Good day, my dear readers, Oksana Manoilo is with you and the topic is why you have no luck in your personal life with men? In this article we will talk about exactly this. It’s spring outside, the birds are chirping, and more and more people began to turn to me for help regarding their personal lives. So I decided to tell you something about this today. Provide practices for solving relationship problems.
Unlucky in your personal life?
In this article you will learn:
What are the reasons for such bad luck? I will try to present esoteric knowledge and the wisdom of our ancestors in a very simple form. And of course, I will offer methods for solving problems. So that you can easily start using it today. So that in the next month or two, you really see changes in yourself and in your personal life with men. To finally find your soul mate and be happy to your toes.
I have been deeply involved in esotericism for the last 10 years, but before that I, like everyone else, was rushing around, looking for myself and stuffing my bumps. Therefore, I understand you perfectly. Everything—everything that happens to you—is familiar to me. Today I am a happy mother of three amazing girls, a beloved wife and successful in my business, my calling. So, let's start understanding today's topic.
Why are you unlucky in your personal life with men - the opinion of psychics?
Have you noticed that we are surrounded by a huge number of people, most of whom have problems in their personal lives? And he doesn’t know what to do to solve them. Note that the “other part” does not even know about the existence of such problems. Why? No, not at all because they have no personal life. Simply, they know the secrets of how to improve their personal life. Those. they possess special knowledge and apply it in their lives. Be careful here! Stop for a moment. Again.
There is certain knowledge that allows you to build your personal life and harmonious relationships. These “lucky people” know how to manage the space around them in such a way that bad luck doesn’t even knock on their doors. And those who do not know the intricacies of the universe, do not know how the laws of the universe work, have problems in their personal lives and bad luck after bad luck.
Laws? Secrets? Someone will say: “What nonsense?”, “What are these laws?”
Of course, how could it be otherwise? Everything in the world is subject to some laws. Who knows, he's covered in chocolate! Those who are not, bear their own cross - this is the truth of life. I will list several reasons for bad luck in your personal life with the men you most often date.
Vicious circle
When you forget about everything in the world, just to find the desired life partner, you disrupt the natural course of events, introduce some kind of rush into your life, and begin to enter into one relationship or another.
Here it is important to stop and think, stop feeling sorry for yourself and start loving yourself. Calm down and understand that in order to build harmonious relationships you need to work on their quality. If you are not ready for this, get a better career, organize a trip, take a break, try to realize yourself in some area.
Reason #1 for bad luck - bitter experience of the past and fears
Do you remember the saying: “I get burned on milk, but it blows on water”? Who among us did not fall in love in our youth? Who among us has not suffered from unrequited love? It was then that this stupid confidence took root that “they are all the same.” This is a kind of program written into the subconscious to protect us in the future. Nature takes care of us in this way, protects us. But sometimes this defense mechanism plays a cruel joke.
And every time fate gave us another chance, we, without realizing it, refused it. It would be more correct to say that our fears did this for us.
But they fell in love again! But the weight of previous mistakes hung like a stone around my neck. Not allowing you to forget about the past pain for a second and therefore the failures are repeated.
Reasons for unsuccessful personal lives in women and how to deal with them
To the above reasons for the unsuccessful personal life of women, one should add the expectation of a rich groom. This misconception leads to the fact that the level of expectations from relationships very soon brings deep disappointments. If you want to create a strong relationship, you need to take into account that both partners will contribute to the material component. And then there will be no unnecessary expectations and resentment.
A woman may also experience fear of psychological and physical intimacy. A woman is not able to open her soul to a man. For her, time is important in order to become closer spiritually, overcome fear and gain trust in the chosen one.
All problems of relations between the sexes are solvable and painless if there is a high feeling of love between them: it both educates and neutralizes fears and doubts, and finally, it brings long-awaited happiness and harmony.
