How to date a girl? 10 main rules

Author of the material:

Svetlana Smyshlyak

philologist, writer, lyric poet

She said yes, the new couple was successfully created. Sounds like a completed mission in a computer game. However, in virtuality, after the phrase “mission completed,” the player can turn off the toy. But in life it’s not like that – you can’t pause or save progress. Completely relax too. How to behave correctly in a relationship? How to date a girl so that she remains satisfied? What to avoid without forgetting about yourself?

Show leadership qualities.

What does true leadership look like? In the phrase “I said!”, hitting the table with your fist and a majestic expression on your face? Hardly, more like despotism and tyranny. Then what is the answer?

Being a leader = taking responsibility. For safety, for reputation, for feelings. Girls love it when their man:

does not tolerate self-pity. Not to be confused with sympathy. “I was tired from doing nothing” and “I was tired because I worked hard” are different things;
does not allow himself to whine or be capricious in serious situations. If a guy sleepily mutters “morning, you’re so scary” to his alarm clock, but still gets up for work, that’s cute. If he refuses to help carry heavy bags of groceries because “it’s morning,” that’s whining;
solves problems on his own and can even help his partner. Within adequate limits. If it’s not the first time she’s had too much alcohol and crashed someone’s car, it’s better to think about whether such a person is needed at all;
performs male duties around the house or troubleshoots problems in other effective ways. A professional plumber, electrician, gardener, builder, painter rolled into one is either a utopia or an actor in “18+” films. Therefore, if sockets spark in the house, and the young man does not understand them, he has every right to solve the problem differently - call a specialist;
demonstrates determination and confidence. Flood, fire, bankruptcy, bandits or a spider on the wall - girls want to know that their chosen one will not stand aside, but will show heroism by taking action.

What does "dating a guy" mean?

It's time for "H".
The guy proposed to meet. Great news! But it is still far from the status of the one and only. Don't let yourself be lazy! You haven't become a couple yet. The risk of completely and irrevocably ruining your impression of yourself on the very first date is quite real. Every gesture, every glance and shade of foundation matters. The art of seduction is in the details. You have to be careful. Don't scare off Romeo, who is making timid attempts at courtship. He still knows you too little to be able to accept and forgive a major mistake. Flashy makeup, a rude word, an ugly deed will turn the first meeting into the last. You are not connected by common memories, everyday life and children. This level of personal freedom is fraught with an easy way out of the relationship for a dissatisfied partner.

Leaving your usual comfort zone, showing your best side, adapting to your companion if necessary - this is what it means to date a guy. At the same time, no sacrifices should be in vain. You should only start a novel with a character worthy of you in the leading role. There will be no difficulties if the gentleman is attractive and the feeling is mutual.

How to behave on a date?

Think of it as a final attractiveness test. You need to prepare for it properly. And obviously not overnight. Hoping that “everything will work out on its own” is risky. Listen to real advice from practical psychologists on how to start dating a guy.

Tip one: be confident in yourself, don’t be shy

Try to mentally imagine your first date. Work on your fears to feel 100%:

Try on several items to choose the best one.
Rehearse the most difficult moments in front of the mirror - greetings and farewells.
Think over a bright resume-self-presentation. Select fragments of a glorious biography that will definitely interest your interlocutor.

There are no ideal women. Your boyfriend knows this. He won't run away on the first date if you:

