It often happens that handsome men are not as popular with women as men who are completely unremarkable in appearance. Why is this happening? Why do girls often choose men who do not stand out from the crowd? What do girls value most in men? Of course, each individual woman has her own criteria for assessing representatives of the stronger sex. Psychologists and sociologists, through research, have identified a number of masculine qualities that attract the majority of beautiful ladies.
All women love with their ears3
There is a well-known expression, confirmed by scientists: women love with their ears. Therefore, those representatives of the stronger sex who know how to sincerely give compliments always have a greater chance of gaining the favor of the woman they like. The main thing is that the words come from the heart and are not “standard phrases.” Such phrases are very quickly recognized by women, and their owners receive a turnaround.
Many ladies' men use this technique. Many examples of fraud on the Internet also testify to this fact. Trusting women listen to the beautiful words that they so lack. For such a seemingly kind attitude towards themselves, women are ready to give everything to a scammer.
Dishonest men take advantage of this by gaining the trust of insecure women. After all, it is almost impossible to deceive a girl who is confident in her own attractiveness and importance, who knows her worth, with beautiful words. Psychologists say that scammers fall for those women who were disliked by their parents in childhood.
What qualities do women value in men?
July 29
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Ask a woman who her ideal man is and she will easily describe her ideal to you, from the color of her eyes to the number of letters in his name. Of course, all preferences are individual, but as practice shows, there are a number of qualities that women value most.
Thus, in 2008, the research portal Superjob.ru conducted a survey among 1,000 women. According to the results, representatives of the fair sex value intelligence and honesty most of all. Moreover, for a man in general, as a representative of the male sex, girls highlight such important qualities as generosity and a sense of humor, and for a legal spouse - fidelity and the ability to earn money.
Let's try to make a list of the main qualities of a man that women so passionately want to see in their dream partner:
Care and attention
A girl will always appreciate it if you treat her with sensitivity and care. Sincere care is manifested in daily actions: if she left you home, be sure to find out how she got there, casually ask if she got enough sleep, what kind of manicure she did, when she was at the salon, etc. There can be endless variations of questions. Just unobtrusively show similar attention to everyday little things.
Women tend to think that if a man courtes beautifully and actively at the beginning of a relationship, then this will always be the case. In fact, this happens at most during the first year of a relationship, when both partners are trying to show their best side. Experienced women evaluate a man during communication. Usually a few hours are enough for them to understand who is in front of them.
Intelligence
A high level of intelligence is valued by women as a quality that will help them build a successful marriage. A “prosperous” marriage means financial wealth, and this, in turn, will help to successfully raise offspring. Having a man's intelligence also gives him a sense of security. How it works? If a man is smart, then even in the wild jungle he can figure out how to build a house, where to get food and how to survive a storm. If you don’t delve into such theories, it’s even just nice when a man’s horizons are not limited to knowing how to change a light bulb in the hallway.
Courage
Let's add this quality to the portrait of an ideal man. In her dreams, he always takes the first step, is not afraid to stand up for her in difficult times, even if she is wrong.
“Behind him is like behind a stone wall!” - this is what every woman wants to say about her chosen one.
Responsibility
A responsible man proves his responsibility through his actions. If he said it, he did it. Have you decided that it’s time for you to live together? He takes responsibility for the woman and the future together. You can draw a conclusion about human responsibility from everyday life. Such a man sets goals, makes plans, and, importantly, goes on the path to their implementation. It’s one thing to infantilely wave your arms and talk about what you’ll have tomorrow, and another thing to actually put it into practice.
Loyalty
There's no need for even words here. Vysotsky has one good quote on this topic:
“The only thing I’m afraid of more than cheating is not finding out about cheating. It’s terrible to love a person who no longer deserves it.”
Be honest with your other halves. Become those rare exceptions whose photos many years later will be published on social networks as a standard of relationships and love.
Appearance
Place two men in front of a woman: in dirty clothes, a foul-smelling man and a stately, well-groomed handsome man. Of course she will go to the second one. It would also work if a man had to choose between such girls. No matter how much we want it, we make the first impression with our appearance. Straight posture, pleasant perfume, clean clothes are an indicator of a confident man.
Financial stability
Yes, money plays a role. A woman wants to be confident in the future. If a man knows how to earn money, he looks stronger than other male competitors. A woman may earn good money herself, or may not earn money at all, but the priority will always be the one who knows how to get money. Survival of the fittest, as they say. Many men may vehemently protest these words. You are very lucky if you have a woman with you who has gone with you from three kopecks in her bosom to financial stability. Appreciate such women around you. Unfortunately, as practice shows, a man, having achieved a certain position, abruptly forgets who was with him along the way. And a question for you, men, do you agree to be with a girl who, to put it mildly, is not in the best physical shape, but they promise you that in 10 years she will become the most famous beauty, you just need to wait? Controversial issue.
