Elton John, Boris Moiseev, Nero, George Gordon Byron - men who are easy to describe in one word. It’s no secret that this category includes the somewhat unconventional “stronger sex.”
Recently, the ranks of homosexuals have been joining the regiment every year. Women are in despair, because among the crowd of sexual minorities there are a huge number of muscular handsome men who, unfortunately, are wearing oversized stockings under their rough jeans. Why does a man love a man?
And God created Man
Humanity came into being through the many efforts of Adam and Eve. However, the latter was created specifically for a man, for pleasure and the continuation of the human race. Man and woman are created differently, therefore they arouse great interest, lust, attraction and love in each other. Brutal males need a seductive female.
However, something went wrong, and subsequently the bearded man, instead of the gentle woman, began to feel the desire to hug and caress another, no less bearded guy. A man loves a man... sounds strange, wild, but modern. The girls are perplexed: previously they had to fight with each other for the right to be called someone’s girlfriend, but now their beloved guy must be won from the stronger, and at the same time, “fair” sex.
Loneliness is the price for love
Despite all the advantages of same-sex relationships, they are all doomed to collapse and collapse in the future, and people are doomed to loneliness. Why does a guy love a guy? Yes, just like that, because he just loves. But for ordinary, traditional couples, sooner or later the “candy-bouquet” period ends, they begin to think about family, about children, which same-sex couples cannot boast of. They just have to enjoy each other, but like all good things, over time it will just get boring. In order not to be left alone, a man will find a new partner, and then a second, and a third, and a fourth... But in his old age, most likely, he will have no one - no partner, no wife, no children, no grandchildren. And the surrounding society will often bypass him.
“Disease” of the modern world2
A society that condemns same-sex relationships expresses vehement condemnations and assumptions about the coming Apocalypse. Where have you seen a guy marry a guy? This fact is blamed on the lack of morals, perverted views on love and the rapid development of the 21st century, when humanity is trying to try everything: technology, gourmet dishes, the taste of freedom and other excesses. People seem to run one in front of the other, trying to surprise others, impress, and talk about themselves. As a result, they are inclined to do the most amazing things: conquer space, invent a truth serum, change their sexual orientation.
However, for a guy who loves a man, he doesn’t care about the opinions and condemnation of others. He feels good and calm with a loved one, and it doesn’t matter at all what gender he belongs to.
Attitudes towards homosexuality
As it has already turned out, earlier such a phenomenon, although it was rare, still occurred, but, as a rule, they tried to hide such relationships from prying eyes. The love of same-sex couples was not made public, since this is not the norm, which means that other people could laugh at them, beat them, or even execute them. In the modern world, every person has the right to their own point of view, even if it does not coincide with the opinions of others. Although homosexuals today have a much easier life than in ancient times, they can become an object of discussion. Someone shuns them, tries to protect them from themselves, making same-sex couples outcasts. Others, trying to demonstrate that they are right, may be extremely negative towards them and even try to cause them physical harm and injury. Well, still others simply try not to notice them, and if they still have to communicate, then they put homosexuals on an equal footing with themselves, without belittling them morally and talking to them as with ordinary people without any deviations.
Reasons for gay orientation3
For many years, homosexual love was considered a mental disorder. While one man is groping another in a secluded corner, bright minds are making assumptions about why this fact is taking place:
- Mental illness.
- Esotericists suggest that the “lost” soul at conception ended up in the wrong body.
- First sexual experience with someone of the same sex.
- Saturation with sexual life, desire to experience new sensations.
- Great disappointment in women.
Scientific view of homosexuals4
Recently, society has been loyal to guys who kiss. What in the old days was called “the shame of the Lord” in modern times is allowed, approved, and, in some corners of the world, encouraged. Scientists are inclined to think that “homosexuality” is a genetic trait. There are several interesting versions that “explain” the factor in the appearance of “blueness” in the blood of a seemingly ordinary child:
- A specific mutation in the X chromosome gives the heroes of Hollywood films unusual superpowers, when an ordinary “nerd” turns into the formidable Hulk or Superman. In real life, this chromosome transforms an ordinary man into a “cute girl”, not without balls and stiff stubble.
