It is important to understand that for a girl, correspondence in instant messengers is a way of maintaining a relationship. They put more meaning into this communication than we do. After all, for a man, a telephone is simply a means of communication, where communication is clear and to the point.
Where a girl has cats, teddy bears, videos, emoticons, lisps and a report for every step, “here, I made eyelashes, look”, “I ate a salad”, “I’m sad” - the guy will only have “yes”, “no”, "It's clear".
Both in person and online, men and women speak different languages. And if you learn to speak the same language with girls, learn how to correspond with a girl correctly, you will get unlimited access to women’s hearts, bodies and thoughts.
I know you want this. Then let's start with the main thing
The purpose of correspondence with a girl
Remember the important rule of Akloni: every action you take must have a specific, understandable goal and work towards it. If an action does not lead to a goal, that action is screwed.
If your message to a girl doesn't work for the purpose, don't send it.
Let's see what purposes SMS correspondence with a girl serves:
- Maintaining contact. Let's say a girl lives in another city. Or you have a pool of girls that you go on dates with, fuck, and she is one of them. One day, when the opportunity arises, you plan to fuck her. To make this logical, understandable and desirable for her, you need to maintain contact and not let her forget about you.
If you do everything clearly, then at your first call she will respond and will gladly go on a date or even immediately come to your home. Depends on how well you warm her up and build rapport.
- Warming up interest. You took a girl's phone number when you met. You have your first date ahead. In order for it to take place and be as effective as possible, it is advisable to warm up the girl. Don't spam her with messages, don't bore her with questions, but slightly intrigue and excite her. Let her think about you all the time before the date and rush to meet you as soon as possible.
- Keeping in touch. You are busy, she is busy, there is no time for a meeting. But maintaining contact so that the girl thinks about you constantly and - what is especially important - in an erotic way is a must! So that at the right moment - once! - and took her out on a date with a continuation.
So what do we have? The final goal of any correspondence with a girl is a date and sex.
Everything else is nonsense and stupidity. There should be no correspondence for the sake of correspondence. Only thoughtful moves. Canvases of text, mental outpourings, reasoning will not bring you results. You'll spend a lot of time and effort pointing at your phone, and in the end the girl will dump you without even going on a date. Don't turn into an eternal copycat!
First of all, you are a busy man with a billion important things to do. You don't have time to write poems to her in messenger. And if you are in touch 24/7, writing to her five thousand words a day, then the question arises: do you even do anything in your life other than jerk off?
Secondly, correspondence is only a seed. This is not an alternative to live communication, but only a means of warming up. Use it correctly.
Romantic and slightly vulgar topics for talking about relationships
Topics for talking with a guy about sex, love and relationships are an endless space where you don’t need to choose words or think about wording. With a friend, especially an unfamiliar one, you have to be more delicate. If you want to “test the waters” about the prospects, take on the best romantic themes with a little vulgar or, conversely, serious overtones.
55. Tell me about your ideal first date. What would you prefer: a candlelit dinner, a walk in the park, a chic restaurant or a fun party?
56. What is the first thing you pay attention to when meeting a man? Does his appearance, clothing style, hairstyle, etc. influence your choice?
57. Do you believe that accidents are not accidental? Are you ready, succumbing to the signs of fate, to commit some kind of madness?
58. What do you listen to more often in relationships – the voice of the heart or cold reason? And do they often conflict, causing conflicting emotions in you?
59. What do you mean by the concept of intimacy? Does this necessarily imply intimacy?
60. Do you always adhere to the “five dates” rule or do you act according to circumstances? What influences your decisions?
61. What masculine quality can push you “into the deep end,” and which one causes the greatest disgust?
62. How do you feel about cheating? Have you ever experienced betrayal from a loved one or been unfaithful yourself?
63. Do you believe in friendship between a man and a woman? Do you have male friends who, under no circumstances, will be able to get out of the friend zone?
64. Describe in three words what you mean by the concept of love. Without what is this feeling impossible in principle?
65. Is it acceptable for you to have sex without commitment if both partners are not in a relationship?
66. How jealous are you? Do you consider jealousy to be an obligatory part of a relationship, or is it a sign of mistrust for you?
