How to kiss a girl first to make her happy: instructions for men

08/25/201608/25/2016 Nadezhda Plotnikova

A kiss is a great way to share feelings and emotions with your chosen one, as well as show the depth of passion and desire. The first touch on a girl’s lips should still be more gentle, since it is this that often becomes decisive in the transition of relationships to a more serious level.

It is not surprising that many young people are concerned about how to kiss a girl for the first time, so as not to push her away, but, on the contrary, to attract her to them. Improvisation, of course, is a good thing, but it is still better to prepare for such an important event as a kiss.

How can a guy kiss a girl

Don't know how to kiss a girl on the lips first? This is fine! You are either not experienced yet, or you are very much in love. You can endlessly scroll through situations in your head in which you could do this. We need to start preparing and create all the necessary conditions for such an important moment.

Most importantly, be mentally prepared for rejection. Life doesn’t end there, and there is even a chance to start a relationship with the one you want to kiss.
Make sure the girl is available and ready to go on a date with you. It is rude to kiss a young lady who is in a relationship, even if you want to beat her off. And even more so, think about it if she initiates a date and is active when paired with someone else. Is such a person worth trusting? You decide.

Many guys are interested in the question of how to kiss passionately and emotionally. This is important, but it comes with experience and depends on what connects you with your partner. If the matter is limited only to sympathy on both sides, then the kiss will not turn out to be passionate and hot. But when you get goosebumps just from the thought of her, when you feel hot when meeting her, then you yourself will understand what you need to do and how to behave when kissing.

But it is much more important to learn gentleness and consistency in your actions. You can’t just give a girl an unforgettable kiss at the first meeting. Unless you want to get a slap in the face. Treat the kiss as the first building block of your future relationship.

Types of kisses: from simple to French

A guy wants to kiss a girl.
You can master the technique of kissing throughout your life. And you will always discover something new for yourself, as well as give pleasure to your chosen one. There are several types of kisses:

A simple kiss - first, touch her lips, knead them with your tongue. Don't push too hard. The main thing is that your mouth is slightly open. Just try to penetrate it slightly with your lips. And this will be your first victory in this field. Try to do it gently and sensually, and not “for show.”
Biting - You can gently bite the girl's lip and open her teeth. You can pull your lips a little and let go. It is better to do this as carefully as possible so as not to hurt her.
Sucking – capture her lips with yours and pull. This makes it possible to feel a fairly large number of pleasant sensations. Of course, you should combine types of kisses to achieve greater effect.
Passionate - passionate kiss - foreplay . Both partners push their tongues deep into each other's mouth. Kisses can go to the neck and below.
French kiss is a long kiss during which the partners' tongues penetrate each other's mouths. It is best to end a date with a French kiss so that the girl dreams of the next meeting.

How to kiss a girl so that she really likes it? As mentioned above, don't worry about perfect technique. It is important to show maximum tenderness during the kissing process. The result should be her slight arousal and a desire to continue. Remember that the main erogenous zones of any woman are the waist and neck. Although each has its own special zones, it takes time to solve them. Of course, the key to a successful kiss is feelings and tenderness towards the girl. Good luck!

Prepare properly

To please yourself and the girl during a kiss, don’t be lazy. Set the stage for a romantic date, the girl should want to kiss you before you do it.

Becoming attractive and inviting to close contact is not difficult, you need:

Be carefully shaven. Girls really don't like a man's prickly face; it leaves micro-scratches and causes irritation after a kiss. If your image does not imply grown and softer stubble, or even a beard and mustache, then shave properly and give the girl unforgettable tenderness.
Take a shower. Unpleasant odors that invariably appear throughout the day can give the wrong impression about you. The girl will decide that you are too lazy to prepare or don’t take care of yourself at all. When planning close contact, make sure that you smell of pleasant eau de toilette or a clean, ironed shirt, at a minimum.
Brush your teeth. At this point, comments will be superfluous, but stock up on chewing gum, refreshing candies or just mints.
Don't smoke before a date. It is better to abstain from cigarettes an hour or two before the date, as the smell of tobacco lingers for a long time, including on your hands, hair and clothes. If a girl does not smoke, it will be very unpleasant for her to kiss an “ashtray”. In the event that your partner does not hesitate to smoke at a meeting, relax and discuss brands of cigarettes.
Wash the hands. It is quite possible that on the way to a date you snacked on nuts, smoked and pet the neighbor's dog. Or they just touched hands a few times in public places. Wash your hands before your meeting or bring refreshing wipes with you. Be prepared to hug and stroke her hair with clean hands, because she deserves it.

