Change the rules.
We are all accustomed to the fact that a man achieves, and a woman agrees or does not agree to respond to these advances. It's time to turn the cards over.
Get to know her better, show her that you are interested in her. But immediately make it clear that you are not going to achieve it. Show indifference.
No self-respecting girl would put up with such injustice. She will start trying to impress you herself. Will be invested. You will see what a woman who wants to grab attention is capable of.
Is it worth deceiving a woman in order to manipulate her?
You need to be careful when manipulating a girl into falling in love with you. A man in love, unexpectedly for himself, may find himself a victim of a subtle female game. In addition, the fair sex has excellent intuition, which allows you to sense even small changes in behavior, mood, and the truthfulness of words. Regular lies will sooner or later be revealed. When the truth comes out, the relationship will be at risk.
If you intend to build a relationship using lies throughout your life together, it is better to abandon this idea. You need to try to talk with your chosen one, try to explain your position. If a girl behaves inappropriately or reacts aggressively to the current situation, it may be preferable to give up trying to connect your life with her.
Make me jealous.
Yes, this rule is hundreds of years old. But that doesn’t stop it from being relevant. Sometimes you have to play with women with their own weapons.
If you already know that she likes you, but you don’t see a strong desire on her part to get closer to you, it’s time to make her jealous.
Just show that you are aware that there are millions of beautiful women in the world.
This rule is especially effective in a situation where you are in the friend zone.
A normal free woman will not accept the fact that a man prefers someone else before her eyes.
Feelings of guilt, duty and pity
Intimacy is an important part of a romantic relationship. Many guys think that girls don't need it as much, but this is an extremely common mistake. If you decide to move to a new stage of the relationship, but your friend did not appreciate this and turned on the image of being touchy, then you should choose the tactics of guilt and debt. It is enough to portray insult and tone of voice to influence the girl.
Female representatives are excellent psychologists. They perfectly sense changes in a man’s mood, so next time the girl will do everything to please you. If she really likes you, then she will want to find mutual understanding in terms of physical contact. The main thing is not to overdo it, so as not to seem like a touchy man behaving like a small child.
Be unpredictable.
Your goal is for her to want to meet you. Therefore, when you promise to dial her number, say, at three o’clock in the afternoon, feel free to break it. Wait at least two to three hours. Better yet, until the evening.
If she has shown interest in you, a lot of thoughts and assumptions will be born in her head.
When he asks, it's best to say that you had a lot to do. You will let her know that she is not at the top of your list of priorities. Of course, she will want to fix it.
But don’t overdo it, otherwise you will be unreliable in her eyes.
Basics of manipulating women
If we are talking about how to manipulate a girl who has inflated demands and inflated self-esteem, first of all, a man does not need to actively contribute to all her whims. Such women are accustomed to taking guys and courtship for granted.
In any circumstances, you need to learn to control the situation, thereby showing who is the leader in the relationship. You should not be afraid of tears and insults - this is a type of female manipulation that does not always reflect actual experiences. There is no need to follow every whim that comes into a woman’s head. In addition, a girl may become bored with her boyfriend’s obsequiousness. She needs a strong man who is pleasant to obey.
READ How to please a girl: a strategy for winning the heart of your chosen one
The great art of seduction.
This advice is the most important and fundamental. Or “zoom in and out.”
In short, the essence of the method is to alternate emotional intimacy with detachment. Women themselves are fluent in this method.
What is the methodology? The goal is to tie the girl to you. Any means can be used: flirting, light conversation about sex, confidential topics.
Let her reveal her deepest secrets to you, tell you about some childhood fears, and share her worries about work.
Let him get used to your intimate conversations and meetings. Let her be sure that you are already in her hands.
It is at this moment that you should pull away. Just give up, disappear for a few days, disappear from her life. Reply to messages dryly or not at all.
If a woman is interested in you, she is guaranteed to begin to feel the desire to possess you.
The main thing in this method is not to get too carried away. The tactic works flawlessly, but you don’t need to repeat it too many times. When your relationship grows into a more serious stage, there will be no point in it. On the contrary, with a sudden distance you will upset her.
How to get a woman to submit
It is necessary to bring utmost clarity to the interaction of partners, since it is easier to manage a woman by achieving complete mutual understanding in the relationship. Depending on the duration of the relationship, a man can choose suitable techniques to manipulate the girl. At an early stage, you can use manipulation of love, jealousy, expectation, unpredictability.
READ A collection of declarations of love to a girl: ideas for every taste
In long-term relationships, other methods will be more effective:
- Delay of what is expected. Do not fulfill a woman’s desire, giving hope for fulfillment. In this case, the man will gain even more later.