67. Which of your past relationships would you like to return to correct the mistakes you have made? Why?
68. In a couple, do you usually play the role of leader or follower? Do you often show flexibility or do you usually insist on your own without changing your decisions?
69. Are you able to forget about everything in the world when spending time with a man?
70. Which relationship format is closer to you - calm and predictable or explosive and reckless?
71. Do you think you are ready for marriage and family? What would your ideal family life look like? What do you expect from your future husband and what compromises are you ready for?
72. Tell us about what you would like to achieve over the next five years? What place does family have in your plans?
73. How do you feel about civil marriage? For you, is this a full-fledged family or temporary cohabitation?
74. What kind of wedding do you dream of: a fabulous banquet with a hundred guests or a modest party with your closest ones?
75. Do romantic actions done for you captivate you? Or are you a pragmatic person who prefers a freshly prepared dinner to a luxurious bouquet of roses?
76. What feelings should family relationships be based on? Are love, understanding and good sex enough to build it?
77. How long did your most serious relationship last? Was the breakup difficult, or did you part as friends?
78. How many children would you like to have? How do you feel about childfree and large families?
79. Could you break off a relationship without explanation, by phone or SMS? Because of which?
When to text a girl: the best time for the first message
If you are the same pumped-up man as the students of the AKLONI Academy, then you can write whenever you want. However, it is logical to assume that you should not delay the moment of the first message. The dynamics of modern life are such that every person experiences a huge number of small and large events in a day.
If a girl is cool, then meeting a man for her is not an extraordinary incident, but a normal occurrence. If you remain silent for a long time, she will forget you and lose primary interest.
Therefore, it doesn’t cost anything to remind yourself about yourself on the first day after meeting. Before you start chatting with a girl, put yourself in a light, playful mood and send the first message. Something like “Hi, this is Anton! We met yesterday at the club.”
You can send a funny picture or video. This will lift her spirits and give her the opportunity to joke back or react in some way to spark further conversation.
Important! Funny pictures or videos should be really funny and understandable. Leave jokes that only a select few will understand for your friends. For a girl there should be something universal.
Hot topics (vulgar)
Vulgar topics should be raised only after a certain amount of time of acquaintance.
Themes:
- Is one-time sex for you?
- Can you offer something new to your partner?
- A friend and a friend offer to join them, what should you do?
- How do you feel about role-playing games?
- Do you like foreplay?
Remember - the intimate sphere is a very personal space. When speaking on this topic, be sensitive.
First message: what to write so that she responds promptly
Where to start a correspondence with a girl so that the conversation continues on its own without any extra effort on your part? There are a number of rules.
- You don't have to go out of your way to seem original. Of course, you are a unique snowflake, but there is nothing worse than a man who is trying to squeeze creativity out of himself, and in the end he wrote like he farted in a puddle. The simpler the better. Leave non-standard creatives for later.
- Don't hang around for too long. I picked up the phone and wrote, but didn’t pick it up, thought for half an hour and ended up writing something that broke the girl’s whole brain.
- Do not overestimate its importance in correspondence. No appeals like Princess, Queen, The most beautiful girl in the universe. She has a name, start with that.
- Don't curry favor or beg. “Oh, do you remember me? Is it okay that I bothered you? I hope I didn't distract you too much? I’ll just be there for a minute”... Calm down! You're a man, you're on top. Let him be glad that you remembered her at all.
What to write to a girl you like in the first message:
- Inspiration to action. "Hello! Let’s go get some coffee” / “I’m taking you to lunch.” Be ready at 13” / “Let’s go to the cinema in the evening.” Why spend a lot of time shuffling around when you can get straight to the point?
- Situational messages. “Let’s go sunbathe”, “Let’s go swimming”, if it’s summer. “Let's go build a snowman!” in winter or “Let’s go and take a photo of you in the park in a pile of leaves, otherwise you haven’t had new photos on Instagram for a long time,” if it’s autumn. In general, get attached to any current situation and go ahead!
- Compliment. “I liked you yesterday. I want to get to know you better.”
In any case, the first message should be light, cheerful and make you want to respond to it.
I highly recommend writing not one continuous message, but breaking it into several short ones. This will show her several unread messages from you at once, and it will be even more interesting for her to find out what you wrote there. This will stimulate the girl to open and read your messages faster.
