I liked a guy: what should I do to make him reciprocate?

Yes, it is undoubtedly very pleasant to feel in love. This is incomparable to anything, it fills life with happiness and meaning. It seems that the world around has changed and become brighter and generally more beautiful. I want to smile for no reason, everything inside is rejoicing and singing, my eyes are burning, and people I know and don’t know are trying to shower me with compliments. But still, what to do if you like a man? What steps should you take to get attention? Let's talk about this in more detail.

From this article you will learn:

What to do if you like a man
What are the models of behavior in this case?
What to do if you like a man under different circumstances
Is it even necessary to act first?

How to get a guy to like you if he doesn't pay attention?

Let's try to figure out what you're doing wrong. Did you put on your heels and sigh languidly when he walked by? Did you wear bright makeup for the one and only one?

Did you buy yourself a breathtaking dress for the same unreal price? But the result is zero? Well, congratulations...

You happen to fall in love with a guy whose preference you clearly do not have. That's why he doesn't pay attention to you.

In fact, the opinions of psychologists on this matter vary quite a lot. Many of them are inclined to claim that this type is not the hero of your novel. In this case, you should look for a guy who will fall for your hook. And preferably without any additional “fishing equipment”.

Let’s explain in accessible language: that is, you need to look for a young man who will be completely satisfied with all your external characteristics and “internal” inclinations without any artificial tricks, be it bright makeup, silicone breasts or perhydral hair licked smoothly behind the ears. That is, he must love you in all your natural beauty

Another part of psychologists quite seriously assure that an unwanted person still has a chance. There are 10 basic rules , guided by which you can interest the man you like.

And if you don’t give in to difficulties, then we will be happy to reveal these secrets of seduction to you.

What to do if you like a man of a certain zodiac sign

The zodiac sign under which a person was born, one way or another, imposes certain characteristics on his character and behavioral traits. Men are no exception. What will your companion be like if he:

Aries.
He values femininity, wisdom and at the same time defenselessness (this gives him the opportunity to show his confidence and strength). Therefore, your feminine weakness and vulnerability is more of a trump card than a disadvantage here. Aries loves to show off his strengths and be a reliable defender of his chosen one. He is often quick-tempered, but also easy-going. Just don't miss any opportunity to praise his courage and intelligence. By the way, if you are married to an Aries and you like another man, then by making your partner jealous, you will only inflame his passion for you. Aries likes such shake-ups and light intrigues; this attracts him even more strongly to his beloved.
Calf.
Those born under this sign are gentle stubborn people. They love refined aromas, drinks, and food. Any reason for jealousy will destroy your union, be very careful with this. It’s better to spend your energy on self-development, teach yourself to live elegantly and tastefully - Taurus will appreciate it.
Twins.
He won't sit in one place for long. He has the wind in his head and you know where the awl is. A Gemini man will not miss the opportunity to be with you if you are ready for quick changes and do not like routine, just like him. An important point: when choosing a life partner, in the second place he will evaluate her external data, but in the first place - her intelligence.
Cancer.
The most important thing is to feed him regularly and tasty. If a girl is on friendly terms with cooking, Cancer will do nothing but praise her skill. What else? They are very attached to their mother, and often their chosen ones look like their mother. Family is sacred to them. They can be very changeable in mood, but they will remain devoted and faithful to you in response to sincere care.
A lion.
One of the most powerful signs. And it is more important for him to love his chosen one than to be loved himself. He loves to give gifts, and the woman’s job is only to rejoice at the gift with all her heart. He is especially pleased to see that he has made you happy. Remember that if you like another man and you don’t know what to do, quickly throw these nonsense out of your head. Leo will not give up what is his, he is a jealous owner, and if you anger him, you will not think enough. With a Leo, you will have to learn to catch his mood, be wise, and sometimes submissive.
Virgo.
May appear cold or even indifferent. It is important for him that the house is clean, he pedantically counts money, and does not like intrusiveness. Virgos prefer smart ladies to beautiful ones. They adhere to the rule in love that less is more. You can build a reliable and mutually understanding relationship with your Virgo lover; you just need to try to find his good qualities (and, as a rule, they exist).
Scales.
We can say that representatives of this sign are men led by a woman. They will appreciate your initiative in developing relationships. Of course, to begin with, he will pay attention to both your appearance and behavior. But if he really liked the girl, he will surround her with care and attention.
Scorpion.
They love passionate physical intimacy. At the same time, Scorpio can behave both impetuously and tenderly. He is able to envelop his companion in amazing romance and at the same time remain a real macho. He loves unobtrusive girls, always strives and is ready to make important decisions. It’s better not to tease him with jealousy - he won’t forgive him. Scorpios are attracted by lightness, romance, a kind of feminine weakness.
Sagittarius.
Probably one of the fastest signs. His days fly by one after another, and everything is a continuous holiday. What to do if you like a Sagittarius man? There is only one answer - rush through life with him. A fast-moving girl who likes traveling and moving is very suitable for such a partner. Yes, he is a freedom-loving person, but if you manage everything with him, then he will not go anywhere, he will stay with you seriously and for a long time.
Capricorn.
Representatives of this sign are very pedantic, do not throw money away, and consider all life issues from a practical point of view. You can always rely on them. The only thing you might be jealous of is his job. Capricorn likes modest, stylish, even sophisticated girls who know how to behave. Yes, he will be strict and restrained, but it is thanks to these qualities that you will feel calm and comfortable next to him.
Aquarius.
His motto is freedom in everything. Don’t even think about offering him your hand and heart - he’ll run away in no time. Calmness and boring evenings are definitely not for Aquarius. His life should be seething, and if you want to be with him, then seethe on the same wavelength. In general, fun - yes, boredom - no. Aquarians live under this slogan, and with them their companions.
Fish.
Their entire perception of the world is formed on a sensory basis. Many people find a way out for their hyper-emotionality in creativity. And if your chosen one turns out to be a representative of this sign, be prepared to take your own initiative in developing relationships.

Thank you for reading this article to the end.

Hello, my name is Yaroslav Samoilov. I am an expert in the psychology of relationships and over the years of practice I have helped more than 10,000 girls meet worthy soul mates, build harmonious relationships and return love and understanding to families that were on the verge of divorce.
More than anything, I am inspired by the happy eyes of students who meet the people of their dreams and enjoy a truly vibrant life.
My goal is to show women a way to develop relationships that will help them create a synergy of success and happiness!

Rule #1: Find out the reason for the lack of interest

If you seriously want a guy to like you, then you shouldn’t panic, bury your nose in the pillow and cry your heart out. In the end, we need to figure out what the reason for this behavior is. If you are sure that the guy definitely does not have a passion, and he is absolutely heterosexual, then you really have a chance.

Maybe he's shy? No? Then there is only one option left: most likely, you are not his type. There is no need to urgently get upset over such a trivial matter. It's better to read our next recommendations.

What to do if you like a man: make sure there is mutual sympathy

How to tell if a guy likes you: common signs

A guy experiences the same deep emotions as a girl when she likes a member of the opposite sex. At the same time, he begins to show increased attention to his chosen one, also tries to please her, and gives hints that the girl is not indifferent to him.

Such attraction cannot be ignored; a guy’s behavior changes a lot, and this can manifest itself differently for everyone. Some become hyperactive and impetuous, while others, on the contrary, show delayed reactions.

Before deciding what to do if a man likes you, it would be a good idea to make sure that he likes you too. There are a few of the most obvious signs that a guy likes a girl.

How can you tell if a guy likes you by looking at you?

If a girl is not indifferent to a guy, his gaze shines with devotion, almost puppyish.
He does not take his eyes off the object of his attention.
Some glance at their chosen one furtively, while others, on the contrary, are unable to look away from their gaze.
The look of a guy in love is very tender, and you can’t help but notice it.
When a guy looks at a girl he likes, his eyes sincerely laugh with happiness.