Reason #2 - incorrect settings, like dead ballast
Why is it difficult to build relationships? Have you paid attention to who is asking this question? As a rule, these are people over 30, who certainly live with their parents. Or people who have achieved much greater heights than perhaps they themselves planned. These people have one thing in common - in addition to problems in their personal lives - these are their attitudes.
“You should only communicate with people in your circle!” “It’s not appropriate for people in our society to communicate with people like that...” “People like him are no match for you!” “Don’t you dare even think about...” Sounds familiar? And try “disobey”!
The law of opposites attracting rarely fails. It was “thanks to him” that kings fell in love with beggar women, intellectuals with representatives of the middle class, there are a lot of similar examples.
Wrong attitudes imposed by our parents, environment, and sometimes we impose them on ourselves, are one of the reasons why we have no luck in our personal lives with men.
Reason #3 - your thoughts
All our thoughts have an addressee. Space, the universe reads all our thoughts and answers us. Think about how many positive thoughts are born in your head every day? “Where can I get money”, “Credit...”, “She’s sick again...”, “Yes, this job...”, etc., etc.
And only in the evening, after a shower, until sleep finds you, lonely and broken, in a chair in front of the TV with a glass of something... for some reason one single thought gets stuck in your throat: “Why am I so unlucky in my personal life with men?!”
Yes, because you are not doing it seriously and systematically! We were taught to look for work. They taught me how to get a job, but they didn’t teach me how to look for or manage my personal life. It is believed that it should somehow grow together by itself. Well, isn't it funny?
Reason #4 - life is unfair!
“Why am I having no luck in my personal life with men, help!” - What is this - a cry for help, or banal self-deception? Many complain that “life is unfair to them” and “that there are no “normal” men on their way.” For some reason, women in this area are more likely to complain. Men also have enough problems, but somehow they carry more and more of them within themselves.
Why isn't life fair? It is not always so. Often, we ourselves are not ready to let strangers into our lives, even those chosen by our hearts. Because by this moment life for 99% of those “complaining” had already somehow developed and settled down.
There is a crazy fear of losing freedom. The need to wash and cook (not only for yourself, your loved one!). Understanding that you will have to give up: carefree bachelor get-togethers with friends. From watching football matches in favor of the series and vice versa. From ingrained habits, etc. “It is much more profitable and convenient to love at a distance,” your subconscious, or your “ego” dictates to you...
Public opinion
Quite often, people wonder why their personal life is not working out, but at the same time they themselves do not know for sure whether this is actually so. How do you understand that there are really problems in this area of life? Public opinion plays an important role in this matter. A girl or man over 25 years old is increasingly asked questions about his personal life. "Why are you still single?" These words cut like a dagger into the heart. Based on constant questions, a whole bag of complexes arises, which can be expressed in the following statements:
- there is something wrong with me;
- I am too critical of the opposite sex;
- I will always remain lonely;
- I'm unhappy because I'm completely alone.
Moreover, those around you are constantly trying to give advice and guide you on the right path. All this absolutely does not help a person create a family, but on the contrary causes stiffness, negative emotions, a feeling of hopelessness and, as a result, depression.
For this reason, it is worth discarding public opinion. Maybe your personal life is not working out precisely because it is not you who wants it, but everyone around you? Listen to your inner voice, to the little child that sits inside you. What is he talking about?
Reason #5 - sacrifice, low self-esteem
One of the good reasons for breaking up a relationship, if one suddenly appears, is excessive sacrifice! “I am everything to him... and he?...” Or “What was he missing? I left my friends for him, and...” - sound familiar? Have you already heard it somewhere?
Or maybe it wasn’t worth sacrificing yourself on the sacrificial altar of love at all? Maybe you shouldn’t “do everything for him) and nothing for yourself?
One of the reasons that “there is no change on the personal front” is that as soon as people begin to develop more or less normal relationships and everything gets better for them, one of the partners will definitely begin to try on the mask of a sacrificial doe. For what??? You are loved for who you are! And this happiness must be cherished like the apple of your eye. Remember - low self-esteem is the enemy of a happy personal life.
