Recently I noticed that in a male company the conversation flows naturally, without tension or awkward pauses. Thousands of interesting topics, stories, anecdotes arise in my head. But in the presence of a girl, this entire inexhaustible flow is instantly blocked.
As if with the snap of your fingers, you turn from a witty jokester into a notorious idiot.
How many times have there been such cases when you met a girl, seemed to start an interesting conversation and suddenly you catch yourself thinking that the topics for conversation have ended, and in the eyes of the young lady there is boredom and a desire to leave quickly.
I immediately panic in my head: “You need to say something, don’t be silent!”, but in the silence you can only hear the roar of falling self-esteem. The tips below will help you learn how to maintain a conversation with a girl and not look like a boring bore.
Correspondence with a girl: examples. How to start a correspondence with a girl? Questions for a girl when texting
It's always difficult to meet people. After all, you want to please a person at first sight. But, unfortunately, this is not always possible. Today, young people prefer to make friends and comrades on social networks or using mobile phones. What is it like - proper correspondence with a girl? How to make acquaintances? What questions should you ask a representative of the fair sex so as not to scare her away? It is these topics that we will talk about next.
Moving the conversation from one topic to another
When the topic of conversation has exhausted itself, change it to another. This needs to be done naturally. You can move beautifully from one topic to another with the help of an open question. At the same time, the second topic seems to cling to the previous one.
For example, you were talking about flowers, and you need to change the topic of the conversation:
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: My favorite flowers are chamomile.
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: You know, I heard that flowers are the best gift for a woman. What gifts do you like best?
After this, the dialogue turns to a discussion of gifts.
Choosing a Communication Style
At the very beginning, it should be noted that the main thing is to choose the right style of communication with the lady you like. But how to do that? Everything is extremely simple. If you are going to meet on social networks, you just need to carefully study the girl’s page. She can tell you a lot. So, you can look at the photos and pictures she has uploaded, and listen to the playlist. It is easy to draw certain conclusions from this. Let's consider what communication styles you can choose:
- Sweet, “vanilla”. Girls who prefer this kind of communication love it when people “lisp” with them, when they are given compliments and even flattered.
- Literary. This is how you should communicate with girls who like to be addressed in beautiful literary speech, without ordinary expressions, not in Surzhik.
- Ordinary. Here you can simply write to a girl without thinking about who she really wants to present herself as.
- Special. In this case, you need to carefully study the terminology of the subculture to which the lady belongs. This can be easily recognized by photos and playlists on social networks.
Avoid the construction “Hello, how are you?”
The first piece of advice girls give is don’t write “Hello, how are you?” Come up with some more original beginning for the dialogue. At least ask more specifically about her work routine or comment on her new photo.
Don’t text a girl “hi, how are you?” Write to her: “Damn, I’m so tired of this work”, “How are preparations going for that event?”, “Your new ava is super.” Be real. Don't plan the conversation. Don't build structures that must be followed. Don't think about the answer. For me personally, questions like “What are you doing?” my eyes automatically roll back, and I'm sure I'm not the only one.
First word/phrase
It is very important that the beginning of correspondence with a girl is as correct as possible. Why is that? The fact is that ladies, especially beautiful ones, receive many offers to meet each other every day. And most of them are simply ignored. That is why you need to initially interest the girl and attract the necessary attention. So, the first word or phrase written in the message is important. The usual "Hello!" few will be surprised. You need to be creative with your first proposal. So, let's look at successful correspondence with girls. Examples of the first phrases will help you build communication with the fairer sex you like:
- "Hello! Tell me, what will happen to our planet if all the butterflies (cats, dogs) disappear?” That is, you need to ask about what the lady herself likes.
- “I wonder what can make such a beautiful girl happy?”
- "Hello! I’m asking a business question: tell me, what modeling agency do you work for? Do I want to send my little sister (niece) there?” This is how you can start a conversation with beautiful ladies.
Write whatever you want
Some Internet users do not agree with such advice - they believe that you can write absolutely whatever you want. The Internet is the same.