- Scientists who have been observing pistils, stamens and bugs for a long time have discovered a funny thing: an infertile male is prone to distorted sexuality. The conclusion suggests itself: a man who is unable to produce offspring seeks solace in the strong embrace of a man.
- An interesting legend came from midwives that a hormonal disorder during the second trimester of pregnancy has an impact on the sexual preferences of the future man.
A man's love for a woman
What is love? Women have already built up a series of associations in their heads: kisses, walks under the moon, romance, family, children...
Unconsciously, they expect this from men and are disappointed if the relationship does not develop as described in romance novels and poems...
What is love for a man? This is a responsibility. Do you think why the stronger sex so rarely says “I love you”? Guys know those three words make them vulnerable.
Along with recognition, a woman receives a powerful weapon, which she will definitely use.
“Well, buy me this handbag, you love me,” “If you care even a little about me, you will never call him again.” Sounds familiar, doesn't it?
Psychology claims that love is an integral part of every person’s life.
Don’t think that men are cold-blooded reptiles incapable of showing emotion.
They feel everything, but differently! True love is visible to the naked eye if you know where to look! And you need to evaluate not words, but actions!
Keep it simple . Many men build relationships according to the principle: “if it works, don’t touch it!”
It is women who like to complicate everything and make Napoleonic plans for the future.
You should not expect that your partner will offer to move in with him or get married after just a couple of dates.
On the contrary, this would be an alarming sign: is this a gigolo or a maniac?
But if he strives to maintain tactile contact, listens attentively to your chirping about today's shopping and is worried that your coat is too light - this says a lot!
Dating . Men can sometimes back down. But none of them admits that “yes, I was a little chickened out, everything is developing too quickly and unpredictably.”
Rather, it will sound streamlined: “I need a little time.” Face it, sometimes a man’s personal space has to be conquered millimeters by millimeters.
It’s also not easy for strong and mature guys to change their lives. And sometimes letting a woman in is even worse than flying to Jupiter!
Therefore, accept the rules of his game and do not impose. He will soon realize that he misses your company and capitulate!
If your partner is too persistent, he may well turn out to be a manipulator. After all, you can’t let the fish get off the hook!
Sexual attraction. Puritan morals have long been out of fashion. If your relationship has moved to a new level, take a closer look at how the man behaves?
A loving partner not only takes, but also generously gives pleasure. In bed, is everything subordinated to his interests? Well, this is a typical tyrant or narcissist.
Care . Handing over a coat or moving a chair is basic politeness. But if he is nearby when you feel bad, rushes to help at the first call, allows you to cry on his man’s shoulder - this is love!
He may console you a little clumsily or be completely silent, but he tenderly wipes the tears from your face and allows you to bask in his arms.
Responsibility . Loving men feel responsible for your well-being and try to make your life easier.
A real man doesn't ask for a medal for buying groceries at the supermarket or fixing a lock. He does this to please you! And praise is a pleasant bonus that inspires new achievements!
Man of blue blood5
From an early age, women dream of a handsome prince, but what a disappointment they become when in reality there is an abundance of not so much royal offspring as other persons of “blue blood.” Contrary to public opinion, these guys look courageous and attractive.
Most fans of sodomy have an image of an athletic, muscular guy, with a handsome, masculine face and stylish clothes. But modern ladies also look beautiful: chiseled figures, eyelash extensions, silky hair, fashionable clothes. But this “heavy artillery” remains powerless when a man loves a man.
Is it worth becoming a “bitch”?
If girls with such a nature don’t have problems from men, then maybe it’s worth becoming such a bitch? You know, although men choose bitches, they want to live with a completely different personality. They will not like quarrelsomeness, self-sufficiency, etc. That is why it is wise not to take this step if you dream of a happy family.
You just need to learn to “pamper” your husband or boyfriend with attacks so that he is not drawn there. Also, some aspects of a bitch need to be adopted by an ordinary, “flexible” girl. For example, it is very important to learn to love yourself. This is immediately noticeable. There must be women's pride. By the way, in the video below, a relationship psychologist explains this issue perfectly.
