Speak without speaking
Even before you start a conversation with a guy, your body will tell him a lot. And the first thing he will notice is how physically attractive you are.
It's not just about beauty. If you are fit and well-built, then you are able to give birth to healthy offspring.
Another important aspect is whether you show interest. Of course, there is no need to hang yourself, but subtly hinting that a man has a chance is very desirable.
You can demonstrate this using two tricks. First, blink more often because we naturally do so when we're excited. Secondly, lean slightly towards the interlocutor: this is also a non-verbal signal of interest.
Mistakes to Avoid
An excessive desire to impress a young man sometimes leads to the opposite result. This is due to some mistakes being made:
- Jealousy. This is not a positive quality that can scare your chosen one.
- Deprivation of personal space. Each person has his own little world, interests, friends. You shouldn't fill everything with yourself.
- Throwing away your life. Relationships with the opposite sex are only part of life. Continue to live for yourself: meet with friends, pursue your hobbies.
In the end, I would like to add that each person needs his own approach, and women’s intuition helps to find it. Most often, it is enough to remain yourself, because being a woman is an art, just like seduction.
Be like him
We like people with whom we have a lot in common. Therefore, your task is to find common ground with the guy you like. For example, you can agree on a love of music or, if there are few common interests, try to get into what he likes.
At the beginning of dating, the easiest way to show similarity is to use the chameleon effect.
Try to take the same position as the man, imitate his movements and gestures, use the words and phrases that he includes in his speech.
It's not worth being an exact and synchronous copy: it's too obvious. Try to predict the other person's movements or generally repeat them after a few seconds.
How to bewitch him: summary tips
- First, look at the man with an interested gaze, with notes of joy and admiration. Don't look away until the man takes the initiative.
- Take care of your self-esteem. Don't be afraid of compliments and dirty jokes, don't act like a teenage girl who saw a man for the first time.
- Flirt with him every moment. Flirt, confuse, provoke. Let your communication be like a game, and not like an interrogation or a scientific conference;
- Relax. Don't try to be a super woman, the kindest, most beautiful, slim and smart. Don't adapt to a man and his interests.
What tricks do you use?
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Stay visible
The more often we see a person, the more we like him. Science confirms this. One study, Proximity and Peership: Bases of Balance in Interpersonal Attraction, asked college residents to rate their attitudes toward their neighbors. It turned out that boys and girls liked those who lived nearby more: in neighboring rooms or on nearby floors.
In ordinary life, this means that if you and a guy visit the same place (university, courses, gym), then you have a better chance of being attracted to him.
If you met by chance, say that you would like to continue communicating. Just don’t chase the person: it will scare away rather than attract.
How should you never communicate with a man?
1) Never run after a man
Of course, at the beginning, many girls don’t run after men, everything happens the other way around - they run after you! But as soon as you have feelings and emotions, and a man for some reason begins to move away from you, then many girls begin to run after men. This should under no circumstances be done.
When you run after a man and try to please him, your importance begins to fall. He has no interest in developing communication with you in such a situation. Therefore, always know your worth and maintain your dignity. Of course, if you did something wrong in a relationship and the man began to move away, then you can apologize - there is nothing wrong with that. But if a man doesn’t want a relationship with you or somehow behaves coldly towards you, then you definitely shouldn’t run after him. With this behavior you will alienate him even more.
2) Don't hit his EGO
Girls - never hit a man's ego!
Remember men have huge EGOs
And God forbid you hurt the male EGO and pride. You will immediately turn into his enemy. This is especially true when it comes to his masculinity or the topic of sex. As soon as you hit his masculinity (for example, tell him that sex with him is not very good), then that’s it - consider that you have lost the man. And even if he treated you very well before, after you trample his male pride, there is no turning back.
On the contrary, you should “stroke” the male ego and tell him how great he is (just don’t overdo it, too much praise is also bad). He should feel like a super hero next to you, then your value will be very high. But once again, the situational context is very important. Because if you start praising a man and stroking his ego in a situation where his behavior towards you is simply terrible, then your value, on the contrary, will fall.
To understand when to praise and when to distance yourself from a man, remember the following rule:
- When a man behaves badly towards you, you move away, show him your disinterest in him, show him that he can lose you! Here you don't give him compliments or words of love. You are mirroring his behavior.
- And when a man behaves well with you (gives gifts, says compliments, takes care of you, etc.), then you show him your interest in him. You compliment him in return, thank him, express your sympathy, etc.
3) Ultimatums
Never give a man ultimatums!