We live in a society where there is already enough stress and lack of freedom of speech. Therefore, on the Internet, relax your social leash to the maximum and write whatever you want. Once again, write ANYTHING you want. This doesn't mean you need to hurl insults. This means that you are free to structure the dialogue in the way that suits you. If the person on the other side of the dialogue does not respect your comfort, it is obvious that he will not be suitable for you for offline relationships.
A story about yourself
Let's figure out further how to start a correspondence with a girl. So, if an acquaintance has already been established, you need to know how to keep the conversation going. To do this, you need to tell about yourself and find out all the most interesting and important things about the life of the lady you like. In this case, you need to review your completed application form. In some cases, it can be edited a little, adjusting the information towards the interests of the lady you like. What should you tell about yourself? Correspondence with a girl will be very successful if there are no boring stories like “born-raised-studied-work.” First of all, we need to talk about those aspects of life where you can find similar interests:
- Hobbies, interests.
- Favorite films, music.
- Recreation preferences (visiting clubs, going out into nature, hanging out with friends at home or in a quiet place, etc.).
However, it is also important to talk about your place of study or work. After all, there may be certain lines of intersection. At the same time, it is necessary not only to tell. After your speech, you need to ask an appropriate question, for example: “I love cars and everything connected with them. How do you feel about this hobby?” If a lady is not interested in something, you should not stop there, you need to move on to the next object of attention.
What to talk about when you first meet
When you first meet, make a good impression, so follow something like this:
- Give compliments. It is important for girls to hear pleasant words addressed to them. There is no young lady in the world who would be indifferent to compliments, even if someone says the opposite. Therefore, if you are trying to charm her, do not skimp on pleasant words, but do not overdo it, otherwise you will make yourself look like a flatterer.
- Just kidding. Girls like men's sense of humor, so the first meeting should be as fun as possible. The main thing is that the jokes are not offensive either to the young lady or to those around her.
- Look for unusual topics and avoid trivial, hackneyed things. You should always have a couple of outstanding topics in stock and know little-known, interesting facts. You must show her your erudition without looking like a bore.
- Don't overdo it. Sometimes guys are so focused on impressing during the first meeting that they simply don't allow young girls to speak up. Let the young lady take the initiative; perhaps if the girl has something to say, then she will be the one who will be able to find an interesting and exciting direction for the conversation.
Topics that will appeal to many young ladies
In order for correspondence with a girl to be very successful, you definitely need to interest the lady. In this case, you need to choose an appropriate topic for conversation. So, let’s look at the questions a girl should definitely ask when texting:
- Questions about her personality. All people love to talk about themselves and their achievements. Therefore, after almost every story, it is good to ask a question, as they say, on the topic. This way you can chat for hours, learning more and more information about each other.
- Preferences. You definitely need to ask the girl about her preferences in all possible areas of life. You can talk not only about music, movies or books. So, you can find out about your favorite clothing style, weather, season, food, drinks, etc.
- Future plans. This path is very risky (especially if the guy is afraid of commitment), but sometimes you can ask about the girl’s plans for the future. If the answers she gave are ambiguous and are not to your liking, you need to quickly move the topic in a different direction. However, you should not choose a completely opposite topic, so that the girl does not get the feeling that the guy is deliberately ignoring this or that question. For example, if a lady wrote: “I dream of getting married and having five children,” you can answer: “That’s good. “I have a sister (brother) - they have a family, there are children, they are so happy.” And then move on to the topic of relatives.
Additional topics of conversation
Here are a few more general topics that will help you understand the question of how to diversify a conversation with a girl and not seem boring:
- Movies.
Show me at least one person who has never seen a movie. Everyone has their favorite movie and now is the time to find out which one it is.
- Hobby.
This information can also help with the theme of your future date and possible holiday gift.
- Books.
Unfortunately, few people like to read now, and it’s a pity that such a topic is disappearing. Perhaps your new friend is one of those who loves classics or modern literature, ask her about it.
- Favorite places.