How to understand that a guy likes you by gestures?

Gestures can often be more eloquent than looks or words. What indicates that the girl is not indifferent to the young man:

He straightens his hair often.
He rubs his palms together, worried.
Often adjusts wardrobe items, even unnecessarily.
Trying to touch the girl.
Tends to offer a hand for support if a girl is walking up the stairs.
Holds the door.
Eager to hug.

How can you tell if a guy likes you by talking?

When answering the question of what to do if you like a man, do not forget that even in the manner of speaking, guys are different. And by the way they build a conversation with you, you can understand whether your sympathy is mutual. Conventionally, one can distinguish between “macho” and “nerds”.

The first ones try to praise themselves. And not for the purpose of narcissism, but so that you don’t pass by and take a closer look at him. He just really wants you to pay attention to him.

The second ones are modest people. They won’t brag about themselves, but they will listen to you with bated breath and without taking their eyes off.

How can you tell if a guy likes you by your behavior?

All the guys (or almost all) are adult children. This is how they behave.
There is a hint of self-indulgence in the behavior.
He will never say that he doesn’t have enough time to come or call if he really likes the girl.
He will try to see or hear the object of his attention, instead of just writing a few words on social networks.

How to understand that a guy likes you when you meet?

When a guy meets a girl, he suddenly becomes uncollected.
He tries to spend as much time with her as possible.
Tries to invite people on interesting walks.
Spends a lot of time organizing meetings and the meetings themselves.
He is very eager to please, showers him with compliments, even sometimes awkward and simple ones.
With all her appearance he shows that his companion is the best.

Rule #2: What Guys Pay Attention to

Madrid scientists recently found out what guys pay attention to. First of all, they look at the girl’s skin: the absence of signs of aging and fading of the skin (small nasolabial wrinkles, crow’s feet, folds on the forehead, etc.), as well as its cleanliness and freshness.

Next are character traits. Capricious and headstrong young ladies, even if they attract attention, do not last long. Preference is given to caring, attentive, affectionate and kind girls.

If you are a young girl of 20-25 years old, then there is no point in worrying about facial wrinkles. Buy yourself a good line of cosmetics to care for your skin type.

If you are over 25 years old and you are concerned about fine wrinkles, you can contact a cosmetologist: he will select the appropriate care for you or offer mesotherapy.

This is not a scary, painless procedure, but quite expensive and requires certain investments. Indications for its use are individual. A specialist will tell you when to repeat this procedure.

If you have acne, blackheads or pimples, then a cosmetologist will also help you here. The problem does not always lie in adolescence or poor nutrition. It could be much deeper than that. The specialist will select the type of care that is right for you.

And in general, don’t be afraid to visit a cosmetologist! Today it is as important as going to the dentist. So get your skin in order and enjoy its beauty. After all, a natural blush on smooth skin looks much better than complex makeup and a layer of foundation, right?

Rule #3: Be his dream!

Yes, yes, we understand that it is not so simple. But it's really not that difficult. Watch him: after a few “stalks” you will understand what kind of girls he likes. If he doesn’t clearly demonstrate this (which would make your life much easier), then pay attention to which girls he looks at for the longest time, who he follows with his eyes.

At the sight of some girls, a guy begins to lick his lips or place his hands on his belt. Psychologists call such signs an indisputable confirmation of sexual desire.

If you realize that he likes tall brunettes, and you are a short blonde, you can try to change your image. There is no need to radically change your hair color: try to tint it a little first.

After all, if the color of a raven wing does not suit you, it will be oh so difficult to return your former blond locks. And wear stilettos. Necessarily. Maybe he simply doesn’t like bending over for a kiss when meeting?

What if he likes athletic girls in Nike sneakers, but you have the style of a Turgenev young lady? Then consider immediately purchasing a pair of quality sneakers and well-fitting jeans. Perhaps even a backpack instead of a clutch. This must be done to please this guy.

