The very title of the article can easily cause a completely justified wave of indignation among “correct” women brought up in the ancient ascetic manner. It is for them that such behavior is considered shameful and absolutely unacceptable.
On the one hand, they are right, since no one has yet canceled the saying that you cannot build your own happiness from someone else’s misfortune. Also, advice on how to win a guy away from another girl will cause the indignation of precisely those “others” from whom a more successful rival once stole the guy.
Probably only those who at one time experienced both roles will be able to remain silent and not enter into debates. But, whatever one may say, the question of how to win a guy away from another girl is relevant, it requires answers. To put it bluntly, there are quite a lot of ways to wage such a “cold war”. You can use one of them, or you can immediately “hit the ground” with a successful combination of several salvo guns.
Collection of a complete dossier on a rival
In order to know how to win a guy away from another girl, you first need to “get to know” her as much as possible. If personal acquaintance is unrealistic for some reason (it’s a pity, it would come in very handy), it is necessary, with the help of acquaintances, friends and relatives, to collect the most complete dossier on her. It is not a stupid person who came up with the expression that you need to know your enemy by sight.
First of all, this information will help you become better than your opponent, thus significantly increasing your chances of winning. Everything is correct, otherwise why would a guy leave his best girl in order to date a worse one. In war, all means are good, this means that you need to study it like our Father:
- Flavors;
- Hobbies;
- Preferences;
- Appearance;
- The manner of speaking and even thinking.
And this is far from the most important thing. The most important thing at this stage is to find out the guy’s reaction to each of these points. Further, by putting all the puzzles together, you can build a special line of behavior, leaving and adopting for yourself what he likes and completely discarding everything that annoys him.
And, of course, no one can cancel adding their own zest (naturally, taking into account the preferences of him, the one and only). This is where observation and the ability to compare and analyze information come in handy more than ever. If you successfully cope with the task set for yourself, you can rightly note that half the work has already been done.
Warnings
Taking a man away from a friend is only half the battle. The woman still has a lot of work ahead to restore her reputation and build her own relationships. What problems might a lady face in this situation?
- The lover, who has come to his senses, will return to his girlfriend, and then the relationship with both will be destroyed forever.
- Both the man and the woman will have a pang of conscience because they have made someone unhappy, and therefore they will not be able to be together.
- The reputation of both in the common company will suffer greatly, so it will still not be possible to build a harmonious relationship.
- A woman may lose contact with her best friend forever.
Being next to a man who doubts the correctness of his decision is not at all easy. That is why psychologists in such situations always give approximately the same advice: think three times about the correctness of actions, and only after that beat the guy off. By indulging her selfishness, a girl can interfere in someone else’s happy relationship and ruin the lives of all three. Perhaps you should first leave, analyze your own emotions, and if your feelings for the man do not disappear, start acting.
A love triangle is always a great lesson in life. All participants in this difficult equation will have a hard time, but in the end, someone will be able to find true love.
Psychologists advise carefully weighing all the pros and cons when winning a guy away from a friend. By acting carefully and being aware of the level of responsibility, the lady will be able to prevent loss of contact with her friend.
Larisa, Krasnodar
Trying to make friends2
This very controversial advice is also a huge step towards the pinnacle of success. And, there are two options for the development of events:
- The attempt to become a best friend was a success. This will allow you to get maximum information about your opponent and see numerous options for how best to quarrel the couple with each other (some will say that this is mean, but it works).
- The attempt to make friends was a complete fiasco. On the one hand, a failure, but no, another victory. There are obvious manifestations of “sincere” friendliness on your part. At the same time, the other half, conflicted and quarrelsome like a market woman, appears in a very unfavorable light for herself (and it will be very difficult for her to hold on, which is not surprising, why does she need a new “friend” if her beloved is nearby)?