You will slip and fall on the street. The gentleman will be glad to have the opportunity to lift the young lady, quietly hug her around the waist, taking this opportunity, and carefully place her on the ground! Enjoy the manifestations of touching care: “Are you hurt?”, “Are you in pain?”, “Let me hold your elbow.” The fear of looking like a cow on the ice shouldn’t stop you from showing off your ankle boots with fashionable heels.
You'll spill coffee on it. It's an everyday matter. This happened to him too. There will be a wonderful reason to invite him to your place to help quickly remove the stain. Seize the moment! There will be something to remember during your next coffee break.
You'll say too much. Tell me about how you like to while away your evenings watching TV series; you get up at night to visit the refrigerator; You get scared in the morning by your own disheveled reflection in the mirror. You are not perfection itself, but you know how to admit shortcomings and are ready to laugh at them. Your companion will definitely appreciate such frankness and self-criticism. The main thing is not to overdo it.
Coughed, sneezed, or broke out in hives. It happens to everyone. Usually young ladies are aware of their delicate problems. Of course, the gallant companion will treat what happened with understanding and will not regret that he decided to date you. However, for your own peace of mind, do not neglect preventive measures: consult a doctor and carry medications in your purse that will help you quickly get rid of unpleasant sensations.
You will demonstrate the well-known paradoxes of female logic. For example, you try to park in an unimaginable way in front of his eyes. He is internally prepared for such a turn of events. Nothing new. All autoladies are the same. If you are afraid to spoil the impression with your lack of worldly savvy or ignorance, ask for help. This is the best way to stop being shy about the guy you're dating. It’s nice for him to show class, and you won’t fall flat on your face.

Tip two: be feminine

Don't know how to date a guy correctly? Remember: your task is to turn temporarily (or forever) into an ideal woman, which, in principle, no man could refuse. A few simple rules will speed up your transformation:

Beauty is your strength. The time has come for chic dresses and thin stockings, impeccably styled hair and dizzying scents. You should look so that even strangers' Romeos turn around. Let everyone around you envy your boyfriend. Such a beauty is nearby! He will look differently at his trophy, which evokes universal admiration.
Don't shock the gentleman. Don't get carried away with experimenting with images. Test any image changes on your friends. Thinking of changing your waist-length curls to a boyish crew cut? Consult with your loved ones. They will tell you whether it is worth radically changing the style that suits you.
Watch your language. Admit it, a broken nail or an annoying line on new tights is enough for you to switch to spoken Russian without cuts. Your boyfriend will not forgive you for saying something strong. Still a lady. He is forgiven, you are not. This is what the elementary rule of speech etiquette for first dates looks like.
Be more modest. From excitement and an overabundance of feelings, many young ladies begin to laugh unnaturally loudly, wink at their interlocutor, and theatrically wave their arms. Extravagant behavior scares off men. Don't fiddle with the chain around your neck or pull down your skirt every five minutes. Everything is fine with them!
Take a break from the everyday hustle and bustle. Save the invigorating news about discounts on washing powder at a nearby store for your mom or best friend. At the start of a relationship, there is no need for excessive homeliness. The gentleman craves extraordinary emotions. Banal everyday life and mundane housewives hung with string bags are not of interest. While a guy is actively searching, he is more attracted to carefree fairies. Flying kites into the sky, riding a boat in the moonlight, feeding pigeons in the city square - this is what you should do on dates if a guy has proposed dating.

Tip three: don’t point out his flaws

Let your boyfriend feel like the king of the situation next to you. Show leniency towards the classic weaknesses of free men, which the gentleman will get rid of as soon as he finds a family home:

He's wasting money. I accidentally saw a gold price tag on a large teddy bear and was upset! Spender, there's no other way to put it! And there is no need to say anything yet. Yes, a fortune was spent on a useless toy, doomed to vegetate dusty in the closet. It would be better to buy a cosmetic bag: cheaper and more necessary. Moreover, it is stupid to purchase such dubious gifts in the first flower boutique, as your chosen one did. At any wholesale center, a Chinese plush animal costs several times less. Do not worry. While the guy can afford such madness. He is pleased to part with his scholarship for the girl he likes. Don't ruin the fun.
Fancy dressed. Options may vary. From a dude in a pink jacket to an old-fashioned comrade in grandma's chunky knitted sweater. You were asked to meet by a guy in a rustic fur hat, and you really don’t know what to answer? They only meet you by their clothes. The further development of events depends solely on spiritual qualities, the presence of a sense of humor and a burning desire to carry a lady in his arms. The gentleman examines you carefully. In an effort to win the heart of his chosen one, he will try to be on top. He will certainly learn the style lessons that you teach by personal example at every meeting.
He often calls his mother. For now, she is the main woman in bachelor life. A loving son will warn her that he will be delayed and ask if she needs to buy milk at the store. “I meet a guy alone, but I can’t shake the feeling that my future mother-in-law is nearby all the time” is a typical complaint from girls with little dating experience. He is not a mama's boy, but the need to be loved and cared for pushes a man under the wing of his mother, regardless of age and social status. Only a civil marriage or marriage can tear him away from his mother’s hem. You have something to strive for if the situation of a forced triangle is categorically not satisfactory.
Doesn't take care of himself. Too thick eyebrows or a wart in the most visible place. It is not necessary to point a finger at a physical defect that he already knows about. He is embarrassed to go to a cosmetologist or simply does not know that the problem has an accessible solution. Your remark will make him blush, ruining the romantic mood for a long time. A little patience. Later, you’ll definitely find a men’s beauty salon if the wart doesn’t give you peace.

Tip four: show interest in his personality

The gentleman decided long ago for himself: he is the best. Those who are ready to believe in this and see him as an idol will enjoy signs of special favor. Show wisdom:

Give up your place on the pedestal. Did you graduate from the same conservatory in flute with the same results? Doesn't matter! The companion must be in a happy delusion about his own superiority. Don't take away the palm from him. Praise and admire! It doesn’t matter how many universities you have completed and what color your diplomas are. On a date, additional bonuses are not awarded for the level of the lady's education. You should not drag your interlocutor into the jungle of your thoughts about ancient literature and avant-garde trends in painting. Starting to yawn is a bad sign for you. Don't take the initiative unnecessarily. Listen carefully to the ranting about everything in the world, let your friend talk and don’t interrupt. Love with your ears.
Follow the news on social networks. Knowing what kind of music he likes and what jokes he finds funny won't hurt. It is difficult for silent or shy guys to take the initiative in communicating with a girl they don’t know well. For some time, you will play the role of animator on your dates. Information about the preferences of the guy you decide to date will be very useful, since you will have to fill awkward pauses. Learn to create situations of success for your gentleman in a conversation. Ask leading questions about his achievements, which the interlocutor is ready to brag about indefinitely.

Show intelligence.

More and more girls are beginning to admit that the most attractive part of a man is his brain. Which, in principle, explains female sexual violence against this organ.

To demonstrate intellectual abilities, it is not necessary to learn abstruse words or read textbooks on nuclear physics and Uzbek cattle breeding of the 18th century. Enough:

deepen knowledge in areas of interest;
improve speech , its coherence, the ability to explain clearly and clearly;
increase resourcefulness , ingenuity (logical riddles, puzzles, charades);
expand your horizons , learn new things (books, crosswords, films);
communicate with different interlocutors who can teach you something.

It’s better not to be shy about saying the phrases “Unfortunately, I’m not familiar with this essay,” “Alas, I don’t know the answer to this question,” “It’s a pity, but I haven’t heard about it.” The ability to recognize a gap in knowledge, the desire to fill it, and not to smarten up about the unknown, is also a sign of intelligence.

The best phrases to ask for a date

Ideally, the wording should be born independently and in accordance with the situation: beautiful and original words or something simple but touching. There are no ideal pre-prepared phrases; they appear along with the right moment. But if you are not a master of graceful expressions that melt hearts, take a look at our selection of poetry and prose.

Remember that the main thing in the proposal is sincerity. Speak from the heart, don’t be shy to express emotions, don’t be afraid to bare your feelings. The girl will appreciate it. If the resulting proposal is also original, compiled only for her, this will become an additional sign of attention that will certainly touch her and become an additional reason to agree.
Do as you feel. The proposal will not only be about her, even if you shower her with compliments, but also about you - because you make it or choose it. And not being shy to express yourself in such a matter is great and valuable. Not only for the girl, but also for your personal experience.