These could be cafes, clubs, parks. You can also ask the girl where she likes to spend time and why.
- Trips.
Surely some of you have been somewhere or want to visit. It's time to discuss these places and countries.
- Cats, dogs and other animals.
Girls can talk for hours about their favorites and show off their photos on their phones.
If the correspondence “stalled”
What questions can you ask a girl when corresponding if communication does not work out or is progressing rather difficultly?
- Tell me about your most fun day.
- Ask what country (city) the girl would like to live in and why.
- Ask who the young lady dreamed of becoming as a child.
- Ask what made the girl choose this particular profession (study direction, job).
- Ask what your interlocutor dreams about.
- Ask a question about what kind of fairy-tale hero the girl would like to become if possible.
There are actually a lot of such questions. You just need to use your imagination.
Examples of messages and dialogues
To attract the attention of your interlocutor, you need to adhere to the established rules that exist for communicating with a person you don’t know well. Situations are different, so you need to act according to the prevailing circumstances.
Maintaining dialogue when meeting people
At the stage when a man has responded to the first greeting and you need to maintain a dialogue, it is important to show maximum ingenuity and attention to detail. Before you write first to the selected object, you need to study his profile in detail and understand what may interest the interlocutor.
If, when asked how your opponent is doing, he explained in detail what he is doing or what he plans to do, then in response you can also, but more briefly, tell him about your plans.
After exchanging details of plans for the day, you can move on to hobbies. To retain your interlocutor and interest him, experts recommend showing maximum attention to the guy, not interrupting him and not getting ahead of the answer to the question posed with your guesses.
How to continue the conversation if the guy doesn’t write himself
In the case when the young man you like does not take the initiative in the conversation, you can take on a leadership role. In this case, the girl can try to attract his attention again with interesting questions or short stories about her own life.
You can continue the dialogue with the phrase “But I had” or “I heard that.” In this case, the man understands that the interlocutor is also an interesting person and has something to talk about. In addition, you need to remember that messages should be in a positive tone, but it is better to turn off the “know-it-all” for a while so as not to frighten off the timid interlocutor.
What to write if a guy is offended
If a young man is offended by something during a conversation, it is better to immediately apologize and clarify what bothered him, so as not to repeat a similar mistake in the future. The phrase “I'm sorry, I didn't mean to offend you” will be appropriate. At the beginning of communication, it is better to clarify with the interlocutor what topics the conversation is unpleasant for him and not to raise them in the future.
You can continue the conversation with a guy if he is offended by saying: “I’m sorry I offended you.”
When an apology is followed by a long silence, and any attempt to continue the dialogue does not find an answer on his part, it is better to stop communicating and not impose on the interlocutor. Here it would be appropriate to write “If you decide to resume communication, write. I’ll be glad.”
How can you restore dialogue after a quarrel?
There is also a situation when you need to establish communication after a long quarrel. In this case, you need to act carefully and carefully. The phrase “Hello. Are you not angry anymore? will be in place.
You can joke about what happened by writing about what trifle the quarrel occurred over. Experts also recommend that girls not be afraid to apologize first if they feel they were wrong.
It’s not difficult to continue a conversation with a guy on the Internet. The main thing is to be tactful, cheerful and inquisitive. In addition, a man does not need to impose himself or show his intellectual superiority too much. The ability to listen will be an additional advantage, both in virtual and real communication.
About men
If you start a correspondence with a girl, you also need to clarify how the lady treats members of the opposite sex and whether she is thinking of starting close communication with guys in the near future. The answer is important, because the future of the correspondence itself will depend on it. If a girl is hostile towards people of the opposite sex, then you should not waste your time on her. Let's consider what correspondence with girls can be like in this case. Examples of possible questions from your side are given below.
- What character traits do you want to see in a young man? What, in your opinion, do not make a man beautiful?
- Are you ready to visit some interesting place in the near future (hint of a date)?
- How ready are you to change your life in the near future (hint of a serious relationship)?
- What kind of ideal couple is she?
General Tips
I also want to dwell on recommendations that will be useful to you not only for dating, but also in many life situations.
