How to start caring for a girl: rules and tips

• November 12, 2018
• Psychology of Personality
• Ulyana Orekhova

For a woman, being well-groomed means not only the presence of makeup and an abundance of expensive clothes in the wardrobe, but first of all, her desire to constantly be aware of her impeccability and uniqueness. In order to maintain this state within herself and see a positive reaction in the eyes of others, a girl does not have to adjust herself to changing beauty standards.

The main criterion for a perfect image, as well as an effective motivator to start taking care of yourself, is complete acceptance of yourself and harmony with the world around you.

Obstacles from the depths of consciousness

Awareness of one's appearance and the need to keep one's body clean and tidy is formed in people at an early age. Children accurately reproduce the behavior of their parents or one of them, adopting not only their manner of dressing or presenting themselves to society, but also their internal attitude towards their own personality.

Many people are familiar with the situation when a young woman, having become a wife and mother, quickly declines in appearance, stops actively communicating and generally devotes herself entirely to everyday life. At the same time, older ladies she knows continue to delight the eyes of others and, despite their workload, always find time to “keep themselves in shape.” What is the reason that even the question of how to start taking care of yourself at 30 meets the internal resistance of an old habit?

In some families, the idea of ​​“sacrifice” is passed down from generation to generation, with such key concepts instilled in daughters as: “everything for the family,” “not sparing yourself,” “even if you die, do it.” Girls are brought up in the belief that the only function of a wife and mother is to establish a family home. At the same time, the circumstances of modern life also require that a woman work equally with her husband, whose utility coefficient outside the work environment is very low.

As a result, by blindly accepting her parents’ position as the only correct one, the girl deprives herself of the opportunity to be beautiful. And the reason for this is not laziness or indifference to oneself, but the shame of transgressing the boundaries of a false “norm” that she herself skillfully erected. But how can you start taking care of yourself if it seems like everyone around you is putting obstacles in the way?

What is self-care?

The mistake of many women is that they place the entire principle of developing external beauty in the desire to look beautiful, while missing the important detail that you also need to feel, realize, and present yourself beautifully. A very expensive cream will not make the skin glow if the girl’s usual state is depression, and instead of proper nutrition, the diet contains liters of coffee and fast food.

The real answer to the question of how a woman can take care of herself and her internal state is based on three components:

1. Pay attention to your health.
2. Search for harmony, timely elimination of any factors of psychological discomfort.
3. The desire to be liked and admired.

Missing the situation on at least one point leads to the fact that the girl will not be able to find peace of mind and her path to herself will take a lot of time and effort.

What is important at 50+

The age of menopause in women, which is accompanied by changes in hormonal levels. Insufficient estrogen production leads to rapid aging of the dermis. Cells recover much more slowly, and the pH level changes. At this age, a woman should have at her disposal a whole arsenal of skincare products marked 50+ and with the following properties:

• hydration;
• cleansing;
• nutrition;
• tightening – lifting effect;
• protection;
• regeneration.

The help of a professional cosmetologist plays a huge role. At 50+, it is almost impossible to restore the contours and elasticity of the skin on your own. In this case, rejuvenation is carried out using contour plastic surgery, thread lifting, laser and injection cosmetology.

Self-care - where to start?

Realizing that something important has left her life, namely her femininity and her real purpose - to please the world, a woman can begin to look for easy ways to restore internal balance, which will only lead to a superficial adjustment of a difficult situation. The fact is that, having “seen the light” and seeing their unsightly situation, girls strive to achieve immediate results, and since they have only a vague idea of ​​​​the desired effect, there is little chance of waiting for it.

How can a woman start taking care of herself right away? Of course, not from active actions, but from the search for a long-lost state of inner comfort.

General recommendations

The first thing you need to know is your skin type, so it will be easier to choose a care complex. A healthy lifestyle is beneficial for the whole body, and for the epidermis and hair in particular. At any age, proper care is necessary, but it is also important to understand what to do at different times of the year: how to care for your face in winter, in hot weather, in rainy weather, and so on.

