one personal need and hardly notice others. We, like inexperienced jugglers, maintain the balance of only one spinning plate, while the other eight take turns falling and breaking. And even realizing that there are others besides this beloved, only plate, we still focus only on it. We naively believe that this unnatural devotion to one single aspiration of the soul will result in true happiness.
How to determine the “black” stripe, what are the signs
Surely anyone knows firsthand about periods when it seems like the whole world is playing against you. At such moments, I want to raise my eyes to the sky and ask: “Are you kidding me or are you deliberately creating such situations to see how I will get out?”
The main signs of a black stripe:
- An endless series of failures, failures layered on top of each other.
- Problems pour in from where no one expected, their appearance was impossible to predict or predict (health problems that arose against the background of complete well-being, breakdowns of new equipment, a car accident, causeless conflicts in the family, at work).
- Issues are difficult to sort out, solutions require more time than usual.
It seems that the more a person takes actions aimed at improving the situation, the more he creates new problems for himself and there is no end to this.
Be prepared to sacrifice something and lose something if there are dark streaks in life
This is the law of life. The increase of one leads to the lack of the other. Therefore, be prepared to sacrifice something and lose something if there are dark streaks in life.
- If you want 10 times more, then accept the fact that you will now have many times less time for a hobby or for a loved one.
- If you want a relationship, come to terms with the fact that now you don’t need to go through partners, turn off your phone for a week and have a large number of friends of the opposite sex.
Open up to the world and sacrifice to get something.
What attracts negative energy to you?
In order not to provoke the start of a dark streak in life, you need to understand that it is triggered by dark energy. The emitter of negativity can be both the victim himself and his environment, especially his close circle.
Let's look at it in detail:
- Magnet law. A person experiencing envy, gossip, anger, resentment, jealousy, greed becomes an emitter of negativity. Thus, the personality itself attracts problems, like a magnet.
- Given by faith. Those who are initially tuned in to the worst-case scenario get it.
- Someone else's way. If, under the influence of other people's beliefs, imposed values, a person turns away from his own path, circumstances shout “stop”, creating obstacles where, it would seem, there should not be any. There may be serious health problems, major financial losses, serious injuries received out of the blue, problems in your personal life, etc.
- Guilt is a difficult feeling that intuitively requires punishment. A person will unconsciously create negative life circumstances.
- Disease. Physical ailments disrupt the energy field because your brain is fixated on painful sensations and cannot think about positive things.
- Fear. A person sometimes creates problems with his thoughts and actions in order to avoid doing what is scary.
A real-life case of how fear provokes problems. On the eve of an interview for his dream job, the man had an accident and was bedridden for three months with a compound fracture. He himself commented on the situation with the words: “It’s even better, I was scared that I wouldn’t be able to pass the selection or cope with my responsibilities.”
A significant contribution to the beginning of a black streak is made by the immediate environment: people with whom you have to spend a lot of time. Energy vampires include chronic whiners, brawlers, seriously ill people and people with addictions (drug addicts, alcoholics, gambling addicts).
If you can’t avoid communicating with them (colleagues, relatives), you will have to mentally block the flow of their complaints and manipulations, just pretend that you are listening to them, nod your head and assent, keep in your mind the idea that these people are nothing but whining and whining. they don't tell you anything new.
What to do if life has reached a dead end: advice from a family center psychologist
When things don’t go as we would like, and the “dark streak” drags on, our attention concentrates on the negative aspects. Gradually one gets the feeling that there is complete negativity around and there is no light. Family psychologist Svetlana Timchenko tells how to find a way out of a protracted crisis.
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35-year-old Marina came to the family center for psychological help. She was so upset that she couldn't even clearly formulate her request. “Everything is very bad for me, and I can’t change anything. Some kind of dead end. “I feel like my life is being wasted,” the woman shared, almost bursting into tears. The psychologist suggested that Marina take the simple projection-drawing test “Wheel of Balance.” Based on its results, they began to gradually figure out what exactly was happening.
The test showed that “bad” felt in the areas of finances, career and personal growth. When asked about her family, she answered that everything would be fine, but there was not enough money: her husband earns little, and she herself cannot yet go to work - the children are too small. Then they discussed her hobbies, and it turned out that Marina was a good drawer, but her hobby didn’t bring in any money. Interest in drawing became the basis on which the psychologist built his work.
“When we are faced with crisis conditions, it is always important to find a resource to rely on at first. By turning to the “Wheel of Balance” technique, you can carefully walk through all areas of your life and discover where energy flows and where that very nutritious source is,” says the psychologist.
The art therapeutic technique “neurography” helped in working with Marina.
