People interact with each other on several levels. One of them is verbal. On it, communication occurs using speech. The second level of interaction is non-verbal. Body language and gestures reign here.
As for the verbal method of communication, people have already learned to control it quite well. But with sign language everything is much more complicated. After all, our subconscious controls it. It is worth keeping in mind that body language is as rich as our speech. That is why at the moment when a person is excited, excited, upset, passionate or annoyed, his body gives special signals that the interlocutor can decipher.
Non-verbal communication is available to everyone, both women and men. However, the transmission of emotions in representatives of different sexes occurs using different signals. It is quite difficult for an ordinary person to thoroughly know the language of facial expressions and gestures. Psychologists study this art, spending many years on it.
A man's body language interests many women. They strive to learn its basics in order to understand what attitude the representative of the stronger sex has towards them. After all, if a man is interested in a lady, then this will immediately be noticeable in his gestures, facial expressions and body movements. In some cases, tactile contact can tell us more than any action. The touch of a man to a woman plays a huge role in this. They can be light and stroking, and sometimes they represent a friendly or passionate embrace. In most cases, their meaning depends on the developing relationships and the situation as a whole.
The meaning of physical contact
Most people love touch. When one person gently strokes the skin of another or embraces him, a special hormone is produced in the body. It's called oxytocin. It is also known as the “cuddle hormone.” Entering the bloodstream, this element increases the sensitivity of the skin and promotes a sense of community.
Physical contacts in the form of hugs, affection, pats on the shoulder, real and comic slaps in the face can tell us much more than spoken words. Using nonverbal language, a person can express his sympathy or, conversely, dislike. Physical contacts help attract attention or convey certain emotions. There are also touches between a man and a woman that are associated with professional activities. Such contacts take place during a visit to the doctor or hairdresser, as well as during sports, dancing, etc. In other words, physical contact in a person’s life is quite normal and quite common. But whatever it is, it certainly has an impact on people’s perceptions, which is why it becomes important to understand the meaning that touch carries.
How to learn magic touches
Not every touch has a magical effect. For this “language” to bear fruit, the following conditions must be met:
- Have a pleasant appearance. The person who touches us should not cause fear and disgust.
- The touch should not be strong, but soft and light. Force is perceived as pressure, allowing our psyche to work against this pressure.
- Duration of touch. Too long contact does not give the desired effect.
- Speedy actions in the form of sharp contact lead to a negative reaction. Only smooth touches will help achieve the proper impact.
- Place of touch. You should only touch a stranger on the hands or forearms. Extremely rarely - above the elbow. Preferably from the front.
Often it is through touch that one can manipulate or dominate other people. Touch is the tool with which a person can achieve his selfish interests.
Patting on the back
Is it worth looking for deep affection when a man touches a woman like this? What does patting a lady on the back mean to a representative of the stronger sex? This gesture is quite common. It means support, friendship and praise. If a man, in a good mood, pats his companion on the back, then he most likely does not even see her as a woman. After all, such a touch usually means “you’re cool,” “well done,” etc. With such non-verbal signals, you can only count on the friendship of a representative of the stronger sex, nothing more.
Stand “feet shoulder width apart”2
As soon as the man has identified the object of hunting, his posture takes on the most provocative and stable position. It doesn’t matter whether the man is standing or sitting. His legs will be wide apart. Firstly, it is a demonstration of confidence, and secondly, a hidden demonstration of the genitals. This is a purely instinctive position that is genetically determined.
There is one more nuance in the position of the legs: they can be extended towards the woman you like. Even if a man is suddenly familiar with non-verbal speech and tries to take an indifferent pose, it is difficult to control the direction of the toe of one foot towards an interesting lady.
Distance violation
What can the “accidental” touch of a man to a woman tell us? Violation of distance suggests that he is in love, but at the same time hides his feelings. Sometimes it happens that a man and a woman spend a lot of time together, for example, at work or at school. But when communicating, a representative of the stronger sex from time to time invades the boundaries of the personal space of his colleague or classmate, that is, he comes closer to her than at arm's length. Usually people don't let strangers get so close to them. But with mutual sympathy, a woman does not have an internal protest when a man approaches her. That is why you should not be surprised if he, as if completely by accident, touches her hand, hairstyle, shoulders, puts his hand on the back of her chair, etc.
Such touches of a man to a woman (photos presented in the article) are a clear confirmation that he is pleased to be near her, and he dreams of a closer relationship. It is also worth understanding that if this colleague or fellow student takes his companion by the elbow or covers her shoulders with a jacket, then such gestures should not be regarded as an ordinary tribute to politeness. In this way, the man makes it clear to all potential rivals that he considers the lady “his own” and does not intend to give her up.
But if a man seems to completely accidentally touch a woman’s leg, but immediately removes his hand, then this indicates that he desires intimacy with her. Such actions can also mean love. But in this case, the man will remove his hand slowly and at the same time smile at the lady.
The big picture8
Well, now, having collected all the pieces of the puzzle into the overall picture, you can see the image of the “conqueror”.
He stands quite relaxed, carries on a conversation with friends, lazily glances at the people around him. As soon as an interesting object looms on the horizon, the man straightens up and fixes his eyes. First, a quick glance, then preening and arranging feathers, then hands on the belt with thumbs, feet shoulder-width apart and, voila, you can smile approvingly and invitingly at this macho: suddenly he is destiny.