All eyes on him3
Having met for some time, the couple already pays much less attention to each other. This is worth taking advantage of. The moments when you are alone are especially important. All men are outright egoists, and therefore, if you catch his every word and literally look into his mouth, waiting for the next word to come out, you can win the guy’s favor and, thereby, significantly strengthen your position. After all, one hundred percent of his companion, accustomed to these stories, has simply not been paying attention to them for a long time. Becoming a guy's friend in battle for him is very useful.
Make him a man in his own eyes4
You should not take this advice as instructions on how to quickly get Him into bed. It's just about how to win a guy away from another girl. And for this you need to let him feel the fact that he is a real man, a protector, a helper, a provider. The most important thing here is to choose the right moment for action.
After all, if you overdo it, instead of the expected result, you can simply scare away a boy who is not ready for numerous responsibilities. You should just from time to time portray a weak and defenseless person whom he, all so strong and courageous, will certainly want to help.
The most popular and proven methods
1 - friendship
In the early stages of seduction, friendship may be the only way you can get closer to the object of your affection. Take an interest in his affairs, tell him about yourself in a favorable light, support him in any endeavors, always stay in touch with him.
2 - praise
Always find a reason to praise the young man, even in small things. If he is interested in creativity or sports, then admire his talents - tell him that you told a friend or friend about his achievements (drawings, songs, sports results), and they were also delighted. You must let him know that you are practically his fan in one area or another. Of course, if he doesn’t have any special hobbies, then praise him for some actions and decisions.
3 - sympathy
The guy should clearly understand what you like, but it is important not to overdo it - an unavailable guy will most likely, in order to avoid problems in the current relationship, try to pull away if you demonstrate your interest too clearly. Therefore, it is important to act unobtrusively, but not ambiguously. For example, you can casually, and as if jokingly and scolding him, say: “Now, if you are free, I will take care of you!” He will remember this and subconsciously record that as soon as he breaks up with the girl, he may begin an affair with you.
4 - care
Many girls in relationships forget to take care of their chosen ones, and as a result, guys often complain about lack of attention to themselves. You can show your potential boyfriend that you care about him. If you periodically see each other at work or school, treat him to some goodies, noting that you don’t want him to get hungry. Pay attention to his clothes - if a guy is dressed lightly in cool weather, then advise him to dress warmer, and if possible, offer him some hot drink.
5 - trust
Show the guy that you trust him and his advice is important to you. Ask him to spend some time with you and give advice in a given situation - over a cup of coffee, by phone or correspondence. At the end of the conversation, tell the young man that he helped you a lot in this situation, he gave you the right idea, and now you are sure of how to proceed.
Unnoticed flirting5
This is a rather dangerous weapon on the battlefield because, as a rule, it is invisible only to the chosen one. At the same time, the opponent (if she has enough intelligence for this) can easily detect maneuvers. There is a high risk of showdowns here, from damaged clothes to torn hair (it all depends on the temperament and strength of his companion). We should not forget that many ladies are fans of taking revenge on the sly, at the most inopportune moment.
You can try to quietly let your chosen one approach you, and then again leave him at a certain distance. Representatives of the stronger half of humanity are attracted to such hunting and, carried away by the pursuit of game (that is, after you), he can easily become yours.
How to get your ex-boyfriend away from his new girlfriend
It will be easier if you have managed to maintain friendly relations. Then in conversations you can periodically mention some moments that were of great importance to both of you: “Remember that picnic? My sister and I were thinking about going to a similar place.”, “I often remember that concert, I wish I could go to something like this!”, “Do you remember how we walked in that park? It turns out that everything has changed there.” With phrases like this, you will not only bring back pleasant memories to the guy, but also remind him once again how much good there was in your relationship. Often, all the negativity is erased over time, and there remains only a place for light sadness - you can play on this.
If you are not in a relationship and the breakup was your fault, then find a way to contact the guy, for example, through a social network. By this point, your page should have a lot of attractive photos and posts that he would probably like. Write that you had time to think about everything that happened, and you realized that you made a big mistake. Point out that you would never do that now. At the end, summarize: “Be that as it may, you are not free now, and I sincerely hope that everything is fine with you. I also hope that I can find my happiness. Thank you for unforgettable moments!” If you were in a long-term relationship and the guy didn’t want to break up, then there is a high probability that you will get back together.
