If someone knew how to make a girl fall in love by correspondence, this sacred knowledge would most likely be carved in stone and hidden in a secret safe.
We hope that you, like us, understand perfectly well that there are no universal phrases that will help make anyone feel feelings for anyone. But there are secrets of productive and successful communication that we will now share with you.
With them, your chances of the match turning into dating, and then into a relationship, will increase significantly.
How to pick up a girl by correspondence
Correspondence is a unique way of communication. You can think through every word in advance, get advice from a friend before sending a reply, or take a break to think about your next SMS.
At the initial stage of communication, we advise you to adhere to some rules that will allow you to achieve quick contact:
- Be polite. Wish the girl good morning or evening. At the end of the dialogue, when saying goodbye, wish you a good day or good night.
- Write an original compliment or an offer to communicate. Indicate the reason why you singled out the stranger online.
- Don't stretch the rubber. Say right away that you want to meet and have a nice conversation.
- Don't be rude, don't be rude. Don't confuse assertiveness, which girls like, with rudeness. Choose polite expressions, a calm tone and rhythm of conversation.
- Carefully inquire about your marital status and whether you have a boyfriend. Don't ask the question directly. A girl can lie to show her popularity with the opposite sex.
- Ask about hobbies.
- Do not write as carbon copies or stamps, avoid clichés.
- Forget about the phrases: “Hi, how are you?”, “Yesterday I met an angel...”, “Does your mother need a son-in-law?” A cute girl receives hundreds of such messages and has long stopped responding to them. It's cheesy and boring. You must be an original person.
- Give compliments. Beautifully praise the appearance of the interlocutor, her photo, interests.
- Try to evoke positive emotions and a smile. You can joke, but in moderation, tease, play pranks, if the girl has a good sense of humor. Give virtual gifts with comments, emoticons, and upload funny videos.
Don't waste your time on a girl who doesn't want to be with you
Don't waste your time on a girl who doesn't want to be with you. A person always lives in the desire to benefit from everything and everyone. Some people even do good things only because they want to gain respect or a positive attitude towards themselves. This is also a benefit that does not imply anything bad. We will call benefit not only something bad, but also something good, including the desires and goals that you want to achieve.
Don't waste time on those who don't want to spend it on you. You shouldn't store what you don't use. You should not waste your energy on something that does not give the desired results. In other words, don't waste something valuable that can't be returned or is hard to recover on something that just takes away but doesn't produce the results you expect.
You should not communicate with people who are uncomfortable communicating with you. You shouldn't keep things that you hate to throw away, but you don't use them. There is no need to do things that do not bring pleasure or at least material benefits. Don’t waste time worrying if at the end they won’t provide a solution to your problem, but will only take away your energy.
Very often a person wastes his time, which can never be returned, and his strength, which is difficult to restore, on something that does not bring him any benefit. You are not obligated to spend irreplaceable money on something that will not provide any benefit. You should not smile at people who are rude or simply unpleasant to you. You are not obliged to work where they pay meager wages. Who should you waste your time, suffer and suffer on? No one. Then why do you continue to waste time on things that do not give you pleasure?
Successful people are successful because they do not waste themselves, time and energy on things that will not bring them moral pleasure or will not bring them closer to the goals that they have set for themselves. They will not maintain constant contact with people just because it is customary or out of politeness. They will not work where they do not receive adequate compensation for their labors. They spend time and energy only on things that will lead them to achieving their goals. That's why they are successful. They do not waste their lives on empty talk and meaningless activities, because they act in a certain direction to achieve their goals.
Don't waste your time on things that don't benefit you. Not too much of it is given to every person anyway. Life is short, and it is better to live it for your own pleasure, and not spend it on satisfying the whims of others. Enjoy your life. And to do this, train yourself to spend time and energy only on what will realize your goals.
Successful themes
It is useful for guys to know what topics they can talk about with a girl. There are quite a lot of them, choose one from the list presented and don’t be afraid to make mistakes. You can change the topic in the chat at any time, the girl herself will tell you what interests her more.
- Psychology of relationships
- Hobbies, interests of a woman
- Achievements in life, at work
- What is love and does it exist?
- Films, actors
- Art (painting, music)
- Rest
- Questions about the past: when I first fell in love, school friends
- Flowers: which ones you like, which ones you don’t?
