Think about which place is best for your romantic evening. To do this, you need to know your woman at least a little. Ask yourself the following questions:
- What does she like? Calm holiday or extreme?
- Is she more interested in cinema or a walk in a beautiful park?
- Is there a place she's been wanting to go to for a long time?
- Does she like surprises or, conversely, for everything to be transparent?
Believe me, the answers to these questions will immediately give you a sea of options for a romantic date.
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You have to play detective, but in such a way that only you understand what is happening. This way you can narrow down your possible romantic date ideas. Soberly assess your strengths and finances and choose an option that will bring pleasure to both of you.
By the way, you shouldn’t get fucked up and organize a romantic first date. You don't know her tastes and preferences and how much time she has. So leave your wonderful ideas for the second, or better yet, the fifth date.
What to consider when organizing
Consider the preferences of your other half, because your ideas about the ideal date may differ. For example, a clichéd dinner on the roof can be hopelessly ruined if it turns out that the girl is afraid of heights. Follow the recommendations:
- To find out what kind of date your girl dreams of, just talk to her about it.
- Choose a few of the most suitable options and discuss them with your significant other.
- Consider the lady's tastes and desires.
- Before a date, get yourself in order: perfect hairstyle, fresh breath, ironed clothes, pleasant perfume.
- Make sure that on an important day you will not be called to work or other urgent matters will appear.
If you have a first date, it would be ideal to give preference to the classic options - a restaurant, a cafe, a walk in the park. After you get to know the girl better, you can make big plans. You never get a second chance to make a first impression.
Active.
If a couple has a cheerful disposition and does not like to sit still for a long time, active adventures will suit them. Below are 10 great ways to have fun.
- Visit an amusement park. Grab some cotton candy, compete in the shooting range, jump on the trampoline and be sure to check out the roller coaster.
- Go to a dance party. It could be a nightclub, but better - an outdoor disco. Dancing on the evening beach is romance wrapped in fun.
- Go to the bike rental point. It is better to take water with you in advance. You can travel around the city, but if the bike is not yet mastered, it would be good to choose a place outside the city or away from the main roads.
- Use rollerblades, skates or a skateboard. Find helmets and knee pads for insurance.
- Create a personal tour of the city and visit previously unfamiliar places. Take cameras with you or use cameras on smartphones.
- Go for a swim. Water parks, local natural or artificial ponds, swimming pools or even spas.
- Devote a day to volunteering. To do this, you can look for volunteers on the streets, look at the city website, or organize your own charity event.
- Play non-team games . Tennis (table and regular), badminton, squash. Bowling, billiards, and darts are also suitable. If desired, you can arrange sports competitions, taking into account each other’s capabilities.
- Organize a flash mob . You can attract people through social networks, print advertisements and post them around the city. Or it’s enough to just involve close friends.
- Check out the city festival , fair, competition. Almost every locality has a page on social networks, which is maintained by active citizens. Announcements of upcoming events are posted there.
Main types
You can come up with an almost endless number of original dates, but they all fall into five categories:
- Extreme. A parachute jump, a horror room, a hot air balloon flight and much more will leave an unforgettable experience.
- Homemade. These types of dates are suitable for calm individuals and homebodies. Watch a movie, cook dinner together, or take a relaxing bath.
- Relaxing. This ideal first date in a couple's life can be spent in a bathhouse or spa, but there is one condition - you must be close enough for this, otherwise the girl may think that you are trying to get her into bed.
- Cognitive. The most useful and successful dates. Sign up for a reading group, go to a museum or art gallery, attend a master class to improve your cooking, singing or drawing skills. Focus on the preferences of your other half.
- Romantic. Invite a girl to a restaurant or a movie, and then take a walk in the park and buy her a bouquet of flowers.
To easily get out of an awkward situation, always have a plan B. If you see that the date is not going the way you wanted, and the girl is not happy with your idea, use a backup idea.
Unusual ideas for a romantic evening
If you need to make a special impression on a girl, take a closer look at these ideas.
With animals
This date idea requires good preparation, because if one of the partners is allergic to animals, the meeting will be ruined. Where and how to have a date:
- Hippodrome. Here you can not only touch horses, but also get a riding lesson.
- Shelter. Buy a few kilograms of food and go to the shelter. This will demonstrate your generosity.
- Farm. This idea will appeal to lovers of unusual animals. At the farm you can touch and feed the pets, and then take a photo with them.
- Zoo. Some people are skeptical about this type of leisure, because in such places animals are not kept in the best conditions.