Loneliness, lack of personal life, depression, feeling trapped - all these are links in the same chain. Agree, it is unlikely that if a person has a full personal life, he will feel lonely. Often depression is a consequence of a breakup.
Distrust of the opposite sex
Of course, both representatives of the female half of humanity and the male half have reasons to doubt each other. Why isn't your personal life working out? Women have only insidious and cunning plans, and men are all polygamous males. Such public opinion cannot but frighten. But on the other hand, how many happy couples surround us. Billions of people are getting married, getting married and being happy with their significant other.
Answer yourself the question, what is most important in a relationship? If you think about marriage and starting a family, then perhaps you have never been in love. This is a feeling that cannot be replaced by anything. In my head I think only about my loved one, and my heart clenches at just the mention of him. It is for this reason that it is worth experiencing this feeling at least once, even if you get burned the first time.
Methods for dealing with bad luck in your personal life
Now I want to give advice that is a dime a dozen on the Internet. The most interesting thing is that they are distributed right and left by those who themselves do not have a family, who do not have children, but they “understand a lot” about why they have no luck in their personal lives with men)))
When I read their recommendations, I clutch my head because someone will read this. Will take and follow these tips. Do you know what will happen?
You will be like a squirrel in a wheel spinning from one partner to another! From one relationship to another. And at this time the cats will scratch your soul. And there will still be no light in life.
This is what “smart” and “advanced egoists” without a family advise.
Fear of love
Sometimes two completely different feelings fight within a person. On the one hand, he wants to start a family, but on the other, he is afraid. Fear of love is usually associated with the fear of losing freedom, as well as the fact that the partner will bring pain and disappointment. Many people close their hearts from everyone, but at the same time they wonder why their personal life is not working out.
A girl’s fear can be associated both with her own bitter experience and with the stories of acquaintances and friends. But men suffer the most from this problem. They are very afraid of losing their freedom. As soon as the relationship becomes serious, and it’s time to propose, the man flees.
Why are you unlucky in your personal life with men and what to do?
The answer is on the surface - trust fate, do not limit yourself to communicating with people exclusively from your circle. Open up to the world and it will open up to you.
Acknowledge the fact that there is a problem. Allow yourself to be weak and accept outside help... You need to make a choice, leave one comfort zone in order to enter another...
Start taking care of yourself. Learn to listen and hear your body - start pampering yourself with all kinds of salons. Visiting the fitness center should become an integral part of your life. A well-groomed woman cannot help but attract the attention of men!
Going to the theater, restaurant or visiting an exhibition once a week is not a luxury. But rather, it is a necessity for you. Love yourself, value yourself and soon you will feel how your life is changing.
What can I tell you, in modern realities there are quite a lot of well-groomed, beautiful, attractive, earning, but VERY LONELY women. Who cry into their pillow at night and turn to me for help.
It’s not all about the external, whatever one may say. The most important thing is what is inside a person. I am now talking about the spiritual component, the spiritual component. Nowadays consumption has become the norm. And many, without noticing, in relationships only demand, demand and demand. But with the sensual line, with truly feminine energies, there is a problem.
Tell me honestly, do you know women around who are “ugly”, plump, seemingly unsightly, but they have a family, a full cup in the house and comfort?
Unfortunately, now they don’t teach us to be gentle, they don’t teach us to be open. And this is precisely what a modern woman lacks. I believe that when there are problems in your personal life, you need to work on yourself, start with yourself.
I'm 35, single, lack of intimate life undermines my health. What should I do?
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Reader question:
Hello. The question concerns intimate relationships. I'm 35, not married. I understand that we need to come to something in life. There are male health problems (vascular impotence). The doctor says that you need to be sexually active, otherwise the treatment will be ineffective and useless. I know that sex before marriage is unacceptable in the Church. On the other hand, as far as I know, the inability of one of the spouses to have an intimate life is sufficient grounds for the dissolution of a church marriage. It turns out that in order to get married, you need to be treated, and vice versa. Vicious circle.
