Why do girls like "bad" guys? ⇒ Blog of Yaroslav Samoilov

A decent man will definitely call if he is suddenly late at work.
Reliable will always do what he promises. A caring person will run a bath in the evening and bring coffee to bed in the morning. A lover... can become boring with his love worse than a bitter radish. It’s another matter of brutal men who are always late and cheat, don’t miss a single skirt and work who knows where. Despite all their shortcomings, they are beautiful! Why do girls like bad boys? This is a great secret, but let’s try to lift the veil over it. From this article you will learn:

Who are the "bad guys"
What features do they have?
Why do girls like "bad" guys?
Why don't they like nice guys?
How to build relationships with “bad” guys
What are some really bad guys you shouldn't deal with?

Who are the "bad guys"

Positive guys were excellent students at school or, at worst, good students. They received a higher education, got a prestigious job and plan to achieve a lot in life, if they have not already achieved it. Girls are not at all against marrying such people. Only these girls like bad guys - imperturbable machos who collect broken hearts, who can smile mysteriously and squint contemptuously in response to the simplest questions.

Yaroslav Samoilov says:

relationship psychology expert. Helps women start living the life they want, or even the life they are afraid to even dream about.

Who are the "bad guys"?
experiences a lot of female attention;
convinced of his class;
it is much easier to fall in love than with a normal person;
he is fun, interesting, bright. At first;)
“Darling, how should you achieve your goals…” “What do you mean? Love me for who I am. I'm cool ;)
your girlfriends admire that you have such a handsome man;)
mutual torment of brains. But it's cool ;)

The attitude of others towards such people is complex: they are simultaneously despised and feared. But the female sex is crazy about “bad guys”. Why? Scientists from the University of British Columbia conducted a study that found that women are not very interested in happy and smiling men. They prefer proud guys with a guilty look. But representatives of the stronger half of humanity prefer smiling and cheerful girls. So why do girls like bad boys? The point here is in certain character traits of the “bad guys”:

Bad guys are fantastically impulsive.
Women are attracted to the unpredictability of partners and the associated adrenaline rush in the blood. Did you have a fight? Who knows if the bad guy will return in five minutes or disappear forever? And if he comes back, what will he do: apologize, kiss, caress, or hit him on the head? Good boys are predictable in this regard, which is boring. Russian roulette is much more exciting. Among women, the opinion has long been established that all men are bastards. But the bastard they are, the more interesting it is. A good guy is a mandatory period of bouquets and candy and getting to know the parents. A bad guy doesn’t need this; it costs him nothing to kiss a girl five seconds after meeting her and grab her hand if the lady suddenly tries to slap her in the face. However, this is not the worst thing. It is much more offensive if the guy does not condescend to show signs of attention at all, even if he likes the girl. Why these mating games? Besides, there are much more important things to do.
Bad guys are always very confident.

Those around them are simply amazed at the confidence of the “bad guys” and cannot oppose anything to it. If such a person has decided something, then arguing with him is a waste of precious time. Girls like it that bad guys don't listen to the advice of family, friends and colleagues. And those who refer to the opinion of their mother or, God forbid, their grandmother, may simply laugh in their faces.
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Bad guys impress with their courage and boldness.
A real man cannot be a weakling or a coward. 17% of women are sure of this. As for the bad guys, they are not only not afraid of conflicts, but often even provoke them themselves.
Bad guys are narcissistic.

However, the word “suffer” is not entirely appropriate here. Such self-esteem is par for the course for bad guys. They believe that they need to know their worth. Otherwise, nothing can be achieved in this life, including the love of girls.
Bad guys are used to being rude.
Despite thousands of years of evolution, man remains an animal at heart and obeys inner instincts. And the times of absolute patriarchy ended not so long ago. Girls like bad boys because the habit of submission is inherent in the fairer sex literally at the genetic level.
Bad guys are real.

If a man is polite and decent, knows the rules of table etiquette and takes grandmothers across the street, then he has to comply. Constantly hiding your little weaknesses is very tiring and eventually gets boring. Girls like bad boys, among other things, because you can be yourself with them. Bad guys don’t hide their shortcomings, but they won’t reproach their partner in vain, perceiving her for who she is. The life principle of these men is: do not judge, lest you be judged.
Bad guys don't get under your skin.
This does not mean at all that such guys are only interested in what the girl has under her skirt. They may also be far from indifferent to the moral side of their partner, but they keep their distance, which is so often lacking in “decent” young people. Bad guys wait for the girl to open up to them and thus earn her respect.
The bad guys are less accessible.

All you have to do is whistle, and the good guy is right there: moving furniture, meeting mom at the airport, or serving as a “vest.” You don't always find bad guys, especially if they are absolutely necessary. They have some mysterious affairs of their own that strangers, even close people, do not need to know about. Bad guys are always a mystery. Girls love riddles. Girls like bad boys.

If a worthy person can be compared to a Roman patrician, then a bad guy is more likely a Neanderthal, a medieval barbarian, or, at best, a sailor Zheleznyak. But his chances of winning a girl are no less, and, perhaps, even more. On the other hand, to achieve what you are looking for, you don’t have to be a bad guy. It is enough to adopt some of its qualities.

The past will put everything in its place

The popularity of bad boys among good girls appeared a long time ago, and history takes us tens of thousands of years ago. You've probably already guessed what we'll be talking about. Yes, yes, it’s about the extraction of mammoth and other trophies of men of that time who went on life-threatening hunts every day. And all for the sake of what - for the sake of his family. A woman is protected, well-fed, warm, and has the conditions to raise a child and maintain the notorious family hearth. Of course, she felt good with such a beast in human form and she never doubted her choice.