- Travel dreams
- Books
- Life goals
- Dreams, their meaning
- Favorite cafe, club
As soon as the topic has exhausted itself, switch the dialogue to another. At the same time, you should not show boredom in discussions or answer in monosyllables. Show real interest, ask questions, react violently to the girl’s emotional outbursts or stories about her secret past.
Second phase. Start making hints about sex
- Write messages with sexual overtones. Women will look for double meaning in all phrases. “I thought about you and my mood immediately lifted,” “Just from the shower? So are you wet now?”, “Let’s have a hug.” These are all hints of sex. Women will not only understand this, but will also think about it. In this regard, women's fantasy knows no bounds.
- Actively use humor . For example, in winter: “Let's go build a snowman. Do you have carrots? And I always have it with me.”
- If you wrote and the girl didn’t answer, then you don’t need to pester her: “Huh? Where have you gone? Answer me, I’m worried, are you okay?” Just write: “Are you alive?” and a smiley face. She will definitely react to this message without irritation.
- Don't bother me. Don't text her every ten minutes. She needs freedom and personal space, which you brazenly fill with your messages. I wrote it - don’t rush to write an answer. Sometimes disappear for a day. Women quickly get tired of hyper-interest and it will begin to dynamite you.
- You end the correspondence. You are a man, you started it, you lead it, you control the progress and you finish it first. Let her not have the opportunity to read your message and remain silent. This way you lose your position.
- Invite us to a personal meeting. You don’t need to think long about how to seduce a woman by correspondence, just go ahead and do it. I saw her interest and positive reaction - no need to be shy, drag her out on a date. No cool messages can replace personal, real communication. Women do not like texting; they are interested in men who act. While you write “How are you, did you get enough sleep?” she won't sleep with someone else.
Message templates
How to write to a girl on VK, Instagram to meet her. Use the following unusual phrases and ready-made message samples:
I look at your photo and don’t understand why you are so sad. I can help you with something, want to have some fun?
I noticed your account and couldn’t pass it by. May I give you a few compliments?
You probably have a lot of fans, can I join them?
I noticed that you are interested in the same music as me. I have a recording of the latest album (name of artist, group), should I share?
I enjoy traveling. Judging by your photos, you do too. Where were you last? Will you tell me?
You have so many friends on social networks! Surely you are a wonderful person.
Looking at your photo, it seems to me that we knew each other in real life? Where we could see each other, let's remember together.
I want to make an unexpected proposal: let's be friends!
Compliments
I highlighted it as a separate point specifically to attract attention. In general, compliments are a rather subtle and deep thing.
It may look like a simple phrase, but the girl will rejoice over it.
Try to include them in your speech more often. But not directly, but indirectly, for example:
“You surprised me just now,” “Did you REALLY do that?” “Will you ever show this to me?”, “Damn, you are so (beautiful, kind, attentive...).”
“I like the way you reason. So wise and thoughtful,” “I’ve never seen anyone make friends so easily. You're so sweet and friendly."
They seemed to praise, were surprised, admired, but without all those cloying “You’re smart!”
Maybe,
Errors
When starting to communicate with a nice person via the Internet, many guys want to seem more brutal, more experienced and make a lot of mistakes. We list the most common of them:
- The first message is written banally, like everyone else. Phrases: “Hello!”, “Let’s get to know each other!”, “How are you?”, “What are you doing?” cause women to be rejected, and they ignore SMS.
- For dating on VK, WhatsApp and other social networks, they use fake pages and someone else’s ava. Starting a conversation with a lie is in itself absurd. And girls are very sensitive to deception. Even if you manage to intrigue a stranger now, nothing good awaits you in the future.
- They talk sadly about past love relationships, exes, failures in life. It’s definitely not worth causing tears of pity from a stranger during the first conversation; your task is to hook the lady, to interest her in an original way, to arouse feelings of sympathy in her.
- They write too long, flowery letters without a clear meaning. This is how you can communicate with an old friend, girlfriend, mother, but not with a girl you are supposed to like. There is no need to quote poets, talk tediously about trifles, or answer questions at length. Otherwise, it seems that you are a narcissistic macho, looking for an object for recognition of his beauty or intelligence.
- They use slang that is completely incomprehensible to the interlocutor. It’s good if you have a common circle of acquaintances and similar interests, then special words and jargon will be clear in the dialogue. And if not. Then the girl will be confused, she will have to ask again what you mean. This makes it difficult to get to know each other and get used to each other.