How to end a conversation
Ending a conversation correctly is no less important than starting a conversation. A formal “bye” is appropriate if the girl said goodbye first. Ideally, there is no need for goodbyes at all. The conversation should flow from day to day the way you communicate with an old friend, with whom you don’t even have to say hello :)
If you decide to end the correspondence, then say that you don’t want to say goodbye to her, but it’s time for you to attend to some business. Things should look real, and not “I’m going to eat.” By the way, forget about the words “eat” and never say it if you don’t want to look ridiculous.
If you have been communicating for several days, then at the end of the conversation you can call her somewhere. But invite correctly: “let’s go to the cinema” is better than “do you want to go somewhere?” Be specific, otherwise she will refuse you.
You can say goodbye beautifully with the help of compliments: “now I’ll think about you all evening, instead of writing a report/doing homework/working out.” Or “I thought that this day would not save anything,” hinting at inspiring communication with her.
Important! Ask for a phone number in the first dialogue, and be sure to write to it on the same day.
What to chat with a girl about: top topics for messages
The main stimulus for correspondence is emotions. The more emotions a girl receives and gives in online communication, the stronger her attachment to you. Where do you get emotions?
- Humor
- Untrivial stories from life.
- Sincere questions about her and comments on her answers.
And you don’t need to think long about what to talk about with a girl in correspondence! All topics and all content are already in your daily life. If you are not a complete sad piece of shit, then every day you have different events that you are not ashamed to share and discuss with your girl.
The stories are going well. In response to your stories, the girl may remember her own - this way you can very actively disconnect and find a lot of common points of contact.
If the girl is not only beautiful, but also intellectually developed, then you will probably be able to enter into a humorous correspondence, where the first joke leads to a dozen more. This will perfectly lift the spirits of both and set the mood for a light wave. The main thing is to be able to stop in time and not turn your communication into a “Full House on the Volga”.
Jokes, memes and videos from the Internet. Subscribe to a couple of public pages with good jokes and choose to communicate with girls those that will definitely not hurt her feelings and views. Use every event of your day as an opportunity to connect and flirt. For example, from a store fitting room you can send a couple of photos and ask her for advice on what to choose and what suits you best. In short, worry less and be simple and free in communication. Do everything as if you have known each other for a thousand years.
First meeting
In order for the first date to go off with a bang, you should prepare not only externally, but also choose the right topics for dialogue. When you first meet, you should talk about abstract topics. This will show that you are interested in the girl as a person.
Examples of topics:
- Funny stories or incidents from life. Non-boring topics always attract girls, so they feel more confident.
- Professional employment. This will make it easier to find common ground and avoid getting into an awkward situation.
- Personal hobbies. Everything is clear here - how to spend your personal time.
- Close people. Relatives, friends, this is the world in which she lives. This topic can fill the pauses.
- Future plans. Goals and aspirations are a broad topic of conversation.
Stirring up interest: what questions to ask a girl in correspondence
Anyone who studies with Akloni knows: questions to a girl should not be closed, but open! Closed questions are those that can be answered either yes or no. She answered, what next? Open ones are those to which she can respond at length and with interest.
See the difference. I'm tired today? Yes. What did you do today? Oh, such a busy day, I was at the gym, then I went on business, then for coffee with a friend...
Examples of correct questions: How did you work out yesterday? What new did you learn today? How did you like the film, what emotions did it evoke in you?
And remember: feelings and emotions are important for a girl. Instead of a strict How are you? ask her about her mood, condition, experiences. Trust me, this will turn it on right away!
Be sincere
If you really like a person and want to continue communication, then there is nothing wrong with admitting it. “I think you're very cute and I'd love to keep talking to you! Let's switch to another social network to stay in touch?
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Stories about yourself: what to write in messages to make her fall in love with you
How to please a girl by correspondence? Be yourself. Girls are intuitive and perfectly sense any falsehood. Don't try to show what isn't there. It’s better to be willing to share what you really have.
- There’s no need to tell you that the day was boring, that everyone at work is an asshole, and that the office smells like the system administrator’s socks. It’s better to share with her how successfully you managed to solve your work problems, how pleasantly tired you are, and how great it is to finally chat with her a little.
