Any woman, and especially a young girl, wants to always be desired at any time, and I am sure that each of us girls has a 100% right to this, since this is the personal happiness of each of us and for this we need to maintain a personal a varied and active life. But what to do if you are married, and for your husband, you have long ceased to be desirable, then the question arises of how to cheat without your husband guessing about it.
Unlike single girls, married girls have some obligations. Going out and having fun somewhere is one thing, but a family is completely different, it is sacred and immutable, otherwise it would not have been worth starting it then.
However, if for a good reason you are simply forced to cheat on your man, then you must take care in advance of methods of secrecy and conspiracy that will help you ensure that while hanging out on the side, your husband will never find out about it.
Why do women cheat on their husbands?
Relationships between women and lovers have always been condemned by society. People have always been more accepting of male infidelity. Women who cheat have always been equated with prostitutes. In ancient times, unfaithful women were stoned, often to death. Nowadays, female names are viewed more favorably. But women should not immediately rush to cheat on their husband. If you decide to cheat on your husband, then there must be certain reasons for this.
Here are the most common of them:
- You don't like your husband's qualities, so you compare him with other men. Often, cheating on your husband is more useful in terms of maintaining a relationship than visiting a psychologist.
- You want to experience new sensations in sex. This happens when there is not enough variety.
- You are afraid of reproach from your husband when you live out your fantasies through sex. You will be scared to hear such a phrase from your husband during lovemaking: “Who did you learn to do this with?” The lover is much more favorable to this, so with him you can realize all your sexual desires and try something unusual.
- Being in a relationship with your lover makes you look more beautiful. Your husband is already getting used to your shortcomings in your figure. He doesn’t care that you don’t wear makeup often and dress tastelessly and monotonously. But if you are dating another man, then this motivates you to adjust your figure and look more beautiful in general.
- Often a problem arises that the husband does not satisfy him in sex. You try to change something for the better, but nothing works. In this case, a certain part prefers to experience sexual pleasures with other men.
- In relationships with a lover, many women open up in a new way: such men begin to give flowers and expensive gifts, and shower their new lover with compliments. This helps ladies feel loved again.
- There is a special reason why women choose to cheat on their husbands. We are talking about a situation where the spouse himself cheats. In this case, women believe that they have every right to reciprocate and often willingly take revenge on an unfaithful husband.
Men's "PASSION"
- FOOTBALL FAN If he doesn't miss a single match, come up with a fun alternative for both of you. Win-win options: sex and delicious food.
- EXTREME ATHLETE Invite him to ride a bike not after work, but to work. The conclusion of a doctor from a circle of friends will also have a wonderful effect: “With your workload, in a couple of years you will get problems with your knee and a displaced disc.” This will definitely reduce his activity.
- MOTORCYCLIST PEDANT Under no circumstances give him an ultimatum: “Me or him!” In this situation, he will choose a motorcycle! It’s better while he’s fiddling with his toy to find some entertainment he likes. For example, go shopping with his credit card.
- WORKAHOLIC Imitate his behavior until it starts to irritate him. If he's always texting on his work phone, start an exciting text conversation with your best friend.
Give yourself an alibi
In order for your husband to make sure that you are not cheating on him, you need to pretend that you are attending some kind of training or course. You can warn your spouse that you are visiting a psychologist. You can tell your husband that you decided to take care of yourself and signed up for a beauty salon or massage. Tell him how important it is to take care of your personal development in order to achieve inner balance.
If you have problems with money in your family, you can tell your husband that you have decided to find a new part-time job because you do not have enough money for clothes, visits to beauty salons, and massage sessions. The most important thing is that the alibi is believable. For your husband to trust you, you must have a clear reasoning for your actions. That is, your visits to a psychologist, to a beauty salon, or the decision to find a new part-time job must have some reason.
Try not to complicate the situation. Firstly, you need not to leave the house often, because your husband will think that you are avoiding him. Try to choose an alibi so that your husband cannot check your results. For example, you should not tell your spouse that you have started taking dance or singing courses or studying a foreign language. My husband can check all this.
Try to come home on time as often as possible. If you are late home, this should happen rarely. Moreover, the reason must be different each time. For example, one time you were late for work, the second time you stayed late with a friend who has problems. She asked for your support. The best way to find an excuse for your constant delays is to give your man something. Tell him that you spent a long time choosing a present and that you really wanted to make it nice and were looking for this gift in many stores.
So that you can confirm your trip to the store, carry business cards and discount coupons with you. This way you can show them to your husband at any time. If you have planned an affair, then come up with some kind of event in advance. For example, going to the cinema with friends. Warn your husband that you are going to attend this event.