- You can’t limit yourself to just asking questions: you’re not an investigator! Each question should ideally imply your answer to it. This will make the conversation natural and interesting for both of you.
- Don't interrupt her, even if you feel like expressing your personal opinion. If you don't agree with something, express your point of view, give reasons for it, but don't turn the conversation into a debate like on television shows. The ability to listen to your interlocutor and respect his opinion will be useful not only on the first date, but also in many life situations.
- Be confident and calm, even if you are tense inside. Slight excitement is normal, but a nervous tic will be more difficult to explain.
- Show interest, don’t be afraid of emotions - be surprised, laugh with her. Excessive tightness can be perceived as coldness and indifference.
- Practice! Even if you carefully read all the advice and prepared a bunch of topics for conversation, no theory can replace real communication experience.
- Smile and look into her eyes. And do it naturally!
- To consolidate what you have learned, I recommend that you watch videos on the problem of communicating with girls, for example:
Taboos and forbidden topics
So, we figured out how to start a correspondence with a girl. However, it is worth remembering that it is still very important to maintain communication correctly. So, you should not make various mistakes:
- You should never criticize a lady's shortcomings. This will offend her.
- You can't make fun of her choices (in music, movies, books, etc.).
- You can't talk down to a lady. The conversation should be on equal terms.
- You cannot boast or flaunt your advantages. It's not beautiful.
- When talking to a lady, you should not be rude, swear, or call names. Even if the girl behaves inappropriately. It’s better to just “turn on ignore” and stop communicating.
- You should not ask too frank or even intimate questions at first.
- You cannot promise or offer something without the desire to bring it all to life. Men don't do that.
It is worth noting that correspondence with a girl on VKontakte or another social network can be completely different. Sometimes it happens that, even following all the rules of decency, you cannot strike up an acquaintance with a girl. No problem! No need to be upset. You just need to continue to look for your destiny, without focusing on failures.
Which topics are best to avoid?
Now you have a rough idea of what to talk about with a girl in a given situation. But it’s also worth considering which conversations should not be started under any circumstances:
- Gossip and rumors. Never tell her other people's words, gossip and rumors. Firstly, for a man to have such conversations is not respectable. Secondly, it is not a fact that the information you transmit is 100% reliable. By spreading rumors, you risk appearing to girls as a strange man and they will no longer trust you.
- Health. In general, it is not customary to talk about illnesses with strangers, so avoid the topic of your or her health. Otherwise, you risk making girls feel sorry for themselves. And if you complain about your health or put her in an uncomfortable position, the date may be your last.
- Policy. This is a sensitive topic, and therefore the conversation is likely to be one in which it is difficult to achieve agreement. Political conversations also often lead to quarrels, so you shouldn’t touch on them.
- Religion. The same as with politics is not a topic for a romantic evening.
- Former. It is also better to avoid this topic, especially if you are ready to talk about your ex, once beloved ladies only in a negative way. Girls are also not always pleased to remember past relationships, so it is better not to touch on this topic.
- Finance. If you don’t want to be branded as mercantile or put the lady in an uncomfortable position, then don’t touch on “slippery” topics that affect the financial situation of one of you.
- Problems. Do not discuss girls’ problems and try not to complain about unpleasant situations and problems in your personal life.
- Job. You can chat about work casually, but don’t get carried away or go deep. It is not recommended to talk to a young lady about work, even if this topic is very interesting to you.
- Don't brag. Girls, at least adequate ones, do not like braggarts, so when talking about anything, try not to sound like boasting.
Take all this into account if you want to make a positive impression on your loved one.
What to write to a girl in the first message: original examples
It’s easier to talk to a girl you like on the Internet than in real life. In a couple of clicks you can find out everything about her: where she works or studies, what her hobbies are, what films she watches and what music she listens to. But what should you write to her in the first message in contact so that the girl will pay attention and want to continue the conversation? In our article we will talk about what must be in the first message and what should not be there, and at the end of the article you will find several examples of successful online dating...