“Either you spend the evening with me and not with your friends, or I won’t talk to you” is a classic ultimatum that can kill your relationship. The fact is that issuing ultimatums means taking a masculine position. It’s men who should give each other ultimatums in business, negotiations, etc., but not you. Remember the point about recognizing leadership. A man wants to be close to the girl who recognizes his strength. But when you give him ultimatums, you take the position of a strong man, and he stops seeing you as a woman.
If a man is strong, he will immediately dump you after you give him an ultimatum. And if a man is weak, then of course you will be able to bend him under you. But I strongly doubt that you are attracted to precisely such representatives of the stronger sex.
4) Negative Social proof
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Social proof is translated into Russian as “Social proof”. This is how society, your environment, friends, colleagues, other men react to you.
If a man sees that your friends, parents, and those around you do not respect you, then your value in his eyes will fall. We humans are social creatures. We are biologically wired to depend on social opinion. In many ways, we determine the value of another person by how the people around them treat them. And if we see that others do not listen to his words and avoid communicating with him, then this person will not make a great impression on us.
But if we see a person who is respected by people, his opinion is listened to and he enjoys authority, then we automatically begin to distinguish this person from everyone else, and he seems more valuable to us. This is how our brains work.
Therefore, if a man sees that your girlfriend calls you “Fool” (and you don’t react to this in any way), then your value in the eyes of a normal man will begin to plummet. Therefore, never allow yourself to be disrespected. And this applies to absolutely all people, from friends to your boss. As soon as you hear disrespect addressed to you, stop it immediately.
A man must see that the group (or society) loves you. You are treated with respect, you are welcome everywhere and you have positive social proof.
The same goes for your popularity among other men. If you are surrounded by male attention and are in great demand, then many men automatically have a desire to get you. After all, you seem more valuable to them, since so much attention is focused on you. It means there is something about you that other girls don’t have.
Share your secret
The study Personalistic Self-Disclosure and Attraction: Basis for Relationships or Scarce Resource, published by the American Sociological Association, shows that self-disclosure signals trust and willingness to enter into a relationship. If a person does not talk about himself, then he broadcasts the exact opposite.
Hence the conclusion: to establish a connection with someone, you need to open up.
This should be done gradually. First, share some superficial information: where you are from, what family you grew up in, what kind of music you like to listen to. Then move on to more personal topics: what goals do you set for yourself, what influenced your development. Just be careful not to tell your whole life story at the first meeting.
Which boy should you please?
Which boy should you please?
If you want to please a boy, everything will depend on who he is. It’s one thing if you are in the same class with him and are constantly in each other’s sight. And it's a completely different matter when you barely know each other. So, who do you want to please :
- at school: to a classmate, a boy from another class;
- beloved;
- ex;
- unfamiliar;
- if he loves another;
- by correspondence.
If you need to please a boy who is not on this list, act according to the circumstances. In addition, there are several universal tips that can be used in any situation. Even if your boy is the most unusual in school.
Interesting fact about boys.
Do you want to please a cool boy and therefore are you trying to match him - arrogant, vulgar and overly confident? Be careful: psychologists say that these guys are the ones who are complex and vulnerable. So, with your behavior you can inadvertently offend him and push him away from you forever.
I want to win my husband again - advice from experienced wives
If you feel that your husband has begun to move away or is no longer as attentive to you as before, then try to make him fall in love with you again. To do this, you need to remember where it all began. When your spouse started having feelings for you, things weren't like they are now. Surely, you spent more time together, intimacy happened more often, and you yourself were not concerned with many everyday issues.
After being married for some time, many husbands stop paying attention to their spouses because they consider them practically “read books.” You can change this.
1.
New hobbies. Your husband needs to see a new side of you. Do something you've dreamed of doing before, but thought you didn't have time for. If you wish, you can find a few hours a week for dance classes, painting lessons or something like that. Even if you have never aspired to any hobbies, it's time to expand your horizons and learn something new. Your husband will see in you not just a woman who is busy with work, home and family, but also a person who strives for some kind of development.
2.
Appearance. If you haven't already, throw away your stretchy lounge pants and worn-out T-shirt. Now there is a huge selection of comfortable and beautiful home clothes and underwear in which you will look attractive.
3.
Pastime. If on weekends you preferred to do household chores, just sit at the computer or visit relatives, then try to change the established tradition. How did you like to spend time with your chosen one? Where did you go on dates?
4.
Intimacy. Do not deny your husband sex and take the initiative yourself. If you are too tired for this, then it makes sense to discuss the problem with your husband. You may need to change jobs or share some household responsibilities. If you have chronic fatigue, consult a doctor - it is possible that you have health problems.