In summary, modern women consider the positive qualities of a man to be: grooming, fidelity, courage, intelligence, responsibility and attentiveness to his girlfriend. Sounds absolutely amazing. We wish every girl to make a choice in favor of the very one whom she will not regret a single day of her life.
Do you have an opinion on this? Tell us in the comments, list 5 qualities of a real man in the comments
Care and reliability4
Concern, reliability and care are the qualities that girls immediately pay attention to. When a man helps his woman solve problems, he becomes a knight in her eyes. Then even the most homely man becomes handsome thanks to his inner qualities.
According to surveys of experts, it was precisely these qualities that were ranked first by women who had life experience in unsuccessful relationships with men.
Mind (20%)
“Knowledge is a tool, not a goal,” noted L. N. Tolstoy. But how many victories can be won and how many goals can be achieved, armed with it! Women clearly understand that intelligence promises a good future and is largely the guarantee that a man will be wealthy. However, it should be remembered that knowledge helps in career advancement only in combination with such qualities as assertiveness, acumen, determination, and self-confidence. For comparison, calcium cannot be absorbed in the human body without vitamins C and D, without magnesium and unsaturated fatty acids. So a woman who wants to live in abundance should not rely on her mind alone. And, of course, we shouldn’t forget that you can talk about a lot with an intelligent man, and that’s what we love!
Determination and ability to provide for your family6
In modern society, the role of those men who know how to achieve their goals is increasing. Also, any man should be able to make sure that his family does not need anything. This does not mean that girls prefer rich men with deep wallets. This means that the world around is material, most goods are bought. Including necessary means for maintaining health, for education, for recreation. Therefore, a wealthy man will always look more advantageous than a less well-off man.
Masculinity (15%)
Although women claim gender equality in business, politics, and science, they are forced to recognize men’s right to primacy in matters of ensuring our own security. The tranquility of charming ladies is threatened by everything, from a fictitious bedside monster from horror films to very real characters from a summary of incidents. Therefore, it is nice to have a strong, muscular and courageous companion nearby, ready to take risks for the sake of our trembling heart. And here it is interesting, what does a particular woman mean by the concept of masculinity? Many thousands of years ago, a man who could protect a family or tribe from enemies and bring booty was considered courageous; in the Baroque era, this image was supplemented with such concepts as gallantry and elegance, and in the era of capitalism, attention was focused on solidity and respectability. These ideas have left their mark on our perception. Thus, for one woman, masculinity is fearlessness and the ability to protect against physical threats, and for another, it is ensuring security in all areas of life.
The man is honest, open, and not afraid to tell the truth.
Women are looking for open men. When they ask questions, and men keep silent, hide, women naturally close themselves off from men in response. Men also look for honesty and openness in women, so this quality is mutual and valuable for all people, regardless of gender. Moreover, a person’s ability to tell the truth, no matter how painful and bitter it may be, becomes a rather important parameter. Of course, you may understand that you will upset the other person with your words. But it is better to upset than to deceive and disappoint even more when the truth becomes known.
A woman will always be supportive of a man who tells the truth , is honest and open, no matter what tricky questions she asks him. The main thing for men is to remain calm: you have the right to be who you are, even if women don’t like it. It is better to choose those who will value your honesty, and not your ability to hide and deceive.
Appearance (6%)
The aspect of appearance took last place in the ranking of women, but this does not mean that, in the opinion of the survey participants, a man should be a little prettier than a monkey. Most likely, when answering, they imagined a man without obvious flaws, a man of standard, pleasant appearance. Like, we don’t need Brad Pitt and Bruce Willis, the color of hair and eyes doesn’t really matter. And if you ask the survey participants whether they like a beer belly or a toned tummy, narrow or wide hips, pumped up or frail arms? I think that the image of a man would turn out to be very handsome.
PS Often, women search for and find the ideal man, and then want to turn him into an ideal husband. Unfortunately, women's magic does not always cope with this task, because these concepts are quite different.
Sincerity, loyalty and honesty
Everyone wants a man to be able to focus on one chosen one, and not chase after quantity. This is a sign of maturity and awareness in choice. Women appreciate such personalities.
Sincerity and honesty are important things in relationships between people. When a person constantly lies, any relationship ends and trust is lost. Thus, the man wants to avoid responsibility for his actions.