Interesting and unusual topics for conversation with a girl
What can you talk to a girl about in order to attract her attention and make the impression of an interesting person? Choose current and unusual topics for conversation from our TOP!
1. Imagine that you have 1 day of absolute freedom. How will you spend it: going on a mini-trip, going to have fun in clubs or lying in bed watching your favorite films?
2. What music can instantly wake you up even after a sleepless night? Name 5 songs that fill you with energy and optimism.
3. If you had the opportunity to choose, which country would you prefer for permanent residence? Why?
4. Can you be called a good housewife? How often do you cook various dishes and which one do you consider to be your signature dish?
5. If you could choose a new profession right now, what would you prefer?
6. Tell me about the funniest bad habits that you can’t get rid of. How much do they interfere with your life?
7. Can you drive a car? What kind of driver are you - sharp and aggressive or calm and balanced?
8. How many pets would you like to have and what kind? Do you consider yourself a typical cat lady or, on the contrary, do you prefer dogs?
9. Do you have a sweet tooth or do you prefer salty foods? Name a dish that you can't refuse.
10. Do you like to be photographed? Do you store successful photos in a virtual gallery or do you print them out the old fashioned way and paste them into an album?
11. How much of a place does sport occupy in your life? Do you prefer fitness, jogging, gym classes or other types of training?
12. Do you have a list of things to do by age 30/40/50, etc.? Name at least a few points that you have not yet implemented.
13. What style of clothing do you prefer? Is femininity, attractiveness or comfort more important to you?
14. Do you have many friends? How do you usually spend your time - at parties or in a more relaxed environment?
15. Tell us about your favorite holiday that you look forward to every year. Why do you love him more than others?
16. If you choose a resort, which one would you prefer - a sea, ski or excursion tour to historical places?
17. How do you fill your time when you feel lonely? Does this feeling depress you or, on the contrary, does the calm and silence relax you?
18. Do you maintain close relationships with your parents, brothers/sisters and other relatives?
19. What is the most memorable gift you have ever been given? What was special about it?
20. Name a significant or life-changing event that happened to you over the past year. How dramatically has it changed your life?
21. Are you able to spend 24 hours without gadgets, including your phone? Will you feel uncomfortable offline?
22. Which housing do you like best: a country estate, a comfortable city apartment or a stylish townhouse in a quiet elite area?
23. What throws you off balance in a matter of seconds? How do you usually calm down?
24. Are you by nature an adventurer or a homebody girl? What adventures from the past still make you smile?
25. Did you have a happy childhood? Would you like to take back some moments to relive them or perhaps do things differently?
Preparing for dating: a few important rules
Before starting a correspondence you need to:
- Tidy up your page. We choose a good avatar, fill out the “About Me” section, publish beautiful photos, etc.
- Choose a girl. We choose a girl from our city, weed out fake accounts, find common interests, possible topics for conversation.
About how to properly prepare your page on social media. networks to meet and choose the right girl, we described in detail in step-by-step instructions for meeting girls on VKontakte. Be sure to read this article before you start writing your first message.
How to keep a conversation in contact with the girl you like (3 steps)
Everything seems a lot easier if you're trying to carry on a conversation with a random girl you're not particularly interested in.
Most likely, you can handle it without too many problems, but then when it comes to communicating with that girl you have your eye on, everything falls apart.
Here's the reason for this fiasco: you shouldn't treat a beautiful girl you really like as special.
There is no need to idolize her and put her on a pedestal.
Believe me, she also has a lot of shortcomings, she just skillfully disguises them.
Talk to her the same way you would with any other girl, without focusing on her “special” qualities.
So, use the following steps as a guide to maintaining a conversation with VK girls, and then try to expand the range of your communication on your own.
Here's how to keep a conversation going with the girl you like:
Step #1. Show interest, but not too much
There are two ways you can ruin any conversation with the girl you like.
The first is that you communicate with her only as a friend, without the slightest hint of sex.
And secondly , you immediately begin to aggressively attack her as a sexual object.