Well, if he likes long hair, but you have a short haircut? You can try hair extensions. Or you can draw his attention to your other sides. Which? Read below.

Models of behavior if you like a man

Guerrilla actions.

What to do first if you like a man? At the initial stage, the main thing you need is information. Any and more. Look at it simply: after all, if you are interested in something, you become interested in the subject completely and completely, spend time and pay a lot of attention. It’s the same with the guy you like. Watch him, try to find out more about him, collect information. Even if you have never had the opportunity to exchange at least a few words, explore what is available. Take a closer look at how he likes to dress, how he walks or gestures - these moments will also tell you a lot.

We cast our fishing rods.

It’s good if you like a guy somewhere nearby, that is, where you live or often visit. This is a great opportunity to get closer to him. After all, you can ask for a little help and make him feel that you need his strong shoulder.

In a neighborly way, you can ask to repair a jammed lock, and then thank you with hot pancakes for lunch. And at work, ask a colleague for help in a purely professional area. Or maybe in a sports club you will have a great opportunity to ask to move weights, remove excess weights from the barbell. Why not get acquainted?

I can do everything myself.

What to do if you like a man, but he doesn’t take the initiative and doesn’t ask you out on a date? Don't be upset. Feel free to use the feminine wisdom inherent in you by nature. Let the initiative come from you, but act subtly so that as a result the guy is sure that he started everything himself and took steps to bring you closer.

There's nothing wrong with being open and telling your guy directly that you care about him. Take the initiative when meeting him, find him on the Internet, on social networks, ask for his phone number. And if you already know each other, but your communication is only at the “hello bye” level, offer to go together to some interesting place or at least just take a walk along the embankment. Don't be afraid to provoke ridicule. Believe me, you will most likely surprise the guy with your sincerity and courage, and most likely, after such a date he will be imbued with sympathy and respect for you.

Contact has been established - the visual image beckons.

Men love with their eyes. This truth is as old as the world, and no one has canceled it. Yes, guys don’t just want to look at girls, but to admire them and enjoy it. Therefore, if you manage to often come into the view of the object of your interest, then try to look attractive, feminine and romantic. Let him, having seen you today, want to see you tomorrow and the day after tomorrow.

Of course, different guys like different visuals. Observe and get your bearings, try to understand which girls he likes best. Perhaps some image of the heroine of the film made an indelible impression on him. Or do you notice which girls his gaze often stops at just on the street and what he says about them. Pay attention to everything and take it into account.

Compliments.

If you ask what to do if you like a man, then the correct answer would be: compliment him. Yes, that's right, and it's not a joke. A compliment is always pleasant, and guys, just like girls, love to be told words of praise. Especially when they deserve it. So never miss an opportunity, no matter how small, to say a few kind words to someone you care about.

Don’t forget that not every man can quickly and easily guess that a girl likes him. And a couple of compliments from your lips will just push his thoughts in the right direction. After this, it will become clear whether your feelings are mutual. If nothing changes, then all you can do is be friends. And if he begins to frantically court you, then your feelings are not unrequited, and be prepared for a serious relationship!

A smile will make everyone brighter.

Universal advice to everyone who doesn’t know what to do if you really like a man: smile at him. There is no simpler and more effective way to show that you enjoy his company. Don't look away when you notice him looking at you. Please him with a smile, let him know that you are pleased to see him.

And don't be embarrassed if you feel yourself blushing in his presence. It's not scary and even cute in its own way.

Small talk.

One way or another, the moment will come when you will need to talk to each other for the first time. If you work together, there are, of course, more reasons for conversation. And there it’s not far from personal topics. The most important thing when communicating is to be able to listen and be able to hear your opponent.

This does not mean that it is enough for you to simply remain silent all the time, expecting continuous conversations from the man, without any remarks from you in response. What the hell, he will decide that you are deliberately silent so that he will speak out sooner and leave you alone, that you are bored with him. Therefore, show interest in the conversation, ask about something, express your opinion on the topic. Let the man feel that you are happy to talk to him and that he is more than attractive to you.