Much time has passed since then, but instincts remain even after evolutionary processes, although their presence is often denied, but in fact this cannot be hidden. A good guy would be outraged by such practices. If it were possible to go with him on a journey into the past, it is unlikely that he would have lasted there for long. And if he started to be indignant, then the previously mentioned hunter would slap him on the head and that would be the end of it. Diplomacy and negotiations were not involved then, so the conversations were short. It has so happened since then that strong men compete for power, recognition, leadership, and women strive to build a family with precisely such representatives of the stronger sex.

Types of "bad guys"

Girls like bad guys not at all because of their cunning, which may not exist in principle, but because they play certain roles. Remember: the whole world is a theater, and further in the text?

On my own mind.

Attila and Caligula in one bottle. This guy is crazy and can hurt without you even realizing it. At school he was a bully, but his parents did not even suspect this blatant fact, because the teachers’ complaints simply did not reach them. This character lives as he pleases. Obstacles only excite the “bad guy,” and his unpredictability excites the girls. And even though he has tattoos all over his body, he knows how to dress fashionably and looks amazing. On the first date, this guy will give a star, on the second - a month, and on the third - a full moon. Next time he will promise to get the sun from the sky, but he simply won’t come. The girl will have to shed tears into her pillow and eat her grief with candy until the “bad guy” calls and inquires about the situation, noticing in passing that he is in a bit of trouble. And such relationships can drag on for years.

Everyone's favorite.

Girls like this bad guy primarily because he is the life of any company. Thanks to his great sense of humor, good looks and charm, it is almost impossible to resist him. You can listen to his stories for hours with your mouth wide open and anime cartoon eyes. But this guy is cunning.

After a couple of hours of communicating with him, you will probably get the impression that it was not you who liked him first, but, on the contrary, he liked you. That's it, the bird is caught in the net. And the bird will even be happy with the romantically inclined young man until he gets tired of her singing. And this can happen at any moment and for no reason. You will have to cry into your pillow again, even though this guy looked after you “so-so”, because he was too spoiled and narcissistic.

"Cowboy".

He's crazy about guns. He likes cars and everything that is somehow connected with technology. This bad guy loves sports and all kinds of competitions, which speaks of his courage. It costs him nothing to fall in love, and this can happen completely unexpectedly. The plus is that “cowboys” rarely fall in love. The downside is their demands on the victim. If you slip up, use one wrong adjective in a conversation, and that’s it, goodbye. The main thing for a “cowboy” is speed, accuracy and precision. If you want to be close, be kind and comply.

"Martian".

A kind of Stirlitz among the bad guys. Not only does he look like a smart, intelligent person, but he actually is. Can wear glasses as a disguise. He is interested in astrophysics, rocket science and pulsars, and can spend hours talking about paleocontact or the structure of black holes. This guy will take you to interesting places and introduce you to unusual people, walk you in the park and even give you flowers.

But once your relationship reaches a certain stage, Dr. Jekyll will turn into Mr. Hyde. The mask of a cute excellent student will disappear, and the “bad boy of the subspecies” will appear, “favorite” or “on his own.” What can you do, girls like bad boys who are into science too. The only problem is that science comes first for such individuals.

Cunning phlegmatic.

An extremely dangerous creature, and not yet fully studied. According to Hippocrates' definition, a phlegmatic person is characterized by slowness and equanimity, stubbornness and determination. If you get involved with this type of bad guy, you will definitely get your heart broken.

The fact is that for a cunning phlegmatic person you are in second place, his plans come first. He cannot afford to fail at anything. And therefore, while taking you on a boat ride on the mirror lake, he thinks that in two hours he has an important meeting, for which he must under no circumstances be late. And you won’t find fault. What if your future comfortable existence depends on this meeting?

"Heartbreaker."

His habits remind him of “everyone’s favorite”, only he doesn’t have many fans. Girls also like this type of bad boy, but against all logic. He is not very handsome and behaves strangely. He goes on dates only if he wishes, and the same goes for answering phone calls and SMS. Friends twirl their fingers at their temples: what do you see in him? Your parents are worried about your state of mind. And they have every reason to do so. You may suspect that your chosen one is secretly dating other girls, and you want one thing - for him to become only yours. Useless. It won't.

"Puzzle".

Nothing is clear here at all. It seems like just yesterday you were friends, but today you realize that you “fell” on him. And the most interesting thing is that this guy didn’t seem to want such a development of events. But it happened, and it’s wonderful!

You can spend hours discussing common topics, joking and laughing, and going on dates. But one fine day you suddenly become aware that he has another girlfriend. Perhaps you won’t worry too much, but the feeling of confusion will still come. How did this happen? Why? Who is to blame and what to do? The problem is that there are no answers to these questions, and the puzzle cannot be solved.

Summary

In preparation for our conversation on this topic, I went through many forums and read comments. Believe it or not, a huge number of men are darkly and dirtyly jealous of those who literally and figuratively have ladies for whom they are just pining. There is so much bile and insults directed at women, that they are “stupid” and are played on by “their fingers.” Friends and guests of our good club, do not blame others for your bad luck. Just change yourself. It's all a myth! And any woman can be seduced and achieved, even without being an inveterate hooligan.

Yes, there are circumstances that cannot be overcome, and you cannot be together afterwards, but to attract attention, to win her heart and sink into her soul, to leave a piece of yourself there - this is really possible. The trend of worshiping physical strength and rudeness is disappearing. As I already said, intelligence and the ability to survive and lobby for one’s interests in society are more important than a finger-thick gold chain and a wide-open leather jacket.

In conclusion, I will take responsibility to insert a screenshot of a comment I liked from other resources, which very accurately reflects a woman’s opinion and summarizes our conversation:

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