It is important that the date is not tiring and long. Think about rest and the opportunity to have a snack in advance. It is not recommended to take food with you.
City Tour
Start your walk at one end of the city and walk to the other, stopping at a restaurant along the way to replenish your strength and eat. Such a date will allow you not only to enjoy the beauty of the city, but also to get to know each other well.
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Be sure to warn the girl that you are planning a long walk so that she wears comfortable shoes. It is unlikely that she will be happy at the prospect of walking across the city in high heels.
To avoid awkward pauses during your walk, think over topics for conversation in advance. It’s better to take a taxi back, because a tired girl is a dissatisfied girl.
Romantic date at home
You can have a romantic getaway without leaving your home.
Yes, you will have to get off your butt and create a special atmosphere so that the girl can feel all the romance of the moment. A small but very important rule: if you live together, then you take on both the preparation and cleaning after a romantic date. Otherwise, it will turn out like in the jokes about March 8: leave the dishes, you’ll wash them tomorrow. If you set out to make an impression, be a man to the end.
In general, ideas for a romantic evening can perfectly diversify your evenings together. Try to surprise your girlfriend!
Swap meet
Walking through a flea market, you can find many interesting and rare things that no one else has. If you are both lovers of mysteries and antiques, a topic for conversation will come naturally.
To provide your significant other with comfort during a walk, immediately discuss the financial side. Tell them that you will pay for the purchases yourself.
You should not divide the checks in half, as the girl may regard this as greed. You invited your friend on a romantic date, which means you need to take care of her comfort.
Live music
If there is a concert of a popular musical group in your city in the near future, do not miss the chance to attend it. Here you can not only listen to live music, but also enjoy the unique concert atmosphere.
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To avoid confusion, invite your significant other on a date in advance. Make sure she hasn't purchased a ticket yet. In addition, avid homebodies may not like such an active form of recreation.
Getting rid of misconceptions
On the eve of a date it will be superfluous, some common misconceptions:
- naive fears When getting ready for a long-awaited meeting, a girl gradually convinces herself that her new acquaintance is only interested in sexual contacts. Therefore, when communicating with a young man, she puts on a mask of inaccessibility. “I’m not ready for a close relationship” is her main style of behavior. You should not defend yourself without waiting for an attack. Perhaps the man had no intentions at all other than meeting another representative of the fair sex.
- suspicious distrust The woman expects a trick in advance, prepares to be deceived. She is convinced that a stranger must be extremely sincere and honest. Trying to catch her partner in a lie, she herself forces him to lie.
- a riot of fantasy A beautiful picture created by a rich imagination does not coincide with the original. You should not trust photographs on the Internet, absentee descriptions and characteristics. If you let your imagination run wild, you won’t be disappointed.
To avoid becoming another victim of stereotypical thinking, do not try to predict the development of events. Everything has its time. You will always have time to be upset, but in the meantime, prepare and hope.
At home
This type of date is suitable for people who are away from home most of the time. Otherwise, you will turn dating into a routine. How to arrange a date at home:
- Prepare a delicious meal together. Cooking together brings people together, so psychotherapists recommend practicing these types of dates more often.
- Watching movies and TV series. Enlist the help of popcorn and a warm blanket to create a cozy environment that encourages intimacy.
- Massage. If you are close enough, you can organize an evening of massage with an intimate continuation.
When a girl is a housewife and is constantly at home, it is better to give preference to more active types of recreation.
Picnic on the roof
It belongs to the romantic types of dates, because it remains in the memory for a long time. To organize a picnic on the roof, you need:
- Agree with the building manager to let you onto the roof at the appointed time.
- Remove debris and bird droppings from the roof.
- Set up a table and chairs.
- Decorate the roof with glowing lights or balls.
- Stock up on blankets in case the girl gets cold.
- Come up with a menu.
- View the weather forecast. The date will be ruined if it unexpectedly rains or gets very cold.
Choose light meals and snacks, and make sure you have alcoholic and non-alcoholic drinks. If you don't know your significant other's tastes, take a little of everything.
It is not recommended to place the table too close to the edge of the building, as the girl may feel discomfort due to her fear of heights. Also, don't force her to look down if she adamantly refuses. Respect her fears and experiences.
Let's talk about the main thing
How to behave with a man on the first date to achieve your goal. This is only greeted by “clothes”, but everyone sees off “by the mind”. Let's look at several options.
