A conspiracy to fall out of love: addressing a dead person + using a knife + a conspiracy to forget a woman + getting rid of love in a bathhouse + the behavior of the performer before and after the conspiracy + advantages and disadvantages of magical rituals.
Sometimes situations happen when lovers realize that they are not destined to be together. However, simply saying goodbye and parting doesn’t work.
As the Arabic proverb says, a third of the sadness of parting is taken by the one leaving, and two-thirds remain with the one left behind. The latter will remember the happy moments of love for a long time until they are erased by time.
To forget your love easier and faster, you can perform a spell on yourself to stop loving - cool down.
How do conspiracies work to cool down your own feelings?
The specifics of a conspiracy to cool down one’s own feelings are no different from cooling off against another person. This involves eliminating the emotional attachment to a lover who has fallen out of love, abandoned or cheated.
During such a ritual, the energetic attachment to the beloved weakens. A person tolerates separation more easily, is not tormented and does not suffer. These conspiracies are appropriate when it takes a long time to forget a person with whom there is no chance of restoring past relationships.
Often girls resort to magical rituals to take revenge on their ex-lover: they cast a cold spell on themselves, and a love spell on him so that he suffers. Doing this is extremely undesirable, since such actions can lead to dire consequences not only for the object of the conspiracy, but also for the perpetrator.
You should never resort to the help of magic for evil and selfish purposes. This will only worsen an already difficult situation. It should be used for good, to ease heartache, to achieve a result that cannot be obtained in other ways. Then the effect of its use will be maximum, and the negative consequences will be minimal.
Simple magic rituals
You can also influence your destiny with the help of magic. Choose a ritual that is suitable for you, which can be performed at home. To avoid negative consequences, follow all rules.
In order for a guy to leave you, you need to read the drying spell for a week. At midnight, take fresh nettle or its dried leaves. Pour some water into a small bowl and place the herb. Read the words of the lapel:
“Mother nettle will burn out all the love (name) has for me with fire! Just as this grass will soon wither, so this man will soon stop loving me. And within three days there will be nothing left!” In the morning, the remaining broth should be poured under a tree not far from the annoying guy’s house.
There are many options for breaking up with a young man you no longer love. Whichever one you choose, try to remain honest and not insult your ex. This will allow you to break off relations and not become enemies.
Lapel from a rival to the waxing moon and stalk
We will put a stone wall and a forest thicket between your sweetheart and his chosen one, who will only ruin your life. Do you want him to forget this viper? Follow all my advice, may you have love happiness.
You must choose a cutting or twig that will definitely germinate. Your happiness will depend on this, so take the task seriously. Girls usually take a willow branch for these purposes; it grows well in moist soil and can be planted near a river.
Since you have waited for the thinnest and most meager moon, know that growth will follow it, and everything living and inanimate will grow. You need to grow a forest and a strong wall between your beloved and his chosen one, so that he no longer thinks about her.
Stand facing the bad month and say this:
As soon as you say all these words, take a branch and cover it with earth so that it begins to grow, while saying the following words:
Take the water that you brought with you, water this tree, saying:
Now take a stone in your hands, and then throw it away from yourself as far as possible, maybe even into the river, saying my words:
Agreement with yourself
Any decision requires reinforcement. Make a “Contract with yourself.” Writing! Give yourself time to suffer: a week, two, three. This will be the time when you allow yourself to remember him with tears in your eyes and feel unhappy and abandoned. As soon as the period of suffering is determined and recorded in writing, the situation will be under control. Use this time to intensively “experience” emotions: learn to regulate them, like the sound on a radio. When feelings begin to overwhelm you, give them a way out (cry, remember, say it out loud), but every time after an “attack” smile and say: “That’s it, now I don’t think about it.” You will be surprised how much easier it will become for you! In the contract, be sure to indicate the incentive prize that you will receive upon expiration: a box of expensive chocolates, new shoes or an interesting trip.
