How difficult it is for a beginning pick-up artist to understand and catch the signs of a woman’s sympathy for a man. What is this? Why is she stroking her hair? Is she just fixing her hair or does she want you to get to know her? All these hints are clearly not your strong point, you are confused and stand, look, do nothing. The girl thinks that you are an idiot, turns around and leaves to look for someone who is more understanding and no less attractive, and you are sad. After reading this article, this situation will not happen again. Go ahead - study female psychology! Read also my article on how to interest a girl.
How can a girl show sympathy?
Often, the transfer of information occurs on a subconscious level.
People are able to interact with each other, communicating with each other not only through words.
Words convey only 10% of information, the remaining 90% comes from:
- body language, gestures and facial expressions – 60%;
- voice intonation and sound – 30%.
Often, the transfer of information occurs on a subconscious level , less often - deliberately. To avoid misunderstandings, you should learn “body language” in order to recognize signs of sympathy on the part of a girl.
Often a guy perceives female behavior incorrectly. It happens that sympathy manifests itself in expressed dissatisfaction with the object of attention.
This is a kind of trick, uncontrollable by the woman herself , which should be accepted with a smile. A positive reaction demonstrates interest in the other person. But if a girl reacts negatively to any of your actions, it means she doesn’t like you.
How to understand during a date that your interlocutor likes you?
Of course, the fact that the girl went on a date with you in itself speaks of some sympathy on her part. But not every meeting with a girl automatically becomes a date.
If you invite a girl to a meeting, then for this meeting to become a date, you still need to try. The girl herself will tell you whether everything is going well with her hidden signals. It is from them that you can understand that a girl likes you.
1) The palm is a weather vane.
You can always understand from a woman's palms what's what - they, like a weather vane, can tell you whether a fair wind is blowing for you with this girl. If she is attracted to you, the girl's palms will open and look at you with the inner side.
Perhaps they will even tremble, as if saying “come closer.” But if she doesn't care about you, she can rest her chin with her knuckles facing out, or clench her fists.
2) Close contact.
The girl will be closer to you than is usually allowed by decency.
3) Invasion of personal space.
She will move her arm, leg or any object closer to you, getting into your “personal space”.
4) Accidental touch.
By touching you, even very quickly, the girl gives you a signal to which you definitely need to respond warmly. Do not under any circumstances show that this was unexpected or surprising for you.
5) Tilt.
In case she cannot approach or move in your direction, the girl will lean towards you. She may be doing this to help her hear you better in a noisy room, which isn't always a hidden sexual signal, but at least she wants to hear you. While playing with these signals, the girl can either move closer to you or move further away. In both cases, do the same thing in this game that she does.
6) Childishly stupid behavior.
If a girl likes you, then the girl in her often wakes up. She will behave energetically and openly with you. Her actions will be filled with some sweet and cheerful stupidity.
7) Mirroring.
She may begin to copy your movements and freeze in the same poses. Thus, the girl will show that she is tuned in to the same wavelength as you, but this can also happen to her unconsciously. You can also use mirroring to make the girl feel more comfortable with you, but don’t overdo it.
(Also read how to ask a girl out on a date).
Verbal and non-verbal signs of female sympathy
Scientists, psychologists, and seduction specialists cannot describe all the signs sent by a woman who shows sympathy. There is only an average list that will help to decipher the behavior of the opposite sex at the initial stage.
Nonverbal signs
By turning to body language, you can unravel the sympathy or antipathy of your interlocutor.
By turning to body language, you can unravel the sympathy or antipathy of your interlocutor at the moment of communication.
It is enough to have 5 signals from the list to draw the right conclusions and choose a strategy for further action:
- Asymmetry in the pose (the girl leans on one leg, putting her hip line forward).
- Half-open mouth (upper teeth visible).
- Games with lips (biting, licking, smiling).
- Constant contact with your own hair (straightening, twisting strands, throwing back).
- Dilated pupils.
- Expression of facial interest (raised eyebrows, frequent blinking).
- Copying the body movements of the interlocutor.
- Increased gesticulation.
- Unreasonable laughter, inappropriate words.
- Bare shoulder, neck, wrist.
Signs of a man in love: body language
Since the time when life appeared on planet Earth, representatives of the stronger half of humanity have been trying to win the love of their fair half. To earn the favor of these beautiful creatures, men are ready for any feat.
When it comes to love, women tend to show their cards. Men try to hide their feelings, which can lead to doubts about the validity of their feelings. And women are constantly lost trying to decipher their vague words and actions. Some obvious signs and gestures allow you to find out that a man is in love.
Sure signs of falling in love
1. Her happiness is his happiness. A man will do anything to make a girl smile or laugh. Seeing her happy, his heart lights up. After all, loving someone means having an emotional connection with them.
2. Eye contact. Eyes, as you know, cannot lie. If a man is in love, he cannot help but look at the object of his adoration.
3. He's not afraid to be himself. A man in love next to a woman is not tense and remains himself. He is not afraid to do stupid and strange things, so he trusts her.
4. Random surprises. A man will surprise the woman he is in love with. He can give flowers on a random day or leave sweets in a hidden place. This is how he impresses her.