There is, of course, another path, monasticism, but, to be honest, I can hardly imagine myself in the role of a monk, and, in my opinion, they go to a monastery for completely different reasons...
It turns out that in my case I have to live out my life alone if I didn’t manage to get married in my youth (as far as I know, in the absence of an intimate life, problems arise for everyone, and a woman must be chaste before marriage, which is nonsense at this age), while It is much easier for non-church people in this regard. What to do in this situation?
Oleg
Priest Viktor Nikishov answers:
Priest Victor NIKISHOV
God bless you!
In your situation, you need to decide on the priority. If you, as a Christian, are concerned about eternal life and the Kingdom of Heaven, then you should rely on the will of God. If you find your chosen one quickly, then thank the Lord. And if you don’t find it and your illness worsens and you lose the opportunity to live an intimate life with your future spouse, then you should come to terms with the will of God. But falling into fornication for the sake of maintaining treatment and health is a dead-end and sinful path. This way you can irrevocably damage your soul, harden your heart and lose the opportunity to love a person of the opposite sex. It is not for nothing that the sin of fornication is called a mortal sin. This sin destroys the soul. And it is impossible to return the original chastity.
Now you should prepare the ground for family life. Take a closer look at yourself and correct those shortcomings that may scare away your chosen one. Get rid of bad habits, work on psychological problems, look for a profitable job. You can ask your friends or a psychologist to point out the shortcomings that can scare off a person of the opposite sex and tell you how to emphasize your strengths.
In addition to the path of family life and monasticism, there is a third path, the so-called celibacy. He is perhaps the most difficult. A person lives his entire life alone, without starting a family or entering a monastery. This path is difficult, since along the way you will encounter constant temptations: the desire to fall into fornication, and you can easily fall into the vices of drunkenness and despondency. Growing old alone can also be scary. But, meanwhile, such people are often found in society and they are quite happy, getting used to their status. They often direct their unspent love to good deeds, work, science.
History also contains families where sex was not consensual. There may well be a woman who will agree to live with you without intimate relationships in marriage. You may well indicate your problems to your chosen one, so that she knows in advance what she will have to face in marriage.
As for the chastity of your wife, you know, there is a whole range of your problems, perhaps you should just look for a woman with whom you will feel good. You see, there are many girls who, for example, had one relationship, and even those by accident, out of ignorance, and then they repented and never entered into fornication with anyone else, and became good Christians. There are young widows. There are those whose husband was the first and only man, but left them for some reason. Think about it. And, of course, there are a lot of girls around your age who have not yet been lucky enough to meet their love. Maybe you're just looking in the wrong place? There are a lot of them in the Church, for sure!
And it is easier for “non-church” people in terms of sex only here, in earthly life. But everyone will appear at the Last Judgment. Both churchgoers and “unchurched” people. And you will have to answer for your actions, regardless of whether you believed in the Lord or carefully avoided thoughts about him.
God's help to you in your difficult choice!
Methods from Oksana Manoilo on how to get rid of the reasons why you have no luck in your personal life with men
- We need to restore inner peace.
- To restore and pump up the sensual line - these are the chakras Zarod, Percy, Lada, Lelya.
- Clear the corridor of the past.
- Break energetic ties with former partners, because this is how energy flows out of you.
- Increase feminine energies so that men sense a Woman in you, with a capital W - as a mother, as a successor of the Family, as a keeper of the family hearth. Those. so that you don’t have to build relationships with one person today, and with another tomorrow. And to build alone, but harmonious, durable, loving.
Get your nerves in order.
Yes, you may not have been taught this anywhere, but it’s never too late. In the “Online Esotericism Education” course we learn and do all this. And students change right before our eyes.
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How to find a new path
Achieving success in life is difficult, tireless work. To do this, you often have to change your beliefs and reconsider stereotypes. Is it possible to find a person with whom you will live your whole life? Yes, it's real. But only this requires constant work throughout your life, overcoming misunderstandings, forgiving shortcomings and appreciating virtues.