To kiss or not to kiss

Signs that a woman is waiting for a kiss:

Her gaze is fixed on your lips.
Bites and moisturizes lips.
Flirting.
Touches his hair and neck.
Maintains prolonged eye contact.
She shortens the distance between you.
Touches you. These can be short touches of the shoulders, chest, head, hair, face, legs.
Gets embarrassed when your gazes intersect.

Don't forget that a kiss is the first step on the path to sex with the girl you like. If you can prepare correctly, choose a place and time, and also wisely distribute the young lady’s level of excitement, intimacy cannot be avoided.

Take my advice into account the next time you go out with a woman.

How to Know if She's Ready

Before you kiss a girl, make sure your interest is reciprocated. Even if she invited you to dinner and smiles mysteriously all evening, take your time! There are several tricks to understand that a girl is ready to enter into close contact through a kiss.

She is ready to move to the “next level” if:

Doesn't take his eyes off your lips;
Plays with her hair;
Biting his lower lip;
Strokes himself on the neck, arms, thighs;
Breathing heavily and frequently;
Peers into your face very carefully;
Allows you to get close;
He speaks quietly and tilts his head to the side;

Watch carefully and you will understand at what moment you can kiss a girl. Just one sign is not a green light and does not give you the right to take her into your arms. But the combination of several points at once suggests mutual interest and a desire to get closer.

ASK HER TO STAND UP TO KISS YOU

This may be your favorite way to hint at a girl for a kiss because it always gives her the opportunity to say no without making it awkward.

Here are some examples:

Tell her to stand on the bench without telling her why.
Ask her to stand up straight.
Tell her to lift herself up onto her fingertips because “you won’t be able to reach.”

In all of these examples, you should say it with a flirtatious smile and a slight wink to let her know that you have a little surprise in store for her.

Rules to follow with a girl

If a man decides to abruptly and unexpectedly kiss a girl, then he should be prepared for the most negative consequences. Do not neglect our advice, because if you stumble, you may lose her trust forever.

When communicating, avoid vulgar compliments, stupid jokes and topics on which your views radically differ. First, read the article about the best compliments to a girl and see what to talk about with a girl on a date. Having thoroughly prepared and studied the theory, behave with dignity and demonstrate the following qualities:

Politeness and gallantry. Giving a hand, helping to take off or put on outerwear, letting a lady go forward is the shortest way to become a gentleman in her eyes.
Attentiveness and interest. Ask a variety of but relevant questions and listen carefully to the answers: hobbies, friends, leisure, work, etc.
Caring and desire to protect. Create maximum comfort for the girl so that she feels safe next to you. Try to keep a distance that indicates your interest, but does not force the girl to look for ways to retreat.

Choose the meeting place wisely and with special passion! Strictly not suitable:

concerts,
sporting events,
noisy parties,
meetings at your home.

They will not allow you to relax and have a casual conversation.

Much better for creating the desired sensual atmosphere are:

cozy cafe or bar,
cinema,
a walk in the park in good weather.

You can catch the moment for a kiss on the way home from rides or other joint entertainment.

Don't forget to give sincere compliments, for example:

"You have an amazing figure"
“Your lips are very beautiful, and your eyes are simply mesmerizing.”

Women often care not about what you say, but how exactly you say it, with what tone, intonation, and gestures.

Watch your lady's reaction to words, actions and signs of attention. If she reacts well, then you can give her a little hug and whisper something gentle and sweet in her ear:

"You are a wonderful girl"
“My head spins when you’re around” is quite suitable.

ASK HER IF SHE IS A GOOD KISSER

Being the bad guy is a lot of fun.