- Listening skills. A couple's conversation often becomes a woman's monologue. Without missing the main ideas from her statements, you can use them to direct you in the right direction.
- Avoid arguments. Even if the chosen one is wrong, it is difficult to argue with her. It's better to change the subject by giving a compliment.
- Don't push. If you need to introduce the right thought, you should express it and give it time to think. Without focusing on the main idea, you should provide a little additional information. Thanks to this, the woman will come to the conclusion that she made the decision herself.
Be mysterious.
One of women's main weaknesses is their curiosity. They can cope with other emotions, but this one is the most difficult.
In short, never tell everything about yourself at once. Give her information about yourself in small doses that give rise to more questions than answers. Let the intrigue remain.
For example, she asks about your profession. Instead of saying you're an IT professional, say something like, "I'm a networker." A lot of questions will arise in her head.
If he asks about a hobby, tell him it's a secret. She will be interested, and you will capture her attention.
Shower her with compliments
Another thing that absolutely all girls love is compliments. They can be used in relation to any person, regardless of his gender and age. If you appreciate her new hairstyle, then believe that she will remember it for a very long time. Please note that you should not say the most common and hackneyed compliments. Choose an original option that stands out from the competition and it will definitely be yours.
For most girls, the main fear is losing attractiveness. Notice any, even the most minor, changes in her appearance. Tell her how beautiful her earrings or clothes are. There is no need to generalize or use classic words. The main thing is not to overdo it. Avoid phrases that can be interpreted in a completely different way to avoid unnecessary negative emotions.
Types of female manipulation
The vast majority of women manipulate men completely unconsciously. Their manipulations are already embedded in a model of behavior to which women do not attach any special importance, considering it quite normal in a relationship. (We have collected some tips that will help a woman behave correctly with a man so that he is afraid of losing her).
But there are psychological manipulations that harm relationships, destroying them. To avoid repeating yourself, read on Wikipedia how manipulators control their victims. (This description applies to both women and men.)
And we will look at 5 common female manipulations so that we know how to rebuff a woman who is a manipulator.
Manipulation of tears, hysteria
This is the first and most popular trick for women. Absolutely all men will encounter it in their lives, and some will live with it constantly. The purpose of this manipulative technique is to make a man feel pity and guilt. A woman learns the effectiveness of this technique from childhood, as a little girl. When she used her tears to get the desired sweets or toys from her dad.
A professional woman manipulator knows that a man will not be able to tolerate her tears for long. At the DNA level, he has a need to protect and help her. Because he feels discomfort at the sight of a crying girl.
When a woman's requests or desires are ignored by a man, then she uses this trick to force her partner to make concessions to her. And after that he will let him know what is required of him in order to make amends.
How to deal with a manipulative woman and her manipulation with tears
There is no need to indulge her if you are absolutely sure that your decision is correct and you are not guilty of anything. Remember: most of the tears of a manipulative woman are not real. These are “crocodile tears” for manipulating the male will.
To avoid having to endure the sight of women's tears or hysterics, go and walk for a while. This way each of you can calm down. You can say, for example, the following: “If you really want to cry, making me the culprit of your tears, then cry, and I’ll go for a walk in the fresh air.”
This will show that you saw through her trick. And whenever something like this happens, you do the same. Over time, your chosen one will understand that this manipulation is no longer effective, so you should abandon it.
Sex manipulation
This is one of the surest means that a woman manipulator uses in a relationship. You can lose count of the number of great people who lost everything they had just because of this trick.
Surely many people have met men who spent 95% of their salary for one day with a lady who skillfully and deftly manipulated them. They bought expensive things that cost more than their salary. And all this for the only reward - sex with her.
Some married women use this manipulation as a tool of pressure on their husband. When she can reward her husband for something with sex or, conversely, punish him with the absence of intimate relationships. Such husbands have to please their wives in every possible way just to “earn/earn” the right to intimate intimacy, and not to receive it by right .
How does a man manipulate sex?
As a rule, it all starts with small requests: to take you somewhere, buy some little thing, fulfill a small whim. Every time such requests become more numerous. As soon as a man denies his chosen one something, she blocks his access to her body. But as soon as he admits his guilt, repents and begins to fulfill his whims, this access will open to him again.
Over time, men develop a conditioned reflex : if you behave well, that means you get a “super prize,” but if you don’t, that’s your problem. Sounds familiar?
How to resist a manipulative woman and manipulation of sex
You need to resist through open and direct conversation. Seriously explain to your companion that female manipulation of sex most often becomes the cause of male infidelity. Therefore, she should think in advance about who might be the culprit and what this might lead to.
Secondly, if you notice that a woman is using sex as a lever, wanting to force you to go against your own will, refuse intimacy yourself. Motivating this by the fact that you don’t buy love .