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Women's ears are an erogenous zone. And it’s not only about the sensitivity of the shells and earlobes, but also about the passionate love for compliments. However, not for everyone. How to use nice words for a girl correctly:

be diverse. Even the best praise gets boring if you use it all the time;
do not forget about sincerity. Saying “You have model height” to a girl who is 1.58 cm is making her think it’s a joke;
pay attention to little things. She's probably already been told that she has a beautiful hairstyle and an elegant dress. It is better to note her femininity, the beautiful line of her shoulders or graceful fingers, “like an aristocrat”;
move away from common phrases. “You are very beautiful/sexy/cute” everyone says, which devalues these words. “When you smile, your eyes sparkle like the surface of a lake on a sunny day” is a rarer type of compliment.

To develop the ability to find the right words at the right moment, it is better to read lyrics. Especially Shakespeare's sonnets. And if giving compliments doesn’t work at all, you can simply quote lines.

Transition from dating to relationship

A serious relationship for a young couple begins from the moment a decision is made about a future together. It is not necessary that, having voiced their desire to get married or move to a new level of intimacy, young people should immediately begin to live together, because often young lovers simply do not have a sufficient material basis for this. However, there are circumstances that come into force as soon as a young couple changes the phase of an easy relationship to a serious one (for example, meeting relatives).

Usually, at the beginning of their journey, young people need help from their parents, as from people who are more experienced in life issues and financially secure. However, loved ones are not always ready to provide this help, believing that youthful love requires a greater test of time or that the girl and the guy are not well suited for each other.

Faced with opposition, young people must show perseverance, but this can only be done on one condition: by proving through their actions that their decision to be together is justified and not subject to discussion. The boy should (without interrupting his studies) start earning money, and the girl should learn how to run a household. Having made sure that lovers take their future seriously, even the most zealous skeptics will calm down and stop creating obstacles.

Use creativity.

She has already been taken to cafes and cinemas. And she has already received one red rose or a bouquet of these flowers from others. I want to repeat myself and be like everyone else - okay. But if you want to stand out from the rest, leaving them in the distant past and a complete loser knockout, it is better to show originality. For example:

take an interest in origami lessons and make a bouquet of paper flowers;
write her a love letter and send it by regular mail or slip it under her door;
buy paired items - keychains, T-shirts, scarves, pendants;
use personal talent - draw her portrait, write a poem, compose a melody in her honor;
make a poster with a dozen/hundred/thousand compliments for her, general photos, descriptions of the best moments together;
invite her to come up with a new dish or drink together.

Take the self-esteem test

Consider the girl's character

Of course, a beautiful and original proposal to meet will increase your chances of a positive response. Here you will need to decide on the girl’s character and her hobbies.

For girls with a calm and quiet character, a romantic date is suitable. This could be a cafe, a restaurant, a walk along the evening streets, a botanical garden, and the like. The atmosphere of the restaurant is suitable for romantic souls. The proposal can be made, for example, during a dance. You can agree in advance with the musicians to perform her favorite composition or melody with appropriate subtext.

For girls with a more active and lively character, who do not hide their emotions, a bright and unexpected proposal is suitable. For example, an offer after visiting attractions, a dolphinarium, an excursion to another city. And at the end of it all, say that it was all organized for her and tell her about your feelings for her. Invite the girl on an interesting walk (this in itself will be a kind of proposal). For example, to a lake or river, take a boat ride, admire the views, etc. Beautiful landscapes, walks under the moon, the calming splash of water will be a wonderful backdrop for your confessions.

Find out from her friends what the girl is interested in. If the girl is a collector, give the appropriate item and associate it with your recognition. If a girl is partial to animals (for example, horses), invite her to go to a place where she can ride and feed them. And during the meeting, there will definitely be a suitable moment to express feelings.