- You are young and attractive, have no shortage of male attention, and are not going to give up your freedom in the foreseeable future. In this case, there is nothing to worry about. The style of behavior is not limited by strict boundaries. You can relax and not think about words and gestures. After all, a first date is another adventure. If the meeting does not meet your expectations, do not be discouraged. You have time to try again.
- You are ripe for family life and are actively searching for your other half. Then approach the matter with full responsibility. It is this situation that needs to be discussed in more detail.
First, try to calm down and not think that the date will end in failure. Our mental ideas can become reality. Treat the upcoming event lightly, but responsibly. If you want to find a friend or dream of a long-term relationship, pay attention to the following points:
The first minutes of the meeting
The first glance, the first phrases, the first touches can become decisive in the development of further events. Therefore, every little detail is important. Smiling sincerely, look into your partner's eyes and say something nice. Be surprised at the punctuality, praise the meeting place, thank you for the flowers. A little flattery at the beginning of a date with a guy will make you feel comfortable and create a favorable impression.
Intellectual conversation
Think in advance about questions that can be discussed during the meeting:
- show interest in his hobbies;
- talk about your profession without touching on the topic of income;
- share your plans;
- tell us about what you love, what you do, what you dream about.
Don't try to shine with your intelligence or seem naive. Know how to pause, shifting the responsibility for maintaining the conversation to the interlocutor. It is better if the conversation is frank, but not too serious. Do not try to find out the details of your personal life, leave aside questions of religion, and do not focus on your financial situation.
The first date with a man is valuable not for the information collected, but for your feelings from communicating with your partner.
Objective attitude
It is very important to see not only the shortcomings of your partner, but also your own weaknesses. Don't be afraid to admit you're nervous before the meeting. Thus, you show your weakness, vulnerability, and your partner has a desire to show his strength in order to protect him and protect him from unpleasant experiences. A person who does not hide his weaknesses evokes sympathy and respect because he is not afraid to openly admit it.
Demonstrating an ironic attitude is useful not only towards your loved one, but also towards your interlocutor. You shouldn’t prevaricate, admiring every word and gesture of a man. This will cause bewilderment and suspicion of the insincerity of your feelings. After all, a person knows that he is far from ideal. Don't turn a blind eye to your chosen one's mistakes and awkwardnesses. By your behavior, make it clear that you see and forgive his weaknesses and expect a response from him. Remember a similar situation that happened in your life, turn the awkwardness into a joke. In a word, do not strain your new acquaintance, defuse the situation. Let him make sure that such a trifle is not a hindrance to your relationship.
Light irony and an adequate attitude towards oneself and one’s partner attract more than feigned admiration and narcissism.
A little slyness
- calm, confident behavior will create the impression of a familiar environment. Even if dating is a rare occurrence for you, pretend that you feel comfortable;
- be serious and a little thoughtful. Let your partner torment himself with guesses about what thoughts are crowding into your charming head;
- express approval, give compliments. Representatives of the stronger sex also love to be praised;
- if you want to like him on the first date, talk to the guy about pleasant or neutral things. No negativity or complaints about fate, relatives, friends.
There is no need to lie or hide past relationships. Just cheat: don’t talk about what’s unpleasant to you.
Tactfulness and delicacy
It is quite understandable that you want to know more about your chosen one. However, too intrusive questions can cause a negative reaction. If a man wants to share something intimate, listen, expressing sincere sympathy and interest. Avoids direct questions - don’t be offended, tactfully shift the conversation to another topic. At this stage of the relationship, your task is to listen and not interrupt.
Smile
A smile is the key to a good mood. A smiling person inspires trust. He wants to smile back. Consequently, contact between interlocutors will be established faster. Provided that the smile is sincere and friendly, and not polite, strained or mysterious.
Believe in yourself
Self-confidence is the main component of success. Every morning, looking in the mirror, repeat the phrases: “I am irresistible, attractive and charming! The men around me like me!” If you carry out such training systematically, you will gain confidence and can confidently go on a date. Love yourself, and the man you like will be yours.
goodbye
The date has come to an end, questions remain.
The man is required to pay in the cafe. Your task is to politely thank them for their attention and say that dinner and communication gave you pleasure. Even if in your heart you decide to end the relationship, maintain decency. The person who paid the bill and spent the evening with you does not deserve an insulting, indifferent “Bye.”
In order not to feel obligated (especially if your partner did not live up to expectations), you can offer to divide the amount on the bill in half. However, don't insist. This will put the person in a humiliating position. In any case, it’s more pleasant to part without resenting each other.