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Steps to yourself

In total, we can highlight several points that will help a girl who has lost faith in her beauty to again feel interested in herself:

1. "Getting out of your comfort zone." This is the most important step, since the girl will have to give up all her usual “debts” in relation to others, which have already become part of her personal needs, and realize what she owes herself. On a piece of paper, a woman writes the words: “My desires,” and below makes a list of what exactly she wants (to be beautiful, buy a new dress, start learning languages).
2. “No to automation.” A person performs many actions automatically and therefore loses awareness of their importance. A woman must again learn to enjoy simple actions - a morning shower, applying body cream, the pleasant sensation of walking barefoot.
3. "To-do list". The main cause of stress and self-doubt is considered to be the inability of some women to organize their time. In order to set aside an evening hour for self-care and not miss anything in this procedure, a woman should write down all the required manipulations in advance and record on paper the exact time when this will happen.
4. “My interests are my rules.” No matter how busy a woman is with work and everyday issues, she is obliged to put aside the interests of other people three times a week and devote several hours to her hobby or active sports (better if equally to both).

And finally, we must not forget to praise ourselves for every overcoming of internal complexes, for every episode of victory over laziness. Expanding your comfort zone is hard, leaving it is a big victory that requires encouragement.

Inner attitude is the main component of care

The basis for improving external beauty is peace of mind and tranquility. A girl torn by contradictions, dissatisfied with her job or her marriage, will not be able to ensure that her image radiates magnetism and serves as a source of inspiration. Therefore, as part of the answer to the question of how to start caring for yourself, the first point of any technique on this topic will be to find your own point of balance in the world. A woman is a carrier of special, inexhaustible energy, which must be learned to control, and this alone is the key to future success.

How to start taking care of yourself? First, you need to imagine that the outer shell, the body, is only a tool with which a woman expresses her emotions and makes them visible to others. This means that the unsatisfactory condition of the “tool” - bad skin, sloppiness, illness - is only a natural reaction to negative processes coming from within. By eliminating these factors - bad thoughts, envy and dissatisfaction with herself, the girl also eradicates the causes of her deplorable condition.

Mindfulness

While performing any cosmetic procedure, it is very important that you are in this moment, that you are in contact with yourself, your feelings, concentrate on it and remember why you are doing it, remember your goals and meanings.

Your strength lies in concentration, not in weapons, and numerous rituals will help you train this skill. Therefore, be sure to create your own rituals that will tune you into the right wave.

Contact with the body, with your feelings

While applying the cream to your face, you don’t need to think about financial problems, problems with children, or a conflict at work. This is only your time, devote it entirely to yourself. Feel your skin on your fingertips. What is she like? What emotions are you currently touching yourself with?

Fashion & Style

Afraid of being branded as “backward” in fashion or, worse, declaring with their appearance the absence of a certain style, girls forget about the main thing - that items of clothing should resonate not so much with each other, but with the way of thinking of the owner. Therefore, in order to learn how to take care of yourself, you should not be too fashionable - blindly copying model images robs a girl of her individuality.

Carelessness in preserving one’s own “I” is the same sloppiness, only hidden deep inside. If a woman is used to sportswear and is comfortable in sneakers, then by putting on heels and locking herself in a formal suit, she does not change her image - she loses the only style that corresponded to her essence. This does not mean that sporty girls are going against themselves by following the office dress code, but now the stores have enough options for clothes and shoes that look harmonious in a formal setting, but at the same time emphasize the individuality of the housewife.

Body care

Often, women cover up their reluctance to start taking care of themselves, both thoroughly and simply, with the imperfection of their figure and the fact that “no matter how hard you try, it still won’t get better.” Such excuses have a psychologically relaxing effect on them; it’s as if the girl deliberately abdicates responsibility for her unkempt appearance, citing her alleged “inability” to cope with obvious problems. As a result, external untidiness adds up to minor natural flaws, which necessarily affects a woman’s character.

The bathroom of a self-respecting lady should have at least a minimum set of personal care items. How to start taking care of yourself without resorting to too expensive methods? All you need is 6 bathroom and cosmetic accessories, such as:

• hard loofah sponge;
• a jar of scrub (you can make it “homemade”);
• shower gel;
• file for rough skin;
• a product (tool) for removing excess hair from the body;
• moisturizing body cream.

The washcloth should be used every day, rubbing until red after the main bath has been completed and the skin has been washed clean. This simple procedure will delay the aging process for a long time and keep the body elastic. Once a week you need to devote time to your heels and elbows, where the skin, if not taken care of, wrinkles and greatly disrupts the aesthetics of the image.

Peeling is required not only for the body, but also for the hands. After applying the abrasive agent to the body, it is necessary to rub it for at least a minute from the tips of the fingers to the top of the wrists in a circular, strong motion. It is better to purchase a separate hand cream, but in the absence of such an option, the composition that is applied to the whole body is also suitable.

