How does a man's love manifest itself? A man's view from a psychologist

In this article we will tell you:

Psychology of a man's love for a woman
Differences between a man's love and a woman's love
What is the difference between love between M and F?
Signs of male love
How should a man love a woman so that she is sure that she is truly loved?

The love of a man for a woman is different from the love of a woman for a man. And every woman who strives to love and be loved needs to know what exactly male love is.

In the article we will talk about how a man’s love for a woman is manifested , how it works, and what its essence is.

We will rather talk not about love itself, but about male abilities, manifestations and characteristics.

Psychology of a man's love for a woman

Let's start with the main thing - male love is determined solely by the man's capabilities (opportunities in every sense).

Most often, these possibilities depend on the age of the man, and therefore we can talk about some age-related nature of male love .

After all, a man aged 20 to 30 will not be the same as a man aged 35 to 50. In other words, age does not always play a major role here, although most often it does. You will see this for yourself a little later.

A man’s age is determined not by specific numbers, but by his achievements and life experience. Some men remain children until the end of their days.

It is clear that men change in one direction or another. They acquire some qualities, and lose others. In this regard, there are differences in understanding the concept of “love”. For example, a physically healthy and successful man who occupies a high position in society sees love differently than a sick, poor loser. This example is an extreme.

But in life you rarely have to face extremes. Not all men become strong first. This refers to the physical strength and physical health of a man. Not everyone becomes rich or powerful.

When a man says that all ages are submissive to love, this means that at any age a man is capable of love, but at each age he loves in a special way.

How to distinguish love from infatuation

It is difficult to distinguish love from infatuation. At the beginning of a romantic relationship, almost everyone is confident that they have found their soul mate. But over time, the feelings subside and then disappear altogether. Therefore, it is important to track the moment when falling in love develops into strong love. And for this you need to know the main signs of these feelings.

General or private

They usually fall in love with people with an attractive appearance: an aquiline profile, expressive eyes, a doll-like face, a good figure, etc.

Love embraces the image of the chosen one as a whole, and not just individual exciting details. In this case, physical attraction is combined with charm with all the personal qualities of the partner. One of the signs of a man’s love for a woman is admiration for her every action: her manner of communication, the habit of drinking coffee or doing yoga in the morning.

Instinct or awareness

A sure sign of falling in love is suddenness. Sometimes this feeling comes over you at first sight and there is no scientific explanation for this. It can be judged that falling in love arises instinctively rather than consciously.

Love takes time to mature. For her, just one or two glances are not enough: in order to fully accept a person, you must first get to know him.

Constant or unstable

An unstable relationship is another sign of falling in love. Passion is changeable - it flares up and then subsides. Attraction does not have a solid foundation, deep roots that would fuel interest in a companion. It's superficial.

In contrast, love never fades away. The need for a loved one and longing when separated from him remain regardless of the circumstances.

Madness or Sanity

This is a very important and significant difference that can have a significant impact on the continuation of the novel that has begun. A person in love often pushes friends and relatives into the background, replacing them with the interests of the chosen one. And even if immutable moral values are at stake (a vow of friendship, filial duty), the inclination of the heart will always prevail.

Therefore, a sign of a man’s love is the presence of respect not only for his chosen one, but also for everyone else. Of course, she is the best in the whole world. And therefore she herself will never allow him to forget about his loved ones.

Easy or difficult

Lovers tolerate separation quite easily, without experiencing serious emotional discomfort at such moments.

In contrast, one of the most important signs of love is consistency. The moral and emotional connection between lovers is preserved during separations and distances. They, just like after their first dates, look forward to meeting each other and are constantly in touch.

Resentment or compromise

The “candy-bouquet” period ends sooner or later. Afterwards, the couple in love begins to quarrel. The further away the date of acquaintance is, the more the partners feel the difference between them. At this time, any little things can cause big disagreements. As a result, resentment and dissatisfaction accumulate, outweighing the cup of affection.

Quarrels of people who love each other, on the contrary, only strengthen their relationship. A mutual desire to find a compromise and show mutual understanding is a sign of a reliable union. You may have seen more than once how, a couple of minutes after a loud dispute, spouses are already laughing, making fun of each other.

"I" or "we"

Another sign of falling in love is a person’s perception of himself as a separate person. He remains detached from his partner, thinking in terms of “I-he/she”. If the term “we” is absent in a couple’s conversations, then there is little that connects them other than their passion. In such cases, a man may want to go on vacation without his beloved, be alone and will not change his previous habits.