At the crossroads
Buy a new red headscarf for the price listed - don't haggle with the seller. When you come home, tie them around their heads and say the text of the spell: “At the first rays of the sun, I will get out of bed and go out into the yard, but not through the doors, but through the window or along the basement passages. I’ll take the scarf off my head and hide it in my boot under the heel. In those shoes I will run through the forest to the dark lake.
A boat floats on a pond, and devils and devils are sitting in it. I’ll throw a handkerchief at them and threaten them with a club. Why are you, the devil, sitting in a boat with a little devil, but not looking in her direction? Go where I point. Take your chosen one to (the name of your lover) in the house where he and his wife caress and hug. Let your little devil let her braid down there, run the house, and not give them life.
Let him look at his wife like a devil. Let them eat separately, but looking at her, he sees a devil. She will no longer delight him with her beauty and kindness, but he will only feel disgust. She says sweet things, but he hears swearing.
She reaches out to him, but he runs away from her. My word is stronger than stone. Damn, I order you - protect this scarf from any living creature, and incite hatred in the house of my chosen one.”
Take off your handkerchief with your left hand, spit three times over your left shoulder, and step on the spit with your left foot. Mentally imagine that your spit is the feelings that keep your lover near his wife. Bury the scarf under a bush near the intersection, and go home without looking back.
"Filling" the soul
When your finger is cut, you are unlikely to pick the wound with a nail, but you probably smear it with brilliant green to make it go away faster. Now you have the same wound in your soul, and if you constantly “pick” at it, it will bleed. Use tools that heal the soul: listen to your favorite music, watch a good movie, read a novel a la “The Thorn Birds,” go to the theater, have a party with your friends. Psychologists say that games (with animals, children) are especially useful in this state: they return us to childhood reality.
In addition to the soul, the body also needs care. Solarium, gym, going to a cosmetologist and hairdresser, buying new clothes - all these are small acts of self-love. When a man, to whom all your internal energy flowed, leaves your life, an emptiness forms in your soul. Fill it with something productive and you won't have time left to suffer.
What to do if a couple lives together
If you live with a young man, breaking up is more difficult. In this situation, you cannot simply stop communicating, stop picking up the phone, leave and not return. After the breakup conversation, decide which of you should move out. If this is you, then decide on a date and don’t delay. When a man moves, he may have to start looking for a new roommate.
If after a breakup you will have to stay in the same territory for some time, re-negotiate the division of responsibilities. Now you are just roommates, so you will have to give up your old habits.
Discuss when you can invite guests. Remember that, despite the separation, each other's personal space must be respected.
Reasons why women initiate a breakup
There is an opinion that girls more often strive to preserve their family and relationships than men. In fact, about 70% of breakups occur on their own initiative. Many continue relationships in the hope that everything will change, or quietly hating and dreaming of leaving, especially if there are children together or the fear of being left without financial support.
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There are several reasons that may lead a woman to decide to break up:
- The desire to feel equal. If your partner does not allow you to develop, earn money, does not take into account your interests and does not respect you, then it’s time to break up.
- Marriage is beneficial for a man. In modern society, guys get more benefits from relationships than their girlfriends. Women not only work and raise children, but also take on household responsibilities. In addition, they try to care for their loved one and keep themselves in shape in order to keep him. This relationship model does not lead to happiness. Discontent accumulates in a woman, and as a result she may not be able to stand it.
- Problems in relationships. Many girls react sharply to difficulties. If a guy cannot provide financially, does not strive for the best, if he humiliates, beats, starts drinking or takes up other bad habits, then an affair with him will not bring joy.
When a guy doesn’t want to change for the sake of a successful relationship and doesn’t treat his beloved with respect, the relationship is unlikely to reach marriage. If partners live in a marriage, then there is a high risk of its dissolution at the initiative of the woman.