Show CARE!
- Don't criticize, but give specific advice (of course, not forgetting compliments). For example: “If you didn’t have chest hair, your muscles would be even more visible.”
- When buying men's face creams, pay attention to keywords such as Energy (not for weaklings) or Men (for real men). This way you will quietly raise his self-esteem.
- Dealing with its minor shortcomings is very simple:
- Bad breath: Make sure he drinks as much water as possible.
- Oily hair: buy shampoo for oily hair - he will have no choice but to use it with you.
- Sweaty feet: Socks with silver thread or insoles will help.
How to get rid of traces of betrayal?
There is often a problem that a lover gives flowers when they meet. It can be a pity to throw them away, but in this case it is better for you to get rid of these flowers. They cannot be brought home.
Don't correspond on social media. networks in front of my husband openly with my lover. Make sure that you do not have the password for your social network page saved on your computer. To be on the safe side, delete all correspondence with your lover on your account.
After a good time, take a close look at your purse. Make sure there are no tickets or receipts in it. Don't take the keys to your lover's apartment. Don't keep condoms in your purse, especially if you don't use them with your husband.
Your husband can determine your intimacy with your lover by smell. Let's say your lover smokes and you don't. In this situation, it will be strange for your husband to smell cigarettes from you. If your clothes smell strongly of your lover's perfume, try to wash your clothes as soon as possible. You need to understand that such a situation, when the smell of another man’s perfume remains on clothes, happens too often. Therefore, take spare clothes in this case. Before you return to your husband, change into it.
Instilling a SENSE OF TASTE
PROBLEM #1
The word “shopping” makes him feel hot, so he doesn’t get out of his old jeans with a hole in the most interesting place and stretched sweaters.
Solution: Give him compliments and subtly offer him new options. For example: “You will look incredibly sexy in this black shirt!” When you go shopping, don't forget: today is his day, so you have to forget about yourself. If shopping still causes him stress, an online store is a good alternative.
PROBLEM#2
He is completely unpretentious. In his opinion, clothes should, first of all, be practical and cheap.
Solution: This man is a real find! He will gratefully accept whatever you choose for him! It is better to buy those wardrobe items that do not need to be tried on: a sweater, a scarf, a belt. Gradually you will change his style.
PROBLEM#3
It has a taste, but it is quite specific. His style icons are Stallone in the image of Rocky and Mikhail Boyarsky with his eternal hat...
Solution: Create a new idol for him - for example, watch "Ocean's Friends" with the always elegantly dressed George Clooney.
Another killer argument in the fight for good taste: “It looks too feminine.” An item that comes under such criticism will disappear from his wardrobe forever, it’s been verified!
How to behave correctly when cheating?
First, if you are dating another man, you need to cover your tracks. To get rid of your husband's suspicions, try to pay more attention to him. Tolerate his shortcomings and show him affection. Give gifts to your man, cook him dinner. Kiss and hug him more often than usual. It shouldn't seem like anything special. Flirt with your husband.
Try to have more sex with your husband. Buy lace lingerie to excite your rightful man.
You need to stick to the same pattern of behavior as before. Everything should happen as if nothing has changed in your life. That is, if you used to cook and clean all the time while raising children, continue to do this.
Make your husband jealous of other women. But this should not develop into serious quarrels. This should all happen in an easy way. You don't need to do this too often.
Show his shortcomings from the outside
The “mirror effect” helps demonstrate your partner’s shortcomings. They don’t notice order when there is a person nearby who promptly collects dirty cups around the house and puts things in their places.
Sometimes you can allow yourself the luxury of being lazy: not cleaning, not doing laundry, not cooking. Only then will the husband understand how easy it is to be left without the usual comfort.
Basic rules that must be strictly followed when cheating
Your husband no longer suits you as a sexual partner, so you decide to find yourself a lover. First of all, you need to remember all the important rules of cheating on your husband, which must be followed so that your husband does not find out about your cheating:
- Have protected sex. You can be sure that your lover does not have sexually transmitted diseases, but sex without condoms can lead to pregnancy. Nowadays, it is not difficult to establish who the father of a child is. I don’t see the point in describing the consequences when your husband finds out that you gave birth to a child from another man.
- Always try to keep it secret. You must take into account all the little things: at what time and in what places you will meet your lover. You need to come up with explanations for your delays. In your mobile phone, enter your lover's number under your female name.
- Never talk about cheating with your friends. You must be well aware that women love to gossip. Therefore, they may accidentally give away your secret. This information may not reach your husband directly, but your spouse may find out about your infidelity through a chain of gossiping people.