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Hair as an indicator of care

A stylish hairstyle is an indicator of the desire for ideal, but the condition of the girl’s hair will tell about real grooming not by the careful styling of her hair. Split ends, strands sticky from yesterday's hairspray, greasy or unpainted roots - these are the main criteria for criminal sloppiness, which is almost impossible to hide using camouflage methods.

The curls of a girl who has decided to start taking care of herself, no matter how busy her schedule is, should always be cleanly washed and combed. Hair, even just tied with a hairpin at the back of the head, is one of the first factors that attracts attention during the first acquaintance. Untrimmed ends and tangled, greasy strands cause a very negative reaction from others, even to the point of persistent disgust towards an unkempt individual. Taking this fact into account, the girl should often pay attention to whether her hair is in order.

The girl’s face is the basis of the image

Not every skin can be brought to an ideal state, but you need to constantly strive for this. A well-groomed face is, first of all, clean, without spots or rashes and, of course, without a thick layer of makeup. Serious flaws cannot be corrected with foundation anyway, but it’s easier than ever to ruin the skin even more and make it lifeless.

In the modern world, natural tattooing on the face is widespread. With such indelible coloring, the girl feels beautiful even when she wakes up in the morning. Most often, the permanent is applied to the eyebrow area, the outer corners of the eyes and the outer contour of the lips, but mostly girls who lead a very active lifestyle resort to the fashionable technique. Having a permanent tattoo significantly reduces the time spent on makeup, but does not reduce the need for personal care.

How can a woman take care of herself so that her face is always in order and the condition of her skin evokes positive emotions in her? It is important to approach even such a simple matter consistently.

Attractive smile

When we speak, very often our interlocutors look at the lower part of their face. How awkward it becomes if we remember that our lips are peeling, and the color of our tooth enamel, due to our love for coffee and tea, leaves much to be desired! But it’s not at all difficult to organize complete lip care at home.

First of all, choose a high-quality, non-abrasive toothpaste that will take care of your oral hygiene without compromising your health. By the way, read about the rules for choosing the right toothpaste and the need to analyze its composition.

Exfoliate dry cells with a soft toothbrush and moisturize your lips with lip balm or lipstick. If you are not allergic to bee products, then ordinary honey or special products with beeswax will take care of the tenderness of the skin of your lips more effectively than luxury tricks.

Only a doctor can solve serious dental problems. But there are some things we can do at home:

1. Choose the right toothbrush.
2. Change your toothbrush once every three months.
3. Don't forget to floss.

To prevent the formation of tartar, plaque that gradually hardens, or to remove existing deposits, after brushing your teeth, treat the surface of your teeth with a cotton swab dipped in hydrogen peroxide. Not immediately, but you will notice positive changes. This gentle whitening course can last up to 2 weeks. After this you should take a break.

How to start taking care of your face?

A working girl can afford to take 15 minutes in the morning and 30-40 minutes in the evening to cleanse her facial skin and give it a healthy look. In the morning, the skin only needs a mild peeling procedure with a non-abrasive product, then wiped with toner and applied with a daytime moisturizer. In the evening, tired skin is rehabilitated with deep cleansing, a mask is applied and, at the end of the manipulations, the cream is distributed with light massage movements.

At any time of the year, the makeup of a girl who takes care of herself should not attract attention - the center of attention should always be the woman herself, and not her contouring skills. In the summer, it is better to avoid foundation, since a concealer that floats under the sun looks unacceptable. It is acceptable to mattify oily areas of the skin with light loose powder, but each girl decides for herself whether to use decorative cosmetics, because this is also an important part of self-care. How can a woman take care of herself and her face?

If the girl is not used to taking time for herself every day, then she needs to start small - for example, during the first week, every morning and evening, wash her face with a special “3 in 1” foam. After seven days, you can add a cleansing mask before bed or a session of intense tapping massage to this procedure, which will already become familiar. It is very important not to interrupt the series of sessions due to fatigue or busyness, otherwise it will become more difficult to get back into the rut.

What is important at 20+ years old?