A sense of humor is a lifeline.

Two people always get very close when they laugh at something together. It often happens that the best thing to do is to laugh at a somewhat difficult situation, to find funny sides so that it stops seeming difficult. Surely you have noticed that you feel some kind of special closeness with a person when you laugh at something with him? It’s especially nice when he laughs at your jokes with understanding and pleasure, and you laugh at his.

Be sure that such mutual understanding through a common sense of humor will certainly lead to personal rapprochement. Laugh together, enjoy it, and very soon your mutual sympathy will grow into something more.

Rule #4: Make friends with him

As soon as you managed to adjust your external type to his preferences, and he even began to sometimes look in your direction (even if in surprise, the main thing is that he looks!), it is important for you to make friends with him. To begin with, just make friends.

How to behave to make a guy like you? It’s possible that even if you attract his attention, but don’t “catch him” with anything other than the appropriate appearance, then all your efforts will be in vain. Remember the first point? It is better to hide your whims and self-will for the time being. You will still have time to demonstrate your “I don’t know who I want, who I don’t want.”

It is important for you to show him your concern, understanding, kindness and excellent sense of humor. You are not a boring bluestocking who sits quietly in the corner and is afraid of everyone. You are a beautiful (!), confident girl. You have a goal, and the goal has you. Don't be afraid to laugh at some ridiculous situation. You can laugh at yourself too. Self-criticism is an excellent quality, by the way.

If for some reason you can’t make friends, you shouldn’t give up what you started. Look for compromises, be interested in the young man. Always smile and greet him, ask how he is doing and what mood he is in. If you work together, bring him coffee. Make him feel exceptional in your life.

A little bragging wouldn't hurt him. By the way, after several morning visits to him with coffee, you will definitely find common topics for conversation. At least what kind of coffee do you both prefer? And after 21 days, according to the same psychologists, this will become a habit. Apparently both

Common mistakes girls make

Waiting and enduring is useless and pointless, no one will appreciate your sacrifice, on the contrary, the man will get used to it and will be surprised at the insubordination.
Excessive demands - if you are looking for a slave or a sponsor, then it is unlikely that your expectations will soon be fulfilled. No one is obliged to support you, go to the casino or wait for an inheritance.
Share details of communication with others - no need to complain or gossip a lot, respect the privacy of personal relationships. Especially if the young man has entrusted you with confidential information.

What not to do if you want a guy to like you. the guy will like you.”>

5/5 — (2 votes)

Rule #5: Don't be intrusive

If you do everything according to the recommendations of psychologists, but there is no response? Or do you even see irritation on his part? Don't be discouraged. Most likely, the morning interrogations about the past evening should be stopped. And, apparently, there’s no need to ask about your mood just yet.

Try not to force yourself on him at all for a couple of days. We bet that, most likely, after a couple of days he will talk to you. And maybe even bring coffee. He'll miss you.

And if not, then after a couple of days you can tell him again, “Hi! Why are you so happy? Do you miss me at all?” and run. Preferably faster. Just kidding *victory*

You can continue communication as if nothing had happened. It’s better not to specify about problems in life either, so that it doesn’t somehow turn out that his problem is you.

Rule No. 6: Keep it in moderation

Even if you don't feel the guy's irritation and everything is going well, it's still important not to relax. Neither you nor him. Keep everything in moderation. Even in communication. Do you often ask him to do all the work? Today and tomorrow just don't do it.

Do you give him a ride home from work? Today you have other plans. And tomorrow you have an important meeting with a friend at yoga. Forgot to bring him coffee in the morning? It's OK. And in the evening they passed by and didn’t say goodbye: well, it happens.

Find out in this way, does he really need you? And for what purpose? Perhaps you yourself will come to some conclusions. And maybe you’ll make him think about your importance in his life.