This is intuitive drawing, working with the unconscious; you don’t need to be able to draw here. The technique allows new thoughts to appear on a white sheet of paper. Line is thought, colors are feelings.
As a result of drawing, new neural connections are formed in the brain and thinking changes. The work of the right and left hemispheres is activated, and this quickly leads to a resourceful state.
Marina began to study this direction and practice it. Over the course of two months, the woman’s emotional state began to noticeably improve, and along with it, the atmosphere in the house calmed down. The cheerful woman began to fill the rest of the family with her energy. The results were not long in coming: the husband felt the strength and motivation to find a new job and increase his income, and Marina discovered the potential of entrepreneurship.
How to use the Wheel of Balance test
“This exercise will help you assess your potential in all areas of life. You can go through it on your own, but doing it with a psychologist is always more effective, because a person in crisis is very fixated on his troubles and his attention automatically shifts to the negative,” comments the psychologist.
We draw a circle, divide it into eight equal sectors, and it turns out to be a kind of pie, cut into pieces. Each sector has its own conventional name and reflects one of the main vital areas: health, environment, family, personal life, career, business, money, finance, creativity, personal development, brightness and fullness of life.
You need to rate your current level of satisfaction from zero to ten in all these areas of life. "0" is a point on the circle. The marked points are then connected to each other, and you can see your wheel.
Completing this test clearly shows what is happening in each area of life, where there really is a failure, and where there is a resource. Having found it, you can align the remaining spheres.
In Marina’s case, problem areas were identified: career, finances, family. There was a low level of satisfaction. But creativity was rated higher, but personal fulfillment was also not satisfactory. The only resource in this case, according to the client, could be taken from creativity. That’s why we used art techniques to imbue the client with positive emotions, reduce internal tension and redirect attention.
Help is at hand
If you feel that your crisis has dragged on and there is no way forward, seek psychological help.
28 city organizations work to support Moscow families: 25 “My Family Centers”, as well as the Crisis Center for Assistance to Women and Children, social rehabilitation centers for minors “Vozrozhdenie” and “Altufyevo”.
Center specialists work to restore relationships between children and parents, provide legal and psychological assistance, conduct trainings, developmental classes and much more. If necessary, targeted assistance is provided: social electronic certificates are issued for food, clothing and household appliances.
Detailed information about services can be found on the “My Family Center” portal page. For the convenience of Muscovites, an “Online Consultations” section has been created on the portal, where every city resident can leave a request and be contacted within one business day.
If you want to get support, better understand yourself and your personal guidelines, we recommend signing up for free webinars at the Moscow Service for Psychological Assistance to the Population on the website www.msph.ru or coming for a free face-to-face consultation with a psychologist at one of the service’s departments. The emergency psychological help line 051 (landline) and +7 (495) 051 (mobile) and psychological support chat are available 24/7. Details on the website www.msph.ru
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Press service of the Department of Labor and Social Protection of the Population of Moscow
The power of positive thought against a series of failures
According to the laws of the universe, a person receives what he gives. When he is scared, expecting failures, deception, betrayal, low-frequency streams rush towards him. The Universe does not know how to determine whether a person wants something or is afraid of it. She receives a wave request filled with energy and responds to it.
This is why it is important to focus on the good, to be grateful, happy, relaxed, and to be in the flow. Then the law of vibration will begin to attract positive situations, pleasant people, necessary, useful events to a person.
The main thing is to be sincerely positive from the heart, to enjoy what is happening, and not to put on a mask in a photo on Instagram. Higher powers cannot be deceived.
Change will come to the rescue
Places also have the ability to absorb negative information. Thus, productive energy is blocked. Very often, the environment also influences thoughts. Therefore, when there is a black streak, you can try to change the environment. Each person has different boundaries and therefore everyone needs their own. Sometimes a girl just needs to go to a salon to radically change her appearance, and she flutters and shines with happiness again.
For some people this is not enough. They need to change their place of residence, or maybe even change their city or country of residence. But first, you can try small. Start with the usual cleaning of negativity with your own hands.
In any case, a bad streak cannot last forever, just as everything is not smooth and wonderful all the time. It all depends on you and your thoughts. Love, rejoice every day and enjoy life. And then there will be no place for negativity in your life. And everything will be fine!
How to get rid of a black streak: John Kehoe's method
Canadian motivator, coach, and writer John Kehoe managed to convince the world that absolutely anyone is capable of mastering and effectively using control of their own mind in order to successfully cope with crises and “pump up” life.
John is sure that obsessive thoughts and unconscious beliefs will certainly be reflected in reality. The black streak is triggered by fear, and you can get rid of fear by starving it, ceasing to feed it with energy.
