A date is a meeting of two people who are interested in each other. The purpose of the date is to get to know the person you like better. Behind these stingy definitions are hidden emotions, feelings and hopes that can be justified or destroyed. It all depends on how the date goes. The concept of an ideal date is different for women and men. However, the main thing that partners strive for is not to disappoint each other. The first date is especially important. Both men and women prepare for it with special care.
Subsequent meetings are one of the components of the courtship ritual, during which partners get to know each other and make appropriate decisions about their future life together.
The ideal date from a woman's point of view
The main concept that guides women when they imagine a date is romance.
Let your partner not do anything supernatural, but he must be romantic, sensual and in love.
To organize a date that a girl will like, follow these simple recommendations:
- The perfect date place.
Choose a meeting place with the expectation that it will be romantic in itself. For example, near the monument, where it is customary for couples in love to meet. Many ladies prefer to choose their own date place. Some of them love it when a young man comes in or picks them up. However, do not forget about the traditional bouquet of flowers.
- Walk.
Plan a walk through a picturesque park or ancient streets. Here you will definitely find a topic to continue the conversation, suddenly interrupted by the search for “common ground” of views and interests. Ridiculous stiffness and tense silence will not break the thread that stretches between your souls. By walking slowly and talking, you will get to know each other faster.
- Cafe.
If you have the opportunity, book a table in advance in a cozy cafe or restaurant. Pretend that while passing by, you decided to look into this establishment. When the girl understands that this is not just a coincidence, and you prepared in advance, she will be very pleased. It’s good if there are flowers on the table when you arrive. It's even better if you prepare a pleasant surprise (order music that your girlfriend likes). As you chat in a cozy place where no one will disturb you, you will understand that your lady does not want the evening to end. You have the same intentions - to prolong communication.
- Theater or cinema.
It will be great if you take care of the entertainment program in advance. View theater posters or announcements of new films. Choose a neutral play, film or theater performance that doesn't have any hint of vulgarity. After the theater, walk the girl home. At the same time, show that you would not mind continuing the evening in an intimate setting and meeting the dawn together in each other’s arms. However, you shouldn't be too persistent. Wait until the girl decides that it is time for intimate dates. For now, limit yourself to a gentle kiss goodbye.
- The final touch.
Despite the fact that you have already broken up today and will see each other only after a while, please the girl with an evening call.
Call her half an hour after parting and thank her for a wonderful evening.
She will be especially pleased to hear that you have already missed her. Make your next date just as fun and amazing.
Romance for girls is that a man must give her flowers, and the program of events includes a cafe and a cinema (theater). If you are going to surprise a girl with a horse ride or a parachute jump, warn her about what style of clothing would be preferable.
Meeting
Don't be late. A gentleman will never keep a lady waiting. Being late shows disrespect and causes unnecessary anxiety in a woman. If you are running late due to unforeseen circumstances, call your girlfriend and let her know your expected arrival time.
Don't show up too early either. The woman will prepare for the meeting until the last minute. Showing up 15 minutes early will only confuse her because she might still be in her robe. Now she will have to hurry, and she will start to get nervous. You understand that this is not the best start to a date.
Compliment her right away. Women usually spend a lot of time and money preparing for a first date. Let her know you appreciate it. Don't delay with your compliment. Do this as soon as you see her. A woman will never refuse to hear something like: “You look stunning!” or “That dress looks amazing on you!”
Open the car door for her. Show a little old-fashioned chivalry and offer your hand as she sits down. Before you close the door, make sure you don't get caught in anything, be it your arm or the hem of your dress.
The ideal date from a man's point of view
An ideal date for a man is more likely to be a meeting that ends up in bed. But not for everyone. Males are also romantics. Although, they hide this “flaw” of male nature with special care.
- Talk.
Girls, don’t forget that we love with our ears, and men love to talk about themselves. Therefore, try to be silent and listen more. Every man will appreciate such attention to his own person.
- Cafe or restaurant.
If you are invited to dinner, do not pretend to be a gourmet and do not order the most expensive dishes.
Without knowing the person and his financial capabilities, you can put him in an awkward position.
Give the menu to the man and watch what he orders. Only after that choose dishes in the same price category.
- Delight.
If you see that the man was eager to please you and prepared for the upcoming date, express your gratitude and delight. Show how much you appreciate his efforts.
- Confession.
If you see advantages in a man, focus on them. Just do it without fanaticism, so that it doesn’t seem like you’re flattering.
- Kiss.
The culmination of the date will be a promising passionate kiss, which you will give your gentleman goodbye. You can be sure that he had been waiting for this moment all evening.
Forgot about food3
“This date was with the guy who is now my husband. We talked for a few weeks, went to classes together, hung out together once and held hands. That's all. On the day of our date, he took me to a college hockey game. Then we went to my house for dinner. It all ended with us watching the cartoon “Space Jam” and kissing.
Edited: we still didn’t remember about dinner,” kams88.
As you can see, there were no fancy restaurants or rooftop picnics. But the girl considers this date the best of her life. This option is suitable for you if you already know the girl well and, for example, have been friends for some time. In this case, a “home date” may be the best option for you. Until the wedding, as you can see.
Clothes for the perfect date
The style of clothing for a date largely depends on where it will take place. If you want to wander the streets of the city and sit in a cafe, dress in the clothes that you have in your wardrobe for visiting. A young man does not have to wear a tie, but it is advisable to adhere to a strict classic style. To emphasize her femininity and the beauty of her figure, a girl needs to wear a dress and high-heeled shoes. Outerwear depends on the time of year.