If in a couple of days he himself offers to give you a ride, is it worth refusing? And even if he doesn’t notice the lack of your participation, are you sure that you still really need him? Need it? Then we restore our reputation and continue to take an interest in his affairs.

Why do we need to know about the sympathy of an unfamiliar guy?

Statistics say that most relationships begin between previously acquaintances. Moreover, we have known each other for quite a long time. There can be a lot of examples. One of the brightest are my parents. Mom is six years younger than dad. They lived in the same house, and their entrances were located nearby. It would seem, how could it be possible not to communicate for several years?! But they not only did not communicate, but were even strangers. Dad, in his own words, always noticed the little blond girl (he was 23 at that time, she was 17), but did not dare to approach.

Women's tricks on how to hint to a guy about a relationship

Obviously, he still came up - after all, I was born. But the question constantly spins in my head: “How can you live next to each other and still like each other after many years?” It seems to me that the reason is precisely his indecision. The situation is aggravated by her lack of understanding of subtle hints and signs of sympathy. This is why it is so important to recognize this very sympathy and let the guy know that you feel something similar (if you, of course, feel something for him).

I think many will agree with me: we are incredibly pleased to know that a guy likes us. Moreover, whether we like him is another question. The very fact that we have taken possession of someone’s thoughts (and if we’re lucky, then their minds) excites the girl’s imagination. But how can you find out about his sympathy if you don’t communicate and it seems like he doesn’t see you point blank?

Rule No. 7: Praise and admire

After such a risky step as a little ignoring, it is important to “recover” in his eyes. Just smile at him when he least expects it and tell him he has a great suit. Or a beautiful hairstyle. Or stunning shoes.

Or tell him how excited you are about his new project. You can even give him an idea or two. If you don't mind, of course. Let him curry favor with his superiors. Men are more receptive to praise from superiors. But he will know to whom he owes it.

Rule #8: Always say “yes” to him!

Of course, now we are not talking about the fact that you need to immediately have sex with him if he offers. Not at all. It is generally better to delay such a moment if possible. So that interest does not disappear.

We are talking about moments when a girl can show her participation in his life to the maximum. If he asks you for advice, know that you have earned his trust! Do not refuse to help him under any circumstances: the chances of becoming the object of his adoration will increase exactly three times! If he doesn’t do anything like that, provoke him. This is exactly how you need to communicate with a guy to make him like you.

Invite him to go together and choose winter boots, because you understand leather and know how to distinguish the original from the fake. Or car mats. If he wants, of course. Or if he asks you to replace him on a shift, don’t refuse right away. Let him know that he can rely on you.

If he couldn’t “start” in the winter in the parking lot, then don’t refuse to come and “light” him. Anyway, please suggest. Perhaps he himself will understand that it is not very convenient for you to travel from the opposite end of the city to the other 20 minutes before the start of the working day. But he will know that you are a reliable friend.

Is it possible to act first?

In many cases, this is the only correct strategy with a guy you like, due to personal and social reasons.

Many guys simply do not have enough experience to cope with such a difficult task as approaching a girl and finding out her name. This is more difficult than creating a new search engine or organizing an expedition to the peaks of the Northern Urals.

In addition, public opinion manifests itself in a strange way: it stimulates “masculine actions”, but at the same time does not guarantee a polite and pleasant attitude on the part of girls. Therefore, act contrary to standards and stereotypes; real feelings justify any impulsive maneuvers.

We recommend reading: How to confess your love to a guy.

Rule #9: Don't get angry

Under no circumstances should you get angry for any reason if you are alone with him. Guys are put off by girls' anger. Even justified. Let him be wrong a thousand times, show him that it doesn’t bother you at all.

Better exhale, slowly count to yourself to 5 and...smile at him! Try to get out of the situation with a joke. This way you will be able to smooth out the negativity and show yourself as a wise girl.

Kindness should be your main trump card. After all, you are a girl, not an evil smuggler.

Learn to restrain your emotions and control your behavior. Believe me, it makes life a lot easier. And not only in relationships with a guy.