Simulation of flirting with a girl6
Yes, the recommendation is very mean, but at the same time this is one of the most effective tips on how to win a guy away from another girl. Just don’t think that you yourself will have to put on a lesbian mask and flirt with the companion of the guy you like (although, for many of our contemporaries, this scenario looks quite acceptable).
In fact, we are talking about agreeing with your friend, relative or fellow student to devote his time to courting your rival. Flirting, open advances, and what if he manages to completely win the attention of his rival and she herself goes away, leaving the guy you like free.
However, what exactly you will use is not the most important thing - imitation of seduction or real temptation. The main thing is the result. True, you shouldn’t forget that here the chances of your assistant getting hit in the face are also quite high. It is worth warning him about this in advance.
About guilt
To build a happy relationship, it is important to get rid of guilt. It is not at all necessary that the saying about “happiness from someone else’s misfortune” will apply to a girl’s new relationship. If she was able to break up her family, it means that she already had some problems or her feelings simply cooled down. Most likely, at first the abandoned wife will curse her husband’s new chosen one, but then realizes that her marriage was doomed. Over time, spouses move away from each other, but remain close because of children, habits, and money. It is better to eradicate subconscious remorse, since it simply destroys the budding relationship.
Changing your own image7
There are no limits to perfection, and before you can cope with the task and beat off a guy, you need to become ideal for him - appearance, wardrobe and even the chosen perfume - absolutely everything is of great importance. Your natural beauty or pronounced sexuality (here, again, you need to build on his individual preferences) should correspond to the ideal of a girl who lives in his imagination.
Such metamorphoses will interest the guy, and he will try to pay more attention to you, looking closely and thinking about whether he has chosen the right companion for himself.
Taking the plunge
It is not always possible to turn friendships into sincere feelings. Therefore, sometimes a more decisive step is warranted. You can arrange something like a “hidden date”.
Say you're planning to change the layout of your kitchen a little this weekend. But you can’t move the heavy refrigerator and you would be glad to have help. Of course, you need to at least think a little about where you should move the household appliances and free up space there in advance.
After the young man has completed the task, it is worth treating him to a delicious home-cooked dish. Guys rarely refuse such an offer.
Then everything depends on the girl’s determination and the guy’s willingness to change friendships to more serious ones. It is best to pull off such a trick when a young man has a disagreement with his girlfriend. If the quarrel between them is serious, then you can even decide to confess.
Forbidden fruit is always sweet8
When intriguing a man and completely drawing his attention to yourself, you must not forget about one common truth. Under no circumstances should you throw yourself on his neck at his first attempts to get closer, shouting something like “darling, I’ve been waiting for you for so long.” This behavior can completely negate all previous efforts. Don't forget - hunting! And which of the real men needs a victim that is too accessible.
Of course, no one is saying that you need to play hard to get for months, but the minimum distance should be maintained at least for the first time. This needs to be done carefully, without pushing the guy away and, at the same time, not letting him get too close to you.
#5: Don't lose your dignity
By stooping to intrigue, gossip, and behaving in an approachable manner, you can seduce a guy, but it is unlikely that he will choose such a girl as his soul mate. Parting with his beloved and choosing her girlfriend should be his decision and passionate desire.
“I really liked my friend’s boyfriend, I sought him out secretly in every possible way: SMS, night calls. I seduced him on a friend’s birthday, but then he began to avoid me and confessed everything to his friend. Now I am the main enemy, and they are getting married soon. Julia, 24 years old"
Sex as a control shot9
If the fighting has already gone so far, you need to try your best to “keep the mark” and not retreat. Now it’s definitely worth playing hard to get and running around the table from him shouting “let’s wait a little longer.” You have almost achieved what you wanted and now the main thing is to consolidate the result. And it is precisely good quality sex that becomes an excellent assistant in this matter.