The main thing is not to lose yourself and remain yourself. If the same one is not nearby today, this does not mean that you will never meet him. Most likely life will bring you down. You just need to give it time. Love to all, our dear readers. Don't despair. And one more thing... It’s easy to become a bitch, but it’s difficult to go back. But men do not choose this type of woman for marriage.
We updated this article on February 5, 2021.
Such fashionable love6
They say that sexual minorities are fashionable and relevant. Every guy can touch and kiss a busty girl, but not everyone will dare to squeeze an unshaven, sweaty man in a steely embrace! But, unfortunately, the crowd of applicants is growing. First one or the other guy proclaims in an interview about his “unusual preference”, with such pride, as if he had climbed Everest, and not in the chambers of his own kind.
Among creative personalities there is a huge percentage of the “blues of this world”: stylists, designers, musicians, actors and singers. No one is embarrassed to show “feelings” for what is “laid by nature by the stepmother.” Some teenagers and young men take the thorny path of homosexuality in pursuit of unusual status and fame.
Same-sex love
The very concept of same-sex love appeared in ancient times. Love between a guy and a guy was mentioned back in Ancient Egypt. During one of the archaeological excavations, a papyrus scroll was found, which spoke about the warm homosexual relationship of Garus and Fet, they were gods, which means that such relationships were quite acceptable. According to other studies, it was found that later such unconventional love began to be found in Asia, America, and Africa. But in Ancient Rome, Babylon, Greece and India, the so-called male love was very popular. But such relationships were allowed only to the highest strata of social society. In the East, homosexuality did not manifest itself in the form of permanent relationships between two same-sex people; there it was different - young gay boys satisfied the sexual needs of their masters. Both girls and men can be homosexuals; the former are popularly called “pink”, and the latter “blue”.
Male mansion7
Among the famous musical figures in the past, there is a rather talented composer Pyotr Ivanovich Tchaikovsky. One might say – the pride of the “blue” sex. Petya was born an ordinary boy, but his long stay in a mixed-sex school gave him the idea of classmates who were handsome and rosy-cheeked. My heart started beating out of boredom and my hands reached out to the guys.
One of the reasons for a homosexual breakthrough may be a long stay in the company of men. Many of the prisoners are inclined to have sexual relations with same-sex jailers.
Consequences of being raised by an abusive mother8
Sigmund Freud, who also belonged to the category of “mood color blue,” nevertheless carefully understood the secrets of male psychology that generate love feelings for another man. He came to the conclusion that the reason for the boys’ same-sex love could be a very despotic mother, who tyrannized her son from early childhood and treated him cruelly. The boy developed a powerful aversion to the female sex. Years go by, body and soul are looking for love, but the girls are disgusting. But the young men are not. They are courageous, kind, understanding, just like himself. Bottom line: a man loves a man.
Private opinion
The desire to love and be loved is not just a desire or a whim, it is a vital need. Man is a social being, he simply needs a partner on whom he can rely in difficult times, who will support him, and vice versa, in good times will rejoice with him. If there are no such people among the representatives of the opposite sex, then there is nothing to worry about. The main thing is to find your “soul mate” and be mutually happy. But it should be remembered that children are born only to opposite-sex couples, this is how nature works, and it cannot be changed. Therefore, homosexual couples should not have children, and the issue of adoption should be resolved with a firm refusal. There is nothing wrong with sincere mutual love, it’s wonderful, but raising children, traumatizing them, making them like yourself is fundamentally wrong.
Heal a wounded heart9
There is an opinion that most homosexuals in the past were ordinary guys who happily squeezed their classmates and ran after their skirts. Then a woman appeared in their lives - a predator, an evil bitch, who broke the fragile male soul and broke his fragile wounded heart. The couple was in strong conflict situations, falling into the trap of complete misunderstanding.
The partner brought pain and humiliation to a man of such a powerful character that she completely changed his character, worldview and orientation. The guy began to understand that it was more difficult to chase skirts than men's pants, and instead of girls, he began to pay attention to the stronger sex.