It is important to be able to take responsibility for your actions and make decisions. Don't be afraid of anything new, let go of the old, unusable. A person creates his own happiness, without expecting help from his chosen one.
Having made the appropriate conclusions, reconsidering your attitude to life and to issues of love, marriage and family, you will certainly thoroughly study the mechanics of happiness and find the formula for long-lasting harmonious relationships.
And now specific actions and practices
- You need to learn to think positively and be filled with the energy of happiness. When you have happiness inside, you will be able to radiate it and give it to others. As you know, everyone is drawn to positive people, but why? Remember, someone comes, the life of the party, and a crowd immediately surrounds him - he radiates energy that everyone wants to partake of. It doesn’t matter who it is, a man or a woman, everyone wants to communicate with him at least a little. Because how you can profit from this very energy. Become such a person, a Sunshine person.
I am a practical person in life, I don’t like to talk a lot, I like to take things and do them. Therefore, from words to deeds. Below is a short video practice. Do it right now, it's easy.
- Learn to interact with nature. To start, just spend more time in nature. Mother Nature will always help restore internal imbalance.
We remember why we have no luck in our personal lives with men. Because something inside us, some kind of program does not allow us to do this. Accordingly, there is an internal imbalance, and it needs to be eliminated.
You are probably familiar with the feeling of complete harmony, happiness, and euphoria after relaxing in the forest. Remember that feeling of inner fullness when, just sitting for an hour by the river, you looked at the water, and you felt warm and good. Sometimes a half-hour walk in the park will bring many times more benefits than going to a psychologist. We are children of nature, and it helps us. You need to notice it, appreciate it and use it to your advantage. Interact correctly with nature, learn to feel yourself, hear yourself, your true desires.
Get rid of the past, practice!
For those who are ready to act, and not just read about this topic and sigh, I give you another highly effective practice. In it we will work through the corridor of the past and get rid of the burden of the past. You need to break these ties that are weighing you down. And also drive fears out of yourself.
Fear is most often the subpersonality of the hare, which is registered in you. Once you get rid of the hare, you will stop being afraid. Finally, take a deep breath and look to the future with confidence. I wrote about subpersonalities in one of my articles, here
Cleaning the corridor of the past
Why are you unlucky in your personal life with men? How can I get rid of this problem right now?
You need to mentally, right now, imagine the most painful, most unpleasant relationship. Clearly remember this relationship, scroll through the painful scenes. Imagine your partner, here he is in front of you.
Most likely you feel uncomfortable right now, this is normal and exactly how it should be. Through pain, through tears, we will now get rid of these ballasts forever.
So. You need 5-7 minutes to remember all the pain that this relationship brought you. All the most difficult, unpleasant moments. All the phrases, words that were said to each other. You need to remember all this as deeply as possible. To get completely angry and reach the boiling point now. This is for a good cause. You can cry at this stage, but just complete the practice. Honestly, honestly, reveal everything within yourself. All the pain and resentment that lurks within you. What you have hidden deep down - bring it out.
Now, imagine that in front of you is a deep abyss, an abyss. And now you need to take together everything, everything that you have just been turning around in yourself, in your head. All this needs to be put in a bag. Perhaps the bag will be huge, it doesn’t matter. Everyone was shoved in there, including the partner, his image. And the bag was thrown into the abyss. Huh!
My soul felt a little better, but that’s not all. You need to do the practice several times. To such a state that when you even want to imagine your relationship, you want to get angry, but that’s it! Nothing seems to be happening anymore. No images. No emotions.
This is an incredibly effective practice. She works wonders.
It would seem that only 5-7 minutes need to be spent on doing it in order to get rid of the pain of the past. And sometimes we can’t get out of problems for years. In the course “Teaching Esoterics Online” we do similar practices using my videos, it’s much simpler, more effective and clearer. Watch the course introductory video for FREE. And after it you will notice the first results, changes in your life.
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