On the waning moon
At midnight during the waning moon, light a church candle near an open window and say the spell: “The love between (names of spouses) is over forever. As the grass is crushed underfoot, as birds fly away in the cold season, as a dog throws away a stick, so the servant of the Lord (the name of the man) towards the slave of the Lord (the name of his wife) will grow cold. Never see them again, never experience happiness as a couple. From now on they will avoid each other. My word comes into force and no one can break it. Amen".
In order for the husband to stop loving his legal wife as soon as possible and leave her, the plot must be repeated 3 times in a row.
Discrediting the image
Women tend to idealize the object of their passion, attributing to him traits that he never possessed. Often, behind the harsh “male” taciturnity lies an elementary inability to carry on a conversation, and his softness and pliability are simply a consequence of internal weakness. So, take a blank sheet of paper and first describe all its advantages - it will probably be easy to do. Now focus on his shortcomings. Take off your rose-colored glasses and remember all the situations in which he did not behave the way you wanted. Think about whether he is really as kind, generous, smart, gentle, courteous, and honest as he seems. And believe me: if this were so, you wouldn’t be sitting in tears right now and making this list. Now destroy half of the sheet with the list of advantages without a trace. But re-read the shortcomings in those moments when melancholy rises to your throat.
On underwear
Take the panties in your right hand and say: “The stars are at the top, and the land is at the bottom. Dear God, bless my deepest desire. Just as these stars will not touch the earth, so (the name of the husband or wife) will no longer be next to me, I will not utter words, and will not experience my caresses. We will never be a couple again, and we will never live in the same house. Let everything I say come true."
Repeat the spell 4 days in a row at midnight, then bury the laundry in the yard of the house, making sure that no one sees it.
Olga Noshchenko, psychotherapist: Learn to manage passions!
The more mature a person is in soul, the more calm his attitude towards love is formed. Mature love is smoother, brighter, more humane, and carries less anxiety. She makes both the lover and the beloved happy. If you fell in love with a good person and received reciprocity in return, great! But if something doesn’t work out, a wise person will not kill himself. He will grieve - sincerely, but not for very long. And after some time he will meet a new love. We learn anything - read, sew, dance.
You also need to learn to love - so that love is a stimulus, and not a “stepping stone.” So that she moves forward, and does not push her to the sidelines of life. To be able to love means to be ready to take risks. This is the risk of loss: you become attached, but life can separate you - and it will be very painful. This is the risk of addiction: can you love while remaining the mistress of your life? This is the risk of vulnerability: love requires openness, but where is the guarantee that you will be accepted and not offended? The dangers of love are obvious: you fell in love with the wrong person, at the wrong time, not mutually, you fell in love outside the family, you fell in love - and then fell out of love.
And dangers lead to suffering. And before you rush headlong into the pool, ask yourself the question - are you ready for this?
How to stop loving a man and not suffer, and let go
Studies have shown that women experience negative feelings more vividly than joy and happiness. We remember resentment, anger, disappointment for a long time, we constantly scroll through them in our heads, paint them in flashy colors. Regret and longing for lost love reduce self-esteem and kill hope for happiness.
But there are also undoubted advantages in parting.
The main acquisition is freedom. Along with the ex-boyfriend, endless quarrels, the need to pretend, adapt to his mood, and tolerate bad habits disappeared from life. The lion's share of household worries disappears. You can spend all your energy and time at your own discretion, without reporting to anyone.
A failed romance is just one facet of life. Having made a lot of useful discoveries for yourself about real relationships, you will competently try not to make mistakes with your future chosen one. A new love will definitely appear, and it will have a better chance of growing into true love. And then you will be grateful to your ex for leaving and giving you the opportunity to become happy.
Psychologist's advice: how to stop loving a married man
- Be deeply aware of your unenviable role as a mistress and the lack of prospects for your own family happiness.
- Take a sober look at the qualities of a man. At the very least, he is a liar who deceives his wife. A person leading a double life will probably have other shortcomings.
- Imagine for a moment that you have acquired the coveted status of your legal half. The end of romantic dates will come, and everyday routine will appear.
- Don't expect to completely capture his heart and thoughts. His family was firmly established there. At best, you will get a modest corner for a while.