If a girl loves horses, go for a ride with her

A proposal in verse. Nowadays, interest in poetry is gradually being lost. Therefore, be prepared for the fact that your sentence in verse will not be properly understood. However, if you are really determined to take such a step, this can be done in several ways: read it in person or send it by letter. For personal reading, you will need the ability to recite poetry beautifully, otherwise the effect will not be the same. In writing, you can send an offer either by message on social networks or by letter by mail.

Offer on a social network. It is not recommended to take such a responsible step through various social networks. It is not a fact that your proposal will be taken seriously. And there is no certainty that it will be the girl at the computer (and not her friends, brother/sister or someone else) and she will be alone without company. Use social networks only as a way to ask a girl out on a date, where you should make the same proposal.

Move to intimacy smoothly.

Even if she is burning with open desire almost from the first meeting, she still wants courtship. Delaying things in this case, of course, is also not a particularly good idea. But moving to a new stage too quickly is no less dangerous. Why?

At first she will be happy, because she herself wanted intimacy.
Later it will seem to her that there is a lot of sex in the relationship, but too little romance.
She will begin to wait for the guy HIMSELF to telepathically guess about her desire for tenderness and platonic relationships. Perhaps hints will be used, as subtle as the difference between the shades of her foundations.
The guy, naturally, will not guess anything. Maximum - he will notice an increase in her refusals in bed.
The situation is heating up. Hysterics, quarrels, scandals. "You do not love me". Parting.

Why does this lead to breakup in many cases? Because the man does not understand the sudden change in her behavior. At first she is passionate and insatiable, and after a couple of months she suddenly wanted to become different. But it was that first version that he liked.

In fact, there was no change in the girl, she initially wanted affection, beautiful courtship. However, she decided to play the role of a bed fight guru in order to attract the guy’s attention.

It’s better to immediately provide her with flirting, compliments and the entire candy-bouquet period so that she has time to get enough of it. Only after this will it be possible to smoothly move on to intimacy, not forgetting to periodically provide her with evidence in favor of the fact “we not only have sex, but also love.”

How to behave correctly with her is already clear . It remains to find out what mistakes are recommended to be avoided. Ideally, this information would be written down in the army regulations and passed down from generation to generation through fathers' cuffs, forever inscribed in the DNA.

However, nothing in the world is perfect. Therefore, to learn about what you should not do in relationships with girls, you will have to read the following sections. They describe mistakes that it is highly desirable to avoid.

Preparing for the first step

To ask a girl to date, you need to have courage. You will have to work hard, make an effort, and have the desire to build a trusting alliance. In order to marry successfully in the future, you will need to act consistently. It would be correct to first set priorities, accumulate positive energy, and create the appropriate atmosphere.

The first step sets the tone for the courtship process and creates the preconditions for building a serious relationship. It always makes sense to strive to build unlimited trust.

Hobbies and preferences

The beginning of acquaintance, as a rule, coincides with the moment when young people get to know each other. This is an interesting and exciting time, giving additional worries and joys. They have to find out each other's interests and needs and draw conclusions. In order not to get lost in guesses and assumptions, you need to strive to be attentive, communicate more and not be afraid to get to know each other. The ability to share joy is the greatest gift that can be learned. You need to find out as early as possible what a girl’s hobbies are and take into account her preferences.

Appreciate individuality, then relationships will work out much better. It is reasonable to try to praise hobbies, encourage in every possible way, and help your companion feel at the height of the situation.

Frequent pleasant communication

You need to want to create a serious relationship yourself. They will not appear on their own, without due effort on the part and a reasonable approach to what is happening. The ability to draw conclusions will also help you understand what is really happening. You shouldn't expect a girl to take everything upon herself, and the guy won't have to make an effort. Even if communication occurs at a distance, it fills the soul with positivity, helps to form new hopes and joyful impressions.

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Correspondence often inspires, creates romance in the heart, and gives a deep sense of inner satisfaction. Live interaction is better, however, otherwise it is still possible to maintain a pleasant impression.