- They become familiar without permission, become familiar, and forget to say hello. Respect the boundaries between being off-hand and being intimate. You shouldn’t address an almost unknown girl as “Kisulya, Lapulya, Irishka, Marinochka” until the lady gives permission. A sharp reduction in distance frightens young people and pushes them away.
- They write SMS with emoticons. Emotional faces are a great invention, but don't go to extremes. For love correspondence, words and hints are much more important. A real compliment will make a much more impression on a lady than 10 kisses and 5 braces.
- They get bored with messages and impose themselves on you. End communication if the girl clearly refuses to meet you or does not respond to SMS for several days.
- They don’t know what to write to a girl on VK and use standard phrases. Learn to flirt, get acquainted, practice more on Tinder, on Mamba. Then it will be interesting to correspond with you.
- Hints of intimacy, virtual, invitation to a real meeting in the first correspondence. Be careful with compliments. “Your breasts are so big, wow!” — decent girls respond to such an enthusiastic message by blocking the interlocutor’s account.
- Mat in speech. Girls don't like poorly educated, uncultured guys. Your messages should be beautiful and pleasant to read.
- Grammatical and spelling errors in SMS. Illiteracy is easy to hide during oral conversation, but in correspondence 2 and 3 in the Russian language at school become visible to everyone. Brush up on your humanitarian knowledge, it will be useful not only in correspondence with beauties.
How to interest a girl to attract her attention
In this block we talk about the qualities that need to be improved in order to attract attention and interest. First, understand one simple thing: if you can’t get girls interested now, then you’ll have to change something
These changes may not be easy - the result depends on your persistence and level of self-knowledge. We will provide a complete list, but you are free to choose the appropriate items yourself.
Another important point: remember that women are people too. Accordingly, in order to become more attractive to them, you will need to become, in principle, a more interesting and communicative person. This does not mean that lines of gays will follow you. This means that first of all, universal personal qualities and communication skills are improved, and only then behavioral strategies regarding girls appear.
So, here's what you need to take care of:
Appearance. They always greet you by their clothes - remember? The first opinion about a person is formed in 7 seconds. You may not even have time to speak, and during this time the person is already deciding whether he is interested in at least saying hello to you. Appearance should be neat, well-groomed and attractive. To achieve this, take care of three aspects:
- Cloth. It should be clean and ironed, modern and stylish. Being confident in casual wear is often enough, but you are free to experiment with your look if you are confident in your sense of style.
- Body type. It is not necessary to have the figure of a seasoned athlete or bodybuilder. But the absence of excess weight, a muscular corset and posture will make absolutely any person more attractive.
- Skin and hair. A couple of decades ago you didn’t have to worry about this at all, but now more and more men are trying to take care of themselves. To withstand the competition, get a stylish haircut, tidy up your beard, if you have one, and choose facial products that suit your skin type. This is not as difficult as it might seem, and the requirements for the appearance of men are still much less than for the body of girls. Remember hygiene, take care of your hair, facial skin, hands and feet.
Mind. Intelligence and outlook are important things for communication. Looking good but not joining the growing ranks of smart people won't give you much of a chance to have long, enjoyable interactions. In the era of Google, not studying is at least suspicious
It doesn't matter what exactly you are passionate about. It's important to be passionate about what you do and be curious about current social trends.
Confidence
Another important parameter, without which communication is not impossible, but difficult. You can choose a lively girl who will be touched by shyness. But everyone loves healthy self-confidence.
Communication skills. Active listening, the ability to remain silent at the right time, speak at the right time, flirt masterfully, ask at the right time or tell a story will make you more attractive, even if you missed the first points. But manners and communication skills most often go hand in hand with intelligence. Develop them together: it will be easier and more effective.
Respect. To yourself and the people around you. Without respect for yourself, you will not begin to like yourself - you don’t have to think about girls here for now. To feel your value to others, you must first believe in it yourself. Respect for others protects you from rudeness and meanness, which is also an undoubted and very big plus.
Determination. This is a little more than self-confidence: you not only realize your right to different actions, but also successfully implement it. Not a critical parameter, but determined people usually achieve more.
The desire for self-development. It is not enough to read ten or twenty books and scour the last months of news from scientific sources. You should always be interested and strive for more. Try it and start with an interesting area. You will like it yourself