You are special to him
A man may like you, but he may not immediately understand it himself. Something on an intuitive level will attract him to you. According to statistics, women are more likely to feel sympathy towards themselves than men, even before it is shown as expected.
But it is very important for you to know for sure that he likes you. Especially if you like the young man himself. But if you see, based on the signs described above, that you are attractive to a man, you can take some steps towards each other yourself.
Men's joys10
Why does a man love a man? Probably it’s a matter of internal insecurity and discomfort. Next to a guy, a representative of the stronger sex experiences a feeling of warmth and understanding. It’s like he’s behind a “strong wall” where he won’t be offended or pushed away, but will be hugged and caressed. The same large, calloused hands.
Next to such a person, a man does not have to be strong and confident. He can indulge in weaknesses and sorrows, become despondent, cry, express feelings. It’s more difficult with women: they are insidious, sarcastic, too mysterious and incomprehensible. A guy needs to have a third eye and a sixth sense to determine where his partner’s erogenous zones are, how an orgasm is achieved, and why an annoying facial expression appears during sex. It's easier with men. His body is the same as his partner’s, there is more than enough understanding of each other: as they say - a soul mate.
From a physiological point of view, the erogenous zones in men are located in the anus. Anal sex, caressing this area with the tongue, gives the guy unearthly pleasure. Not every young lady has the desire and ability to caress a man the way he wants, and a “gay boy” knows all the secrets about secret pleasure.
Reasons for same-sex love
There are many reasons why a guy loves a guy, it’s simply impossible to list them all, especially since in order to turn from a heterosexual to a homosexual, there must be several reasons at once, but they can be divided into groups:
- Frustration in ordinary relationships. First of all, thoughts about changing orientation come after an unsuccessful experience in a relationship with the opposite sex. Having once stumbled upon failure, men often do not want to build everything over again, which is why they either try to avoid serious relationships with women, or are increasingly thinking about changing their orientation.
- Absolute understanding. It is no secret that only a woman is able to understand another woman one hundred percent; it is on this understanding that friendship is built; apparently, the same is true for men.
- Curiosity. 50 percent of all homosexuals came to this lifestyle solely because of their excessive curiosity. When intimate intimacy with women does not bring the former delight and admiration, all the wonderful feelings decline, and the man begins to look for new, sharper sensations. Some people renew and transform their relationships with women, while others prefer to change everything radically, increasingly thinking about why a guy loves a guy, and over time, even becoming bisexual or homosexual.
- Psychological disorders. Same-sex male love can arise due to ordinary (or not so common) psychological disorders, such as stress, depression, apathy, since during such conditions a healthy mind is slightly dulled, which can lead to rash actions.
Another, forbidden love11
When a man loves a man, his feelings are more physiological and friendly in nature. Experiments and stormy scenes in bed, mixed with intimate conversations and courtship, make homosexuals happy and satisfied with their own choice. However, nature inherent in every human nature is an attraction to the opposite sex. The absence of a woman in a guy's life brings a feeling of emptiness that a gay man may not realize. “Darlings” get married, have families, and even try to raise adopted children.
Should I tell my children?
If the husband communicates with another man, then solving this problem is not at all easy. When he leaves the family for his new lover, and you have children, you have to decide what to tell them. Should we initiate them or not into their father’s secret? How to explain to them the appearance of someone else’s uncle on the horizon, because of which their mommy and daddy want to separate? Of course, this issue must be resolved with the father of your children. You must together choose the optimal version of what is happening and not change it, so as not to confuse your offspring. Please note that the age of the children directly affects the amount of truth in your revelations.
Children under a certain age generally find it difficult to understand the issue of sexual orientation. A child aged 3–4 years has just learned to speak clearly, so it is better for such children not to know anything and to come up with some kind of story. For example: “Your dad and I can no longer live together because we are very different. We still love you and will never leave you. Dad will stay with his friend for now, and you will see him whenever you want.”