- When you decide to break off a relationship, become cold and calculating. To stop attempts to get you back, start scandals, demand expensive gifts, and create scenes of jealousy. Such measures will force the lover to move away and easily accept the offer to separate.
- Think in advance about how you will fill the days after the breakup, so that there is no time or energy left for suffering.
- Tell your loved ones about your plans. This will help you get support and keep you from wanting to leave things as they were.
How to stop loving a co-worker
Throwing out of your heart a person whom you regularly see on duty is quite problematic. Therefore, think about changing your job. The following steps will help smooth out the consequences of separation:
Take a vacation, during which you try to throw out all the bitterness of an unhappy romance. When you return to work, focus entirely on your professional responsibilities. Don’t touch your ex’s bones and don’t share the details of the breakup with any of your colleagues. Attempting to portray a man in an unfavorable light will ruin your reputation. Don't turn your romance story into an office yarn.
Reduce communication to a minimum. Avoid meeting alone. You will have to see each other at meetings and general events, but you can change your routes around the office so that you overlap as little as possible.
Maintain professional ethics. Deal with your ex-lover as politely as you would with other employees. Do not allow sarcastic remarks addressed to him, ignore attacks in your direction so as not to provoke an altercation.
While the wound is still fresh, avoid alcohol at corporate events. You are not yet in control of your feelings, and alcohol will play a bad joke at a party with your ex.
How to stop loving an unworthy man
If the number of tears due to your lover’s behavior significantly exceeds the number of smiles, then it’s time to take action.
The bad news is that getting rid of a dishonest partner can be difficult. Moreover, primitive tactics work better for people of this type:
- Change your phone number.
- Place a friend, or better yet a male relative, at your place for a while.
- Write on a sheet of paper how much he promised and did not fulfill, deceived, let down, insulted, borrowed and did not repay, etc., and hang it in a visible place.
Such individuals do not carry out large-scale events for your return - they will make a few calls, a couple of visits home. If you don’t answer, don’t let him live, don’t give him money, he’ll fall off on his own. A few months later, a test call happens: suddenly you come to your senses and bite your elbows. A firm and decisive “no” will put an end to it.
How to stop loving a man who left you
Stop feeling sorry for yourself. Drowning in tears for months, you do not suffer, but revel in the feelings. This is how you can end up in masochism.
Grow up. Remember, unrequited love primarily affects infantile people whose lives are boring and empty. Don’t be lazy to discover and develop new abilities in yourself, fill your life with interesting hobbies, books, films.
Make sure that the whole day is filled with activities and there is not a minute to remember your ex-boyfriend.
Don't look for someone to blame. Such thoughts are depressing. Strong emotions that overwhelm you are attachment, habit, illness, but not love. The real feeling is bright and joyful. And this state falls into the category of addiction, overcoming which you will become stronger and more independent.
Ways to provoke a guy to leave his chosen one
There are several ways to get a man to end the relationship first. They concern changes in behavior, actions, and changes in habits. You can also change externally to such an extent that the young man will definitely think about breaking up.
Change beyond recognition and do everything out of spite
Guys like it when they have a well-groomed, stylish and bright girl next to them, whom they can show off to their friends. If up to this point you have been trying to live up to his demands, then it's time to change that. Become an ill-mannered girl, you can even start swearing when meeting him, and humiliate a man in front of his friends. This will anger your chosen one and push him away from you.
Despite the man's prohibitions, start visiting entertainment venues, allow yourself to meet and flirt with other guys. If your chosen one doesn’t like the fact that you smoke, temporarily start doing it to spite him.
You can deliberately stop taking care of your appearance and radically change your hairstyle and wardrobe. Most likely, the guy will become embarrassed to spend time with you in public, will avoid dating and leave you.
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Go for treason
Come up with an affair on the side and make the man guess about it. You can even “let it slip” about what a good time you had in the arms of another. Talk about how much better he is than the current man about his intimate abilities. True, you should be careful so as not to regret your action later. A wounded guy may hit you and begin to take revenge.