A serious feeling is inseparable from the concept of “we”. Therefore, one of the most important signs of a man’s love is the use of the words “us”, “us”. At the same time, no one should be burdened by the time spent together. On the contrary, a loving couple gets great pleasure from cooking dinner together, walking or talking on the phone.

Selfishness or sacrifice

Lovers think mainly about themselves, and lovers think mainly about their partner. Moreover, the former most often pursues a selfish goal. Of course, any young girl will love the attention of a respectable gentleman who owns a shiny new Cadillac. And more mature people usually reassure themselves: “let it be better than none at all.” Lovelaces will be happy to show off their new attractive girlfriend to their friends.

Love and self-interest are incompatible concepts. After all, the main goal of love is to make your chosen one happy (by sacrificing, if necessary, your needs). She is filled with empathy, friendliness and trust.

Physical or spiritual

It's no secret that the external similarity of love manifestations hides a significant difference. The goal of lovers is to obtain pleasures and benefits that give satisfaction in the material world.

While love inspires and strengthens the spirit. The “everything by two” principle applies here: difficulties are divided in half, and joy is multiplied by two.

Of course, the signs of a man’s love in each situation should be considered individually. Moreover, in practice everything is much more complicated than in theory. It also happens that a simple hobby becomes a deep heartfelt attachment. But, unfortunately, this does not happen so often. Therefore, when trying to determine your feeling, think about whether it pushes you into the abyss of passions or elevates you to the skies.

Differences between a man's love and a woman's love

Globally, love for both men and women is the same thing.

At its core, love is about meeting a specific set of needs for your partner.

Needs are not only different in type:

physiological
psychological
social

But they also differ in priority both for each person and for gender (men and women). And this is where some difference lies. What is more important and self-evident for women is secondary and incomprehensible for men. And vice versa.

That’s why M and F will always not understand each other and enrage each other (unless, of course, they learn to understand each other).

Women's love

The feeling of love consists of two components:

In the need to love;
To be loved.

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Take your gifts!

As you understand, these are two completely different needs. To love is to give, and to be loved is to take. It looks different for men and women. That is, the question “What comes first?”

For men, it is primary to be loved . They are a little selfish, consumers of women's love. They want to receive love and feel loved. This is the same question when a man leaves, a woman should ask herself, “Did the man next to me feel loved?” If not, he will leave.

But when a man has received this “Be loved”, he returns love to the woman. How? Man's love.

But a woman first gives her love, she loves a man like a woman. Then she receives his masculine love from the man.

So what is this male and female love?

Women's love is emotionality, sensuality, warmth, affection, tenderness, a state of contentment. Yes, a woman should be happy.

When a man sees a satisfied woman, his mood also improves. For example, he came home from work, and his satisfied wife greeted him, and then he realized that everything was fine and his self-esteem increased. And whoever comes home and sees a dissatisfied wife, his self-esteem falls.

Women's love is the ability to ask. That is, women must declare their feminine “I want.” And the man fulfills it, receives the woman’s gratitude, joy and happiness. He also begins to feel happy.

The rich cry too...

In her soul, every girl cherishes the image of an ideal man: smart, handsome, rich, successful...

There is a catch in the last two points: usually men of a certain type of character and mind reach heights.

They set goals, work for results, and sweep away competitors like trash from the road. But for some reason we believe that “with me he will be completely different, white and fluffy”...

At first glance, such a gentleman is ideal: he showers him with expensive gifts, knows what he wants from life.

At this stage it would be good to take off your rose-colored glasses and pay attention to the details.

Clear signs of manipulation

1. Criticisms . “Your hair is very unruly, maybe you should style it?”, “You’re holding the fork incorrectly, watch it right.”

If he takes the position of leader and mentor on the first dates, what will happen next?

2. Competition . He will say that a man’s love for a woman is demonstrated by actions; competition is unacceptable in the family.

The strong should be the leader, and the weak should stand behind him. Only in the end everything turns out not so rosy: the man will continue to strengthen his authority and power over you.

The woman becomes dependent, and the castle in the air turns into a golden cage.

3. Jealousy of the past . Jealous people will constantly cultivate feelings of guilt in you.

You will have to prove that Masha in the phone book is really a friend, and not the insidious seducer Artem.

Staying late after work? Get ready for an unpleasant scene of jealousy, because your partner already has dozens of options in his head about who you managed to have fun with.

Jealous people convince that such checks are confirmation of their love. In fact, this is a simple manipulation that forces a woman to get deeper and deeper into this swamp.