You will need to go through three stages
Calm down
It is necessary to take a comfortable position and begin to breathe measuredly, slowly, alternating a deep breath through your nose, a short pause, and a slow exhalation through your mouth. As you exhale, close your eyes and feel your body. Starting with your feet, alternately strain each muscle, then relax, going up. Having reached your head while inhaling, you need to visualize what is associated with peace - small waves, hugs, floating clouds. Having accepted the image inside the body, you need to remain relaxed for 10-15 minutes, then open your eyes and smoothly return to your normal state. This technique calms the raging hurricane of emotions.
Clear your mind
Thoughts generated by fear, resentment, envy, despair, like weeds, infect the brain.
There are two ways to get rid of them:
- Think a thought, acknowledge its presence and throw it out of your head, imagining it like pulling out a weed. A “flower” sits in an empty place - any pleasant thought (about the weather, a pet).
- Exaggerate a negative idea, bringing it to the point of absurdity, and yourself to a smile (Is the stove turned off? The house will burn, the street will burn, the block, the city will burn. They will show me on the news).
Positive self-hypnosis
By eradicating negative subconscious attitudes, positive ones are placed in their place, and to make it easier for them to take root, the right thoughts are driven in and imprinted.
Kehoe recommends starting with four affirmations that touch on all areas of life:
- the world is rich and abundant;
- life brings me pleasure, joy, comfort;
- I am the master of my success;
- all life consists of an unlimited number of favorable opportunities.
This affirmation must be recorded on a tape recorder and repeated several times a day, even if the statements seem incorrect, alien, or implausible. Sooner or later they will enter the “firmware” of the brain and begin to work.
How to become the master of your own life. Six laws of working with the subconscious
Before moving on to John Kehoe’s techniques for overcoming the black streak, it is necessary to understand the laws of the work of our subconscious, without knowledge of which it is impossible to move on.
Law No. 1. Thought has energy and material force
Every thought you think does not pass without leaving a trace. Thoughts are actually the forces that control your life.
This is the first thing that needs to be realized and accepted during a life crisis.
Law No. 2. The mind is capable of receiving and transmitting information to the Universe
Sending and receiving information from outside occurs continuously. Your thoughts all the time fall into the energetic web of general reality, thereby influencing the picture of the material world.
Law No. 3. A thought charged with emotion changes
existence
Thoughts, equipped with the energy of emotion, have the ability to attract to you what you are thinking about. That is, when you are angry or depressed, it changes your thinking... And your thoughts begin to attract to you those things that cause you to experience these emotions.
Strong desire, faith, unshakable conviction and confidence in success endow your thoughts with the powerful power of materialization.
Law No. 4. You can control your thoughts
You are not your brain. You are his boss, and he is his subordinate. You can decide for yourself whether to enjoy your thoughts, put them aside, or use them for your own purposes.
Understand that if some unpleasant thought overcomes your mind, then you yourself allow it to do so.
Law No. 5. "The Law of Investment"
We can put any thought we want into our mind. The thought of success, wealth, love, health, friendship... Why not?
Law No. 6. The inner and outer worlds are inseparable
The inner world is thoughts, the outer world is circumstances in reality. These worlds are closely connected. And reality is a combination of external and internal, a reflection of what is inside you.
It turns out that the black stripe is a projection of the activity of the mind! In other words, by taking control of our own thinking, we can get rid of problems, overcome the dark streak and begin to attract positive changes into our lives.
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Why do you need to forget all your love failures?
Storing wounding feelings in memory for a long time leads to loss of confidence, fear of new acquaintances, neuroses, and depression. They consume time and energy and prevent you from moving forward. You should not return your thoughts to the past, where nothing can be changed, or be tormented by guilt for the decision to leave.
Find someone to share your experiences with
Many people, in difficult times, feel the desire to “hide in a hole”: sit at home, try to solve problems alone, communicate minimally with others and not tell anyone about their troubles.
This is a natural reaction. Firstly, there is a component of denial in it: as long as I don’t tell anyone about unpleasant events, it’s as if they never happened. Secondly, of course, not all people in a crisis situation are useful (more on this in the next paragraph). Thirdly, communication requires strength, and in a crisis this is very limited. Still, sharing difficulties with those who support us is very important. This reduces stress levels, makes us feel like we are not alone and ultimately helps us cope with a difficult period. Try to tell at least a few close people about your difficulties, who are usually not inclined to criticize others and make harsh judgments. It may be worth warning them that you are experiencing difficulties, find it difficult to talk about them and are looking for support.