Before moving on to the next point, we want to say that in this case you need to be prepared for two scenarios:
- She will realize the stupidity of her action and will never try to manipulate you with sex again.
- The woman may break off the relationship with you and leave.
Manipulation of jealousy or provocation of a man
One of the most common types of female manipulation is inciting jealousy.
Warning : Intentionally making your partner jealous is a risky attention-getting strategy. This can damage the relationship to the point that the man will break up with you.
The manipulation plays out according to different scenarios:
- story about an ex
- computer "accidentally" opened with ambiguous email
- dating another man in the hope that someone will notice and tell her partner
- Some women send themselves flowers and tell the man that they have no idea who sent them or, on the contrary, they say that they were given by a secret admirer.
The purpose of such manipulations is to generate male jealousy. This is a kind of “stimulant therapy” to make a man feel that he can lose his woman and not behave so self-confidently with her. By making him believe in the presence of a rival, she thereby increases her own value in the eyes of a man.
It is most often used when a girl feels that the relationship is beginning to fade, and her partner’s interest in her is fading.
The second option is that the girl acts as a jealous person. The goal is to instill a feeling of guilt and force him to make excuses so that the man gets used to giving a full account of his pastime. He who makes excuses is guilty, therefore he is obliged to do what is required of him.
As a rule, at first a woman is simply interested in where her chosen one is, worries, and worries about him. But over time, she tries to tame the guy to report on his every step, if she does not want to see hysterics of jealousy. He is obliged to inform her about where and with whom he is.
How to communicate with a manipulative woman and resist her jealousy
Let's consider three options:
- If you are absolutely sure that your woman has no one, and flowers and a randomly left letter are just a provocation, then do the same. As they say, “they knock out a wedge with a wedge.”
- Calmly but firmly let your chosen one understand the principle of primacy in the house , explaining that it is not the man who is accountable to the woman, but vice versa. Therefore, you are not going to report for every step you take, and you also won’t hang on the phone for half an hour, talking about anything. A reasonable girl, after such “therapy” several times, will stop spying on you and apologize for her behavior.
- If the option is running and your chosen one continues to baselessly “surveill”, then tire her out with your calls. For example, call every five minutes for any reason you can think of. A few days of such “treatment” will discourage the girl from manipulating you in a relationship. (By the way, 8 tips on how to stop being jealous of your man will be useful reading for jealous women).
Manipulation of shame and fear
“Have you decided to start your own business? You’re a loser in life, you better sit quietly at your job so you don’t get fired.” Or “he found something to be happy about, you see, the director praised him for his quality work. Now, if he made you the head of the department, then, yes.”
With this manipulative technique, some women try to destroy a man’s sense of self-worth and lower his self-esteem. Thus, completely strangling any pride a man may have in his achievements, developed qualities or successes. Gradually, the woman forms in him the image of a “klutz.”
How not to fall for female manipulation and maintain self-esteem
- If your relationship is at the stage of cohabitation or courtship, then it is better for you to leave. It is unlikely that you will be able to teach her conflict-free communication. It would be a thankless task with her.
- The advice for married men is this: you should not tell your life partner about some of your plans or achievements. Try to keep such topics of conversation to a minimum until you achieve results.
Manipulation of women's reproaches
The essence of this manipulative technique is to ask an accusing question instead of a polite request. For example, a woman does not make a request: “Darling, please go get some bread,” but asks a shameful and accusing question: “Why couldn’t I stop by on the way home and buy bread, do I really have to remind you of this all the time, you yourself can’t guess about it?
As you understand, the woman in this case does not expect an answer to her accusing question. Her goal is to induce a feeling of guilt, and then responsibility for the supposed emotional suffering that she had to endure from the actions or inactions of her life partner.
A man, faced with such manipulation, will always feel unjustifiably ashamed. Manipulative reproaches also include the following phrases:
- You never listen to me
- You always do what you want
With the words “never and always” in the form of a reproach, a woman manipulator nullifies all the past merits of her man. (In this regard, we advise you to learn some practical tips on how to properly communicate with a man in order to maintain a relationship).
I wonder if there are any men who have not gone through a similar manipulation at least once in their lives?
How to resist female manipulation and reproaches
Try to calmly explain to your girlfriend that you don’t accept reproaches, but you listen more willingly to polite requests. And if she needs something, then let her ask politely or remind her about it. Especially if she doesn’t want to turn you into a gendarme who will constantly reproach and blame her.
If a girl allows herself to talk to a guy in this tone, then without anger, but firmly tell her the following: “Who taught you to treat guys so rudely? If I were your teacher, I would probably have to spank you! The best part is that it actually works!
And remember: a person cannot be responsible for the emotions or mood of another person.