4. Behavior . Male manipulators are in no hurry to show emotions. Rather, they act according to a proven scheme: flowers, gifts, compliments - this is enough to turn a woman’s head.

And we do not immediately notice that the praise sounds somehow patronizing, and not with tenderness and warmth.

5. Resources . The love of a manipulative man lasts as long as you admire him and elevate him to the rank of a deity.

If you are dissatisfied with something, you stop feeding his male ego - the money tap quickly turns off. This is also a type of manipulation.

6. Depreciation . At first, he will praise you and turn a blind eye to minor offenses. But as soon as you relax, succumb to its charms - the satellite will quickly lower you from heaven to earth.

Such men either disappear or begin to assert themselves at your expense. This is a direct path to complete dependence on a partner, loss of one’s own self.

Relationships with such men are a dance on the edge of an abyss. One wrong move and you fly down, collecting your heart from the fragments.

What is the difference between love between M and F?

Three differences between the expressions of love between a man and a woman:

For a woman, the emotional state always comes first. Women are always hunting for emotions and therefore pay attention to little things. For a woman, love is the feelings from his actions. For men, facts and comfort are important. Therefore, love for a man is specific actions that satisfy his comfort.
For a woman, love is caring . Taking care of her emotional, financial, sexual, physical well-being. For a man, love is faith in him. When they don’t help, if they don’t ask and just give verbal support – “You can handle it!” You are strong! I'm proud of you!". This is a recognition of his strength.
For a woman, love is not about respect . She may not respect, but she loves (=cares). A man cannot love if he does not respect and cannot love if he is not respected. Respect for a man is even more important than love.

This can be briefly explained by the main messages that M and F want to hear and feel:

She wants to receive the message “I will never leave you” from him. Those. I will take care and act for you.
He wants to receive the message from her: “I’m following you, wherever you go.” Those. I will give you the right to choose, take risks, make mistakes, draw conclusions and choose again.

What is the difference between love and sympathy

At the beginning of a relationship, feelings cloud the mind, and any gesture from a man is perceived as a sign of special affection. And it often happens that while a girl is already thinking about the style of a wedding dress and the names of her children, her counterpart is simply having a pleasant time in the company of a good interlocutor. How to distinguish between love and sympathy?

Sympathy

Sympathy is more close to friendship. An old lady selling flowers or a child running happily across the lawn can be cute. They feel sympathy and affection for friends and good acquaintances. How to distinguish sympathy on his part:

A man meets with you occasionally, only when it is convenient for him. He could easily disappear for several days.
He does not try to take the relationship to an intimate level.
When communicating, he is confident and calm. Treats you like a friend.

Love

Love begins with sympathy, but goes further. It changes human behavior, and it is not difficult to notice. A quiet and calm colleague suddenly becomes the life of the party, deftly juggling sparkling jokes. The brutal handsome man gets lost when he sees you, stammers and gets nervous. There are also men who carefully hide their feelings and emotions under lock and key. But even their love is easy to determine by non-verbal signs:

When experiencing love, a man wants to be close, and even after a hard day at work, he will find a couple of hours to see you.
He constantly thinks about you and will not disappear for long. Especially modest ones may not bombard you with messages, but carefully read and like all posts on social networks.
He experiences physical attraction and demonstrates it openly or covertly. Tries to hug, brush away a speck, give a hand or support when walking on an uneven road.
He doesn't try to flirt, joke or pay attention to other girls. His thoughts are occupied only with you.
He experiences unpleasant feelings and even jealousy when hearing about competitors.

Signs of male love

Have you ever wondered how a man's love manifests itself? .

So, men’s love lies in those very little things that we sometimes don’t even take seriously; men don’t know how to show their love like women do.

Man's love:

this is to come up to hug from the back;
this is a kiss before leaving home;
this is the lunch or dinner he prepared (for which he should be praised and told that he was super-well done, and it turned out very tasty);
this is an “I love you” SMS when he leaves somewhere for a long time;
these are the words “let's go together”;
when he brings his salary home.

Jealousy and inappropriate behavior

When a man loves a woman, he wants her to belong only to him, in other words, he does not tolerate competition. Creepy possessive instincts force a man not only to constantly monitor the object of his feelings, but also to commit rather strange acts that are aimed at protecting the girl from someone else’s attacks.

We can say that this is quite typical behavior of a man in love.

Even if business issues are simply resolved with representatives of the opposite sex, and there is no flirting on the part of the woman, the lover really does not tolerate this well.