Compliments and flirting

Relationships cannot develop if there is no flirting and advances. The girl expects compliments, advances and pleasant statements addressed to her from the guy. It would be unreasonable to ask her to be only a friend who is not trying to make a strong impression.

Flirting is necessary for the formation of understanding, reverent and respectful attitude towards each other. This is natural behavior for a couple in love. Relationships are built according to the direction they take. Attachment will appear later, will be the result of the efforts made. If a girl begins to reciprocate, then happiness will not take long to arrive. Romance should be present at all stages of relationship development.

Don't bend.

This mistake can be made even unconsciously. This happens when you really want to please your girlfriend with something, even to the detriment of yourself.

“She likes melodramas, and I like action films. Well, it’s okay, let’s go to “Blown By the Wind and Sobs”, and not to “Peanuts Strong”... And it’s okay that it’s 48 times, because the main thing is that she smiles.”

There's nothing wrong with giving in to the same movie choice a couple of times. But doing this all the time is a bad idea. Ignoring one's own interests and personality only leads to new problems in relationships.

Ties suit you very well, start wearing them.
Okay (I hate ties, but ok, she'll be so happy).
Shave your beard. You walk like a homeless person. And it’s impossible to kiss - it hurts.
Okay (heh, just six months of beard care).
I don't like your friends. They're always drinking and making dirty jokes. I have already made an appointment for you with Olya Tolik. Good guy. Go.
Yes, he’s good, I’ll go (boring, whining, and Olka natters about everything).
You know... You've changed so much. I loved you before. I can’t do this anymore, that’s it, I’m leaving.
(…)

What does it mean

When you started dating a guy, your relationship became serious, and it could later lead to marriage. But at the moment, you need to enjoy communicating with each other and not worry about plans for the future.
Once they start dating, partners try to spend as much time as possible with each other. The girl happily accepts the young man’s offer to go to the cinema, cafe or go to nature.
Over time, a couple in love acquires a common circle of friends, then acquaintance with close relatives follows. The lovers begin to make joint plans.
The girl takes care of her partner, and she also accepts the care of her gentleman.
A couple in love pleases each other with gifts, surprises, and attentive treatment.

Don't forget about everything else.

More often, this behavior is typical for the first months of a relationship. When you want to be next to her all the time, and all the men around her are perceived as a potential threat or as future victims. Absolutely everyone - even Arkady Fedorovich, the 73-year-old dean of her faculty.

During this period, friends and relatives suddenly find themselves in the background. Problems may arise at work or at school because your thoughts are always somewhere else. Some hobbies are abandoned, giving way to a new hobby.

Such situations are strange in themselves. But it can be even worse . When she suddenly says something like:

“The question is blunt: either me or your friends!”
“Choose: either you stop going to your stupid football game, or I leave.”
“If you don’t go to samba classes with me, I won’t go to the bedroom with you!”

When someone suddenly begins to demand that you make a choice between yourself and another important part of life, this is a dead end. Requirements will increase over time. As a result, the manipulator will take away everything dear to you, impose ideas and interests, thereby forcing you to live someone else’s life. If at the same time the person refuses to compromise or resolve the dispute peacefully, then the question arises - is there any point in being with her at all?

Take a self-confidence test

How to start a relationship with a girl you've known for a long time?

It happens that an awkward classmate turns into a beautiful swan over the years. And you want to have an affair with her, but it’s somehow boring, because she knows you even before leveling up and achieving achievements. It seems that she will only see you as that pimply wimp from the back desk.

But let's put aside the assumptions. A person changes over the years not only externally, his thinking also changes. If you eventually saw something in this woman that attracted you, why can't she feel attracted to you. You have changed too.

So until you ask her out on a date, you won't know how this girl feels about you. Remember, in any business, until you try, you will not achieve results.