You can sleep with different women every week and you don't even have to support them!

But there is something seductive about being a gentleman.

You can be polite and sexy at the same time, as long as you have a high level of confidence.

How to quickly seduce a girl into a kiss so that it looks like a gentleman?

There is a certain algorithm here:

Hug her tenderly.
Look into her eyes with passion.
Gently caress her hands
Smile warmly.

Then, before you kiss, say:

[Her name], this is the perfect moment for a kiss.
You want me to kiss you now, right?
[Whisper in her ear] I just can't wait any longer. I need to kiss you.
Your lips look too dry, I'll fix that now.
I know you really want to kiss me.
I think that now you need to kiss me.
Your lips look virginally unkissed. Let's fix this.
I need your lips right now.
Sorry, I can't help myself.
I know that you love me.

Kiss then tell (this will work for both the gentleman and the bad guy):

Wow.
Damn, your lips are amazing.
I feel much better now.
Now I have a boner, what are we going to do about it?
I'm not done with you yet [take her to the bedroom].
Ten out of ten.
I've been waiting for this for so long.
You are doing great.
[Put index finger to her lips] That's enough for today.
You have the perfect body.
I want you right now [take her to your bedroom].
[If it's time for you to leave] Remember this place where we left off, we'll continue tomorrow.

It sounds corny, but most girls will love it.

Take action. Instructions for the perfect kiss

Any important event requires preparation. Follow our instructions, and you yourself will understand when to kiss a girl.

Eye contact. The time for talking is coming to an end, you have already managed to get acquainted and get used to each other. Look at her carefully, but with interest and tenderness. If the girl continues to talk and does not make eye contact, she may not have noticed your attitude yet. Or she’s embarrassed and doesn’t know how else to hide her excitement. Keep catching her eye and waiting for her to stop talking and then move on to the next step.
Touching. After establishing eye contact, it's time to engage in tactile contact. Light touches will show how she is in the mood and whether she is ready to get closer. Stroke your arm, shoulder, or tuck a strand of hair behind your ear; if the girl smiles shyly, you are on the right track. If she moves away or shows dissatisfaction, you need to stop and take a step back.
Active actions. If the girl doesn't remove your hands and doesn't look away, congratulations, she's ready for a kiss. Approach her slowly, pull her slightly towards you and feel the breath and heat that burns both of you. Enjoy the moment. As you approach your face and lips, stop for a couple of moments to give the girl one last chance to refuse the kiss. If she just continues to look into your eyes and wait, then feel free to kiss her!
Kiss. The first kiss should be gentle and light, touch her lips gently and without pressure, give her the opportunity to reciprocate. Don't use all your skills! Leave the passion for subsequent kisses in a more intimate setting. Make sure that your hands do not go below her waist; their place is still on her face, neck or back. By keeping a low profile, you will show that you are well-mannered and respect your date.

What we must not forget

Kissing is, of course, not quantum physics; sooner or later everyone masters the necessary technique. However, if you are still more of a theorist than a practitioner, then it is worth remembering some important points that can seriously affect your future relationships.

Do not rush

Perhaps your more experienced friends believe that you need to kiss a girl on the first date, otherwise you are not a macho man. Of course, a lot depends on what kind of relationship and what degree of trust has been established between the two partners. But personally, I strongly recommend not to perceive this opinion as the only correct one.

For girls, such a rush is not always justified. Of course, if you are both in the same mood and don’t want to put off kissing for a minute, that’s great!

However, remember that your girlfriend may not want to rush things. She may not be ready for this step and first prefers to make sure that your feelings are serious. Or she thinks that after the kiss she will immediately seem more accessible to you. In general, understanding what is going on in girls’ heads at such a moment is as difficult as solving Newton’s binomial. Therefore, if you are not one hundred percent sure, it is better to hold off on kissing. You may not seem very decisive to her, but you won’t give the impression of an ill-mannered lout.

Practice

If you are not yet a pro at kissing, then before you invite a girl on an important date, you should practice a little.