Obvious feelings that have already been recognized will manifest themselves in vivid scenes of jealousy, and secret ones will find a way out in some other way - through absent-mindedness, irritability, and the like.

As for inappropriate actions, a man in love is really capable of climbing onto the balcony of his beloved woman. But this is a romantic approach. Some show their feelings in a very strange way - with jokes, sarcasticness, ridicule.

It's like in first grade when a boy pulls a girl's pigtails - just a way to get attention.

An equally eloquent sign is the opposite behavior - when a man gets confused in his words, is desperately embarrassed, but still tries his best to show only his best side. Is he trying to smooth his hair, tugging at his beard and doesn’t know where to put his hands? He is very much in love!

In all other situations, falling in love is a fairly obvious factor.

What's the result?

Scandals and quarrels between couples cannot be ruled out. The main thing is to understand each other and know what to do in a given situation. Many psychotherapists note that temperament, the nature of the relationship between a woman and a man depends on upbringing.

This is especially true for incomprehensible situations between mother and son. Most grievances and misunderstandings develop in childhood and also during puberty.

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Change of worldview

This point is sometimes difficult to notice right away, however, it also takes place in the life of a passionate man if he has always been considered an emotional person. A guy in love radically changes his habits, becomes more cheerful, easy-going, takes initiative more often and generally tries to become No. 1 in your general environment from now on. Such a cheerful mood indicates that in such a state the admirer is capable of the most daring act.

During a period of such admiration, men often commit adventurous and unexpected actions that were previously completely atypical for them. When a young man tries to show his high intelligence or excellent sense of humor in the presence of his chosen one, he probably likes you a lot.

At the same time, he distinguishes you from all other people quite openly: he praises you for the work you have done, often sets you as an example, and admires your skills and knowledge. Similar interest extends to other areas. The admirer tries to actively participate in conversations that interest you, and “accidentally” appears in places where the object of affection is often located, even if his usual location there is completely inappropriate.

Gait and posture

Significant changes also occur with gait. It becomes lighter, more flying, with elements of dancing. Often, a representative of the stronger sex even begins to whistle or hum tunes. His physique visually seems to be revealed: thus, he tries to show the girl his natural power and strength.

Among the most popular ways for a lady to look confident are broad shoulders, hands on hips and spread legs, indicating good physical characteristics. And during the conversation, the man still tries to turn his whole body towards his beloved. It seems that this seems like a typical gesture of respect when you are talking to someone, but on a subconscious level, such movements are just an attempt to show off effectively.

Signs that a married man is in love

A married man can also fall in love. Given the circumstances, he will hide it with even greater care, but changes in behavior can still be noticed. If a married man falls in love, the main signs are:

He shares his family problems with the girl. He talks about how his wife doesn’t understand him;
Signs of attention. They are hidden or appear in small ways, but are still present;
Again the look. The eyes look at the object of adoration with interest and a little detachment.

Important! If a girl realizes that a married man is interested in her, she should not rush into a relationship headlong. The role of a mistress is not suitable for everyone. If everything is really bad in his family, and the husband is no longer able to live with his wife, he should wait until they sort things out among themselves.

Communication

Nonverbal signs of a man in love who hides his feelings

Nonverbal communication is considered to be the most effective branch of psychology. With its help, you can “read thoughts,” guess a person’s mood and look for ways to win him over. Nonverbal signs of a man in love who skillfully hides his love are easy to detect if you know the basics of effective communication.

Trespassing

The man seems to be invading your personal space. The well-known “arm's length distance”, to which we usually allow only close relatives and well-known people, is the main goal for your admirer. This is how he tries to demonstrate his desire to get closer and start a more intimate relationship.

An attempt to create tactile contact is manifested in seemingly random touches, light hugs, a hand on the waist and similar manifestations of tenderness.

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How to understand that a man really loves you? The opinions of psychologists on this matter often differ. The stronger sex can hide their own feelings for various reasons. Perhaps the girl has a boyfriend, they are colleagues, or he simply thinks that they are not suitable for each other in terms of status.

However, even the most restrained and intelligent man will involuntarily or, on the contrary, deliberately express his own feelings. What symptom should you pay attention to:

Trusting relationship. Most men are not used to telling strangers about ex-girlfriends and failed relationships. However, if a close friend shares similar memories, it is worth thinking about the fact that he is experiencing far from friendly feelings;
The look of a lover. When a guy sneaks a glance at a girl and looks away every time she notices it;
Appearance. It is especially worth considering if before the guy did not attach much importance to his appearance, and at a certain point this changes.