The only thing is that, just like in everything else, the main thing is not to overdo it, because the line between the absence of complexes and vulgarity is quite insignificant, but in no case should you cross it. If you make a mistake, you can expect that the guy will return to his girlfriend, mistaking you for an easily accessible person, and who needs such a woman (except for one single night)? You can safely demonstrate all your talents by putting the treasured wedding ring on your ring finger.
When the homewrecker is to blame
How to return the most dear of men from the “networks” of a mistress is suggested by the advice of experienced psychologists and family consultants.
This applies to ex-partners in the same way. 3 main directions in the art of “how to remove a competitor”:
Give your husband surprises and gifts
- They advise you to just wait as if nothing happened.
Men understand that they are on their honeymoon with their new lover, and they hardly want to shoulder the burden of her problems. A fling for a few weeks doesn't mean anything. A relationship on the side for more than 3 months is already a serious habit; it’s time to act, and not think about how to discourage your husband from a new hobby. - There are lifelong ladies' men. When marrying such a man, a woman has no illusions about his monogamy. Such men are wolves in sheep's clothing. You can only feel sorry for the naive “homewrecker” girl.
- Another type of action that dictates how to remove the third wheel is to become better, more precisely, yourself (after all, his wife once drove him crazy)!
The advice of the men themselves and the unspoken “mistress code” will help with this issue.
Why not use its principles:
- “Sex is the head of everything.”
They leave a family for another not for delicious pastries, but to plunge into the ocean of intimate desires. Who, if not the spouse, knows what his beloved loves in bed, what has turned him on for years? A wife needs to forget about embarrassment and awkwardness, and make her man truly happy, without remorse. - "Gold fish".
It is foolish to believe that a spouse only holds intimacy with another. His mistress silently listens to how he dreams of jumping with a parachute or is afraid of the dentist. And she never asks for anything. - "Play with me!".
It’s better to visit a sex toy store with your loved one or arrange a home striptease. Even such a detail as forgetting to wear underwear under a dress will always turn a man on.
A man needs to be able to listen and not openly bombard him with everyday requests. Before asking to pick up your baby from kindergarten, you can kiss your spouse and look tenderly into their eyes, and not command or order them.
The behavior of the most confused person will tell you how to get everything back. He loves homemade cutlets, doesn't he? Have you ever wanted to go to a concert or on a hike? An understanding, like-minded wife is the best gift for him.
In addition, you can start from the Buddhist formula of happiness, when they advise you to eat, love and be sure to pray. You need to provide this to your partner - cook delicious food, love him, sometimes make him jealous and trust him. This is an effective technique for weaning your legitimate other half from wrong relationships.
A brilliant idea from a sociology teacher’s blog:
- If your husband left for another, then her husband left for a third, etc. Wait, someone's husband will come to you soon. They must go somewhere!
Additional variations on a free theme10
Nowadays, not all psychologists agree that the way to a man’s heart is through his stomach. But, nevertheless, by and large, nothing prevents you from strengthening your position and luring him with “sweets” (we are not talking about a hot dog or croissant bought at the nearest stall, but about a culinary masterpiece prepared with your own gentle hands). By the way, if you and the kitchen are completely incompatible concepts, it’s best not to embarrass yourself and completely discard this idea.
The same can be said about trying to share his hobbies. For example, your chosen one loves Rottweilers, three representatives of this formidable breed live at home, and he takes an active part in all kinds of dog competitions and exhibitions. If you get a puppy of the same breed solely to attract attention, the attempt can be considered doomed to failure in advance.
Everyone will feel the deception, from the man you like to your dog. The same can be said about faking interest in football. Even if you memorize the names of all the teams, the first and last names of their players and referees, the names of stadiums and everything else that is even remotely related to football, the boredom and disappointment of your eyes will always reveal the true state of affairs.