Generosity
A tight-fisted man is usually lonely. And this has nothing to do with the fact that women are materialistic. Just think for yourself: would you like to live with a person who saves even on matches? Most likely no. Of course, you don’t need to shower the girl you like with expensive gifts, but pampering her with sweets, flowers, and various trinkets will not go amiss. Don't skimp on dates. It doesn't have to be super expensive, but it is important that it be original and interesting. Girls who date guys solely for money are best avoided. You can immediately see such money hunters: they are capable of starting to “pump” quite large sums and expensive gifts from you already on the first date.
The ability to fool around and return to childhood
We value men not only because they are strict, serious and able to solve any problems. During the hours when they want to fool around and behave like children, a lot of important things happen. We have the opportunity to get acquainted with the soul of a person, his other interesting sides. Women are afraid of losing face and looking stupid, but men know how to have fun until they drop and do little stupid things. And this is only a plus.
Temperament
No matter how funny it may sound, no woman will be with a man who is not interesting to her in bed. The fair sex wants tenderness, passion, excitement, and to feel desired. If there are no strong emotions, the relationship may end.
Despite all the listed qualities, women simply love men for who they are. If a character trait is missing, it is not a problem. If you want, anything can be achieved. The main thing is to love, respect and appreciate the chosen one with all the cockroaches in her head.
Photo: © Belnovosti
Author: Sergey Tumanov
The ability to stand up for yourself
The stronger sex is called “strong” because it must be able to stand up for itself and for its beloved. A girl should feel protected. She won't date a man who doesn't know how to fight back. Timid, uninitiative guys will not attract a woman either. Energy should be bubbling inside you, literally spilling over and infecting everyone around you. Then you will always be “on horseback”. Popularity with the fair sex in this case is guaranteed.
Remember, girls love leaders. Those who always lead, play a leading role in companies and get everything from life easily and without problems. Therefore, try to develop leadership qualities in yourself.
Material wealth (9%)
I often receive letters from men whose content boils down to one thing: “They only need a fat wallet.” Yes, I agree, there are girls who put invisible hats on middle-income men and wait for their oligarch. But we will not generalize, just as we will not deny the fact that the material aspect is important for most women. If a man is guided by a woman’s appearance, looking for one who can give him healthy offspring, then the woman chooses a man who is able to feed and protect these offspring. These are the laws of nature. It turns out that the more desirable gentleman will be the one who can snatch a large piece of mammoth, and in our time - at least fill the refrigerator with tasty and healthy products. Then each woman adds to the list of necessities based on her needs and preferences. The desires of some, indeed, can only be satisfied by an oligarch...
In this case, only 9% of women surveyed noted the importance of material wealth. The reason for this, among other things, may be the fear of being judged by society and an attempt to protect yourself from unpleasant feelings of guilt. “No, money is not important to me,” the woman convinces herself and hopes that no one will ever call her selfish, selfish, greedy or even corrupt (yes, I have heard such characteristics from my clients).
Sexuality
Quite an important quality. If a man looks sexy, the weaker sex will not be able to resist. In addition, with the help of sexuality you can hide some flaws in your appearance. For example, if you have six-pack abs, a girl is unlikely to pay attention to protruding ears. Watch your figure - a toned torso, muscles on the back and arms - girls always like this. A beautiful body is an undoubted chance for success. Therefore, exercise to keep yourself fit. Three times a week in the gym - and you are irresistible.
What guys don't girls like?
We figured out what a guy should be like to please a girl. But how to navigate this minefield without making mistakes? There are definitely traits that turn girls off. We won’t be able to list them all, since the same qualities attract some girls and irritate others. But there is a list of things and actions of guys that girls definitely don’t like. This is what we share:
- Rough. Not charismatic, not arrogant, but rude.
- Inattentive. Showing no interest in the girl and not noticing her feelings and reactions.
- Narcissistic. Why do such people need it if they already have someone to pay maximum attention to?
- Sloppy. It’s unpleasant to come home to them, it’s unpleasant to go out in public with them.
- Dependent. Those that, along with the relationship, promise a dozen new problems that the girl will have to solve.
- Irresponsible. Those who do not keep their word and are unable to admit their own mistakes. The girl is unlikely to want to be responsible for the consequences of your decisions.
- Stupid. It's unpleasant to discover that there is nothing to talk to a person about. Especially when stupidity causes mistakes.
- Vain. Most likely, she does not imagine life as a race in which she needs to take the lead. And she is not preparing for the fact that she will have to serve such interests of her young man.
- Vile . There’s no need to even explain here - these are definitely not the men that girls love and adore.
- Seeing no boundaries. If she doesn't want something, and you insist, push, or simply ignore this fact, it becomes dangerous again.
- Not ready to cooperate. When two mature personalities decide to get closer, they will inevitably face obstacles and the need to sacrifice something for the sake of a relationship or, conversely, try and accept something new. Nothing will work with a stubborn person who is incapable of this.