If the date is planned outdoors, traditional jeans, T-shirts and sneakers are acceptable. The main thing is that the clothes do not seem too provocative and do not look untidy.
Another nuance that should not be discounted is comfort. Agree that you won’t be able to think about romance at all if your new shoes are too tight. Therefore, dress for a date so that nothing hampers your movements and does not distract you from your partner.
In this section you need to pay attention to the girl’s makeup. Avoid bright lipstick and shiny eye shadow immediately. After all, you don’t want to scare away, but to attract the attention of a man. Therefore, try to use as little makeup as possible. Pastel colors are ideal. The less makeup you use, the more natural you will look in the eyes of your gentleman. It should be noted that most men are not attracted to painted dolls.
Behavior on an ideal date
We all know very well about the rules of decency and tact. On a date, you need to behave with your partner extremely tactfully. If your lady gets up from her seat at a cafe table to visit the ladies' room, you need to get up first and help push her chair back. In the wardrobe, be sure to help the girl get dressed, and on the street, throw a jacket over the lady’s shoulder if you see that she is cold. Recommendations for girls are simpler. A lady should allow herself to be looked after. Pause in front of the door to allow the young man to open it for you. Do not leave the car for a while, maybe the guy will open the car door and help you get out. If you haven’t seen these manifestations, don’t judge harshly. Perhaps the young man is very worried and forgot to do what etiquette requires. Don't reproach him for this.
Creation
Every person's creative abilities are not the same.
And that's putting it mildly. Some people are not at all used to doing things with their own hands. But in the case of a girl, any creativity will be an excellent tool for your rapprochement. Do you write poetry? Perfect! Write about it and read it in the evening just before parting. Do you play musical instruments? Better! Any street musician will allow you to use his instrument for a modest fee.
And here there are practically no boundaries. It is only important to show how you differ from everyone else, how you deserve special treatment. Even if you don't own anything, origami will do. The main thing is that your creation comes from the heart.
Conversation Topics for the Perfect Date
The main thing in communication on a date is not to impose your own point of view on your partner. Be softer in your statements and reasoning. To defuse the situation, tell funny stories or jokes. They can be taken from the Internet.
Talk about different topics, look for points of common interest. However, it is important for a girl to give the right direction to the conversation. The bored look of a lady will make a guy feel embarrassed and silent. A girl should push the conversation in a direction that interests her, and listen to the young man with a slight smile on her lips.
The girl's ringing laughter especially encourages guys. They feel in the center of attention and try to please their beloved even more.
A few tips to help you avoid common mistakes5
Shopping and a photo shoot are often offered as a date option. Maybe this is not bad for a girl, but a man will just endure it.
Ideas that exclude the very essence of a date - paying attention to each other - are best crossed off the list. A double date, a visit to an animal shelter, that's not bad. But this is not a date.
The format and duration of the date should be acceptable to both. And one last thing. In an effort to impress your loved one, planning something that goes beyond your budget and will force you to take out loans is completely unnecessary.
Gifts for the perfect date
On the first date, gifts (except flowers) are inappropriate. However, if you have already met several times and know each other's preferences, you can prepare a surprise. A young man with the gift of a poet can read his poems to a girl or use the works of classics. Choose your bouquet carefully. It should not be too big, but also not look cheap.
A girl can give her photo in a frame. There is no doubt that the young man will put it on his bedside table and will fall asleep and wake up with your image.
Dancing
Can you dance?
No, we are not talking about a half-baked, stuffy and dirty basement or a club where they play especially intellectual music of the “smart guy” so much so that the walls shake. In your case, everything is much more complicated. Dancing is not that difficult. It’s enough to just spin around, holding each other. But on the first date there should be a reasonable distance between you. At first glance, the idea seems to be a failure. And if you start dancing at the bus stop to the music coming from your phone, well... At most you will cause laughter, and the girl will think that you just want to cheer her up. Not the same effect, right? So find a place in the city where there is always pleasant music and couples circling. The search will not always be successful, but it will be a big plus for you.
The perfect date spot
It is advisable that the guy choose the place for the first and subsequent dates. This will give him the opportunity to show his capabilities, arrange a meeting in such a way as to give the girl maximum pleasure. If you decide to invite a girl to a cafe, try to calculate your capabilities. Choose a modest, quiet place where you can talk calmly and get to know each other as best as possible. Noisy discos and clubs are not suitable for this purpose. If you doubt a girl's culinary preferences, ask her to help you choose. Of course, it won't be a surprise, but you will both be pleased to know that you did something important together for the first time.
As already mentioned, men and women have different ideas about the ideal date. The very word “ideal” is hardly applicable to a person. People are different, and it is impossible to predict whether this meeting will be a project for a future relationship for life, or whether you will break up on the same day. Therefore, you should remember that after a date you can equally become the happiest and the most unhappy person in the world. Try to avoid unpleasant surprises when planning your ideal date and prepare for it in advance.
No matter how the date went, whether it was perfect or not, this is an unforgettable moment that will remain in the souls of young people for a long time. Therefore, try to appear better, but remain yourself.
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Every date is a real holiday.
And the first date is generally a matter of paramount importance! How do you dress for a holiday? It should be beautiful, stylish clothes. A tracksuit or classic suit, jeans and a T-shirt are not suitable. The issue of your appearance should be taken much more seriously.
Do you remember that people meet you by their clothes? So, your chosen one will make an initial analysis of your appearance in the first three seconds of your meeting.
Needless to say, you must do everything so that the girl gives you an “excellent” rating for your appearance. This also includes your unshaven appearance, the smell of sweat, your hairstyle, the presence of glasses, and so on. You have to think about your appearance.