But don't push too hard. She may have certain attitudes in her head that prevent her from seeing you as a strong and self-sufficient man. You can push yourself as hard as you can, but in her eyes you'll be that ridiculous kid in the group. In this case you have two options:

Put a bolt on the beauty and conquer another peak. Believe me, there are millions of women around who want to see a real man next to them.
Show her that you have changed not in words, but in actions. You can periodically remind her of yourself, invite her for coffee and send flowers to the office. Don't insist, just be always in her field of vision. The woman herself must want to meet you.

Do not show or encourage selfishness.

Relationships are a job for two. If one invests in them, and the second is used to only receiving contributions, such a couple will not go far. A family in which “dad works and mom is beautiful” (or vice versa) is suitable for jokes, but not for a happy life. It is better to moderate selfishness and make sure that it is not in the chosen one. For this you will need:

take care of your partner’s feelings and desires;
make compromises on controversial issues;
learn to calmly talk about what doesn’t suit you in a relationship;
thank your couple for their expressions of care and non-conflict;
accept distinctive views, interests and try to implement them separately.

For example, a guy likes football, and a girl likes shopping. Why choose one thing and force your partner to give up his hobby? Let everyone do what they love, alone or with friends.

What is it like to date?

What does the words “dating a girl” mean? Having the intention of approaching his chosen one with this proposal, the guy most likely imagines the future relationship as a continuous series of pleasant events. And this is partly true - the dating period is filled with a unique feeling of happiness, especially if the girl fully responds to her lover’s feelings.

However, along with the joy of the closeness of a loved one, the young man also receives a significant share of responsibility for his girlfriend. In addition to the fact that the girl will need to be protected from any manifestations of aggression from the outside, the young man will also have to defend her right to be present in his life. Many of his relatives or acquaintances may be against the established relationship, and the determination with which the young man stands up for his love will play a big role in the development of tender feelings.

What does it mean to date a girl? Remaining faithful and counting on reciprocal loyalty, being on your friend’s side in any controversial moments and being able to listen - all of these can become pleasant responsibilities if you do not perceive them as a heavy burden. Even difficult situations that arise during the building of a new relationship can become a reliable platform for the further growth of young love.

Don't let things take their course.

Girls love romance, attention, surprises (not necessarily material ones). And they want to receive all this regularly. If you cut off the flow of compliments and sharply reduce the time spent together, they will not like it. And if girls don’t like something, then what often happens? That's right, hysterics.

Showing attention to her from time to time and speaking tender words is not so difficult. But the woman will remain satisfied. Perhaps she won’t even grumble when her lover returns from a friendly fishing trip without any fish at all, but with an alcoholic scent. But it is not exactly.

What mistakes are made at the beginning of a relationship?

When asking a girl to date, you should not make the most important mistake - forget about yourself and let the girl control the situation. If a girl does not directly answer a guy’s question whether she wants to date him, then you should not run after her, beg her, or even ask why she refused. If a girl wanted to date, she wouldn’t fuss when answering an “important” question.

A guy may make a mistake in a situation when a girl refuses him or asks him to wait with an answer. This means that he agrees to play by her rules.

It's one thing to accept her answer and not even take any action towards her in order to seduce her. If she doesn’t want to meet, then you can talk like friends - and this means that the girl will no longer receive any gifts, compliments or other signs of attention.
It's another thing to accept the answer and continue to interest her in you. Often girls perceive this situation as “Gotcha!” Now you can twist ropes out of it!”

How to propose in verse

As a thread follows a needle, As waves rush behind a steamboat, So I would like to be with you, And to be always, not in passing.

A cherry blossom petal flies, catching up with another, to continue the journey together.

Love will pour out like a bright starfall, Be with me, my treasure! Air is not air, water is not water, I can only breathe next to you always.

So I thought it would be nice to invite you to meet me! And even though we have only recently known each other, I want more than to be friends

I don’t dare to sing a serenade I’m under your windows, but still, you have to take my word that in the rest, I’m good to everyone.

I am laconic from excitement, Today I decide to tell you - Hurry up and accept the offer to become my girlfriend.