When interpreted correctly, a woman's body language can convey a lot of valuable information about her feelings, thoughts and opinions towards the other person, even if they are not directly expressed in words. Understanding gestures also plays an important role in the art of seduction and flirting. This allows you to read intentions and signals and even predict future behavior. Research shows that women's nonverbal speech is richer and more transparent than men's. It is she who often serves as a subconscious “green light” for a man and an invitation to action.
The idea that women encourage men to flirt was confirmed in the 1980s by social psychologist Timothy Perper and anthropologist David Givens. Yes, this is a controversial theory. But back to the facts: Scientists spent 9,000 hours observing the behavior of women and men in American bars. The results were clear: men decide to make contact only when, thanks to non-verbal communication, they can be sure that they will not be rejected. As a result, a common complaint from men is that they misinterpreted the woman's behavior and took the first steps based on this.
What gestures of sympathy are there?
The main part of gestures of sympathy is known to everyone. Representatives of the fairer sex use the same gestures when preening themselves. And men do the same: they straighten their clothes, touch their hair, look into their eyes longer than usual.
Girls, like the stronger sex, use this gesture: they hide their thumbs. But they do it more gracefully - they hide their finger in their pocket or purse.
Excitement is indicated by blush on the cheeks and enlarged pupils. But let's look at nonverbal signs in more detail.
The girl wants to please: perfect makeup and hairstyle
A woman's appearance has a powerful effect on the stronger sex, and women know this. Therefore, a woman tries to please her beloved man by carefully choosing her hairstyle and makeup.
Important: Girls, do not overdo it with makeup, sometimes the result can be disastrous.
The fact is that a woman’s and a man’s concept of beauty can be very different. Women who are too sleek, expensively dressed and ideal in appearance seem inaccessible and cold to men. Although men really value grooming, naturalness and neatness in women.
Searching for truth in a glance
To figure out whether a person sympathizes with you or not, you need to carefully look for the truth in his gaze. A person's eyes will be clear if he truly likes you.
There are hidden and overt forms of showing interest. If a person openly demonstrates sympathy, then respect is noticeable in his gaze. The eyes are open wide, and the stronger the sympathy, the more the pupils dilate.
People use hidden expressions of sympathy if they are afraid of disappointment or deception. But, despite the fear, he is trying to somehow contact you, observe or watch. The hidden sympathetic gaze is different: a person looks at a person he is interested in furtively, so as not to be noticed. If eyes meet, he immediately looks away. But from the outside, such behavior is very noticeable.
The views of the different sexes are quite different. Women are more resourceful. They are the ones who know how to “shoot” with their eyes and play “staring contest”.
Straightening your hair, playing with your hair
In all of nonverbal communication, eyes and hair play are among the easiest gestures to recognize, although they are also not free from interpretation errors. Much depends on how a woman plays with her hair and other related actions. So the answer to the question of what it means when a girl plays with her hair is not at all clear.
Some men, especially dominant ones, react strongly to the way a woman twirls a strand of hair around her fingers. This form of touch triggers a man's nurturing instinct. However, it is worth knowing that signs of flirting can be said when a woman looks at someone or looks into his eyes. When they are tense, nervous and looking down, they are probably uncomfortable. If playing with hair by pulling strands or twirling them around your fingers occurs during a conversation and is combined with avoidance of eye contact or lack of direct gaze, this is likely to indicate boredom. On the other hand, shaking the hairstyle is a reflex that aims to diffuse the aroma and convey a subconscious desire to the man under the eyes to take on this role.
Visual body language of men
To understand the visual body language of men and notice interest, it is important to note the direction of their gaze. Anyone who is interested in you looks you up and down. First, the man notices the general attractiveness, then lowers his eyes, lingers on the chest and hips, and after a while looks at them again.
If a certain representative of the stronger sex shows sympathy, this can be seen by the frequency of glances and the enlargement of the pupils.
Visual sign language of women
But women have a different visual body language. The weaker sex looks furtively. If a woman meets the eyes of a man she likes, she often looks like a thief who was caught in the act. She hides her gaze and blushes.
Among representatives of the fairer sex, it is considered correct to look at the object of sympathy in secret. But experienced ladies behave more confidently. They are also embarrassed, but after averting their eyes, they return their gaze again, accompanied by a smile.
Unlike representatives of the stronger sex, ladies examine a man they like from the bottom up. This direction has a double meaning. Initially, the girl gathers her courage before looking into the eyes. In addition, the meeting of views plays a serious role.
Stress
Understanding when a girl is worried about something will help a man take the initiative at the right time and take the situation into his own hands, demonstrate masculinity and strength.
When a girl is worried or stressed, she blinks more often.
At such moments, fine motor skills come into play: in stressful situations, a woman can not just straighten a curl in her hair, but simply rhythmically twirl it around her finger, for example.
Alternatively, roll up tubes or tear paper napkins, break toothpicks or snack skewers. If we talk about facial expressions: very often, with an increase in emotional stress, women purse their lips.
How stress and empty worries break a woman from the inside and ruin relationships with men, you can learn in the free online course - Man: Honest Instructions.
Hidden gestures of sympathy
Each of us has a personal set of gestures that are used to attract the attention of the object. Hidden gestures of sympathy are interesting.
As it turned out earlier, the body language of the two sexes is too different. Of course, women's gestures are varied. At the same time, there are many universal signs that are inherent in representatives of the two sexes for hiding or showing emotions.
If a person doubts the reciprocity of feelings, then gestures acquire a certain caution. In this case, if you intentionally or inadvertently touch your secret admirer, he will withdraw his hand. It’s easy to explain this behavior: the person hides his feelings, avoids contact with you, because... afraid of not being able to cope with emotions and giving them away.
Main conclusions
Body language and gestures in the psychology of communication are a quick path to mutual understanding. It is useful for every person to learn to recognize postures, facial expressions and gestures, and the true emotions of their interlocutors. Nonverbal symbolism will allow each of us to become successful communicators.
Body language must be mastered by managers who, by the nature of their work, are required to convince subordinates and direct their thoughts in the right direction. Mastering the secrets of nonverbal communication will help you avoid difficult situations, preventing brewing conflicts.
This section of the psychology of gestures and body language is very interesting. It makes sense to develop in this direction. When mastering science, great opportunities will open up for you that you can safely apply in life!
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