Once you have a thorough understanding of all the intricacies of this art, you will be much less nervous when it comes to practice. Naturally, in such an intimate process there are enough little things to feel unsettled, get scared and present yourself not in the best light. Therefore, before a date, I recommend that you carefully study the existing techniques and rules for kissing.

In our article “How to kiss correctly” you will find detailed instructions on how to become a guru and not be afraid to take the initiative in kissing.

Remember that any awkward situation can end positively if you approach it and yourself with humor. So try to rehearse your first kiss and don’t forget to smile.

Choose the right moment

Even if you have already organized a date during which the first kiss is planned, it is not so easy to understand when the right moment has arrived. You need to carefully monitor the girl’s behavior and correctly interpret the signals she sends you.

You can be sure that you are on the right path and a kiss, as they say, is just around the corner if:

she doesn’t mind if you are regularly in the so-called personal comfort zone (closer than half a meter from her);
during a conversation she looks into your eyes and at your lips;
on a date she smiles a lot and plays with her hair;
if you touch her, she doesn't move away.

Find the perfect place

It will be better if your first kiss happens in a romantic setting. At such moments, girls prefer to be alone with their handsome prince, so try to avoid noisy places with large crowds of people. An apartment with a pre-thought-out setting is perfect for a first kiss: dim lights, lit fragrant candles, or a quiet romantic bench in the park, or an observation deck with a beautiful view. I advise you to choose a suitable option in advance so as not to be nervous and not to put off such an important moment because you couldn’t find anything worthy.

Traditional “kissing spots” in cinemas are more suitable for couples who have been together for some time and know each other well. For the first time, a girl will most likely want to see her partner’s face and whisper affectionately to him, and not try to shout over the dialogue of the characters in the next blockbuster.

Avoid sudden movements

When it comes to kissing, technique and the delicacy and respect with which you do everything are equally important. Remember that under no circumstances should a girl be forced into a kiss, even if it seems to you that she is just flirting with you and pretending to be hard to touch.

To achieve a romantic atmosphere and clearly show her your intentions, you can do the following:

sit or come as close to her as possible;
look her straight in the eye;
slowly lean towards her and touch her mouth with your lips.

If you do everything slowly, then the girl will have the opportunity to clearly let you know whether she is interested in a kiss, or whether it is better to slow down for now.

So that there are no secrets left for you in the art of the first kiss, I recommend watching special videos on this topic, for example:

Don't be afraid of rejection

Although we all hope that our romantic impulse will be reciprocated by our partner, sometimes events do not develop the way we would like. You don’t need to immediately set yourself up for pessimism, but you should still think through your actions in advance in case she says “no.”

Firstly, you must understand that there is nothing wrong with refusal. Maybe now is simply not the best moment for a kiss - she has a headache, or is worried about some problems with school or at home. It’s enough to give her time and who knows, maybe luck will smile on you on your next date.

Secondly, even if the refusal is final, and she doesn’t want to meet with you, there’s nothing terrible in that either. Yes, there is little pleasant, but try to find positive aspects here too. You will not waste time on a person who is not interested in you and will be able to meet your true soul mate sooner.

Remember that any experience, even negative, will help you make fewer mistakes in the future and will generally be useful in different life situations.

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Should I ask her permission first?

Some people think that before kissing you should ask the girl if she wants it. Let's try to figure out together whether this is necessary.

In fact, this behavior may seem a little old-fashioned and not very masculine. Moreover, even without words, the girl is able to clearly indicate that she will not object.

Of course, you shouldn’t unequivocally reject the option of asking a direct question. A kiss, like many other things in a romantic relationship, should occur according to mutual desire. Therefore, if you are absolutely sure that the girl agrees to a kiss, then you can do without additional requests. If your beloved is very shy, and you are not able to unambiguously interpret the hints that she gives you, then the option of asking a question may be useful.

This way you will not only avoid an awkward moment, but also show her that you care and do everything so that she likes what is happening between you.

Show her what French kissing is

Don't you want to limit yourself to an innocent kiss on the lips? Then you need to figure out how to kiss passionately and what techniques exist for kissing with the tongue.