Between the ages of 7 and 10, the truth about your father's orientation should be revealed at your discretion. You can talk about this in a playful way, speaking respectfully about dad. If your husband does not hide his inclinations from society, it is better to illuminate the true state of affairs to the child. Otherwise, “well-wishers” will tell the truth, which will alienate the child from you and provoke the emergence of psychological problems.
Remember that if you learn about your father's homosexuality only in adolescence, the child will receive a much greater blow. After all, it is teenagers who take such news the hardest, as they immediately begin to develop complexes and even hate their parents.
Take the question of whether or not to tell your child that your husband loves other men as seriously as possible. The responsibility for conveying information to your children about their father's sexuality rests solely on your shoulders. But you can contact a psychologist so that he can tell you how to do this competently and not cause mental trauma to your child.
Conqueror of men's hearts12
What attracts the stronger sex to each other and why does a man love a man? A social survey among special representatives of the “fairer sex” names several points:
- Beautiful buttocks. The elastic part below the back attracts both women and men. Full bulges just beg for a vigorous spanking. When a “sweet object” has such a body part, it is a desirable tidbit for a homosexual.
- Masculine facial features. Hetero guys prefer the gentle oval features of a woman, while guys of sexual minorities who have felt the sweetness of men’s hands feel weak when stroking the muscular faces of the stronger sex. Cute “blue faces” are drawn to “real” men, with a strong character and a “solid core” that emerges in the guy’s face.
What to do for a perplexed wife: a psychologist analyzes the situation
Reactions to news of a spouse's homosexuality may vary. The desire to hit him with something heavier, to cut off the wound with rusty scissors, or to shoot both him and his lover is a normal phenomenon, but it’s not worth bringing a fictitious crime to life. Save the man's life at least for the sake of the years of marriage that he gave you. Do not tell your friends, and especially your parents, about a sensitive problem. Your spouse’s inclination towards same-sex love must remain a secret, otherwise neither you nor he can avoid condemnation and stupid questions. In order not to aggravate the situation and not to regret, try to take into account these recommendations:
- Let your husband have his say. You can yell and call names at any time, but the word is not a sparrow, and subsequently it will be difficult to hear your spouse’s unbiased version of his inclinations. Let him explain, show respect. Perhaps he hid his attraction to men from you because he valued you and did not want to offend you. Or he really loves you, but can’t help his passion for the toned torsos of athletes.
- Don't see your husband's partner as a rival. You are generally from different planets, you shouldn’t think about which of you is more beautiful and smarter, and who is a worse cook. You are a woman, and your husband’s lover is a man, and comparing your appearance and character traits is simply stupid. Don't attack your femininity, otherwise you'll get a bunch of complexes.
- Accept the situation. You are powerless to change anything, no matter how hard you try. The sexual orientation of your spouse cannot be controlled, as it is embedded in his psyche. Your husband is turned on by other men, not because you are bad or ugly. This happened not through your fault, but because of a combination of many circumstances and your spouse’s predisposition to same-sex love.
- Discuss the future with your spouse. After you find out that your husband has a male lover, you cannot just pick up and continue family life in the usual rhythm. We will have to decide something, and we need to do it together. Ask your spouse how he sees your future relationship. He may want to give up his inclinations and be with you in love and fidelity. If your husband still leaves for another man, don’t keep it. There is no need to make him suffer and live with you through force. Fate decreed in such a strange way: let your spouse go with a light heart and wish him happiness.
- Contact a family therapist if you decide to save your marriage. If a husband lives with a man or simply dates him, then there is a high probability that he may come to his senses and want to return to the family. Are you ready to take him back? Then it is better to undergo a joint course of therapy with a psychologist and resolve all issues to the end, so as not to return to them later and spoil the family idyll.
Be prepared for difficulties if you decide to go further through life with your spouse. It is quite difficult to forgive betrayal, and even more so adultery with a same-sex lover. If the husband had simple correspondence with men, albeit of an erotic nature, then look at it more simply, as ordinary words that have no weight. Fantasies do not always come true. Look at the actions of your half: if he regrets what he did and atones for his sins, then change your anger to mercy.