It is unlikely that such behavior of the chosen one will leave a man indifferent. Most likely, he will want to stop all communication. Pride will not allow you to continue this relationship further, and you will achieve your goal.
Move away
The easiest and most definitive way to make an annoying guy leave you is to stop answering messages and calls. This option is suitable, for example, if a man is currently serving in the army. Writing and calling yourself is also prohibited. If the conversation does take place, say that you don’t have time to communicate right now. Even your plans together can be canceled at the last minute.
Try to make communication very superficial and not touch upon important personal topics in the conversation.
You can pretend that you are uncomfortable around a young man, that you are bored. If he decides to find out what annoys you, then ignore his attempts to talk. You can just laugh in your face. Soon the guy will realize that he is not interested in you. Most likely, he himself will decide to break off the relationship.
Create scandals
When communicating with a former loved one, try to provoke him into a scandal every time. Every word he says can be twisted to make him look bad. It’s worth looking for a reason to quarrel out of the blue. If you are late for a date, do not forget to express your dissatisfaction and ridicule him for his lack of punctuality. If you brought a gift, be sure to make a dissatisfied face and make it clear that this is not at all what you dreamed of.
Start teasing and speaking negatively about your boyfriend's hobbies. Don’t try to smooth it over later; on the contrary, incite conflict. If a guy wants to explain something to you, don't listen. Reduce the conversation to the fact that you consider him wrong and incompetent. You can even call me names.
Don't talk about love
If a young man says that he loves you, you cannot reciprocate. This will be fair, because you intend to break up with him. When a guy asks about his feelings, answer with a disinterested, “Uh-huh” or “Yeah,” and then move the conversation to another topic. Don't be afraid to offend. Let him feel that you can’t wait to get rid of him. Most likely, the young man will soon decide that he, too, has stopped loving you.
Deny sex
Under any pretext, refuse the guy intimacy. Repeat the phrase “No mood” and do not explain what caused it. Moreover, keep any touching to a minimum. Start moving away, stop hugging, kissing your chosen one, don’t respond to his kisses. If your boyfriend is just trying to take your hand, don't let him do it. You can pretend that you have no time. A man will quickly suspect something is wrong and understand that he is unpleasant to you. Perhaps he will decide that you have someone else.
Advantages and disadvantages of conspiracies
By taking time to cool down, a person not only forgets his old love, but also for some time limits himself to finding a new one, due to the blocking of feelings. The table lists the positive and negative properties of carrying out a cold spell.
| Advantages | Flaws |
| Relatively quick cooling of feelings | Inability to immediately love another person |
| Forgetting an old partner | A short time of not perceiving new things |
| Performance removes melancholy | Possible relapse |
| Sometimes just one execution is enough | Subsequent repetition cannot be ruled out |
A strong conspiracy to stop loving a man will save an abandoned partner from lovesickness, heartache, and help you find shared love. Rituals are performed by both women and men, mainly at home, but are not excluded outside of them. Conducting rituals for personal gain is prohibited.
You are strong!
Psychologists assure that any woman has such inner strength that allows her to change her profession every 5 years without much effort. So will you really not survive the end of the novel? English scientists have already proven that love fever owes its appearance to catecholamines - biologically active substances that control the body’s activities.
If they are produced too rapidly, when a person is “shaking” from emotions and experiences, then after a while exhaustion and a decrease in their level occurs. That's when apathy, melancholy and lack of interest in life come. So this phenomenon is natural, and there is nothing to be surprised at. Doctors give their recipe for love neurosis: always maintain a slightly elevated level of catecholamines in the body, but do not go too far - that is, be in love in moderation. And to do this, you need to reconsider your attitude towards love: maybe you just expect and demand too much from it? In the end, our life is what we imagine it to be, and if you learn to receive only positive emotions from love, protecting yourself from torment and dependence, you will become the happiest woman!