If there are no good friends left in your circle right now, your relatives are not ready to support you (and this happens), think about slightly more distant acquaintances. It is important to get human support and to be listened to. In extreme cases, the Internet can come to the rescue: closed groups, acquaintances who have had similar troubles, or thematic forums. Just before you talk about your difficulties in any community, make sure that the rules of environmentally friendly communication have been adopted there: participants support each other, there is no victim blaming, no one is bullied or ridiculed, and no ratings are given. Otherwise, you risk getting new wounds on top of old ones.
Loner psychology is the only reason why single women can't find a mate
The only reason why a woman cannot find a mate is the formed psychology of a loner, which is formed over time under the influence of various factors and a series of failures in relationships with the opposite sex.
What prevents you from communicating normally and making acquaintances:
- Suspiciousness, pessimistic attitude. Low self-esteem, fear of seeming stupid, boring, banal.
- Expectation of benefit, benefit.
- Excessive demands.
- Obsession. The lady gives excessive significance to marriage, creating emotional tension.
- Love of freedom.
Love spell for good luck and money at home
Financial well-being and luck help you overcome bad times faster. In a critical situation, you can use the help of higher powers to quickly obtain the necessary resources.
- For prosperity. During the growing month, five paper bills and five coins are taken. At night, when the light appears in the sky, read the words above the money: “As the moon grows and waxes, so the wealth in my house grows and remains. Money drinks the moonlight, as if it is growing by leaps and bounds. They fill my wallet, they feed it with moonlight.” The lights in the room are not turned on, and the banknotes must be illuminated by the moon's rays during the ritual. Banknotes and coins are left on the windowsill, and in the morning, at sunrise, they are hidden in a new bag made of red natural fabric prepared in advance and put away in a secluded place. The most effective ritual is performed on Wednesday.
- For good luck. At 12 noon on Sunday, when the church is being prepared for services, you should light a church candle at home. Place a new pin under the drops of wax so that it fits into the ring at the end opposite to the opening side. With just their lips (without a voice) they read the “Our Father” prayer 3 times and the incantation: “In the shirt given by the Mother of God I leave, accepting the blessing of my God and the four crowns of the kingdom of heaven: St. Luke, St. Mark, St. Matthew, St. John the Evangelist. May they protect me, a sinner, from steel, iron, lead, women and men. So that they cannot break my bones, wound my flesh, or cut my skin. Amen".
Wealth is lured by banknotes found in the pockets of one's own belongings, hidden for seasonal storage (jacket, summer trousers). It is advisable to carry them in your wallet without spending them.
Typical phases of any crisis situation
Even though everyone may have a bad streak, they always deal with it individually. People are rarely prepared for this, so the defensive reaction is usually pre-programmed. Psychologists divide crises into four phases:
- Denial phase
At first, people are stunned and in shock. It may be hours or days before they realize what happened. Physically, this can result in dizziness and nausea. What happened is hushed up and denied.
- Reaction phase
It is followed by feelings of chaos, loss of control and helplessness, or even anger. Many avoid friends and family.
- Processing phase
Gradually recognition is growing. The person concerned takes action or seeks help, for example through professional support or accepting offers of help from the social environment.
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- Reorientation phase
The black bar is accepted as it is. The man found ways and means to cope with this and change his life. Some take positives from this, learn from the experience and look to the future with optimism.
Good luck charm against black streak
Natural amulets against misfortunes are stones. You should choose the one that corresponds to the zodiac sign or strongly “responds” to the soul, really likes it, and evokes positive emotions.
The following are considered universal amulets:
- jasper - protects from damage, envy, gossip, neutralizes negativity;
- tiger's eye - on the eve of a possible difficult period, it becomes slightly darker and heavier;
- malachite - averts misfortune.
You can make the amulet yourself or buy a ready-made pendant. The purchased option will begin to work fully in a couple of weeks, when it resonates with the owner’s biofield. The homemade amulet is immediately active, since “synchronization” occurs during operation.
Get your thoughts in order
You just need to step over past failures and start all over again. We need a reboot of sorts. You need to stop thinking about the failures that have befallen you and analyzing them. If you constantly ask yourself “Why? For what? For what?”, then you may never get off the ground. You need to get up one morning and say to yourself: “Enough is enough.” And from now on, just stop remembering all the grievances and negative moments you have experienced.
Just let go and start over. In such cases, each person has his own medicine. Some people get rid of negativity by listening to their favorite classical music, while for others the best medicine is a book, online fortune telling, or meditation. As soon as a person is distracted from the negative, the energy will again begin to provide positive emotions. And from the first positive thoughts you will want to smile at fate again.