Therefore, choose the golden mean.
Flirt, give compliments, try to be a little playful, but not too pushy.
You need to show her that you like her and want to get closer to her, but you don't need to act demanding and look desperate.
The main thing is to keep the conversation low-key and let it develop naturally.
Step #2. Know what to say to the girl you like
It's easy to say, " Keep it casual, but stay involved ."
But how is this even possible?
In fact, you don't need to worry so much about how to maintain a conversation with a VKontakte girl you really like.
You just need to find the perfect balance by understanding in advance what exactly you need to say to the girl you like.
Use simple everyday topics to start a conversation.
Remember: casualness implies confidence, so simply ask her what she thought about her job, recent meeting, or other shared experience.
This is a great way to show her that you are a calm guy with whom you can easily and casually chat about various topics.
If it's appropriate, you can joke.
Just do it delicately so as not to accidentally offend her.
After this, you can continue the conversation by choosing option 1 or option 2:
Option 1: Say something nice to the girl.
Girls like all kinds of guys, but there is one thing that will make you stand out from the crowd - the word "cute".
Girls love cute guys, and the best way to prove that you're a nice guy is to say something nice to a girl.
There are many options here and it will be better if nice messages or comments appear naturally.
There is no need to pull them by the ears and speak when it is not entirely appropriate.
For example, if she is upset, you can say that she really deserves better treatment from her friends, or that you hate everyone who dared to offend her.
Or just tell her that you're really excited to talk to her.
That after a hard day of work it’s like a balm for your soul, and that you were looking forward to this moment.
One great, slightly cheesy thing to try is to offer her your time if that's what she wants.
Tell her that you are ready to help her with her essay or listen to her problems at any time of the day or night.
This way, you will show her that you are quite reliable, interested and sweet at the same time.
Just keep in mind:
Be nice, but not too intrusive.
If she doesn't want to talk about her problems, take your time.
A sweet guy knows when to back off and find another way to show how he feels.
Option 2: Compliment her.
Girls love compliments.
Most guys don't need to be reminded of this; they already use this strategy extensively.
In the end, any girl likes to hear something good, especially from a person she really likes.
But in other way:
Girls do not like to hear frequent and banal compliments. It seems insincere to them.
Girls are well aware of all their strengths and weaknesses, so there is no need to flatter her by showering her with compliments left and right.
This is where the problem arises.
Almost all guys know that compliments for girls are a universal means of seduction, and that they cannot do without it.
But some people simply don’t know how to give the right compliment to a girl without looking like a suck-up.
And so this is perhaps the best insider advice I can give you:
Give her a sincere compliment at the very end of the conversation (when you are about to end it).
This is the best advice for two reasons:
If she likes you, then she will be incredibly happy about your compliment.
It is important for her to know how you feel about her, what you like most about her.
But at the same time, you won’t look like a needy slobber who licks his lips all evening looking at her photo.
Just keep in mind that the compliment must be sincere and deserved.
Before asking for her phone number and making an appointment with her, you can directly ask if she likes you.
If she starts giggling stupidly, saying all sorts of cute nonsense, flirting, and giving you compliments, then most likely she likes you.
If she doesn't do this, then don't waste any more time on her.
Let's move on.
I explained why it is better to give a compliment at the end of a conversation.
Now let’s figure out exactly what words need to be spoken.
Honestly, any compliment works as long as it's true.
Here are some great girl-approved examples:
- I really enjoyed talking with you. I'm seriously impressed by your intelligence and knowledge.
- I'm not surprised you have so many subscribers. You are really very beautiful.
- You are the funniest girl I have ever met. I had a great time with you.
Now just remember:
These are sincere, serious compliments that you don’t want to give to random young ladies.
Wait for the right moment when she seems really interested in you.
At this moment, try to end the conversation, give her a compliment and say goodbye until tomorrow (see below for why you need to do this).
Step #3. End the conversation on time
Ending a great conversation at the peak of interest is incredibly difficult.
But this is what guarantees that you will soon start communicating on this topic again.