Embrace
There are touches between a man and a woman (their meaning can be described by the phrase “I more than like you”), when a partner strokes his chosen one on the back. And he does this at the moment of hugging. In this case, we can say that the woman is interesting to the man and evokes strong feelings in him. Most likely, he has nothing against developing further relationships. After all, such gentle touches of a man to a woman are a symbol of strong attraction that can develop into a deep feeling.
Sometimes it happens that a guy hugs his beloved and is in no hurry to part with her. Such touches of a man to a woman and their meaning are also quite understandable to those who are familiar with non-verbal language. In this case, we can say that the guy is very upset. That is why he strokes his chosen one for about a good half a minute. However, he does not intend to talk about his feelings. Based on the psychology of a man touching a woman, a lady may well be offended, realizing that her partner has withdrawn into himself and is only stroking her “automatically.” However, experts recommend not to do this. In such a situation, you should hug the man tightly, trying to distract him from negative thoughts.
Protection from sorrows
What does it mean when a man touches a woman when he, hugging her from the back, laces his hands on the woman’s chest? Such a gesture looks as if the gentleman is covering his beloved’s heart. It means that a man sees a woman as someone close and dear to him.
At the same time, he is ready to protect her from all sorts of adversities and misfortunes that may occur on the path of life. But this is not the only way to explain such touches of a man to a woman. Both psychologists and those people who understand non-verbal language understand their meaning as the partner’s uncertainty about the lady’s feelings for him. He is literally torn by doubts: does she love him or not?
The decisive role of facial expressions and pantomimes
Psychologists have proven that the impression a person makes on his interlocutor depends 55% on the appearance and body movements of the speaker, and attention is paid to a much lesser extent to the speech and content of the conversation. At the same time, the process of “sending” and “reading” information by interlocutors takes place mainly on a subconscious level - therefore, an inexplicable feeling of sympathy or antipathy for a certain person often appears, which is difficult to explain from a logical point of view. In order to consciously send the necessary signals and correctly decipher those coming from the interlocutor, you need to learn several simple laws of body language - facial expressions and pantomimes.
A man's simple movements can tell a lot
Facial expressions and pantomimics are a set of movements that reflect the internal state of a person and his attitude to the outside world. Facial expressions are the work of facial muscles (smile, eye movements), pantomimes are changes in body position (gestures, postures, gait, posture). Actors study this science for years so that the viewer does not have even a shred of doubt about the realism of the image they portray. And if you apply knowledge about this body language in everyday life, then success in communication is guaranteed.
Touching your hand
Such a nonverbal gesture may be perceived differently in different cultures. Thus, in Western European countries, people holding hands are a symbol of romance. When we watch a couple join their palms, we understand that there is a close relationship between them. This is why many men in Western countries are afraid to take each other's hands. Indeed, in this case they may be mistaken for homosexuals. The situation is different in Arab countries. Here such a gesture has nothing to do with sexual orientation.
What does it mean when a man takes a woman's hand?
- Romantic affection.
- Deep connection.
- Uncertainty and fear of losing a loved one.
- An attempt to calm your partner down when she is upset.
- Superiority. By taking a woman by the hand, a man shows that he is the leader in the relationship.
- An attempt to point out to everyone that the lady belongs only to him.
- Pride. A man is pleased to be seen next to a woman. However, this does not mean that he values her attitude.
What does it mean when a man touches a woman’s hand?
If such a gesture comes from him during a conversation, then, according to psychologists, the interlocutor wants the lady’s attention and wants to be heard by her. If a man took a woman’s hand and began to intertwine his fingers around hers, then, consequently, he is trying to get to know his chosen one better.
Gestures of a deceiver: how to determine that a man is lying to you or is just flirting
By non-verbal signs you can determine how sincere a man is in showing sympathy:
- Glance - a lying person constantly looks away, avoiding direct contact, or, on the contrary, glares at the interlocutor.
- Distraction – immediately after hearing a “tricky” question, the guy has an urgent need to check his phone or go get a drink. So he tries to stall for time, coming up with a suitable answer.
- An asymmetrical smile is a sign of a tense mask of positivity; the eyes remain “cold”.
- Nervous movements - twisting a napkin, playing with cutlery or a cigarette, tapping with fingers.
- Constantly touching your own face, wanting to cover your mouth with your palm, biting your lip.
- A minimum of gestures - the guy is instinctively afraid to reveal the discrepancy between words and the truth.
Handshake
Let's consider the language of these gestures. A woman who shakes hands with her palm facing down indicates that she wants the man to kiss her hand. This, according to psychologists, is a manifestation of coquetry and an invitation to light flirting.
If a man offers his hand with his palm down, then you should not kiss it. Such a gesture means his desire to completely subjugate the lady and even crush her with his authority. In this case, the woman can cover the hand given to her with her palm. Such a gesture will be an unspoken challenge to love rivalry.
With regular traditional handshakes, a lot depends on who extends their hand first. If a woman does this, then she indicates that she sees her companion as an equal partner. If, on the contrary, such a handshake can be regarded as an indication of the man’s sympathy.
Sometimes a handshake indicates an increased desire to gain trust and be liked. In this case, the man covers the woman's palm with both hands. It’s as if he encases them in a living glove.