5. He includes her in his plans. A man who loves a woman understands that “I” and “you” are now “we”. When he begins to plan his future, a woman is always present in these plans. He is not afraid of the prospect of living together for many years, he likes the relationship. When a person is really (and not just playing) “on the same wavelength” with you, then he is interested in a long-term relationship.
6. Spontaneous touch. A man is looking for a reason to touch the object of his love. He will randomly reach out at dinner, put his hand on her back and try in every possible way to be closer to the woman.
7. He prefers her company. If a man is not truly interested in a woman, he will not spend much time on her. He most likely spends his free time in the company of his friends, goes to the gym or goes fishing. Men almost never spend most of their free time on relationships that, from their own point of view, have no future.
Showing feminine sympathy in conversation and behavior at work
Propping her head with her hand, the woman demonstratively exposes her neck
. If the object of sympathy is a colleague, the girl constantly tries to attract attention by dropping a heavy pile of documents, calling to fix the computer, showing false sadness.
If a man is late at work, then the lady is also in no hurry to go home. And the pose is unintentionally directed towards the target. Supporting her head with her hand, the woman defiantly exposes her neck.
Female sympathy: pitfalls
Some women deliberately feign sympathy in order to get what they want from a man (help, attention, gifts, etc.). Guys attracted by imaginary “love” are not always able to distinguish lies from truth. It is recommended to evaluate the girl's behavior.
She is faking if:
- She disappears for a long time as soon as her problem is solved (the computer is fixed, the shelf is nailed down).
- He refuses to walk in the park, but gladly agrees to go to an expensive restaurant.
- In the presence of other people, she flirts recklessly with you, but as soon as you are left alone, she suddenly cools off.
How to intentionally make a girl like you?
Most representatives of the stronger sex are afraid of rejection. Therefore, it is easier to awaken a woman’s sympathy, and then proceed with further actions. There is no need to be shy and talk boringly about topics close to you.
You should also give up assertiveness and not shower your interlocutor with inappropriate compliments.
It is better to choose the tactics of a cheerful, easy-to-communicate man who can support any conversation. It is worth studying the hobbies of the object of sympathy and masterfully using this information during communication.
By correspondence
The lion's share of communication takes place in instant messengers. The attitude of the interlocutor here can be determined only by what he considers necessary to write, what emoticons he puts, and whether he is willing to make contact.
Initiates communication herself
Whether a woman will write first if she is interested in a man depends on her character. Some will not start correspondence even if they are deeply in love and in a state of alcoholic intoxication.
Replies quickly
Quick responses indicate increased interest or lack of other activities. If a woman always answers quickly, then you can hope for special sympathy on her part.
Writes in detail
A sign of sympathy is also detailed answers, a desire to convey to the interlocutor more information on an issue that interests him. Constant monosyllabic answers indicate disinterest in communication.
Gives compliments
A woman will give compliments and praise for any “achievement.” Whatever you boast about, be it the ability to make coffee or repair a car, everything is perceived with delight in the context of “if I had such a husband, I would be happy.”
One way or another, the correspondence will be reduced to personal topics. It is important for a woman to make it clear to a man that she is open to closer communication than friendly communication.
How to keep a girl's interest in you?
Getting a girl interested is the beginning of the journey.
Getting a girl interested is the beginning of the journey. But maintaining a woman's interest is much more difficult.
Working on relationships requires constant effort, and if you know what the foundation is based on, it is much easier to follow the right path:
- do not forget about physical contact: touching and hugging are a component of relationships;
- talk about feelings and emotions;
- solve her problems;
- be attentive and caring;
- trust;
- spend enough time together.
Manifestation of female sympathy: advice from psychologists
Psychologists who study the sphere of relationships recommend not relying entirely on the list of signs of female sympathy, but taking them as a basis, supplementing them with their own conclusions and observations.
It is important to understand that all people are different and judging all women according to the same template is incorrect.
Advice from psychologists:
- The best way to find out if a girl is really interested in you is to take the first step. Invite her to the cinema or cafe. If she refused at first, citing lack of free time, try again in a few days. Constant refusal means lack of feelings.
- Think about whether it is beneficial for a girl to communicate with you? Maybe you selflessly help her with her work or constantly give her rides. Try one day to refuse her help under a valid excuse. See if her attitude towards you changes.
- Don't discuss your doubts with friends or colleagues. They may have their own selfish goals. As a result, you risk finding yourself in a stupid situation.
Why are guys afraid to meet girls, and why do girls stay lonely?
The following fears often prevent a guy from meeting a girl he likes:
- Refusal A man who is selfish by nature values his dignity and is very afraid to hear the word “no.” A man takes refusal hard, so not everyone decides to take such a risk.
- Crowded place A possible reason why a guy is in no hurry to approach a girl is a large crowd of people around her. The fear of being ridiculed in front of a crowd is much worse than being told no in private.
- Inconsistency A man is afraid of comparison with the girl’s friends, who may be more successful, with what she does in life and her financial situation. The fear of losing in these and other comparisons can push away his desire to get closer to the girl
- Negative attitude Doubts in one’s own abilities and thoughts that nothing will work out predetermine the guy’s attitude, who ultimately decides that there is no need to try
- Being used There are often cases when a girl meets a guy and has a nice conversation with him only with the expectation that he will pay for her drink or dinner, and then disappears in search of another for the same purpose. The fear of joining the ranks of men whom women use for their own purposes scares guys away from unfamiliar girls