- Learn to joke. Practice self-irony and learn to present even very bland stories with a sauce of irony so that it will be read with interest. Humor always helps. This is a skill that can and should be developed. And self-irony is one of the qualities of a confident man.
- Tell me what you think about her. I like your positivity! / Love your sweet messages.
- Take pictures and photograph what you like. Share photos with her, discuss. Girls love it very much. So she will turn on you 100%.
The topic “What to text with a girl about” is actually endless, just like the events of our lives. Just be attentive to what is happening to you and around you, then you will definitely have something to talk to her about.
General Tips
- Even if a girl seems like an impregnable fortress to you, take a risk. Perhaps she has been waiting for a long time to be conquered by someone, and other men have not dared to approach her.
- Experience, experience and more experience. Not everyone can do everything perfectly the first time. Most likely, at the beginning of your journey there will be a lot of refusals and stressful situations. But these meetings will make you smarter and more confident. There's nothing wrong with being rejected; it can even be fun.
- If you are of different nationalities, then you don’t need to immediately shock her with information about the sacrifice of a lamb in your family. It’s better to talk about intercultural topics and gradually introduce the young lady to your interesting customs.
- Try to find out why her past relationship ended. Don't pry, but find a good moment to ask a question. When you know the answer, draw your own conclusions. Learn from other people's mistakes and don't make your own. If the breakup is recent, it is better to postpone the question.
- Be yourself and you won’t have to live up to your made-up qualities. After all, if she doesn’t perceive you for who you are, then why torture and deceive each other. There are many girls in the world who are looking for exactly like you.
- Tact.
There is nothing sexier than a man with good manners and upbringing. Women are thrilled by gentlemen whose behavior is a role model.
- No gossip.
Don't even think about discussing anyone. This will create an invisible connection between you and the tactless gossips at the entrance. If a girl is the first to start discussing someone, then most likely she views you only as a friend and does not think about a romantic relationship.
I hope you received valuable advice that will be useful to you in life. It may be difficult for you to cope with something the first time, but rest assured that you will succeed soon.
You just need to sincerely want it and direct your energy towards self-development.
Compliments in correspondence. How not to overdo it with vanilla messages
It is important to remember that you need to be able to write compliments to a girl. The compliment is made not from a position from below: you are a queen, and I am a schmuck, but from a position from above or (at a stretch) as equals: I am a king, and you are a queen to match me.
The compliment should be on topic and aimed at a specific character trait or action or property. In general, there is no need to praise, it will be clear that you gave the compliment purely for form.
Dose out pleasant words. Your correspondence should not turn into obsequious licking.
How to behave when communicating
How to communicate with a girl? Let us recall the basic rules that must be followed during a conversation.
- Enjoy the meeting.
But remember, falsehood immediately catches your eye. Tune in to a wave of positivity, smile more often; - Learn to maintain a conversation and show interest in the girl;
- Don’t interrupt, know how to listen to the end;
- Do not overload your chosen one with questions.
Everything should be in moderation; - Don't answer in monosyllables.
Don't just say “yes” or “no.” Try to provide as much information as possible; - But the main thing is don’t avoid communication. Practice constantly. You will become sociable and easily carry on a conversation.
Emoji in correspondence. Add emotions!
I know it's hard for a man to use those cute yellow emojis that girls like so much. We love points and clear language. But girls love emojis! They insert them every two words so that you understand exactly how funny, good, pleasant, cheerful, sad or cold she is.
Some of the girls even get offended if at the end of the message there is not at least a smiley bracket, like this) They immediately think that you wrote this phrase with a stern face. And then suddenly it turns out that you were actually joking.
In general, before texting a girl, be patient and be prepared for an invasion of hearts, smiles, laughing people, rainbows and unicorns. You don't have to give everything the same. But you can put a parenthesis at the end of the sentence so that she doesn’t worry again)
Communication on VK (Internet)
The problem of communication via the Internet (on VK, Odnoklassniki and other social networks) is that the emotional component disappears. It is difficult to determine how a girl feels about a particular topic. Therefore, you should avoid sensitive topics, especially if your relationship is just beginning to develop.
Examples of topics:
- About animals.
- Hobbies.
- Dream.
- Work or study.
- Rest.
- Trips.
- Music, films.
- Holidays.
- Fashion.
- Culinary themes.
- Relationship.