First, open your mouth slightly and touch her upper or lower lip with the tip of your tongue. If the girl likes it, she will do the same.
Then trust your intuition and continue to explore each other, gently and gently.
Take short breaks, accompanying them with kisses on the cheek, earlobe, and neck.
When you feel it's time to end, take things gradually.
Don't break the kiss in the middle, slow down the pace and relax the hug. This will let the girl know that your kiss is coming to an end.

Read the article on how to understand that a girl likes you and try to avoid making serious mistakes. If the girl herself removes her tongue, leans back and tries to free herself from your embrace, it means she wants to end the kiss as quickly as possible. This does not indicate that she did not like the kiss or that she regrets it. For the first close contact, it is important not to overdo it and maintain a little intrigue.

Why doesn't a girl want to kiss on the first date?

Yes, this can happen too. You are on fire, but she does not crave your kiss and sneaks a glance at the painted clock. You should kiss a girl only when you are absolutely sure that she wants it too.

So why do girls sometimes not want to kiss their date?

There are too many people around. For girls this is a real stopper, it seems that everyone will stare. So kissing in public doesn't add romance. Keep this in mind. In this case, the best way to end the first date is with a kiss at the entrance.
She doesn't want to be slutty. Girls are sure that a kiss on the first date is a sign of availability. To be honest, this fear can be worked through, and the main thing is not to push, do everything gently and carefully.
A woman is ashamed of something. Gentle natures may simply be shy. There can be many options: the fact that he doesn’t know how to kiss, intimacy with a man in general, acquaintances, bad breath. It doesn't matter. If you feel that it’s a matter of embarrassment, ask directly: “Is something embarrassing you?”
The girl didn't like you. Yes, man, this happens too. She went on a date with a man whose image was formed in her head, but the reality is different from him. Usually girls are embarrassed to say this directly, but they definitely won’t come to the second date.

In most cases, it is best to ask directly: “What bothers you?”, “Do you want to rush things?” By doing this you will show your gallantry, which will definitely add pluses to your karma.

How to kiss if you have braces

If a girl has braces, just don't focus on them. Kiss your lips lightly and gently, then everything will go smoothly.
When you have braces, it is very important to brush your teeth and avoid problematic foods that might get stuck in them before kissing.
If you kiss a girl with braces, be careful with the back of them - that's where the sharpest parts are.
In case you both have braces, don't worry, your braces won't interlock! It's just a myth.

What measures should be taken if a girl refuses kisses?

Be sure to decide on the reasons for her not wanting it!

It is necessary to try to determine the true cause and understand its essence. Having dealt with the current problematic situation, it will become much easier for you to receive kisses from a girl. Communicate more and get to know each other - it’s so exciting if it’s mutual. You can identify the reasons why girls refuse to kiss you using the material presented above.

Under no circumstances should you become embittered. To get a good attitude from a girl and she wants to kiss you, don’t take it out on her.
Take care of yours and her nervous system. Fight aggression and do not scold the girl, and also do not quarrel.
Restrain yourself, explain to the girl so that there are no omissions or any tension between you.

How long should a first kiss last?

One of the confusing questions about most first kisses is how long should it last?

It's better to keep it short and sweet than to awkwardly linger with your lips pressed against hers or torment the girl with your swirling tongue. Remember that this should be pleasant, you should feel a little hot, your heart rate should increase.

If you like it, you can step away for a few seconds and then come back again. This allows you to take a break and make the kiss more sexual.

At the end you can say the magic phrase:

"I've wanted to kiss you for so long"

This statement works great and has a very positive effect on the girl.

Place is important_8212

If a guy and a girl kiss for the first time, then you need to choose the right place for this pleasant action. It’s good if it’s a sofa in a dimly lit room or a bench in the park (but definitely not under a streetlight). That is, the chosen place must meet two criteria: to be quite secluded on the one hand and intimate enough on the other. The guy should position himself on the side of the girl - this is a strategically correct position that will help with everything else.

When a young man wants to kiss the person he likes for the first time, he should not attack her as if she were dinner after a very long day of work. You need to carefully approach her face and touch her lips softly, almost weightlessly. Did the fair sex not pull away and even part her lips a little? So, the fun part can begin.