- Outside relationships should bring you as much as possible. This applies not only to sexual satisfaction, but also to expensive gifts. You take a lot of risk, so it should be rewarded. Just don’t choose too expensive gifts so that your husband doesn’t find it suspicious.
Rule four: system of signs
The perfect betrayal is not much different from the secret mission of superheroes from your favorite comic book. Ideally, your outside partner should not know your home address, place of work, your husband’s identity, and should not have mutual acquaintances in your family. This will protect you from possible blackmail, but in life, as a rule, it is difficult to be so careful. Therefore, discuss with your lover a system of signs in case a man or child picks up the phone.
Think about what phrase can become a signal that you are not alone and cannot speak. Sometimes a neutral, familiar formulation is suitable for this purpose: “Excuse me, but where did you want to call? Yes, you obviously have the wrong number. It’s okay, it happens.”
Watch your voice. It should sound relaxed and calm.
If you meet by chance on the street, you shouldn’t reveal your feelings. Excitement, trembling voice, shifting eyes only complicate the situation. Do not call your lover if there is a possibility of being heard by your spouse. It’s better to be patient and wait for a more opportune moment.
Don't let your lover drive you to your doorstep or place of work. Don’t be lazy to walk a couple of blocks, because your colleagues love to gossip just as much as the nosy neighbors on the bench.
What to do if your husband suspects cheating?
Nowadays, it has become easier to detect infidelity. The reason for this is modern technology. If your husband is very jealous, he will try to resort to surveillance, monitor your location and carefully watch you on social networks.
Psychologists identify 5 basic rules, the observance of which will help ward off suspicion:
- Don't react to accusations of cheating from your spouse.
- If your husband is alarmed by the changes in your life, and he started talking about cheating on your part, ask him to provide specific facts that can confirm this. If he gives an example of something, reduce it to the fact that these are just empty suspicions.
- Keep calm. If you start to get nervous, it will give you away.
- To convince your husband that his suspicions are not true, show your love for him.
- As a last resort, file a claim in response.
Fight against LAZINESS
- Does he leave his things all over the place? Place an empty candy wrapper on each item. This way you will attract his attention and develop a pattern of behavior.
- Before you voice your dissatisfaction, stick a piece of paper on your toilet brush that says “Use Me” or on your scattered socks “Wash Me.”
- If he doesn’t know how to manage the family budget, play the role of a helpless woman more often. “Darling, I can’t do anything!” - you sigh, trying to scrub the grease off the pan. And he begins to think about purchasing a dishwasher!
- If he doesn't want to solve minor problems, stimulate him. For example, say: “The toothpaste is out” and wait until he goes to the store himself.
- Leave space in the apartment for his interests - men need chaos.
Change suspicious behavior
If you allow your spouse to speak honestly, he may talk about specific things that bother him about your behavior. Changing behavior without warning can make him even more suspicious. However, if you talk openly about how to behave better, he will interpret the changes as legitimate efforts to work on the relationship.
Trying to act differently can make you look like you're overreacting or feeling guilty. Don't make sudden changes. To cover up an affair that your husband already suspects, change a little to demonstrate that you are making an effort to maintain trust in the relationship.
Is it worth it
Think twice before you change. People have many reasons for cheating: they may be angry at their partner, they may feel dissatisfied in a relationship they are not ready for, or they have become boring. Some people take out their disappointment on something completely unrelated to the relationship. In all of these cases, there are many negative consequences of infidelity.
- You may think that you won't get caught. Even if this is true, research shows that cheating partners experience high levels of shame and guilt for their actions. besides, you will still be constantly afraid that your husband will find out about the betrayal.
- When infidelity becomes public knowledge, many relationships fall apart due to the lack of trust created by the betrayal.
- Think about the suffering your partner will experience if the infidelity is discovered. If you are not ready to accept hurting your spouse, do not even entertain the thought of cheating.
- The consequences of infidelity can undermine a person's trust in their future relationships, negatively impacting their ability to find happiness even after they break up.
- If the affair is discovered, you will lose the respect of friends and family, which can be painful.
- If you're truly unhappy, it's best to have an honest conversation with your husband in which you either agree to work together to improve the marriage or decide to break up and move on with someone else.
Warning
If you want to cheat on your husband in the hope that he will not find out or guess, you must take into account the following.
- Cheating can be emotionally devastating to your spouse if you get caught.
- Infidelity often leads to breakup. If you want to be together, don't deceive him.
- Even if you stay together after being caught cheating, you'll have to do a lot of work to rebuild trust. Relationships will never be the same.