The age when pubertal hormonal changes are already behind us, and it seems too early to think about aging. But this is a misconception, since care needs to be learned from an early age. Young people need to adhere to preventive measures to ensure that their skin remains radiant, fresh and smooth for a long time. How to properly care for facial skin at the age of 20+:

1. Be sure to maintain fluid intake. Previously, it was believed that it was necessary to drink up to 1.5 - 2 liters per day. Now nutritionists and cosmetologists adhere to slightly different tactics - you need to drink when you want. But you should monitor your water balance very carefully. When the skin lacks moisture, it immediately signals this by dryness.
2. During the day, particles of dust and dirt accumulate on the surface of the dermis. Before going to bed, cleansing with foams or gels is required. Be sure to remove makeup. Properly give the dermis the opportunity to receive nutrition even during sleep - a face cream marked 20+ will help deliver all the nutritional components to the cells. The same scheme applies to the area around the eyes.
3. UV protection. In winter, use a product with SPF 30; in summer, apply cream with SPF 50 before going outside.

At this age, acne can also appear; there can be many reasons for this - from poor diet to stress. Visits to a cosmetologist will help avoid more serious problems.

Daily Self-Care

Below is a list of actions that should be present daily in the life of any girl interested in increasing her attractiveness:

• morning stretching or exercise after sleep;
• shower with warm water;
• simple washing or scrubbing the skin, applying cream;
• Hair Styling;
• if possible, take a short walk;
• During the working day, the girl needs to eat small portions in 2-3 approaches;
• upon returning home, you should take a shower;
• 2-3 times a week, 1 evening hour should be devoted to sports;
• It is better to give up watching TV or the computer after work and devote time free from worries to positive communication with family;
• during evening bathing, care for the body and face is required more thoroughly than in the morning;
• Before going to bed, you need to prepare clothes for tomorrow's exit.

Doctors recommend that women, in order to maintain youth longer and always look well-groomed, go to bed no later than 22:00. Then even getting up early at 5 or 6 am will not become a source of stress accumulation.

The importance of motivation

In her life, a woman experiences a lot of episodes that force her to seriously think about her appearance and begin to take emergency measures. But, as a rule, such a “shake-up” is temporary and gradually the woman returns to the previous state of indifference towards herself.

True motivation, which can set the dynamics of long-term actions, should not come from external factors, such as falling in love or the approach of a significant date. Internal stimulation has the greatest power when a woman herself feels the need for change.

Signs that your attitude towards yourself needs to change radically can include your husband’s detachment or loneliness, reluctance to look in the mirror, and symptoms of depression. Realizing this is already an important step towards looking at yourself from the outside and asking yourself the main question: “Could I, being a different person, love someone like me now?” A negative answer to this question will be the key point of motivation, on the basis of which decisive actions will be built.

Do not self-medicate for acne

No one is happy with pimples and “black spots” on the skin. Your hands are reaching out to squeeze them out, and advertisements for numerous products promise that if you just buy this magical lotion/ointment/cream, everything will go away in literally 5 minutes. Unfortunately, if everything were so simple, there would be no people with problem skin at all - where would they come from if you can get rid of any pimple so easily and quickly?

How will be correct?

Acne treatment should be carried out by a dermatologist or cosmetologist. The approach to treatment is always comprehensive, and first of all, the doctor will recommend a biochemical blood test, an ultrasound of the abdominal cavity, suggest checking for the presence of parasites, and may refer you to a consultation with an immunologist, gastroenterologist, gynecologist or endocrinologist, if there is an indication for this. And only after problems with the gastrointestinal tract, liver, genitourinary system, etc., have been ruled out, can treatment be prescribed.

The approach to treating acne varies depending on the severity of the disease, the extent of the process, the age and gender of the patient.

Since acne most often appears due to hormonal dysfunction, they are usually treated with hormonal contraceptives (for girls only) and retinoids (for both girls and men). All drugs are prescribed only after a comprehensive examination and under the constant supervision of a doctor. The selection of contraceptives is carried out jointly by a gynecologist and a dermatologist, taking into account the individual characteristics of the patient’s body.

Retinoids are a synthetic analogue of vitamin A, specially developed specifically for the treatment of acne. Retinoids, in most cases, allow one to achieve stable remission for up to 5–6 years.

For all types of acne, local treatment is required. The drug is selected depending on the severity of the manifestations and the nature of the rash.

In addition to the specific treatment of acne, the doctor will work to eliminate the root cause of the disease: this may include prescribing medications that normalize the function of the gastrointestinal tract, treatment of parasitosis, the correct selection of cosmetics that will not have a comedogenic effect (does not clog pores), and correction of the personal hygiene system.