Long conversations are tiring, and the girl will no longer want to communicate with a guy who brazenly steals her free time.
At the end of your conversation, the girl should experience an emotional uplift and a feeling of understatement.
You want her to think about your conversation for a long time and smile mysteriously?
So end the conversation on a pleasant note and save something for next time.
What should be the first message to a girl: 3 main questions
The first message should be brief, but should directly or indirectly answer the 3 main questions that will definitely arise in the head of any girl after she reads your “Hello”.
These are the questions:
- Who are you: what is your name, how did you find her online;
- Purpose of meeting: to communicate, have fun, go on a date;
- The reason why you chose her: what you have in common, what you liked about her.
The order of these points may vary depending on the situation.
The main task of the first message is to interest the girl, make her pay her attention to you. To do this, you don’t need to write a whole sheet of text or come up with complex greetings. 1-2 correctly selected simple sentences are enough.
Don't forget to say hello and introduce yourself by the name your friends call you. Avoid overly familiar forms (“Sanyok”, etc.). Yes, your name is already on the page, but the introduction is a simple form of dating etiquette.
Don’t know what excuse to come up with for communication? The desire to communicate is already an excellent excuse for the first message. Do not intimidate a girl by talking about your desire to start a family and have children, even if you are really looking for a future spouse.
Carefully look through her page - pay attention to books, music, films and public pages. How is a girl different from others? What is she proud of? What unites you?
Write that you saw on her page a photo from a recent concert of your favorite band or that you noticed a selection of Nolan’s works in her videos. Show her that she is not just another girl to whom you “copy-paste” prepared text, but that she is special. She will at least become interested in what kind of person you are if you point out your common interests, and she will want to continue communication.
How to extend a text conversation (4 steps)
There are situations when your VKontakte communication looks very sparse.
The girl answers your questions in monosyllables and looks uninterested.
It’s harder to determine a woman’s interest in correspondence than in real life, so don’t rush to draw negative conclusions.
She might just be shy, so try to get her to talk.
Here are several ways to prolong a conversation with a girl on VK:
Use common interests for conversation
Before you send a girl a message, you are faced with a dilemma: what is the best way to write a text without it looking stupid or corny?
What should I tell her to make her agree to meet?
It's good if you have a good reason to send her a message (for example, a project you're working on together)
If there is no good reason, then you can create it artificially.
Just use something common that could unite you.
Use events she might enjoy, news about mutual friends, or interesting topics she might want to talk about.
If you have nothing in common, just send her a random message that will help start a dialogue.
Get her attention
When you have a reason to message her, find a way to engage her in an active conversation.
It could be anything as long as it gets her hooked.
You can ask her about her favorite book she's ever read, or whether she likes meatballs or salami more.
Whatever you come up with, make her think or laugh.
And if you can tie that back to the reason you're texting her, all the better.
Know what and when to write to a girl
Once you start a conversation via text message, you have two challenges.
The first is to interest you, the second is to lure you out on a date.
If you want to interest her and get her talking, then use one or more of the options offered.
Option 1. Ask her questions that require detailed answers.
As mentioned above, nothing demonstrates your interest to a girl better than intelligent, interesting questions.
Before you write a message to a girl, make a list of questions and topics that you would like to discuss with her.
It shouldn’t be a trivial “ how are you ” or “ what’s new .”
Show interest in her life and hobbies.
You can ask her something simple, like her opinion of a new movie she recently watched, or dig deeper and find out who in her family she has the most trusting relationship with.
Whatever you choose, I recommend you try something interesting but not too intrusive.
Option 2: Wish her good morning.
After an interesting conversation that ends on a positive note, you can send her a message in the morning and ask what she dreamed about last night, about her plans for the day and, if possible, make an appointment with her.
Examples of good phrases for dating
Here are 3 original examples from life of starting a conversation on VK that can be used as a sample.
Example 1. A beautiful compliment is an original start to a conversation
- Hi, Olya! My name is Vadim. I accidentally came across your page and wanted to get to know you. The smile on the avatar is too charming
